I got this mail from a Nairaland visitor who seriously needs advice.

Please help her by offering her good and useful pieces of advice that would help raise her spirits high..

My lover of 4 and half years just broke up with me and I feel like my life is over...Females in d house, how do I get on with my life..?

UPDATE

I sent a mail earlier about my lover of 4yrs leaving me and going thru d thread now, I see people askin for wat happnd.


We graduated from d same Uni and we started datin since our 200l..I'm a Christian though and he's a muslim although I wasn't bothered about the religion thing...Blive me nairalanders, I never cheated for once on him though I nag and my only offence is always wanting to see him...There were many breakups along d way wc were alwys instigated by him, he's not d type to shower one with gifts but I stood by him, he was caring in his own way..And few days ago, he sed its heading no where, he dosnt see us goin d long haul togeda and Religion is a major difference...And he sed, he hasn't planned his future and cnt include me in an unplanned future so its over...That's it.

lalasticlala:
I got this mail from a Nairaland visitor who seriously needs advice.

Please help her by offering her good and useful pieces of advice that would help raise her spirits high..

Morning lala

Its sad, really. Well I won't start that all guys are wicked and the same rubbish....Rather lemme say this, girl, he aint worth you.

Everything happens for a reason, even breakups. Let him go, don't cling (that's stupid), don't even bother wondering if he misses you (yeah, I can read minds and I know that's what you are thinking)....just stand up, dust the memories off your shoulders (won't be easy, I know), and smile. Smile because a better man is coming for you.

Oh yeah, in the meantime, work on yourself....we don't really know why he left, so, just learn and move on.

#my2cents

lalasticlala:
I got this mail from a Nairaland visitor who seriously needs advice.

Please help her by offering her good and useful pieces of advice that would help raise her spirits high..

Get yourself together!

Bro did u collect her phone number?

Shit happens... learn to move On

Lala247:


Morning lala

Ya. Pls the lady in question needs advice, so u can help her

Life goes on... She prolly saw it from the start.

Ok ..
I think you should give it a few days let it settle
Sometimes people say and do things they dont mean.. This is because uve been together for 4years ( no be joke)
You can still get back together depending in circumstance of breakup .


Dont worry it hurts at first .. It will get easier . ( ur not alone - chics suffer this everyday)
Trust me his feeling exactly the same no matter how much he tries to hide it..
Take a break , go on holiday, put ur energy i to work or studies he will come bk

Hope u didnt cheat sha..

Replace him!

Before that you need to evaluate yourself to finding out the things which you may not have done right..

yes! it will be hard to move on but you have no other choice.

if you know buy fake you will never know the value of Original

4years + relationship, chai ! the guy Bleep up

BTW hope na marriage after sex relationship?

Simple..........MOVE ON

therz no fuzz about breakups!

jnrbayano:
Replace him!

Before that you need to evaluate yourself to finding out the things which you may not have done right..

Haba just like that have u been in a four year relationship .. Its not that easy

Lala247:


Morning lala

dis ur gum body with lala.stic don dey too much

he is married with two kids OK?

KingTom:

Get yourself together!

my brother you mean he should get himself a life.

Sigh

agarawu23:
dis ur gum body with lala.stic don dey too much

he is married with two kids OK?

So saying morning to someone shows wt
Next time dont assume things .. Mind ur biz . When i chat to anyonelse u dont cht cuz its lala . Uve grown wings .. Mind ur biz
Nigerian ppl n tbeir sick mentality just cuz ur nice to someone doesnt mean anything ..
Swerve abeg

Acting like his not educated so morning gum body n i thought u get sense self kmt
Sorry @ Op

Just sick ok kids on this site

Lala247:


Haba just like that have u been in a four year relationship .. Its not that easy

For someone to dump her after four years of dating suggests she isn't a fixture in the guys future.

BTW why would they date for that long and still not consolidate the relationship in something more serious (marriage)?

Lala247:


So saying morning to someone shows wt
Next time dont assume things .. Mind ur biz . When i chat to anyoneekse u dont cht cuz its lala . Uve grown wings .. Mind ur biz
Nigerian ppl n tbeir sick mentality just cuz ur nice to someone doesnt mean anything ..
Swerve abeg

Its too early to give u harsh reply

cool down and av a wonderful sunday

Agarawu23 u self notice abi?

Little wonder why her signature change to what's it atm

Sigh

agarawu23:
dis ur gum body with lala.stic don dey too much

he is married with two kids OK?

Broz advice her ooooo!

Maybe she like be 2nd wife sha who knows!

jnrbayano:


For someone to dump her after four years of dating suggests she isn't a fixture in the guys future.

BTW why would they date for that long and still not consolidate the relationship in something more serious (marriage)?

wait n see they might still get bk together.
But some people stay together longer than that and eventually get married . it depends sha

I think she should have given the reason y he dumped her so we can understand better .

lalasticlala:
I got this mail from a Nairaland visitor who seriously needs advice.

Please help her by offering her good and useful pieces of advice that would help raise her spirits high..

...is she light skin?

olaxco2f:
Kingtom u self notice abi?

Little wonder why her signature change to what's it atm

Sigh


Broz advice her ooooo!

Maybe she like be 2nd wife sha who knows!

Yh but im in uk n his whereever he is pls use ur brain once in a while
Displaying stupidity aint cute ..

Lol my sig cn mean anything .. So if i say im getting married una go swallow chop lol

At least, he's not dying.

Kpele. Tomorrow is another day.
Take it one day at a time and you would be fine.
Allow yourself to grief; cry if you feel the urge. It's good to let out and it enhances healing.(just don't do it too much)

Pick yourself together. Work on yourself and don't settle for less. You still deserve the best.

agarawu23:
Its too early to give u harsh reply

cool down and av a wonderful sunday

Wtever .. Why would u need to
When i was giving u kiss d other day u didnt tlk .. Hypocrite
Abeg gerra out men ..n to think i put among the gents .. Lol wrong .. Nah wetin lala dey b ur problem

Beamborla:
At least, he's not dying.

Kpele. Tomorrow is another day.
Take it one day at a time and you would be fine.
Allow yourself to grief; cry if you feel the urge. It's good to let out and it enhances healing.(just don't do it too much)

Pick yourself together. Work on yourself and don't settle for less. You still deserve the best.

Lol uve been there too abi
Morning

MrCork:


...is she light skin?

I doubt
No sane man would dump a light skin woman

20bc
How body , morning didnt see u again last night
Wt should the girl do

She prolly wasn't good enough for him. I believe the problem is with her not with him.

Advice: She shld stay off relationships for nw and focus on developing herself. And she shld work on her bad sides or annoying attitudes