poppop:


That is very very wrong. I see a lot of people that say ''well sha nor be rape as she don do am before'' Its wrong my brother. Someone who has sex regularly can be raped against her will. It is not any easier because she don do before. I also think its sick to say since the girl will be wet during the act of sex, its not really rape. That's a sick thing to say. I don't know if people being violated get wet down there. Perhaps you would know having done it before. You are a sick bro.

yetseyi:


I agree with you but you should have said a sizeable number of men in your first paragraph not "most men"
even from the comments here on the latest rape case on FP can we safely say most men feel the pain or are not monsters?

rezzy:
Some year ago when I was around 19, I was in my mummy's shop packing goods outside. Her shop is in front of our compound, so one brother Joseph opposite my house called me to bring tin tomato. So I took the tin tomato and raced to his room upstairs.

He told me to enter while he gets the money. I was putting on a top and a wrapper, and i was wearing that black underskirt. Before I knew it, the eddiot started dragging my wrapper, I began to drag my wrapper with him. He tried to put his hand inside my top, I used my teeth to block his hand. We kept dragging oo until he raked/cleared my legs from the ground and I fell.

Then it rang in my head that na rape this guy dey o. I started saying "are you trying to rape me"? Immediately, e stood up and started begging me. I just collected my money and left.

wordbank:
Ur conclusion makes no sense in any way. U met d wrong dude so what? So others should be slaves to their own selves?
U r just amusing!

oreos:


You are sick and you need help

Newcreature07:


For real? You locked someone in a pepper sprayed room for more than 2 mins? You are more evil than the pervert.

misspicy:

I support her 100% because I af an experience too n so do most ladies even ur sisters and female family members,buh most ladies are afraid to talk abt it,rape affects ladies psychologically,prevention is better than cure,its better not to visit a guy alone in a private place unless u r willing to accept his advances,n dis applies to all guys,until the tag RAPIST is pasted on the guilty ones faces.

opeaceo:
Wisdom is key here, but giving a blank statement ( the title of the thread), I don't agree. "good" guys still exist.

misspicy:

Yes all guys are guilty until you guys tell us how to identify a rapist...

Brugo:


Lol. I will ignore your feeble attempt at goading me. You were begging the question. I only showed you how "simple" your argument was. Why do you bother with clothes? Why the need for any sense of propriety?

Cause and effect applies in the context which I discussed earlier. Forèplay like the term implies is the precursor to a more intimate experience. Why would you dress like a stripper and initiate or engage in heavy petting and stop halfway then claim you were raped afterwards? Had you not expressed consent already?

My dear you had it coming and you must share in the blame. Note the word "share".

misspicy:

Reverse psychology does not work on me man,buh I af not seen wer u debunked any fake rape story in ur comment,u only justified rape,if u forgot or u r too lazy to chck ur comment again,u typed dat,girls dat allow intimate touching and reject sex are to blame if raped,or girls that dress in a revealing manner,dats summary tho...please rape is not to be supported at all,weda fake or not until d rapist is proven innocent

Brugo:


Reverse psychology? Lol. I don't want to ridicule you dear so I'll ignore that part.

If you seduce a man by dressing scantily and engaging in fòreplay, it would be very difficult to convince others that he raped you. You are not a stripper and his house is not a strip club with the attendant rules.

justified19:
lol...girls sef dey rape na.

misspicy:

Yes all guys are guilty until you guys tell us how to identify a rapist...

wordbank:

First thing first, let's address the topic 'we ladies should stop visiting guys, rape is real' smh... now u know u fuccked d hell up right thurr.
*Back to quote*
I can't say rape is not real but in most cases that the culprit and victim are adults, it is very easy to spot who paved the way and that been said you know what's what. Child molestation is a crime which I see no relativity between 'visiting the accused and raping the accuser'.

DeeMain:


You just have head knowledge without wisdom and Emotional Intelligence. Blatantly displaying your ignorance publicly and without compunction is the hallmark of a fool.

There is something called boundary and territory. A woman's (or man's) body belongs to her completely, moreso her privates. She is the owner. Landlady. The moment she says NO, stop!

Lack of self-control or restraint is a punishable weakness.

Many in developed countries are languishing in jail because of the warped intelligence you are unashamedly exhibiting here. Many have died or have been harmed for raping a girl as relatives come for revenge.

