oreos:


Weren't you not the pervert that mentioned that rape cannot occur unless a weapon is introduced? You should kill yourself. Your daftness is beyond redemption

otiigba1:
well.. do not visit a male friend then, and you won't be raped.... PROBLEM SOLVED. I guess

tpiander:


90% of Nigerian women meaning what?

are you saying 90% of Nigerian women have been raped or met rapists?

Are you mad?

have 90% of Nigerian men also been raped?

sonofananimal:
AGREE WITH YOU

classicB:

You attract your type of personality. I can see clearly that u move with olosho

Sowl:

I hardly ever comment but I think you need a lil enlightenment from a guys perspective so I would make this an exception ,ask a guy that has had the privilege of deflowering a girl about his experience and he would tell u it wasn't a rosy one coz so much energy is invested in the act so he doesn't hurt the girl in the process simply because she might want to restrain him somehow during the act,now that's for a a woman willing,aside from virgins even the sexually active women also needs effort when its been a while she indulged in the act. Check rape cases that were successfully carried out by the guys involved , you would observe that its either the guy is far older and bigger than the girl in question or the rape was done under duress by the guy with the girl with the use of a weapon, or it was a gang rape by a bunch of guys. No guy in the same age bracket and similar physical features with a lady can successfully carry out rape just like the op and other lady's on the thread have testified to. I am in no way justifying rape coz I believe a lady as the final say on what happens to her body.... But I would advice instead of crying foul every now and then by most of the female populace just make use of the principle "prevention is beta than curing". If you have no emotional or romantic attraction to a guy don't bother visiting him, unless its for a business purpose and that should be done in public places.

misspicy:

Yes solved for me,wch I want it to be solved for every lady out there especially teenagers and young adults...

Abeg dnt forget to create dat thread o

Sowl:

I hardly ever comment but I think you need a lil enlightenment from a guys perspective so I would make this an exception ,ask a guy that has had the privilege of deflowering a girl about his experience and he would tell u it wasn't a rosy one coz so much energy is invested in the act so he doesn't hurt the girl in the process simply because she might want to restrain him somehow during the act,now that's for a a woman willing,aside from virgins even the sexually active women also needs effort when its been a while she indulged in the act. Check rape cases that were successfully carried out by the guys involved , you would observe that its either the guy is far older and bigger than the girl in question or the rape was done under duress by the guy with the girl with the use of a weapon, or it was a gang rape by a bunch of guys. No guy in the same age bracket and similar physical features with a lady can successfully carry out rape just like the op and other lady's on the thread have testified to. I am in no way justifying rape coz I believe a lady as the final say on what happens to her body.... But I would advice instead of crying foul every now and then by most of the female populace just make use of the principle "prevention is beta than curing". If you have no emotional or romantic attraction to a guy don't bother visiting him, unless its for a business purpose and that should be done in public places.

Chommieblaq:
I get your points op, and buh it also depends on the circle of friends n d way one carries herself... I just graduated not quite long, while in school most of my closest pals are guys, ma bestie sef na guy. They respects mi, always in awe of mi, I visits em wella they visits me too, no one of them have ever tried taking advantage of me. A grown up lady is suppose to carry herself with respect, know d kind of play n joke about u play wit d opposite sex, limit the kind of discussion u have wit ur male frnds... Imagine a scenario where a girl discuss even sex wit a frnd that is not ur bofrnd, joke nasty jokes haba the fear God naaa. still not an excuse for rape buh seriously some of us ain't helping matters too.

SirShymexx:


I'm alright, Sis - and you?

In as much as it may not be possible to know all rapists, but you'd be able to detect the majority, if you're observant when you're around them. It's just about being observant/vigilant and being able to read people's body language and the vibe they give out. The problem is that most girls always get carried away, while putting themselves in a position where they're vulnerable and can be easily overpowered.

