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Re: Reasons Why Every Young Ambitious Struggling Man Should Forget 'Love' by GodMode: 11:34am On May 16, 2015
agarawu23:
nice one rapmoney.

I am in support of your write up But I want us to look it from another angle.

I am not in support of a young hustling guy spending lavishly on a Lady he is yet to marry but that doesn't mean he should not fall in love.(he should apply sense)

If he finally forget about ladies, chase his dream and later succeed, how will he find true love ? (no be our girls of nowadays? Ferrari things grin)

What if the guy is not destined to be rich? I am sure he will still settle down with one (though she might not be his dream girl)

We have few ladies who don't care if a guy is rich or poor, all they want is true love (bros I still dey find them o grin)



Everyone is destined to be great not just rich..

Never forget that humans have a choice.

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Re: Reasons Why Every Young Ambitious Struggling Man Should Forget 'Love' by ronald4lif(m): 11:34am On May 16, 2015
Lamispaco:
Well said OP jare,more reason am not dating is because I know am not yet the guy who can spend whatsoever amount on a lady,I have a friend who has a girlfriend,sometimes the guy would borrow from me so he can satisfy the babe,gave him my advice to tell his babe his situation if na true love the babe go wait if not she go commot.

You no see am. That's what a lot of them do in uni. When you stay off girlfriends they think you're st*pid. They don't know that you're trying to manage your monthly allowance and with having a girlfriend you're bound to spend.

And when they run out of money they come to borrow. Borrow to please a girl who is likely to dump your ass when a higher bidder comes her way. Makes no sense.

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Re: Reasons Why Every Young Ambitious Struggling Man Should Forget 'Love' by onlyson16(m): 11:34am On May 16, 2015
Rapmoney:
Be patient while you read this...

If you are a young and ambitious dude still struggling to get to the top, this write-up will save you the stress and pains of the so-called love we have been deceived about for long!

If you still think that there's what is called 'true love' or 'love without money or resources', then you must be living in a fool's paradise!!!cool (Quote me if you like!)

The truth of the matter is that what people in the past enjoyed as 'true love' no longer exist. Then it was possible for a man and a woman to fall in love based on personal qualities or characters without materialism attached to it! Those were the good old days! Our society has changed and any one who still lives in the past is not better than the village idiot!!!

I have heard people saying often times that love or relationship is not all about money! To me, that's the highest level of trash and rubbish! If you are a young man with ambition, still striving and toiling to make it, you better forget about love and concentrate full-time...I mean 100% on your dreams and life.
It is so frustrating to see some struggling dudes killing themselves over love issues! What a life! Why spend the meagre salary you earn after working for 30 days like a donkey on a girl? She tells you she needs a phone, you struggle to buy it! She says she needs money for hair, you struggle to give her! She tells you she needs to get a nice bag or pair of shoes she saw at a boutique, you struggle to give her! Be rest assured that you will continue to struggle endlessly in your life if you don't desist from such shameful and wasteful act! If you want to know the extent to which materialism has eaten into this so-called love, watch even the younger girls of today! Even those that are below 21 or 22 will quickly run away from you if you can't be giving her upkeep money, money for hair and phone, etc wink The mature ones? If you don't live comfortably well, sorry, you are on your own!!! Except for those village girls that are not exposed...but seriously, not in the cities of Nigeria.

Before you criticize me on the fact that these women need to live a comfortable life by hanging out with only comfortable dudes, read the topic again! It is surely the same reason why I said young struggling men should forget about love and focus on their lives!!! When you are comfortable, you can have the resources to sustain your relationship because no matter how a woman 'loves' you, the 'love' must surely die if there's no finance to sustain it!

Adams Oshiomole (not handsome) just got married to pretty Lara Forte! Do you think she didn't see all the tall handsome dudes with six-packs before tying the knot with the governor?

Goodevening everyone!
typical truth

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Re: Reasons Why Every Young Ambitious Struggling Man Should Forget 'Love' by Ebbunwa(m): 11:35am On May 16, 2015
I think He maid a lot sense. especially considering the mindset of today's young people.

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Re: Reasons Why Every Young Ambitious Struggling Man Should Forget 'Love' by OKNkanu(m): 11:36am On May 16, 2015
So true
Re: Reasons Why Every Young Ambitious Struggling Man Should Forget 'Love' by kristisking(m): 11:37am On May 16, 2015
Not totally correct.Op haven't you seen or heard of situations where struggling men who fell in love later made it in life with the assistance of their partners?True love still exists.Women tend to fall in love with already made men and with those with promising future these days.Being a struggling man today does not mean you will remain so for ever.No condition is permanent if there is a change of attitude and plans.
Re: Reasons Why Every Young Ambitious Struggling Man Should Forget 'Love' by Rilwayne001: 11:37am On May 16, 2015
OP, I'm with you on this.

