DeeMain:




This is an example of your beautiful nonsense, the warped logic you displayed ubiquitously all over this thread. You call this a disclaimer??

My friend, once a woman says NO, it does not mattter what has happened prior or if she was half naked or led you on or kissed you first or was responding initially, STOP!!! The property you are trying to access is hers. She has a right to tell you to stop whenever she deems fit. You are NOT an ANIMAL. You are a man, with a body that has been given a brain to control the body. Know who you are. Use the damn brain well! Not knowing that you can control your behaviour or your body or your response, no matter the cause, is a terrible type of ignorance.

I'll leave you with this quote:

In other animals, ignorance of themselves is nature, in man it's a vice - Boethius

yetseyi:

I am very fine thank you.

To a reasonable extent I may agree with the 1st paragraph but you do get comfortable with someone you never expect to hurt you. What if he doesnt show signs of uneasyness or the girl doesn't catch the vibe like that 18yr old UNILAG aspirant. A more mature lady might have been suspicious when he began to show some signs of restlessness and on guard but she just didnt know.

2nd paragraph- are there ladies that do that? Now about guarding yourself, a lot of ladies will resort to the OP's suggestion. The issue now is parents and guardians are taking measures which may look extreme some years back.

I am spending the weekend with my cousin and his wife told me yesterday while discussing this matter that she can never leave her 15 yr old girl in care of any male except her father not even her own mums brothers and I was like seriously? She made it clear that she does not trust any body with her daughter not even her own brothers.

I used to visit big cousins as a teenager without any fear whatsoever. Everybody is now a "potential rapist "

Little girls are now being told dont go to uncle xyz's room. Its almost a risk to stay in a house alone with a stronger male.

Yesterday I was alone someone who came to do some repairs. I was just unnecessarily at alert just because he was a stronger male.

3rd paragraph - are they really rare? How can they do better. fight harder?, scream harder? break his head....
do what exactly.

ibietela2:


I am an Animalistic imbe.cile

misspicy:

You are either blind or daft @bolded buh I biliv u r both blind and daft.

I still have nothing to type to you unless u reason with you d little sense God gave you,until then keep chilling with my SIGNATURE....mofo

[b]You obviously don't have anything to say.

My quotes to you have been more reasonable than all the comments you have made since you registered on this forum.

I don't need a sensible reply from you little girl. Your reasoning is just flawed.

When they call "Rape" y'all will just come out and start shouting even those who deliberately put it on themselves.

Or you don't believe a girl can put herself in that situation?

Then those of you who are too lazy to think and reason will be blaming whoever is accused even when the story is shaky.

And you all are Moh'fuçking hypocrites.

That was how I saw a thread recently of a guy who was raped and I saw the females who commented on that thread laughing at him and calling him "weak".

If at this point you still can't get my point and still think my aim is to support rape then you need to apologise to your teachers at school because you obviously have not made proper use of your brain.

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oreos:


No means no. Whether she wants it or not, you are not to proceed without her affirmative response. If she deemed you not man enough, ignore her. It will be easier if you abstaines from sexual relations or stick to your sexual partner(s).

vfactor:


How do u know a good guy from a bad one, a human from a monster? U want to keep visiting them to find out?

You must be joking right? I have a sister and I wouldn't want rubbish to happen to her. I won't tell to start visiting guys and looking for the good ones, cos I believe that they re good ones.

ahsekeena:
But ehn? Tbh,I cannot visit a guy in his house o! The last time I visited a guy who was not my boyfriend was in 2006,was much younger and naïve.



But now! No way!

Goldmaxx:
just shut it mr man or mrs woman

classicB:

I.do have a boyfriend and we've been together for a long time now. He's the only guy I trust with myself

Brugo:


Getting emotional and consoling the ladies won't take the problem away. That's stùpid. There are triggers for rape among lovers / friends. Address those rather than screaming murder. If you refuse to see the sense in preventing but prefer damage control then I have no further words for you as I have addressed these issues already.

classicB:

Let assume some girls dress scantily to get raped. What about those underage girls?? What about that innocent housemaid that get raped daily by Oga simply.because Madam isn't available, those men that rapes their own daughters nko??

crystalf:
if you have to trusted boyfriend why visit another one privately?

femi4:
Don't you get it.....you dated the wrong guy and you want to slave other girls with your story.

