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Reasons Why Every Young Ambitious Struggling Man Should Forget 'Love' by Rapmoney(m): 8:08pm On May 15, 2015
Be patient while you read this...

If you are a young and ambitious dude still struggling to get to the top, this write-up will save you the stress and pains of the so-called love we have been deceived about for long!

If you still think that there's what is called 'true love' or 'love without money or resources', then you must be living in a fool's paradise!!!cool (Quote me if you like!)

The truth of the matter is that what people in the past enjoyed as 'true love' no longer exist. Then it was possible for a man and a woman to fall in love based on personal qualities or characters without materialism attached to it! Those were the good old days! Our society has changed and any one who still lives in the past is not better than the village idiot!!!

I have heard people saying often times that love or relationship is not all about money! To me, that's the highest level of trash and rubbish! If you are a young man with ambition, still striving and toiling to make it, you better forget about love and concentrate full-time...I mean 100% on your dreams and life.
It is so frustrating to see some struggling dudes killing themselves over love issues! What a life! Why spend the meagre salary you earn after working for 30 days like a donkey on a girl? She tells you she needs a phone, you struggle to buy it! She says she needs money for hair, you struggle to give her! She tells you she needs to get a nice bag or pair of shoes she saw at a boutique, you struggle to give her! Be rest assured that you will continue to struggle endlessly in your life if you don't desist from such shameful and wasteful act! If you want to know the extent to which materialism has eaten into this so-called love, watch even the younger girls of today! Even those that are below 21 or 22 will quickly run away from you if you can't be giving her upkeep money, money for hair and phone, etc wink The mature ones? If you don't live comfortably well, sorry, you are on your own!!! Except for those village girls that are not exposed...but seriously, not in the cities of Nigeria.

Before you criticize me on the fact that these women need to live a comfortable life by hanging out with only comfortable dudes, read the topic again! It is surely the same reason why I said young struggling men should forget about love and focus on their lives!!! When you are comfortable, you can have the resources to sustain your relationship because no matter how a woman 'loves' you, the 'love' must surely die if there's no finance to sustain it!

Adams Oshiomole (not handsome) just got married to pretty Lara Forte! Do you think she didn't see all the tall handsome dudes with six-packs before tying the knot with the governor?

Goodevening everyone!

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Re: Reasons Why Every Young Ambitious Struggling Man Should Forget 'Love' by agarawu23(m): 8:09pm On May 15, 2015
nice one rapmoney.

I am in support of your write up But I want us to look it from another angle.

I am not in support of a young hustling guy spending lavishly on a Lady he is yet to marry but that doesn't mean he should not fall in love.(he should apply sense)

If he finally forget about ladies, chase his dream and later succeed, how will he find true love ? (no be our girls of nowadays? Ferrari things grin)

What if the guy is not destined to be rich? I am sure he will still settle down with one (though she might not be his dream girl)

We have few ladies who don't care if a guy is rich or poor, all they want is true love (bros I still dey find them o grin)

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Re: Reasons Why Every Young Ambitious Struggling Man Should Forget 'Love' by Rapmoney(m): 8:13pm On May 15, 2015
agarawu23:
U dor start again cool

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Re: Reasons Why Every Young Ambitious Struggling Man Should Forget 'Love' by Safari29: 8:23pm On May 15, 2015
reasons not substantive.

what happens to destiny. what happens to the tribulation we face in life. mind you most guys who gets married late in their life wished the had gotten married earlier.
everything boils down to prayer and luck bro.
just pray you meet ur perfect match, they're outthere

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Re: Reasons Why Every Young Ambitious Struggling Man Should Forget 'Love' by jamex93(m): 8:29pm On May 15, 2015
me don all ready put dat thing dem dey call love

for inside box long ago

i don lock am there

when time come i go go open am back

as for now no love for guy eyes

na money me need first

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Re: Reasons Why Every Young Ambitious Struggling Man Should Forget 'Love' by Nobody: 8:31pm On May 15, 2015
op I know people who started dating their wives when they were struggling. And they made it together.

