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Re: Her Lover Of Over Four Years Just Broke Up With Her; Please Advise Her by Nobody: 9:05pm On Apr 26, 2015 |
Women are worse when it comes to breaking heart, they just do it with ease nd when dey come up with a fault for u chisos! U'll wonder where u went wrong lolz unless u smart enough to out smart her. The lady should move on nd be happy maynot be easy but time will workout everything. 1 Like |
Re: Her Lover Of Over Four Years Just Broke Up With Her; Please Advise Her by tobidipity(m): 9:15pm On Apr 26, 2015 |
Look around for a nice bar, order for a cold bottle of big stout. Take ur time un drowning it. Order for another bottle. U can order for the third if u dey capable. Go home and make sure u re careful so that what will happen to ur ex might not happen to u. Watch any movie(i'm sure its dd movie that will end up watching u). Start a new life when u wake. |
Re: Her Lover Of Over Four Years Just Broke Up With Her; Please Advise Her by SAZZYSKOLY(m): 9:36pm On Apr 26, 2015 |
Haba u wicked oooh 2 hours...sun...no atm... I go jus mad like all dis weed guys on nairaland... dat scattering house tin... nah so my eye go jus RED... squeeze face.... dey para... Beamborla: |
Re: Her Lover Of Over Four Years Just Broke Up With Her; Please Advise Her by Chivee(f): 9:52pm On Apr 26, 2015 |
My dear take a Cue from GEJ Ur talking about only 4years. This guy was in "it" for 6good years before Nigeria Dumped him. Yet he demonstrated resilience and political maturity in conceding. Tho in his case he did not treat her(naija) right. just kidding. But on a serious note, its hard to advise someone when u're not clear on the exact circumstance surrounding the relationship in question. Who was at fault? Was it trust issues? Or a distraction, like the dude having interest in another woman? Did his feelings for her start to wane for some known or unknown reason? Could she have unknowingly been the cause? While its important that she reflects on all variables with a view to underztanding exactly what went wrong, I'm also aware that this experience invariably HURTS. I always advise ppl in these shoes to move on, give themselvez a break (from relationships)and focus on developing themselves. Yes its actually easier said but its doable. Only takes some courage and will. The reazon for this advice is that most of the time, ppl who somehow manage to makeup again after a break up hardly ever get things on track anymore. Cos by now d damage had already been done and things would never really be the same with the victim as there's already been a major breach of trust. Since the "heart breaker"(sorry to say) could disregard the time(years)& commitment, precious moments shared,effort, and resources invested into the relationship and still go ahead in such a "cold"& brutal manner to subject him/her to such emotional affliction, then there's every chance that he/she could do it again. And from my personal experience and the drama i've had to witness of many such partners in this struggle, this(breakup-makeup-break-up)keeps going on in circles to the frustration of the couple & mostly ends badly anyway. So why not look ahead, bite the bullet and take the bull by the horn once and for all and save yourself further pain in the future. In a case where it had to do with one of the parties cheating, it plays out alil differently. Where the lady cheated; it is almost always unforgiveable for men. There's a far better chance with the women coz dey are stronger emotionally in this regard and can more easily forgive such. On the other hand,men's wiring & thinking process makes it a lot harder for them to swallow,no matter how hard they may try to. But as I said, I believe every case is unique in one way or the other. Therefore it still really depends on the circumstances surrounding their story. If she thinks there may be a good chance that she could win him back, then she should go for it. At least to gratify her HOPE. |
Re: Her Lover Of Over Four Years Just Broke Up With Her; Please Advise Her by Beamborla(f): 9:55pm On Apr 26, 2015 |
SAZZYSKOLY:Sebi you no go cry Lol |
