Toks2008:


You too get sense my dear. All these ladies dating a guy with about a year or two older than them are probably fooling themselves excluding the ones above 30 as they seem matured enough to know what they want but if you are a teenage lady or in your early twenties please i will advice that you save yourself avoidable headache and date a guy that is at least 7years older due to many reasons too numerous to mention and if you are a teenage boy or in your easrly twenties dating a lady that is just a year or two younger than you are i guess you are still probably playing about because when you get to the age of 26 nd above,you will come to understand my standview.

yanabasee:

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Nairaland wasn't created for you and her alone! Neither was it built for her to post informations that will mislead younger minds... Do you know what a piece of information can do? You should be more concern about the young minds that will perceive the information!
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Her information doesn't count and I won't move on until she corrects herself... One small lose girl got raped severally for her stupidity and she decides to use her silly experience to confuse other young girls.... Right here, I've got baby cousins that are active on this forum! I wouldn't want them to stick to the kind of informations people like her goes about posting!...
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If u really want to defend her... You should tell her to be more psychological on her post! Simple! And don't defend her blindly! Coz u're beginning to sound cheap as well!

Legionss:
This issue of rape is a two way thing o
It is not only girls that are being rape na. So why blame men alone.

In 2014 I was raped by 3 female friends. Till this day each time I tell people all the do is laff. Even when I reported the matter to the police all they did was to inform me how lucky I am to be raped by women.

Why is not that nobody is taking me serious? Is it because am a man ?


@classic B. Not all men are rapist so please stop generalizing it.

People should be mindful of who the visit be it male or female. But do u know that must rape cases are committed by strengers? And not necessarily by the person you visited.

Again why is it that we easily believe that a woman was raped by a man/men
but we find it hard to believe that a man was raped by a woman /women ?

Legionss:
This issue of rape is a two way thing o
It is not only girls that are being rape na. So why blame men alone.

In 2014 I was raped by 3 female friends. Till this day each time I tell people all the do is laff. Even when I reported the matter to the police all they did was to inform me how lucky I am to be raped by women.

Why is not that nobody is taking me serious? Is it because am a man ?


@classic B. Not all men are rapist so please stop generalizing it.

People should be mindful of who the visit be it male or female. But do u know that must rape cases are committed by strengers? And not necessarily by the person you visited.

Again why is it that we easily believe that a woman was raped by a man/men
but we find it hard to believe that a man was raped by a woman /women ?

classicB:

I dnt know how to explain, but when we ladies give to our bf or guys we give out of love without wanting sex in return, but reverse is the.case for u guys

Vyolet:

I understand your viewpoint that some guys might not have rape intention but could only need some privacy but you need to know that our past experience shape us emotionally,if you have been able to escape rape attempt severally,you will never want to take the chance again. imagine your madam even had same fear in the beginning until you were able to convince her. To be candid,most young girls have at one point of their lives escape rape,the only thing is they refuse to voice out. We only hear of it now cos the awareness is increasing and people are no longer shy to voice out.


How can we recognize them when they don't display the attitude at initial stage?

yanabasee:

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They mustn't be married per se.... Mostly, at that age...they should be responsible! Whether jobless or wealthy! A responsible man will want to indulge in a good relationship.. To avoid moving about changing girls and being coin as a rapist!
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You shouldn't carry marriage in your head.... But you should try and look marriageable so that men will look at you and respect ur person! At ur this age you are... You should be in a good relationship, with a man that loves and care for you! And not men for sex!

softysparky:

You want to accuse me of rape?

yanabasee:

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Indeed...you're very lucky!
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I've heard cases of guys who got raped by female... But its often very rare!

naijaboiy:

Now this is what i'm talking about.

The guy fuçked up because if he wanted anything intimate with you he should hav let you know before you guys met up. That way he would know if you are in or not.

And you did right by going with your sister. At least you weren't expecting anything to happen.

