OP, well, I don't think your husband still loves you tho.. This is because he knew all these and decided to marry you. Why didn't he quit initially? Also, if you're slack and he can't make the best of that size then he's not good enough at sex. Another thing is, when some guys wanna start patronizing the anûs, they will always wanna come up with silly excuses like that. I wouldn't say you divorce him but it's good to know the kind of man you're with. Wish you the best..

Treese you are going through so much. I read the thread on cooking for the neighbour, removal of rings and now it's a lax vjay complaint. This is a lot.

So many issues on ground start with yourself, take care of yourself. You need it.

OP your hubby obviously doesn't love you anymore, I feel sad for what you are going through.

I honestly don't know how you can continue in such a marriage with a very insensitive man, but continue taking care of yourself and your kids, keep up with your exercises, don't let this kill your self esteem.

Your husband is mean sha.

Hmmmmmm
Why don't I see no meaning to this
Let me read again
Its no pity time
Madam must get to work

Have you ever heard of douch
I no no name oo
I also have a friend that sells natural things like this
Let me see if I can get her to come here or you send me PM

andromida:
Treese you are going through so much. I read the thread on cooking for the neighbour, removal of rings and now it's a lax vjay complaint. This is a lot.

So many issues on ground start with yourself, take care of yourself. You need it.

That is because they both refused to address their first problem,they don't communicate and resolve any misunderstanding between them and they keep on piling....

Both are very immature in marriage and need serious help and counselling before they finally brake up.

I don't get it,Treese don't you have family?where are your parents?his parents?your pastor? Why is Nairaland where you run to when there is trouble?

Chai, the ingredient don finish!

Picture or i dnt believe u are lax

What a lousy excuse

I think the Supermod should have changed the moniker before putting this on FP.

Minimum decency requires this of us otherwise take it away from the FP.


Life, even on NL should not be all about traffic.

Surgery asap

What a sad story.! Then somebody else will b tightening the loosening end for the wife.!

Stupid man@the husband
Mtcheeeeeeeew!

TRUST.BE SINCERE AND OPEN TO YOUR PARTERS MATTERS ALOT IN MARRIAGE...GOD HELP US WHO ARE STILL SINGLE IN JESUS NAME.AMEN

DuchessLily:
Hmmmm..... Babe Ur hubby is already cheating on u.

Continue with ur kegel exercise. Do it more frequently. Or u do surgery. Then also do sit bath

Alum is not safe

.pls u pple should alwaz watch ur statement wen commenting on delicate issues like hers..hw re u dis sure her husband is already cheating?..she wants 2 amend her home,dnt shater it for her pls

Hmmn

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treese:
Though he usually says he doesn't care about my self esteem but I don't think this has to do with self esteem alone. I think there is more. While we were dating we spoke about my sex life and body nature. It's not like I had too many relationships but I just knew men say my vaginal is kind of lax. Even wen I lost my virginity the guy called me a blunt liar to my face, saying I claimed to be a virgin when I wasn't.

You didn't bleed and getting in wasn't so hard. That is one ruined relationship that would have been awesome. And probably the last man standing. If you be virgin, you go know, if you not, you will know and I KNEW then that I was.

Now my husband knew this about my body and decides to stick with it. Somehow someway which I don't know after my first child, vaginal got tight, second child too same happened. To a certain extent it helped our sex life because it made him love it. And I could tell it's one of the reasons he probably hasn't cheated..

Just 2 days back. We had a little misunderstanding then I mentioned something about sèx. Quote me if am wrong. Sex is meant for bonding between a man and a woman and that's why God instituted it in marriage alone. So you both can get closer, and in my own opinion when there are issues BTW them the power of sex is to make forgiveness easy. The next thing my husband said is. It's not like am enjoying the sex. It's now feels like been in a pool.

OMG I was HURT. I lost the essence of life immediately, lost the essence of marriage. Out of anger I told him only men with big dicks should complain, men with pencils dares nor. That was my only defence because he said it with soooooo much heartlessness. I cried...i cried so much. This man that I have back sex with so that our sex life would be whole. Sometimes I bleed. Then I said to myself it's not worth it. Then I realised, For him if anything goes wrong with me due to that sexual style, Am on my own. Few hours later I sent him a text that I was sorry for everything not because it was easy but two wrongs never ever make a right in marriage. Can't walk away with two kids can only make it work.

Following day wen I saw he was in a good mood. I decided to ask, then he said I was lax and it has made sex unenjoyable. I wondered y he didn't tell me immediately he noticed and why he had to throw it to my face. But what, it's a man's world. If they don't reap their mean ways here on earth. It waits in heaven.