Don't worry, when you are 30+ you ll start visiting them in their bedroom

oreos:


No means no. Whether she wants it or not, you are not to proceed without her affirmative response. If she deemed you not man enough, ignore her. It will be easier if you abstaines from sexual relations or stick to your sexual partner(s).

Madam that is not what the law says please.

If she wants it and it's very clear that she does then it's not rape.

Last I checked rape is defined as forceful penetration against the will of the opposite sex. Or same sex in the case of countries where homosexuality is allowed.

So if a woman tells me "No" initially and I keep teasing her the usual way to put her in the mood and then she gives in are you saying i've raped her?

Last I checked women need their men to put them in the mood most of the time.

I don't think that would count in the court of Law.

That's why verbal disagreement has always been a problem when it comes to rape. It is more convincing when there is a physical evidence of resistance.

Except of course in extreme cases where the rapist is armed. But that's not the case in point.

Amazo:




A would-be rap¡st tends to be aggressive as he wants to rapë his victim. If a girl finds herself in a situation where you're in his home, inside a room that's probably been locked at this point, where's there's a vague chance your screaming will ever be heard, other escape attempts look bleak because he can overpower you during a scuffle maybe, then stay calm and don't struggle. A rapist gets forceful as he wants to rapë because he thinks his victim will put up some resistance. So, you calm him down by playing along. Just tell him, calm down, no need for this aggression, i'll have sex with you...etc, that is tell him something reassuring. It will likely make him a bit calmer, tone down his aggression, and then (most importantly) gives you a rare and vital chance to take control of the situation. Tell him you enjoy a bit of romance before sex, or whatever...but the goal is to get him nakëd with his "balls" exposed - this is your target. No matter how strong a man is, those two "balls" are a devastating weakness. Now, this is no joke, if you get it wrong, you will be rapëd for sure; but if you're adept mentally, bold and street smart, getting the idea and flow pattern correctly, then you'll come out unscathed. Anyway, at this point, before you maybe get half nakëd, make sure he's nakëd and his balls are completely exposed - no clothing to shield or lessen the imminent assault. Remember, this will all be happening real quick so your mind has to be focused to get it done right. He's a bit relaxed at this point thinking you have "consented" to sex. Keep your eyes on his eyes (watch his mood that is). Then grab his balls (not d¡ck). Yes, you heard me, grab his balls (preferably the two, but even one is sufficient), squeeze it without pity and I mean this. This is no time to have a stup¡d conscience. Press it like your life depends on it and you want it to break. He will scream, he will shout, he will struggle and might even want to put up a fight...but he'll eventually BEG (and possibly with tears) if you hold on tight long enough, pressing the hell out of his balls and don't let go no matter what. Don't let him go still. While still pressing on it, tell him to open the door; you might release the tension a little bit but don't stop pressing and keep the pressure hard enough to retain control of the situation. If you lose control at this point and his balls haven't been "damaged" enough to shutdown his body with chronic pains, then you're in deep sh¡T if the door's still locked and you don't even know where the key is or it's unreachable. He might want to test you while trying to reach for the keys, increase the pressure again to near balls-breaking point. He'll beg, shout, scream, yell, curse but...eventually, he'll obey you like a little b¡tch. Then you'll walk out of there like a boss - don't forget to pick your clothes. Have him pick them up, not you. Keep your eyes on him throughout, not on his balls (unless you can look at both simultaneously), just in case he tries to hit you with something like his KO fists or a dangerous object. If he tries to, as in you notice any awkward movement of his hands in your direction, squeeze the hell out of his balls, his brain will shutdown his attack and command every sense of his body to comply and beg for his life - yes, a man's life is closer to his balls, and most people aren't aware until they have this kind of experience.