My advice to guys will be : IF YOU HAVE NOT TALKED TO A GIRL INTIMATELY BEFORE HAND THEN DON'T INITIATE SEX.

That's the only way we can escape from all these mess.

But according to your last statement that guys are confused,,i can agree with you to an extent because some guys have actually made an attempt to initiate sex with girls that they didn't have prior conversation about it and it worked out well. And some other girls also get upset or angry when they don't make moves.

That's why majority have this belief that when a girl shows up,,it's for sex. But it doesn't mean he's going to rape you.

Strong resistance should be applied in my own opinion.

Cooleasy:

Thank you very much jare. That generalisation is what spoilt her argument which started well.

Toks2008:


lol infact meen fantacized about been raped by many ladies not even one so if you rape me i will evn thank you aftr the act lol.

How are you doing? do have a blessed week ahead.

emperorchedda:
I couldn't help but laugh at that girl's show of ignorance. I wasn't willing to drag her into a war of words so I ignored the entire balderdash she typed

If all men are rapist we can be safe to conclude all girls are hoes.

I'm sure she just came on here with the sole aim of brain washing little girls that can't think for themselves, because I know damn well that she CLASSICB visits guys a lot and some don't rape her

Well, we all will stop dating Nigerian girls until it's clearly written on their faces that they aren't hoesss

Pidggin:


It is easy to see your faults from your post. What is misleading about warning girls to avoid visiting guys alone, Will you be okay if your future teenage daughter or maybe your niece visits a man/boy alone? You keep saying her information doesn't count, well it wasn't meant for you. You said "One small loose girl" how do you know this much about her? This is why she was warning ladies, if you get raped or molested someone will call you loose and say it was your fault why not avoid it, can't you see why it is essential for ladies to do the best they can to prevent such circumstances? I don't think you understand the meaning of the words you are even posting please define "Cheap"

DeeTus:
That's why you guys always fall for it.

Look, there are quite a couple of pointers you should watch out for when talking with a guy and it's not my job to talk about these pointers here. Only few girls can figure them out actually.

The last time I met a chick, talked with her and the next day i got a text call me message from her. Called her and she confessed i was so different and asked if I had a girlfriend.

Damn I was so speechless when she said i should be ready to have a second gf.

EggovinMma:


Even the "shorthand " they use in sending message pisses me off!
Back in University, I didn't even date in school. Although there are matured ones, but they are relatively very few . Of course there are older guys that still behave like kids, but I know how to make them feel silly/ childish during conversation, reducing them to mere nonentities.

To me its not all about the money because, even money makes me misbehave and disrespectful when pushed to the wwall.Its about someone who is way above my level of thinking, ready to teach and fill in that void.Any man I date must contribute something meaningful to my life, there must be positive impact he made in my life.I too on the other hand will contribute in making him not regret dating me.If we finally part ways, it must be done in a orderly a d matured way.

EggovinMma:


Since most of them thinks "a girls no to sex is yes", it should also apply for men getting raped by women!

EggovinMma:


Oh dear! Na you dey talk am o.
Nigerian men loves to be raped by women. Foursome achieved without pay but gain !

Toks2008:


I was not even looking at it from the mental IQ point of vieew as we have very young guys with very matured mindset.

What im talking about is the readiness for commitmeent emotionally and even finalcially cos most guys at 30 are still finding their feet so if a 20yr old girl starts dating say a 23yr old guy i guess when the girl is 27 the guy is probably still findng his feet and age is no longer on the ladys side so at the end it may be a wasted affair but if a lady at her early twenties or late teens dates a guy wth say 8yrs gap,there is usually this way the guy treats her like a pet,a delicate entity that needs care and affection and affairs like this usually bcomes more purposeful and the lady wont have to go through frustrations cos before the lady clocks 26 the guy is probably in his 30s and seettling down will be a top priority. This happens in most cases.

honesly i feel confortable with a lady im at least 8yrs older than and this age gap alone is a turn on for me and no matter how nasty she behaves,i will just see her like a spoilt kid sis.