Re: Her Lover Of Over Four Years Just Broke Up With Her; Please Advise Her by richidinho(m): 10:00pm On Apr 26, 2015 |
This is exactly what I said in the other thread NL guys will send pm they refuse to answer claiming they are hooked up, but when the heartbreak comes....... U see them running to the forum for help |
Re: Her Lover Of Over Four Years Just Broke Up With Her; Please Advise Her by Nobody: 10:02pm On Apr 26, 2015 |
So they were phucking for 4ck and half years ? What tha 4uck ? Was the relationship not defined ? |
Re: Her Lover Of Over Four Years Just Broke Up With Her; Please Advise Her by Nobody: 10:05pm On Apr 26, 2015 |
SAZZYSKOLY:u r making my head to swell,nd it seems it wants to explode 1 Like |
Re: Her Lover Of Over Four Years Just Broke Up With Her; Please Advise Her by Nobody: 10:33pm On Apr 26, 2015 |
Lala247:lol abi 1 Like |
Re: Her Lover Of Over Four Years Just Broke Up With Her; Please Advise Her by ifeanyi83(m): 10:38pm On Apr 26, 2015 |
I think it would have been useful if you stated his reasons for walking away that way you can get useful advice. But in the meantime girl, you have a right to brpe happy a choice that can be made by you and you alone...your life ain't over, dust yourself up and move on... |
Re: Her Lover Of Over Four Years Just Broke Up With Her; Please Advise Her by anigbajumo(m): 10:42pm On Apr 26, 2015 |
Coz am physicist I wil advice u frm newton 3rd Law of motion "for every action,dea s an equal or opposite reaction" ..... D guy wnt change without any reason buh am seein both of u bk. |
Re: Her Lover Of Over Four Years Just Broke Up With Her; Please Advise Her by lalasticlala(m): 10:43pm On Apr 26, 2015 |
UPDATE
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Re: Her Lover Of Over Four Years Just Broke Up With Her; Please Advise Her by Teeporshe(f): 11:00pm On Apr 26, 2015 |
It would get better.. The pain eventually fades.. Its going to be very hard but one day you would even begin to wonder how you got ast the pain and him altogether. |
Re: Her Lover Of Over Four Years Just Broke Up With Her; Please Advise Her by franugo(m): 4:47am On Apr 27, 2015 |
RomanZeus: mad man #in flavour's voice 'black is biuriful' |
Re: Her Lover Of Over Four Years Just Broke Up With Her; Please Advise Her by MosquitoREBIRTH(m): 6:24am On Apr 27, 2015 |
godoluwa:lol...Bro, I wrote that out of experience too... it's actually beta to break such relationships instead of patching in it. LIFE GOES ON jare... cheers man.. |
Re: Her Lover Of Over Four Years Just Broke Up With Her; Please Advise Her by eckersley: 6:39am On Apr 27, 2015 |
From her statement that she never once cheated on him, one can deduce she was into premarital sex with him ( I stand to be corrected). If so what kind of a Christian is she? Second. Has anyone looked at the whole breakup from a religious point of view? A (true) Muslim will NEVER EVER marry a Christian (from my LIL knowledge of Muslims). Someone, kindly correct me |
Re: Her Lover Of Over Four Years Just Broke Up With Her; Please Advise Her by Nobody: 7:16am On Apr 27, 2015 |
Lala247:. . Jesus christ..... That dude was only cracking u up! It was jez a joke!..... Girls and their hot temper! Are u on ya menses period? |
Re: Her Lover Of Over Four Years Just Broke Up With Her; Please Advise Her by SAZZYSKOLY(m): 7:53am On Apr 27, 2015 |
Calm ur nerves ..... ur head is of no use to me if it explodes .........like it exactly d way iiit is..... U SET O jare jomile: |
Re: Her Lover Of Over Four Years Just Broke Up With Her; Please Advise Her by SAZZYSKOLY(m): 7:55am On Apr 27, 2015 |
Loll.... that 1 fit make person weep.... Beamborla: |
Re: Her Lover Of Over Four Years Just Broke Up With Her; Please Advise Her by redhook(m): 8:00am On Apr 27, 2015 |
lalasticlala: lalasticlala:So she does not know that we find NAGGING worse than CHEATING abi? SHE must be a confirmed Learner! |
Re: Her Lover Of Over Four Years Just Broke Up With Her; Please Advise Her by Beamborla(f): 8:47am On Apr 27, 2015 |
SAZZYSKOLY:Your throat go just dey do you like say e wan burst Have a nice day jor 1 Like |
Re: Her Lover Of Over Four Years Just Broke Up With Her; Please Advise Her by Nobody: 8:53am On Apr 27, 2015 |
