Listen Dear, am also a female and av bin hurt but the fact is you gotta move on. The worse dat can happen is if u r stuck in ur past, gather urself and be better dan u were, also move closer to God and believe me you will be comforted. U gotta move on

Deehvahrzz:

I don't agree with you Monickk. Even if you don't make a man your all, spending four years of your life with someone is a mega commitment. Even if u do not like him. Even if sex wasn't involved, it's four of her life given to someone else. It'sIt's bound to hurt. And she just can't let go but she should take her time. That's d best way to heal.

I'm sorry but I still don't agree with you. four years is a long time to stay with someone who isn't committed yet because I don't believe that in those four years,he never gave her signals that all wasn't well with the relationship? We women see signs and choose to patch up believing all would be well when clearly,all isn't well and when it happens,we cry foul. I don't know the girl but I still stand on my words that she should find something engaging to do otherwise depression may set in and before long,she would be over the guy.

I read comments like he doesn't deserve you, when you guys don't even know what made him dump her, questions to be asked are
1. Has she been of good behavior
2. Did she cheat on him
3. Is she the temperamental type and. So on
Men don't just get up and leave relationship they have been in this long

I tink thiis is the best av read so far.... but the thing is this aw about guys with broken heart.... our skins are tough... we can't cry.... so what's aw own take.... I grief yes...

Beamborla:
At least, he's not dying.

Kpele. Tomorrow is another day.
Take it one day at a time and you would be fine.
Allow yourself to grief; cry if you feel the urge. It's good to let out and it enhances healing.(just don't do it too much)

Pick yourself together. Work on yourself and don't settle for less. You still deserve the best.

Twaci:
Ok dear. Have fun!

Hi miss

decode55:


Hi miss

Hello darl!

Twaci:
Hello darl!

How's your Sunday turning out?

Word!

Lala247:


Lol uve been there too abi
Morning

my dear its not too late, it may not be the end of the world for you and its right that he dumped u rather than when it will be too late, who knows you might get someone better in the future

Girl I think you start thinking the way I'm thinking my thinking over the thinking of others thinking...

Much has been said but nothing has been done and in case you actually succeeded in moving on I have only one advice for you; Don't ever involve your heart in a Relationship....

Starlingslimnet

what happened you haven't asked,but you are ready for judgement,tell me why your relationship wouldn't fail

Twaci:
Its sad, really. Well I won't start that all guys are wicked and the same rubbish....Rather lemme say this, girl, he aint worth you.

Everything happens for a reason, even breakups. Let him go, don't cling (that's stupid), don't even bother wondering if he misses you (yeah, I can read minds and I know that's what you are thinking)....just stand up, dust the memories off your shoulders (won't be easy, I know), and smile. Smile because a better man is coming for you.

Oh yeah, in the meantime, work on yourself....we don't really know why he left, so, just learn and move on.

#my2cents

lalasticlala:
I got this mail from a Nairaland visitor who seriously needs advice.

Please help her by offering her good and useful pieces of advice that would help raise her spirits high..

There are probably about 3 billion men in this world, and then she's depressed because one guy broke up with her ?

Anyway, I never feel sorry for any girl who gets heartbroken because last time I checked there are countless guys who have been heartbroken by girls too. So, it's just another touché - deal with it or kill yourself!

it happened to me,mine was also 4yrs,at first I taught it was a joke,until it dawned on me dat it is real,d least u could do is move on,I have moved on,its been a year nd six months,now he wants me back,but am not a dog dat goes back to its vomit,just try nd be strong

For every action, there is a reason behind it. You only told us her 4 yr lover broke up with her. No reasons for that is given.

There is what is call root cause analysis. Before you can Truely advice someone on a matter like this, you must be able to know and breakdown the events that have transpired, why it happen and advice, appropriately, how to prevent such event from reoccurring.

Most times, I don't pity ladies who found themselves in such situation. Because, they are the Genesis of most things that is happening to them.

Women rarely learn from mistakes of other females that these things had happened to. They believe it will not happen to them.