Toks2008:
honesly i feel comfortable with a lady I'm at least 8yrs older than and this age gap alone is a turn on for me and no matter how nasty she behaves,i will just see her like a spoilt kid sis.

yanabasee:

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Yeah! The one I heard happened in a boarding school..... Female boarding school... A mother had two children and they live very close to the school...and she wanted travelling for three days journey and she took the boy to the school to live... A place was created for him stay after much plea and the principal heed to it... At night... Some sex starved girls....jumped off the hostel fence and sneak to where he little cubicle and ganged on this 16years old chap.... He fainted and they ran off... The mother was called to came and get her son when she sent the sister to travel all the way from lagos to go and get him... Its really been long though.... About 14years ago!

Toks2008:


Gbam

even tensome.

Tell guys that there is a street that is so dangerous because ladies rape guys and trust guys to ask you the time of th day the rape usually takes place and it will blow your mind how many guys will delibrately go into the street with a pack of condom lol.

yanabasee:

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Yeah! The one I heard happened in a boarding school..... Female boarding school... A mother had two children and they live very close to the school...and she wanted travelling for three days journey and she took the boy to the school to live... A place was created for him stay after much plea and the principal heed to it... At night... Some sex starved girls....jumped off the hostel fence and sneak to where he little cubicle and ganged on this 16years old chap.... He fainted and they ran off... The mother was called to came and get her son when she sent the sister to travel all the way from lagos to go and get him... Its really been long though.... About 14years ago!

classicB:


what makes you think the victim initiated the act? I am so contented with my boyfriend. My own experiences happened bfr we met actually

EggovinMma:


Well all fingers aren't equal. There are fairly wealthy 27 yr old who are ready to play the marriage game. I see my younger brother as that kind who will get married immediately he hits it bibig.He has a stable gf and a matured mindset. He is 26! Quick to let go of flimsy issues, focused and a pathetic hustler! His gf is of same age with him, both are equally matured.Age isn't a restriction when it comes to making money . Although younger guys tends to spend it without reinvesting for the future.

Toks2008:


Gbam

even tensome.

Tell guys that there is a street that is so dangerous because ladies rape guys and trust guys to ask you the time of th day the rape usually takes place and it will blow your mind how many guys will delibrately go into the street with a pack of condom lol.

yanabasee:

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And not like a wife! Indeed!
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To me...its a turn off.... I hate immaturity..... Or girls dat behave nastily!
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I can't date a girl am much older than.... There was a time I had this girl... She will tell me she feels like climbing on my head...that she wants to play with my head... Sometimes she will say she wants to kiss my nose... Not in a romantic way... When we walk together in the street...she will be talkin and be pointing fingers at other people... Quite a teen! Mehn! Matured girls rocks! I jst don't knw how u cope! But I was very patient with her... She wasn't able to cope so she left and went to date a guy she was almost in the same age with... That was a pretty good idea...

Toks2008:


Lol

it may surprise some people to know that some ladies fantacize about been raped.

I have been mostly molested by ladies and at 17 i was molested by an akwa ibom lady and several times i hve been threatened by ladies that they will rape me and many tims i will entr my hostel to see anaked girl in my bed and i cant start recounting all.

the funniest on was when at 25 a lady lured me into sx nd after the act i was praying for fgveness and she just started laughing at me and she took advantage of m several times.

This rape thing is also carried out by ladies but they will rather call it sexual molestation and not rape as the rape thing sounds manly lol.

Begonia:


ClassicB, your thread was right on point. You don't have to pay attention to these guys. Everyone knows 99.5% of the males on this forum are just daft, low self-esteemed chauvinists.

Quote me any day, the mind of the average Nigerian male is fucke.d up.
It's sickening. I tell you.

Toks2008:


you never really wanted her else you could hve shaped her to be wat u want cos at that age they can still be configured.