Infact, this has been one of the maxim I use in my daily life.

"Stop the pursuits of just el dorado and girls. Turn off
your internet and data if you don't know what to do with it! Turn off TV, put in WORK. And someone will turn on his TV to watch you"

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Re: Reasons Why Every Young Ambitious Struggling Man Should Forget 'Love' by ronald4lif(m): 11:40am On May 16, 2015
Jossyroyal1:
I've wasted my time all in d name of love.... #Pained

Bro, wetin happen. Gist us na biko. cheesy

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Re: Reasons Why Every Young Ambitious Struggling Man Should Forget 'Love' by ChukChinCol(m): 11:42am On May 16, 2015
Op u made no new point. You managed to carve a nice intro, nothing else! If loves works for u, go 4 it, q.e.d.
Re: Reasons Why Every Young Ambitious Struggling Man Should Forget 'Love' by Nobody: 11:42am On May 16, 2015
ronald4lif:


Bro, wetin happen. Gist us na biko. cheesy

Sits next to him .. Waits for gist smiley

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Re: Reasons Why Every Young Ambitious Struggling Man Should Forget 'Love' by Nobody: 11:43am On May 16, 2015
totoakins:
as for me love distracts you from your goal, it makes me soft. I have always performed better as a business man when am single than when am in love
In my academics back in college,i had the same experience.#fact on point

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Re: Reasons Why Every Young Ambitious Struggling Man Should Forget 'Love' by Nobody: 11:44am On May 16, 2015
*lights weed takes a drag and 'coughs'* na true the OP dey talk

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Re: Reasons Why Every Young Ambitious Struggling Man Should Forget 'Love' by Taleeysun(f): 11:44am On May 16, 2015
Op simply dose not know what love is.

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Re: Reasons Why Every Young Ambitious Struggling Man Should Forget 'Love' by Nobody: 11:45am On May 16, 2015
ronald4lif:


Show me a guy who has never experience such and I'll trek from Lagos to Abuja. grin
am here, never had a gf because am not ready to spend, so when will you start trekking? biko.

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Re: Reasons Why Every Young Ambitious Struggling Man Should Forget 'Love' by Nobody: 11:45am On May 16, 2015
Rapmoney:
Adaobi, stubborn babe grin
mua ain't stubborn oh. but you need to change your mindset bro. there are still good ladies around.

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Re: Reasons Why Every Young Ambitious Struggling Man Should Forget 'Love' by Kulas: 11:46am On May 16, 2015
D op made a sensible write up,just that most of us even some ladies here will see truth and hide it.Any reasonable struggling guy should forget about love this love that and focus on actualizing his life dream.Gbam!.There is NOTHING LIKE TRUE LOVE,especially here in Nigeria.Money is d true love nowdays.Let's call spade a spade.Ladies here even know that there is nothing like true love but money.When a man approached them,their first survey is how deep his pocket is.And we are here shying away from truth.

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Re: Reasons Why Every Young Ambitious Struggling Man Should Forget 'Love' by centjamie(m): 11:46am On May 16, 2015
ronald4lif:


Yes. But the question is how sensible it is for a guy who doesn't have much money to be footing the bills of his girlfriend monthly hair, outings, gifts etc. Is it wise for a student guy who for instance receives less than 30k monthly from his sponsors to fund most of his girlfriend's responsibilities?. When there's a great possibility she might dump his ass if someone who's better off comes her way?. It's not like guys shouldn't have a relationship when they are still struggling, no it's a necessary evil but still an unwise decision.

While it is advisable one should have a girlfriend while they are not financially buoyant so they can be sure her intentions are genuine when money sets in, but in a case where a guy was the one footing a lot of her essential needs when he was still managing his student allowance her intentions can't be said to be genuine and it's questionable. She was still there for the money during those period when her (financial) benefits were meagre. Only difference is that his situation changes for the better with more money and of course she will still stick around.

I think a real wealthy man, who knows how to treat a woman right, romantic and all is capable of making his wife grow to love him even if she's there for the money. Once one have the money and know how to treat a woman their least of concerns will be to make her love you. Splash the money and be romantic bro love will grow by force.

I totally concur to this.

You are so right
Re: Reasons Why Every Young Ambitious Struggling Man Should Forget 'Love' by Ella201: 11:47am On May 16, 2015
Adaobi12:


She left you doesn't mean, another lady will do the same. We all are not the same, so you shouldn't generalize. I know many men that are eating on a dinning table today with ladies they drank garri with on the bare floor years bk. Nkechi didn't stay doesn't mean that Nkiru will do the same.