Rape is mental and psychological trauma. Rape is evil. Many girls are maimed for life. Many re-experience the torture forever.

Your entire argument on this thread is what we call Beautiful Nonsense. Pray for sense pls.

EggovinMma:



My sister, you get time ooooo.
It's just very few my dear that is "clean".
The Nigerian environment is messed up big time . Even the family too, especially the extended one is totally wacked. If you research well, most Nigerian gurls are first disvirgined by their male cousins cousins-cousin cousins-cousin, relatives.
Look, they can only Come here and pretend, them plenty wey dey do am and still doing it. There is no values anymore In this country, so trust nobody, weda na papa or uncle.

I started carrying pepper spray when I was 19 years for this country. Back I school, I had this neighbour that kept coming into my roo unannounced, or invited, his aim was to catch me naked.He did that again when he knew my friends are in my room, luckily for him, he caught a friend of mine naked . After they left, he came back to beg me to talk to that particular one, so he can date fuccck her. I promised I'd help him.

Few days later, I sprayed all my room with pepper spray, bolted my door and went to his flat to call him. I told him my friend was waiting for him in my room. As he entered, I pushed him further very fast because I was behind him (I don't want him to escape it because of the smell) and closed the door. Fuccking pervert! He screamed for more than 2 minutes like a bit tch!

Mznaett:
Op,God bless you for putting this "devilish act" an average girl faces into writing.

I've been a victim several times and believe me it wasnt not funny.

The latest that just happened to me was when a course mate of mine asked me to come help him prepare something as usual,I went and after eating, I was abt leaving but he got hold of me and threw me on top of his bed. Imagine? This was a guy I took as a friend not knowing he was a monster.
After much struggling though he was stronger I managed to escape
since then,I had to set up my own policy o

searching4love:



u will be raped before the end of this year in Jesus name. u will never escape rape anymore. useless who.re

dfrost:


I agree with you on that point about a sizeable number. However, did you also notice that some of those that posted on the first page also had reasons too ranging from provocative dressing and sizeable number of women calling them derogatory names. I don't subscribe to retribution because it doesn't give any man the right to abuse a woman because of her attitude which was why I also wrote: let's not feed our demons because they will eventually consume us. Prevention measures are better than curative procedures.

Imagine my neighbour was inside the compound one day and the daughter was outside. She and those inside the compound (including me) overheard when some neighbourhood boys told the girl that they were going to molest her (I really don't know what led to such comment). Joking about it or not, I expected her to rise to the defense of the girl immediately.

You can imagine that the mother laughed over the matter and said "you boys are not serious" and went back in. Imagine a mother could not even protect her own daughter even when it was glaring.

We will surely overcome, honestly. I fear for the girl child (especially the innocent ones) because she's at the receiving end of the stigma (most times) of the whole issue.

PS: I've seen men who can kill anyone who abuses the female folk. Believe me.

Ilaje44:


What an arrant nonsense: If she says no, you should stop. A girl dressing scantily is not an excuse to rape her. A lot of you blaming the girl for being seductive with her dresses should thank your luck that Nigeria is a lawless society. I can see a lot of you in prison. If any one of you would force your way on my daughter even though she asked you to stop, but you went ahead because according to you she brought a condom along, I will personally make sure you will not live long to do that to someone's daughters if justice didn't take it due course. Anyway, if she asks you to stop, you have to stop.

By the way Seun or whoever care to listen, your word censorship is ridiculous. Using molestation instead of the legally correct term despoil. is tantamount to trivializing the offence.

cococandy:

You're the only one that knows o. Not we all.
You dey your house know exactly what happened.
SMH

nicerichard05:



Swear dat since you hav been having sex you have never done it wen d lady says stop, even though u no she didn't mean d stop. Saying stop is jst a way of life to some ladies, dey will always say stop., wat are you trying to do buh at d end of the day dey will be d one to moan d most.

My broda rape has levels that's my own opinion, for me if you aren't a V dnt complain that u av been rapped.

As for calling me sick, you are the one who is sick cos you are an hypocrites

Antoinne:


Stop this puerile display of wits. pre-intimacy or no pre-intimacy, if she says no, stop that play and let her walk. She could say no and not mean it. It don't matter one bit. As long as she says no, it's no longer your show. Give these girls a break!