But trust me since then I have been concerned,Google all I could, nothing much. Even the kegel exercise has always been my practice. I now feel this time he might just look outside wen sex gets all pool like. He said he will buy toys, he said he can't pretend to love it wen he doesn't. Which I agree with. But even the toys can it ever be Like d real things. Sometimes he might want to feel the woman and not want toys. What happens next? I can't encourage him to cheat cos if he does and I find out I would leave with my kids. But I don't want him to. Am confused. So so confused. You know wen a man is concerned he will probably do research with you, find out info call doctors, but he didn't, he just broke the news to me and he's like do something about it or I might not be making out with u again. It's really not fair. Cos some men might possibly not go about it that way. But at the same time, it's like that's his nature. I can only Leave with it or take a walk. But take a walk to where, becos am now lax? But I also hear sex in marriage is KEY, with two kids, and I love him, but thatz still not the point. I DON'T know. Please who does? I have smiling all over the house, acting like everything is fine once am alone i cry again, because the fear is, would there ever be a solution , would I still be tight again, and this is a marriage where sex is sometimes 1 in 2 or 3 weeks, so definitely that's not the reason for my laxity, i will be sad if my marriage gets ruined because am lax. I hope my husband reads this thank God he is a nairalander

such serious issue of privacy shld not be thrown in the face of immature children for response

get a grip on yourself and your marriage and seek professional help outside this forum

If all men reason the same way you do, the woman no go get husband o! Lol

adegwurulez:
I can only imagine how hard it must be for you, putting so much effort into saving your marriage and yet have it thrown at your face that your efforts are in futility.

I might be too young and inexperienced to give advice on issues of marriage but hey, throwing it right at you like that at the heat of the arguement shows he's been thinking about it for a very long time, what guarantees do you have his friends haven't been whispering alternatives to him?

Here's me putting myself in your husband's shoe, if i had an idea you have that kind of problem and i'm not comfortable with it, i probably wouldn't marry you, instead of delving into something that desires commitment and mutual friendship, and then turning around, damning all consequences and throwing tantrums at my wife over a problem i was well aware of before marriage.

I aint judging no one. People are different and so are their reasoning...

It's not like am enjoying the sex. It's now feels like been in a pool.

That ya husband wicked

Out of anger I told him only men with big dicks should complain, men with pencils dares not.

Hahahaha You sef Wicked pass

On a more serious note, your husband is selfish and inconsiderate, Ideally, he should have told you in a not hurtful manner, and subsequently sort for solution, you are his wife and should be under his protection and care, he should even be more concerned about this. Both of you need to visit a gynaecologist and seek solution to it. If he truly loves you, a lax V@gina is not an excuse to cheat, it should even make him last longer.

Ok

Story 4 d gods#fabu#

You appear to be concerned. But the truth is, you are talking to the wrong audience, except you just wanna seek attention. See a doctor today, and your vagina will be fixed. Medical care has gone beyond your imagination.

OP I will advice you to visit a consultant gynaecologist.........





he can give you the best solution to this your problem because your solution to your lax vjay rest in the hand of the medical field.


I hope that's the only problem he has with you.....
the possibility that he has started cheating is just 50% so, don't think because he threw it on your face he must have definitely started to cheat

Freemanan:

Still shocked...

Remain shocked

ARE THERE NO CREAM TO TIGHT YOUR HOLE

GO AND FIND SOLUTION TO YOUR PROBLEM AND STOP DISTURBING US, NAIJA WOMEN OF NOWADAYS DON'T EVEN KNOW HOW TO TAKE CARE OF THEMSELF AFTER MARRIAGE.

I WILL KEEP ON SAYING, NAIJA WOMEN ARE NO GOOD

U dnt need to advertise ur mumu here..shey na only mk out u see for the post ni?

tinuolababy:
Which one is make out again?

Why do women always feel they have to adjust themselves to keep the marriage.

Its obvious the man doesnt really love u. And u will be a fool to think he's not sleeping outside. Men are not designed to go weeks without sex, especially when he has a problem with the pussy at home.

Sorry I dont mean to be blunt. But I encourage u to be strong and start preparing for the worst. So sorry tho

sonofananimal1:
ARE THERE NO CREAM TO TIGHT YOUR HOLE

GO AND FIND SOLUTION TO YOUR PROBLEM AND STOP DISTURBING US, NAIJA WOMEN OF NOWADAYS DON'T EVEN KNOW HOW TO TAKE CARE OF THEMSELF AFTER MARRIAGE.

I WILL KEEP ON SAYING, NAIJA WOMEN ARE NO GOOD

Oponu! Ode!

damn!

This is too inhuman! Your husband is heartless no doubt.