Xo ryt dear all gurls r nt d same buh moni dey make d love sweet grin
Re: Reasons Why Every Young Ambitious Struggling Man Should Forget 'Love' by ronald4lif(m): 11:48am On May 16, 2015
centjamie:


I totally concur to this.

You are so right

Thanks man. For us it's about addressing issues and we're open to constructive counter points to fault ours. Simple.
Re: Reasons Why Every Young Ambitious Struggling Man Should Forget 'Love' by 1miccza: 11:49am On May 16, 2015
jamex93:
me don all ready put dat thing dem dey call love

for inside box long ago

i don lock am there

when time come i go go open am back

as for now no love for guy eyes

na money me need first


I think say na only me o

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Re: Reasons Why Every Young Ambitious Struggling Man Should Forget 'Love' by lusciouslex: 11:50am On May 16, 2015
Love, relationship are such a big distraction to a young man. Can't sm1 survive without being in love/relationship for a period of time? How many failed relationships 'ex' does one need to have? There's nothing as heart breaking as being a failure. Op, you are my twin for God is 1st in my life then money 2nd, 3rd, 4th and 5th.

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Re: Reasons Why Every Young Ambitious Struggling Man Should Forget 'Love' by 1miccza: 11:52am On May 16, 2015
Adaobi12:
I disagree with your write up. there are a thousand one girls out there, willing to love and swim the red sea with a hardworking broke dude.
As long as he is hardworking, I will stick with him because I know someday Oluwa go reason him matter.

Sincerely and honestly you are just one out of an ocean of negatives,i have had my fair share and i dare say people with such beliefs are rare irrespective of their age or level they are the same

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Re: Reasons Why Every Young Ambitious Struggling Man Should Forget 'Love' by MizMyColi(f): 11:55am On May 16, 2015
remsonik:

Good morning dear
How are you doing?
Have a great day
smiley
You too Hannie.
Re: Reasons Why Every Young Ambitious Struggling Man Should Forget 'Love' by otiigba1(m): 11:55am On May 16, 2015
Adaobi12:
I disagree with your write up. there are a thousand one girls out there, willing to love and swim the red sea with a hardworking broke dude.
As long as he is hardworking, I will stick with him because I know someday Oluwa go reason him matter.
Really?! Am glad to hear this, means poor and ugly man like me still have a chance tongue
Re: Reasons Why Every Young Ambitious Struggling Man Should Forget 'Love' by Nobody: 11:55am On May 16, 2015
Ella201:

Xo ryt dear all gurls r nt d same buh moni dey make d love sweet grin
. But it shouldn't be the foundation .
Re: Reasons Why Every Young Ambitious Struggling Man Should Forget 'Love' by eebruboss(m): 11:58am On May 16, 2015
U can't know more than what u see and what u hear.....! This is a product of what u have seen and heard.... @ rapmoney...
Re: Reasons Why Every Young Ambitious Struggling Man Should Forget 'Love' by Gynacologist(m): 11:59am On May 16, 2015
Adaobi12:


She left you doesn't mean, another lady will do the same. We all are not the same, so you shouldn't generalize. I know many men that are eating on a dinning table today with ladies they drank garri with on the bare floor years bk. Nkechi didn't stay doesn't mean that Nkiru will do the same.
ol gurlz n d same infact ol gurlz na ashawo...

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Re: Reasons Why Every Young Ambitious Struggling Man Should Forget 'Love' by fairheven: 11:59am On May 16, 2015
If guys can devote the same amount of time,energy ,idea ,resources,intellect and passion they spend on women in pursuance of money instead;then they will be so rich that even Dangote wud be jealous cry cry

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Re: Reasons Why Every Young Ambitious Struggling Man Should Forget 'Love' by SirLewis(m): 12:01pm On May 16, 2015
Rapmoney:
Why spend the meagre salary you earn after working for 30 days like a donkey on a girl? She tells you she needs a phone, you struggle to buy it! She says she needs money for hair, you struggle to give her! She tells you she needs to get a nice bag or pair of shoes she saw at a boutique, you struggle to give her! Be rest assured that you will continue to struggle endlessly in your life if you don't desist from such shameful and wasteful act! If you want to know the extent to which materialism has eaten into this so-called love, watch even the younger girls of today! Even those that are below 21 or 22 will quickly run away from you if you can't be giving her upkeep money, money for hair and phone, etc wink The mature ones? If you don't live comfortably well, sorry, you are on your own!!! Except for those village girls that are not exposed...but seriously, not in the cities of Nigeria.