Then you have cases of chics who lead guys on, give them blue balls, then around when the guy is in the zone and start saying: no sex. They know they're not interested in having sex from the get-go, but they'd still take off all their clothes, with on their panties on. Not every guy is going accept "no" for an answer, especially when they're in position where it's a tad difficult to maintain self-control. And when you live in a society that doesn't really cater to rape victims, like Nigeria apparently is, then you should always be on your toes at all times and make effective use of ya brain.

Not saying there aren't nutjobs out there who will just body-slam any chic they see on the road and rape her. But cases like these are often rare. However, in most rape cases, the women can always do better.

osewanu:


It's a shame that people think like this. One day you will have daughters too. Won't say anything more.

misspicy:

Ma am sorry to say buh I guess you are just lucky buh all wat you typed doz not stop a rapist.....bet me rapist have a very contorted mind set,i know a guy dat brags about having raped all his female friends in his word,he use rape to subdue them.

dfrost:


Haba sis ( EggovinMma ),

Are you saying ALL men living in Nigeria are not objective? I don't really think so. We all know how you feel about the experience you had. But then that someone doesn't have the funds to travel outside Nigeria doesn't make him less sensible. We need to give kudos to our brothers living in Nigeria too. I've really seen gentlemen among them. It's actually not proper to generalise. I sympathize with you on the trauma. Shalom.

opeaceo:
Wisdom is key here, but giving a blank statement ( the title of the thread), I don't agree. "good" guys still exist.

misspicy:

The bolded is exactly what the Op and several girls are tryinh to bring out frm experience,no woman should visit any male friend in a private place except for reasons stated@boldes buh some guys here are still insisting that good guys exist so we should visit them,mu question to them is,how do I identify a rapist?

hmuhammad:
Agro na bastard!!!

EggovinMma:


Please visit nobody excerpt the man you are dating.


Visit also when you know it that you need sex, so at this point it becomes consensual.
Come to think of it, boyfriends now rape their girlfriends

Antoinne:
I read a psychology text the other day and the claim is that some ladies don't enjoy sex when it's not rape. True that!

dinachi:
It is not rape if the lady was scantily dressed, has been involved with phone intimacy with the guy and agreed over the phone to have sex when she comes.
There is a big difference between men and women sexually. It is factual, most men cannot control themselves when they get going. And we must tell ourselves the truth most times the man must take the initiative in sex matters when he believes the lady is flashing green light. Now it becomes very awkward when the lady was only just teasing him to know if her sex appeal is still top notch. Unfortunately, at this time the guys hormones are raging and it will require the dicipline of a ramrod straight british officer and the morals of a puritan to control him from taking the plunge!
Now check it out inspite of all the laws in the US , rape cases remain. Until the law recognizes the dynamics of sex between men and women and cautions female carelessness, rape will continue to increase.

eksola01:
Guys U all should just Watch ur mouth and accept the young Lady grief and opinion about it base on experience. Why should a girl visit a guy alone the first place?? And why should a guy expect a Lady to come alone to his place ? Guys respect yourself and our noble Ladies. Why should U even want a girl to visit you if she is not ur girlfriend?? Ladies please be wise. Don't mind some preserve beings called guys who just want to take on the opportunity of raping or sleeping with a lady just because she paid him a visit. Ladies, pls don't go alone to a guy's house who is not ur boyfriend. Am warning you, if not, otherwise.

ebuka440:
Classicb, I think that you are wrong about a guy taking you to an eatery. Is it after enjoying the things that he bought for you, then you will look at him so stupid not to have sex with you. I bet you that you are very much wrong.
The way its painful for him spending his money for you is the same way he will enjoy making love to you by force. Am I wrong?
So, go and sit down

oreos:


Pele! O ma san lara re

Embrace what you are

oreos:


Bah!

You are still an Ode. I can read and I read what you have written perfectly. Don't hide behind the use of ‘sometimes', I can see what you really are, A PERVERT and nothing more.

misspicy:

Yes all guys are guilty until you guys tell us how to identify a rapist...

I believe your male relatives are inclusive.

You'll just drag out baseless assertions from your asshole and drop without cross checking.

Nonsense!