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Re: Reasons Why Every Young Ambitious Struggling Man Should Forget 'Love' by natnoble(m): 8:32pm On May 15, 2015
it is an individual race. let everybody make is own mistake if necessary.

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Re: Reasons Why Every Young Ambitious Struggling Man Should Forget 'Love' by Nobody: 8:33pm On May 15, 2015
I disagree with your write up. there are a thousand one girls out there, willing to love and swim the red sea with a hardworking broke dude.
As long as he is hardworking, I will stick with him because I know someday Oluwa go reason him matter.

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Re: Reasons Why Every Young Ambitious Struggling Man Should Forget 'Love' by Rapmoney(m): 8:47pm On May 15, 2015
Safari29:
reasons not substantive.

what happens to destiny. what happens to the tribulation we face in life. mind you most guys who gets married late in their life wished the had gotten married earlier.
everything boils down to prayer and luck bro.
just pray you meet ur perfect match, they're outthere
There's nothing like a perfect match! If you are lacking financially, there will always be quarrel! U need to live in the present bro. Gone are the days when couple live peacefully even without money! Those were the days of our parents and grandparents! Get that straight!

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Re: Reasons Why Every Young Ambitious Struggling Man Should Forget 'Love' by Rapmoney(m): 8:49pm On May 15, 2015
Adaobi12:
I disagree with your write up. there are a thousand one girls out there, willing to love and swim the red sea with a hardworking broke dude.
As long as he is hardworking, I will stick with him because I know someday Oluwa go reason him matter.
Na for only NL una dey fit struggle with a guy cool

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Re: Reasons Why Every Young Ambitious Struggling Man Should Forget 'Love' by Nobody: 8:56pm On May 15, 2015
Rapmoney:
Na for only NL una dey fit struggle with a guy cool
Na for only Nl lazy broker niccurs dey exist.

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Re: Reasons Why Every Young Ambitious Struggling Man Should Forget 'Love' by Nobody: 9:03pm On May 15, 2015
@Adaobi12, It's a lie. Whoever makes you believe girls can be reasonable about hardworking stance is deceiving you. I'm earning a peanut salary in my current job. Because of that, a girl that claimed she loved me started acting strange. I showed her a project I started with one international firm that can land me in millions of naira, she didn't believe it until she left. The firm just contacted me that the work is 60% completed, and gave me some specifications. My respect for her was so high that I agreed with her when she said no sex before marriage. She said she would endure a thousand years of rain 'cause of me. Now if I make it at last, do you think I will have any vestige of feelings left for her? I will rather embark on a race of revenge, not against only her, but also the entire women folk.

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Re: Reasons Why Every Young Ambitious Struggling Man Should Forget 'Love' by ronald4lif(m): 9:12pm On May 15, 2015
Nice one bruv.

I subscribe to your line of reasoning. It is advisable for a guy who's still struggling not to focus on a relationship and fall for the deceit called love. Love without money is not worth it. It gets you distracted from pursuing your goals and drain your scarce resources.

A relationship can't survive without money and that girl you're spending your little money and investing on today could dump your ass tomorrow for your age mates who had their priorities right while you were deceiving yourself with love.

Love won't pay the bills either now or after you're married so why waste your time when you can make something meaningful out of life now. That girl you're spending on will only succeed in ruining you up. It is on record that most relationship arguments and divorces stem from finances and the management of the home. How would you handle that when you don't have money?.

I'm not dismissing the importance of a woman in a man's life but priorities need to be set right. Even if one must embark on a relationship and she keeps demanding for this and that you have to quit it. Don't be manipulated by love. The chances of a woman loving you without money is very slim.

The first question I believe a man should ask himself from a girlfriend who's always demanding money from him is, what if there's no more money?. If you can answer that I believe you would know why she's in the relationship with you.

