Kingsasian:
the truth be say you can never satisfy a woman no matter how hard you try to or no matter how much you spend on them. I know of many of my friends wey no get shi shi before yet their gf stuck to them till they got married. A serious and wife material suppose dey tell you how to make money and save for future use. If you like take her out on trips, get her some nice clothes, give her money all the time, if she wan leave you she go still leave you for someone who has more than you. I would rather spend such money on my mother who sacrificed a lot for me and that is exactly what I am doing. No lady is worth my sweat for now. They deserve the crumbs that falls from my table.

My G, ya head dey there, your mum should be proud of you. Walahi

finditng:


Realistic post indeed...but let me pitch up this simple inverse to your post which you all similar writers, tend to forget...:

Cool...get money...keep your woman happy ....bla bla bla...now here's the turn...who the hell says the objective after making the money should be to please that woman?...why do women have to just slide in with love at that time...who says you as a guy, can't then decide...IF YOU DONT HAVE MY KIND OF MONEY, BOUNCE!..raise your standards boiz and stop giving these girls handouts....I have always said it....its OK when down as a guy..keep up the struggle...but if your woman don't stay...no wahala..but please, when made don't buy that bullshit love yarns if they ain't got your kind of money or a father that can give them same...simple....

Let's see which gender will weep last last ...
Girls be scamming boiz with looks and surprisingly, they are all dying to become acceptable by these bunch of greedy, lazy, unambitious ladies....lol....

PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE......upgrade your reasoning men!...
Don't let women toy with you via the "bought" presentation of love...because, really it is BOUGHT when you are made and a broke babe becomes faithful.....
bid higher...get one with similar status and not just looks....now let's see where all these hungry girls who demand things that their fathers can't afford them will run to... .....
unfortunately they constitute about 80% of the female population...

Small evidence: boiz already zoning into Angola, Zimbabwe, mauritius, e.t.c to marry.....lol

finditng is so on point for this comment, broke girls becomes loyal when you got cash and a bit of swag, close to 80% of our girls are kinda hungry, don't get me wrong hungry in the sense that they demand what their father can't give, i know girls from, yaba tech, unilag, iniben, abj, osu, ui and the likes who seriously never sound ambitious all they do is ask for cash and all stuffs, all wanna use the best phones and best hair ( not bad tho, if you can at least hustle with a job for half d pay) i know girls on Lagos island using bb passport and s6 and still living in their mothers one bed room apartment with 1 or 2 babies, i am not entirely criticizing our girls, a lot of them just want to have fun but are still responsible and considerate but a whole lot of others are just waiting to used all in the name of material things, i remember a chic i saw last month after about 3 years of loosing contact, she was all looking fine and sexy and when the convo got closer and fun things came on board, she ended with hope you know if i come and see you, i can't be expecting anything less than 5k oo, i got the message fast, she meant straffing things is certain, i wasn't bothered but to me i thought no difference from ashis in hotels and this girls in unis, same thing and u see them using the newest expensive phones and all and they would still call you to plead for recharge cards and subscription things, my 2 cents tho

Atlantian:
This is reality, but I must add that struggling guys do not need a girlfriend at all.

If you must get married, be sure you are financially stable to provide for your wife, prolonged state of lack drives women into another man's bed, this is a proven fact.

Experience has proven that everyone loves atmosphere of music, alcohol and sex, but sex thrives in the atmosphere of alcohol and music, love isn't necessary for sex to happen.

Experience has proven that the easiest women to lay are the ones in serious relationships and marriages without material supports of 21st century world. Please note that 98% of the women calling me, texting me and begging out-rightly and openly for sex are married or co-habiting ladies whose men are not doing financially well.

There is something wrong with being in love without money to support the lady, you try to prove how much you love by calling, texting, proposing love and you become a nuisance infected with obsessive compulsive disorder, and the lady will eventually run into another man's arm just for comfort, peace of mind and support.

I must stop here.

I once had a lady that disturbed me with 45missed calls. same lady was ready to steal her mum's money just to buy things for me....was a medical student then from a broke family and she saw d way I struggle and help my mum in d shop. wat attracted her to me was d fact that I no send her. even though I was broke...I wasn't emotionally attached to her so she was d one doing all d chasing. now don't get me wrong, , she's cute and I've seen her embarrass another well dressed good looking guy just for my sake in my presence.