foxxynik: Mind ur biz... |
Re: Her Lover Of Over Four Years Just Broke Up With Her; Please Advise Her by Chivee(f): 8:57am On Apr 27, 2015 |
lalasticlala:OK my dear. Don't know if you read my earlier post. I sent that before seeing this one. I urge u to read it again. And though I was neither here nor there in my advise, I think I have a clearer picture now.. So With this newly shed light, I can confidently advise that u move on. Though very rarely, I've seen couples who have crossed the religion-barrier and taken things to the next level. So if he doesn't consider this relationship important enough for both of u to jointly overcome any challenges and hurdles that come with inter-religious union, then u need to take him seriously. I see God's hand here. I believe a better and more suitable person is somewhere out there waiting. Atleazt be grateful too that he mustered the courage to be so plane & honest with you. Though its such a shame that he is just realising this fact after apparently wasting 4precious years of your life. Move on my dear. Life is filled with ample opportunities. I'm pretty sure you're an awesome person. Else how did he take interest in you in the 1st place. Your worse enemy right now is "Mr. Emotional attachment". He's like a cancer.He is very stubborn and likes to linger on by messing with your mind and making u feel mentally and psychologically dependent on a mere "flesh&bone". My dear.. The cure for this a multi-phased plan. It starts with the period of grieving. This for me is the hardest part yet most important cos its necessary for healing. This does not mean you should stay in depression 24/7. Find an activity that'll distract u alil. Trust me It gets a lot easier as time goes on. A time will come when you'll look back, wonder what you were thinking and can't help but laugh over everything. Lastly and most importantly you need to keep reminding yourself of the fact that u have always been a self confident, elegant and beautiful person. No one can change that. Love yourself first |
Re: Her Lover Of Over Four Years Just Broke Up With Her; Please Advise Her by Nobody: 9:05am On Apr 27, 2015 |
Re: Her Lover Of Over Four Years Just Broke Up With Her; Please Advise Her by Nobody: 9:07am On Apr 27, 2015 |
foxxynik: U look mature. Y u chting like 16 year old . D person ur defending we r friends . Lol mr save a nicca go n find work stay out of womens issue it aint cute Enjoy ur day |
Re: Her Lover Of Over Four Years Just Broke Up With Her; Please Advise Her by mikolo80: 9:11am On Apr 27, 2015 |
when she was nagging she no know ba e de sweet am for belle |
Re: Her Lover Of Over Four Years Just Broke Up With Her; Please Advise Her by Nobody: 9:21am On Apr 27, 2015 |
SAZZYSKOLY:u r very funny,I like a guy wit a good sense of humor,but don't let my compliment to swell ur head |
Re: Her Lover Of Over Four Years Just Broke Up With Her; Please Advise Her by SAZZYSKOLY(m): 9:38am On Apr 27, 2015 |
Me head don dey swell from d time I checked out yah profile.... but thank goodness it's elastic.... so u can keep d compliment coming I don't mind sent u a mail.... jomile: |
Re: Her Lover Of Over Four Years Just Broke Up With Her; Please Advise Her by SAZZYSKOLY(m): 9:42am On Apr 27, 2015 |
Lala u jus dey tassi ( tackle) everybody front back left and centre like say u dey play Italian league .... u better right danger zone Keep off my AREA Lala247: |
Re: Her Lover Of Over Four Years Just Broke Up With Her; Please Advise Her by Nobody: 10:14am On Apr 27, 2015 |
why will u date someone for 4 yrs is too long, na. She has to move on with her life, learn her lessons well, and learn to conserve her resoures her oil wells have been seriously depleted sha. God dey. |
Re: Her Lover Of Over Four Years Just Broke Up With Her; Please Advise Her by Nobody: 10:21am On Apr 27, 2015 |
Lala247:. . Wha'ever!.... You don't make any sense to me! So swerve! |
Re: Her Lover Of Over Four Years Just Broke Up With Her; Please Advise Her by Nobody: 10:44am On Apr 27, 2015 |
foxxynik: Lol likewise hun |
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