If you have been squeezing his balls as hard as you should, by the time you release it, he'll be thanking you profusely and be nursing his pains (and wounds if the balls so happens to have further nearly divided into two). He will never be able to attack as you're leaving, he might be cussing you like crazy though - who cares!!! But he'll certainly have respect for you and even give you a prestigious title of The Craziest B¡tch I ever met. He'll definitely never want to fück with you again, and don't be sooo stupïd to ever be connected to him ever again. And as you're walking out of there, you might want to yell, this Mofo (his name) tried to rapë me but I showed him hell. Tell people, don't keep silent about it, put a rapist stigma on his head; that's one of the surest ways to further disarm such lowlife no-good bastärds who should have a bullet hole put through their heads

naijaboiy:

Madam that is not what the law says please.

If she wants it and it's very clear that she does then it's not rape.

Last I check rape is defined as forceful penetration against the will of the opposite sex. Or same sex in the case of countries where homosexuality is allowed.

So if a woman tells me "No" initially and I keep teasing her the usual way to put her in the mood and then she gives in are you saying i've raped her?

Last I checked women need their men to put them in the mood most of the time.

I don't think that would count in the court of Law.

worshipdevice:
u hookup wit the wrong guy.... How e take affect chelsea from winning bpl dis season again? ....abi u dey advertise lesbianism folks....
N*nesen*se

misspicy:

And your support has been adding money to my account abi....comeon GERARAHIA rapist oshi.....

vickylala239:



Why will guys Nt rape dem.

Wen Dey now wear clothes Without bra,infact booobs is normal tin.

Since wen did u hear Dat bones Whr drop for a dog n he decline it.

Wen u gel Nw wear see tru n u Xcept guys Dat cn c tru u Nt to penetrate

Why find trouble.

Booobs was suppose to Hv case Jst Lik phone case.

Ass was d same tin.

So oyibo no knw Bfr dem produce braa n pant.

Some tin u shuld hid u Dnt hid,u will see group of guys Na Dat place u go wan Pass wit ur booobs Without Cassay.wen Dey tap ur asss u go begin shout stop. IdDiiot.


Wat u shuld wear in ur room, wen u see David Na Dat tym u go remember say u suppose wear am.


Una Neva see Anytin yet Sum time guys no go near room or private place to rappe again Na for open,After all goat no Dey enter room go do am.


If Una no enter guys rum n for street e go Dey hppn.
Iddiot

rezzy:


He didn't. It was a face me I face you house. And other of his brothers and neighbours were at the balcony discussing.

You know Thursday morning when Alaba market never open. Yard dey full.

I believe it was 2 mins madness.


If he did, I would have used another moniker, I have old monikers even as old as 2007 and 2010.

Amazo:



I thoroughly searched through her sentences to find where she at least made an allusion that "all men being rapists" and...I couldn't find any. Then i thoroughly read through your sentences too to check if peradventure there's any sense in it...and I couldn't find any. Stop making it too obvious that you're just probably another chronic id¡ot who has no iota of dignity. And you blatantly claim to have been rapëd by how many, 3 or 4 women for 3 days or so? Well, congratulations - NOBODY CARES . Now, do us all a favor and stop asking stupïd questions... Because intelligent eyes like mine find it very repulsive.

patrickdarlins:
@classicb ..i nor go blame you sha..and please dont generalise your assumptions ok?...let me tell u a story.and i will be blunt with everything...now listen up..

my very good female friend visited me....and besides..she was even the one craving to visit me...as a guy what do u think should be on my mind??..huh??...i was like woooo...this one wen this girl dey come so..hope am safe??...that was my words...

and so i gave her a date to visit..and she did came....and dat day..we ccoked together...went to the market together to get fruits...we ate together and alota things...and at night(cos she passed the night in my room)..she took her bath and also i took mine....and we shared same bed....before we slept off....we gisted alot and talked of things...as it got to almost 11pm..i told her..babe na sleep i dey see so oo...and she was shocked...cos she was expecting me to touch her and do the needful....but i slept off...i noticed she dint sleep well that night...she later slept at about 1am...she told me so...