Lala247:


So saying morning to someone shows wt
Next time dont assume things .. Mind ur biz . When i chat to anyonelse u dont cht cuz its lala . Uve grown wings .. Mind ur biz
Nigerian ppl n tbeir sick mentality just cuz ur nice to someone doesnt mean anything ..
Swerve abeg

lala,no mind am joor,his. Thinking no dey correct

MrCork:


...is she light skin?

hahaha

RomanZeus:
I doubt
No sane man would dump a light skin woman

seriously

jomile:
it happened to me,mine was also 4yrs,at first I taught it was a joke,until it dawned on me dat it is real,d least u could do is move on,I have moved on,its been a year nd six months,now he wants me back,but am not a dog dat goes back to its vomit,just try nd be strong

Can someone hug this girl

SAZZYSKOLY:
I tink thiis is the best av read so far.... but the thing is this aw about guys with broken heart.... our skins are tough... we can't cry.... so what's aw own take.... I grief yes...

Awwww! Sorry, dear.

But I do not agree men can't cry...
They can cry but you keep telling yourself men shouldn't cry. My guy, if you feel your eyes misty and warm, let out. It's not cowardice or anything.
To me, I believe you are just strong enough to let your emotions show.

Big up.... thanks.... just a matter of feeling empty inside.... crying makes 1 feel better somtimes... but it takes a lot to make a man Cry.

Beamborla:

Awwww! Sorry, dear.

But I do not agree men can't cry...
They can cry but you keep telling yourself men shouldn't cry. My guy, if you feel your eyes misty and warm, let out. It's not cowardice or anything.
To me, I believe you are just strong enough to let your emotions show.

lalasticlala:
I got this mail from a Nairaland visitor who seriously needs advice.

Please help her by offering her good and useful pieces of advice that would help raise her spirits high..

did this ur friend tell u what she did before her boy friend came out from relationship because the same thing happened to me here and there is nothing I could do than to get out from relationship.

SAZZYSKOLY:
Big up.... thanks.... just a matter of feeling empty inside.... crying makes 1 feel better somtimes... but it takes a lot to make a man Cry.

Ehehehehehe... Are you sure?


Well, all the same, whenever you feel the urge, let it out. I even read somewhere that it cleans the eyes and makes one see clearly.

Amazo:


Can someone hug this girl

don't mind if u do

You can be dumped easily when you add little or nothing to the life of your partner..

If after 4 and half years, you were dumped easily, its either you have no value worth sticking to in the relationship or he doesn't value whatever you are bringing to the table.

Evaluate yourself and your values not for him, but for thre next man.

lalasticlala:


Ya. Pls the lady in question needs advice, so u can help her

tell her to pray to father Lucifer for help, mortals have no help to offer her.

Lolllz... thats true I read somtin like dat to.... Aldo d last time I checked my eyes are quite reddish clean ..... ii tink d only tiiin that can make me cry s if I clld lay my hands on 1 million dollars and above... hehhehehehehm

Beamborla:

Ehehehehehe... Are you sure?


Well, all the same, whenever you feel the urge, let it out. I even read somewhere that it cleans the eyes and makes one see clearly.

OMO babe u fa..... sorry u fine..... even in black and white u Glow ;....... hmmmmmm.... I lack d words.....

jomile:
don't mind if u do

SAZZYSKOLY:
Lolllz... thats true I read somtin like dat to.... Aldo d last time I checked my eyes are quite reddish clean ..... ii tink d only tiiin that can make me cry s if I clld lay my hands on 1 million dollars and above... hehhehehehehm

Lol... Okay!
Jes pray you don't stand on the queue in the sun for 2hrs plus then realize you left your ATM card at home.

As for me, I cry when looking for smth. That type where you get to scatter the whole house and check everywhere.

[i][/i] Well, this is not the time to criticise. I feel pain when a guy keeps a girl this long and break up with her after wards. Ladies should accept such long periods of relationship only in school. (ma opinion though). Otherwise, how can a lady date a guy for over 2yrs. What do they discuss, what are their plans etc. I would really need the ladies to give me answers to these questions and reasons to why they choose to be this "foolish". Don't mean to insult anybody.

MojAyo:
lala,no mind am joor,his. Thinking no dey correct

Nah jealousy dey worry am

No worry i go greet am too .. Make E no vex lol

obidiegwujane10:
my dear its not too late, it may not be the end of the world for you and its right that he dumped u rather than when it will be too late, who knows you might get someone better in the future

Erm this is not about me

Sometimes the reason for this break ups are not far-fetched..Gul, put urself 2geda nd confront this guy with confidence if u truely luv him. I'm currently in a mess like this....