Before you criticize me on the fact that these women need to live a comfortable life by hanging out with only comfortable dudes, read the topic again! It is surely the same reason why I said young struggling men should forget about love and focus on their lives!!! When you are comfortable, you can have the resources to sustain your relationship because no matter how a woman 'loves' you, the 'love' must surely die if there's no finance to sustain it!

Adams Oshiomole (not handsome) just got married to pretty Lara Forte! Do you think she didn't see all the tall handsome dudes with six-packs before tying the knot with the governor?

Goodevening everyone!

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Re: Reasons Why Every Young Ambitious Struggling Man Should Forget 'Love' by olareed(m): 12:07pm On May 16, 2015
agarawu23:
nice one rapmoney.

I am in support of your write up But I want us to look it from another angle.

I am not in support of a young hustling guy spending lavishly on a Lady he is yet to marry but that doesn't mean he should not fall in love.(he should apply sense)

If he finally forget about ladies, chase his dream and later succeed, how will he find true love ? (no be our girls of nowadays? Ferrari things grin)

What if the guy is not destined to be rich? I am sure he will still settle down with one (though she might not be his dream girl)

We have few ladies who don't care if a guy is rich or poor, all they want is true love (bros I still dey find them o grin)


mother to son
Son: how do I find a right woman for myself
Mother: be a right man and the right woman finds you
Moral: be successful and you'd find your woman effortlessly.
On a deviant note,how would you know if it's true love or money love? Be the bad guy every girl likes and she would feel a thing for you if it was money love, and loves you more if it was true love...

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Re: Reasons Why Every Young Ambitious Struggling Man Should Forget 'Love' by unite4real: 12:08pm On May 16, 2015
Rapmoney:
Be patient while you read this...

If you are a young and ambitious dude still struggling to get to the top, this write-up will save you the stress and pains of the so-called love we have been deceived about for long!

If you still think that there's what is called 'true love' or 'love without money or resources', then you must be living in a fool's paradise!!!cool (Quote me if you like!)

The truth of the matter is that what people in the past enjoyed as 'true love' no longer exist. Then it was possible for a man and a woman to fall in love based on personal qualities or characters without materialism attached to it! Those were the good old days! Our society has changed and any one who still lives in the past is not better than the village idiot!!!

I have heard people saying often times that love or relationship is not all about money! To me, that's the highest level of trash and rubbish! If you are a young man with ambition, still striving and toiling to make it, you better forget about love and concentrate full-time...I mean 100% on your dreams and life.
It is so frustrating to see some struggling dudes killing themselves over love issues! What a life! Why spend the meagre salary you earn after working for 30 days like a donkey on a girl? She tells you she needs a phone, you struggle to buy it! She says she needs money for hair, you struggle to give her! She tells you she needs to get a nice bag or pair of shoes she saw at a boutique, you struggle to give her! Be rest assured that you will continue to struggle endlessly in your life if you don't desist from such shameful and wasteful act! If you want to know the extent to which materialism has eaten into this so-called love, watch even the younger girls of today! Even those that are below 21 or 22 will quickly run away from you if you can't be giving her upkeep money, money for hair and phone, etc wink The mature ones? If you don't live comfortably well, sorry, you are on your own!!! Except for those village girls that are not exposed...but seriously, not in the cities of Nigeria.

Before you criticize me on the fact that these women need to live a comfortable life by hanging out with only comfortable dudes, read the topic again! It is surely the same reason why I said young struggling men should forget about love and focus on their lives!!! When you are comfortable, you can have the resources to sustain your relationship because no matter how a woman 'loves' you, the 'love' must surely die if there's no finance to sustain it!

Adams Oshiomole (not handsome) just got married to pretty Lara Forte! Do you think she didn't see all the tall handsome dudes with six-packs before tying the knot with the governor?

Goodevening everyone!

The Bible says, "seek ye first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, all other things shall be added".

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Re: Reasons Why Every Young Ambitious Struggling Man Should Forget 'Love' by misreal(m): 12:09pm On May 16, 2015
Adaobi12:


She left you doesn't mean, another lady will do the same. We all are not the same, so you shouldn't generalize. I know many men that are eating on a dinning table today with ladies they drank garri with on the bare floor years bk. Nkechi didn't stay doesn't mean that Nkiru will do the same.
true miss.even though I have been dumped before due to financial issues but I still belief they are still good girls out there.but the guy has to be hard working,I can't imagine myself with a lazy girl talk less of vice versa.

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