the morning of it...she took her bath..walked in to my room almost unclad..so i will see her shape wella....i turned a blind eyes...she did all and all..until she left....she went to her school later..and told her friends that its like am impotent...or i dont like her..and even if i dont like her the way we slept together in bed that night if its a normal guy...he would have touched me and on....these were her words... her own friend told me thats exactly what she said...and she asked me if its true that i dint touch her......I WAS SO EMBARRASSED!!

tell me classicb...did i do wrong by not touching her??...and besides....this is one of the reason WHILE GUYS THINKS IF A GIRL WANTS TO VISIT A GUY THAT MEANS THE GIRL IS READY FOR S*X..
u wont blame most of the guys..cos even some of the ladies that will still visit guys from today and hence forth even after this your thread might still experience rape....cos as long as u visiting as a girl..the guy may think u realy need s*x....believe me

but it take a guy with self control and integrity and maturity to look beyond s*x thing....cos we still have guys out there dat will not even kiss a girl when she visits..not to talk of rape..

and for the ladies..please just go with a friend wen u want to visit a guy..please do....it will not give room for any form of harassment..or rape issue....but when u are visiting a guy..and went there alone...it implies u looking for something...yes i said so... you are shooting urself on the foot....MANAGE WETIN YOU SEE.. and stop ranting!!!

biz2get:


This kinda babe tho......

Goldmaxx:
so if she is holding my balls i will still look for d keys while she's still grasping it and i wont look 4 sumtin and break her head ur assertions are totally incorrect.And i won't advice any lady to grab a man's balls cos he might kill u there.
Note:am not supporting rape so ladies should mind d kind of men they visit and associate with.

EggovinMma:


The biggest mistake I made was to leave him for ONLY 2 mins or so.I was merciful! I would have sprayed it directly to his eyes, remove his clothes, drag him upstairs to downstairs, take electric wire, flog am like animal wey him be.Do you think i have love for pervs? .

Na those kind dey carry 3 years dey put hand inside their yansh na.

oreos:


Ode!

hmuhammad:
Ode niye!!!

classicB:
Where do I even start from Is it from numerous cases of rape that get turned against the woman??

I remembered back then as a novice in 100L visiting male friends didn't occur to me as a big deal. I can vividly recall 3 cases of 'escaped' rape.

The first guy was touching me awkwardly and I did resist him, though he later told me he could have had his way.

The.second case looks like it too but the third guy already held me tight against his bed thank God he heeded to my pleading and allowed me go.

What if one of these 3 guys turned out to rape me? I'd have been a victim of rape, and worse of it would be that nobody will believe it to be true, especially the guys, they'd probably say things like "she seduced him" "she initiated the sex" "she brought condom along" "no evidence since nobody was there "

I put it to you guys that an average Nigerian girl have been a victim of rape/escaped being raped simply because she went out innocently to pay a visit to her supposed 'trusted' guy friend.

This doesn't make sense no more, if we can't trust our Nigerian brothers then who can we trust?

This same guys come here to complain about girls coming to visit them with loads of friends, why won't we come with loads of friends when we know there's a condom waiting to be used on.us

I have personally stopped visiting guys since 3/4 years back, it's either you agree to meet me in my parents house when everyone is home or you meet me in an eatery

I read it here sometimes back when some guys were making gest of a girl that claimed her male friend tried to have his way during a.visit I dint believe my eyes when I was seeing comments like "did you expect prayer session with him?" "you think he wants to preach abi?" "you think you went there to play games?" so these guys now see it as norm to rape an innocent female visitors?? One way or the other they just look for excuse for raping a girl only to turn it against her.

I don't know what it feels like to be raped but I do know what it feels like to be 'near rape' it's nothing good, it drains you emotionally and psychologicaly. Most of these raped victim get scared of telling close relations because they are using all their energy to get back what is lost, i told nobody about what I experienced either.

Idk what else to say, but i know prevention is better than cure. I pray God deliver us from these animals disguised in human clothing

This kinda thread needs to be on fp
Mods should do the needful

Goldmaxx:
shut up joor,u dare not try dat wit me cos i will first destroy ur properties wey dey ur room then beat u mercilessly afterwards.
Nonsense