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Re: Reasons Why Every Young Ambitious Struggling Man Should Forget 'Love' by Rapmoney(m): 9:16pm On May 15, 2015
StealthIdeals:
@Adaobi12, It's a lie. Whoever makes you believe girls can be reasonable about hardworking stance is deceiving you. I'm earning a peanut salary in my current job. Because of that, a girl that claimed she loved me started acting strange. I showed her a project I started with one international firm that can land me in millions of naira, she didn't believe it until she left. The firm just contacted me that the work is 60% completed, and gave me some specifications. My respect for her was so high that I agreed with her when she said no sex before marriage. She said she would endure a thousand years of rain 'cause of me. Now if I make it at last, do you think I will have any vestige of feelings left for her? I will rather embark on a race of revenge, not against only her, but also the entire women folk.
Tell her bro! She thinks she is talking to kids cool

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Re: Reasons Why Every Young Ambitious Struggling Man Should Forget 'Love' by Nobody: 9:17pm On May 15, 2015
StealthIdeals:
@Adaobi12, It's a lie. Whoever makes you believe girls can be reasonable about hardworking stance is deceiving you. I'm earning a peanut salary in my current job. Because of that, a girl that claimed she loved me started acting strange. I showed her a project I started with one international firm that can land me in millions of naira, she didn't believe it until she left. The firm just contacted me that the work is 60% completed, and gave me some specifications. My respect for her was so high that I agreed with her when she said no sex before marriage. She said she would endure a thousand years of rain 'cause of me. Now if I make it at last, do you think I will have any vestige of feelings left for her? I will rather embark on a race of revenge, not against only her, but also the entire women folk.

She left you doesn't mean, another lady will do the same. We all are not the same, so you shouldn't generalize. I know many men that are eating on a dinning table today with ladies they drank garri with on the bare floor years bk. Nkechi didn't stay doesn't mean that Nkiru will do the same.

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Re: Reasons Why Every Young Ambitious Struggling Man Should Forget 'Love' by Rapmoney(m): 9:17pm On May 15, 2015
ronald4lif:
Nice one bruv.

I subscribe to your line of reasoning. It is advisable for a guy who's still struggling not to focus on a relationship and fall for the deceit called love. Love without money is not worth it. It gets you distracted from pursuing your goals and drain your scarce resources.

A relationship can't survive without money and that girl you're spending your little money on today could dump your ass tomorrow for your age mates who had their priorities right while you were deceiving yourself with love.

Love won't pay the bills either now or after you're married so why waste your time when you can make something meaningful out of life now. That girl you're spending on will only succeed in ruining you up. It is on record that most relationship arguments and divorces stem from finances and the management of the home. How would you handle that when you don't have money?.

I'm not dismissing the importance of a woman in a man's life but priorities need to be set right. Even if one must embark on a relationship and she keeps demanding for this and that you have to quit it. Don't be manipulated by love. The chances of a woman loving you without money is very slim.

The first question I believe a man should ask himself from a girlfriend who's always demanding money from him is, what if there's no more money?. If you can answer that I believe you would know why she's in the relationship with you.
Thanks my guy! cheesy

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Re: Reasons Why Every Young Ambitious Struggling Man Should Forget 'Love' by Safari29: 9:21pm On May 15, 2015
Rapmoney:
There's nothing like a perfect match! If you are lacking financially, there will always be quarrel! U need to live in the present bro. Gone are the days when couple live peacefully even without money! Those were the days of our parents and grandparents! Get that straight!

money can't buy love. what if u lose all ur money, or do u think it is not possible? May God guides us into the right channel

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Re: Reasons Why Every Young Ambitious Struggling Man Should Forget 'Love' by ronald4lif(m): 9:22pm On May 15, 2015
Rapmoney:
Thanks my guy! cheesy

Bro, any guy who believes a girl will love him without money and won't dump his ass if she sees someone who's well better off tomorrow is living in a cuckoo land. Most relationship nowadays is a game of the highest bidder and akin to business partnership. grin

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Re: Reasons Why Every Young Ambitious Struggling Man Should Forget 'Love' by Nobody: 9:26pm On May 15, 2015
ronald4lif:


Bro, any guy who believes a girl will love him without money and won't dump his ass if she sees someone who's well better off tomorrow is living in a cuckoo land. Most relationship nowadays is a game of the highest bidder and akin to business partnership. grin
angry
Re: Reasons Why Every Young Ambitious Struggling Man Should Forget 'Love' by ronald4lif(m): 9:28pm On May 15, 2015
iAmCharis:
angry

Bia ogini. Parkia one side biko. grin

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Re: Reasons Why Every Young Ambitious Struggling Man Should Forget 'Love' by ShayGirl(f): 9:32pm On May 15, 2015
Ur opinion, though, u may b right but the choice is every guy's to decide

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Re: Reasons Why Every Young Ambitious Struggling Man Should Forget 'Love' by Nobody: 9:34pm On May 15, 2015
Safari29:


money can't buy love. what if u lose all ur money, or do u think it is not possible? May God guides us into the right channel
If money develops wings and fly away, you will have to marry a new wife (like Oshiomole) whenever you recover after which the first wife might have left.

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Re: Reasons Why Every Young Ambitious Struggling Man Should Forget 'Love' by rudebouy: 9:38pm On May 15, 2015
Rapmoney:


Adams Oshiomole (not handsome) just got married to pretty Lara Forte! Do you think she didn't see all the tall handsome dudes with six-packs before tying the knot with the governor? ??

:DHahaha! So predictable! I knew dis was ur inspiration for posting dis. Its kinda annoying to see such a wowo man end up with such a cute chic. cheesy Shit happens!

Well, ur point is very correct and also very wrong.

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Re: Reasons Why Every Young Ambitious Struggling Man Should Forget 'Love' by Nobody: 9:41pm On May 15, 2015
Adaobi12:


She left you doesn't mean, another lady will do the same. We all are not the same, so you shouldn't generalize. I know many men that are eating on a dinning table today with ladies they drank garri with on the bare floor years bk. Nkechi didn't stay doesn't mean that Nkiru will do the same.
Gbam!!

It's even safer to have someone when things are not so well financially. You see, when a man had it made already, chances are he's going to marry someone he wouldn't want to someone he doesn't really know her character. When they know the money is there, they start acting all nice, now what you love in a woman and start feigning your dream woman. Only for you to marry her and realize she's the total opposite. A friend recently told me about a story of her uncle. The man was well loaded before he got married. He took a month leave from work one day and told his wife that he has lost his job. He started acting broke all of a sudden. Can you imagine in less than a month, this woman said she can no longer continue with the marriage. She packed and left her husband. The man even went to see the woman's people but they drove him out.


It's when you've not made it you know those who truly love you.

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Re: Reasons Why Every Young Ambitious Struggling Man Should Forget 'Love' by Nobody: 9:56pm On May 15, 2015
ronald4lif:


Bia ogini. Parkia one side biko. grin
iAmCharis:
Gbam!!
It's even safer to have someone when things are not so well financially. You see, when a man had it made already, chances are he's going to marry someone he wouldn't want to someone he doesn't really know her character. When they know the money is there, they start acting all nice, now what you love in a woman and start feigning your dream woman. Only for you to marry her and realize she's the total opposite. A friend recently told me about a story of her uncle. The man was well loaded before he got married. He took a month leave from work one day and told his wife that he has lost his job. He started acting broke all of a sudden. Can you imagine in less than a month, this woman said she can no longer continue with the marriage. She packed and left her husband. The man even went to see the woman's people but they drove him out.
It's when you've not made it you know those who truly love you.
Re: Reasons Why Every Young Ambitious Struggling Man Should Forget 'Love' by Safari29: 10:00pm On May 15, 2015
StealthIdeals:
If money develops wings and fly away, you will have to marry a new wife (like Oshiomole) whenever you recover after which the first wife might have left.

na beans? easier said than done
Re: Reasons Why Every Young Ambitious Struggling Man Should Forget 'Love' by totoakins(m): 10:01pm On May 15, 2015
as for me love distracts you from your goal, it makes me soft. I have always performed better as a business man when am single than when am in love

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Re: Reasons Why Every Young Ambitious Struggling Man Should Forget 'Love' by Nobody: 10:12pm On May 15, 2015
Safari29:


na beans? easier said than done
If u get money, u wil even marry more than one at a time.

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Re: Reasons Why Every Young Ambitious Struggling Man Should Forget 'Love' by webcraftz(m): 10:16pm On May 15, 2015
ronald4lif:
Nice one bruv.

I subscribe to your line of reasoning. It is advisable for a guy who's still struggling not to focus on a relationship and fall for the deceit called love. Love without money is not worth it. It gets you distracted from pursuing your goals and drain your scarce resources.

A relationship can't survive without money and that girl you're spending your little money and investing on today could dump your ass tomorrow for your age mates who had their priorities right while you were deceiving yourself with love.

Love won't pay the bills either now or after you're married so why waste your time when you can make something meaningful out of life now. That girl you're spending on will only succeed in ruining you up. It is on record that most relationship arguments and divorces stem from finances and the management of the home. How would you handle that when you don't have money?.

I'm not dismissing the importance of a woman in a man's life but priorities need to be set right. Even if one must embark on a relationship and she keeps demanding for this and that you have to quit it. Don't be manipulated by love. The chances of a woman loving you without money is very slim.

The first question I believe a man should ask himself from a girlfriend who's always demanding money from him is, what if there's no more money?. If you can answer that I believe you would know why she's in the relationship with you.

Bro, you're on point!

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Re: Reasons Why Every Young Ambitious Struggling Man Should Forget 'Love' by ronald4lif(m): 10:22pm On May 15, 2015
iAmCharis:
Gbam!!

It's even safer to have someone when things are not so well financially. You see, when a man had it made already, chances are he's going to marry someone he wouldn't want to someone he doesn't really know her character. When they know the money is there, they start acting all nice, now what you love in a woman and start feigning your dream woman. Only for you to marry her and realize she's the total opposite. A friend recently told me about a story of her uncle. The man was well loaded before he got married. He took a month leave from work one day and told his wife that he has lost his job. He started acting broke all of a sudden. Can you imagine in less than a month, this woman said she can no longer continue with the marriage. She packed and left her husband. The man even went to see the woman's people but they drove him out.


It's when you've not made it you know those who truly love you.

Yes. But the question is how sensible it is for a guy who doesn't have much money to be footing the bills of his girlfriend monthly hair, outings, gifts etc. Is it wise for a student guy who for instance receives less than 30k monthly from his sponsors to fund most of his girlfriend's responsibilities?. When there's a great possibility she might dump his ass if someone who's better off comes her way?. It's not like guys shouldn't have a relationship when they are still struggling, no it's a necessary evil but still an unwise decision.

While it is advisable one should have a girlfriend while they are not financially buoyant so they can be sure her intentions are genuine when money sets in, but in a case where a guy was the one footing a lot of her essential needs when he was still managing his student allowance her intentions can't be said to be genuine and it's questionable. She was still there for the money during those period when her (financial) benefits were meagre. Only difference is that his situation changes for the better with more money and of course she will still stick around.

I think a real wealthy man, who knows how to treat a woman right, romantic and all is capable of making his wife grow to love him even if she's there for the money. Once one have the money and know how to treat a woman their least of concerns will be to make her love you. Splash the money and be romantic bro love will grow by force.

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Re: Reasons Why Every Young Ambitious Struggling Man Should Forget 'Love' by ronald4lif(m): 10:28pm On May 15, 2015
webcraftz:


Bro, you're on point!

Facts are sacrosanct bruv. Love without money is a fool's game. No man should be manipulated or dribbled with that bullshit.

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Re: Reasons Why Every Young Ambitious Struggling Man Should Forget 'Love' by Rapmoney(m): 10:35pm On May 15, 2015
Adaobi12:


She left you doesn't mean, another lady will do the same. We all are not the same, so you shouldn't generalize. I know many men that are eating on a dinning table today with ladies they drank garri with on the bare floor years bk. Nkechi didn't stay doesn't mean that Nkiru will do the same.
You are always knowing one person or the other but what we see in our society is in sharp contrast with what you are saying!

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