I was dead broke den and funny tin is it's even more difficult for me to get her to date me again now that I'm okay financially.

when it comes to EROS money is not the answer...your game is wat matters. a broke guy who is too needy and weak will eventually become boring and lose her woman...a broke guy who's busy chasing d paper will be attractive. same goes for the rich guy.

MISSCONGENIALITY:
I don't know why some men think that a woman,s happiness in a relationship can be bought with money. Well, for me, I guy that don't k for u when he's broke can not k when he makes money.



That's why I wanna make my money so that no silly man will think I'm loving him for his stupid money.
One thing I know is that love can not be bought. So if u are man and u think that u can buy a woman,s heart with money, sorry for u cos u are in deep shit. We will just train them in the university and they will comeout to hate u for one thing or the other even with all ur money. Just as some women are not husband material according men, some men are not husband material. They are jonly good for fun.

E b like say u dy make sense,yet to confirm thou

But seriously rapmoney, how can you say a guy shouldn't go into a relationship simply because he's still hustling?
The truth is girls are unpredictable,some girls are totally different from what you're saying there,you can hustle money buh yet, can't find that true love,I think guys should always be theirselves and not waste a dime trying to impress them girls,
Having money before going into a relationship, how then do you know the girl loves you?
Guyss are talking bouh independent ladies, who said they don't also ask for money?
I don't agree with all your points, if you're thinking of having money before going into a relationship then you're in for a long thing,

Money can't buy unfaltering love but can buy something tantamount to love,which is just sex, and lil fun....cause if you used money to win her heart,if @any point you go broke she's leaving you.

I do need advice please, will u under any circumstance allow tolerate a relationship if your gf's ex buys her a phone?
Even though she keeps assuring u dat nothing is going on between the two of dem.

Atlantian:
The Bible says, and I quote; "MONEY ANSWERS ALL THINGS". I do not need a woman to love me. I am a strong man. But when it comes to women loving me, I can say I am a butterfly with women. They love me, because I am enigma of some sort. My environs is welcoming, soothing and calm. I treat every guest as the queen of heaven, yet I am superficial and eccentric with the humility of a palm wine tapper. I pour the wines as a professional bar man. In the valley of the shadows of death, I make them fear no evil. I rob their hair with oil and their cups runs over with the wines. Their Goodness and mercy follows me all the way down the bed. In the valley of the shadows of their thighs, I fear no evil. My words, soothes their pains, and make light their worries. True love dies, real love is oiled by wealth. Go and hustle my friend.

This nigqa is on point...

otunsman:
Frankly, I am a struggling guy but I don't use my small change to impress any girl for a relationship or love.If konji worry my na brothel I dey go straight. There are hot chicks that suit my taste in the in the brothel I patronize and they satisfy me wella. They even give me head.Ask me how much I dey pay?Na just 1k and with full protection unlike the gf's who gives it raw.

if every guyz be plain like you 9ja girls go suffer o!

Atlantian:
Not how you make a women feel. It's how a woman feels around you. Listen, your environment, how you live. The ambiens, the flowers, the scents of your home. The poolside designs. The jacuzzi. The touch of class in every piece of furniture. The smell of the fabrics you wear. Your upholstery in the car. The perfumes and colognes you wear, determines how a woman feels. The regulated temperature, by the AC in your house. Your kitchen, the choice of wines after each meal. All play key roles in how a woman feels around a man. If you like, live in a one bedroom apartment and lick a woman's feet and pusssy all night under the hot waves from the fan. You are just wasting your energy until the 'real man' comes her way. Sorry.

chief life is not supposed to be this difficult. I can assure you that if you do all this things only...you WILL still lose that woman...infact she'll tell you you're too perfect for her dat she doesn't deserve you...lol...you no sabi women sha...

Women are emotionally dependent. strive to make dem feel good by being a great guy not just a good guy. women are that simple.

Grundig:

Bruh, if you are quting me, it is only right you you respond directly to comment made.

The above rejoinder fails so acheive that. Anyways, it was nice meeting you. Cheers

Oops. Sorry I quoted the wrong comment. I'd to go through and realized I made an error on the comment I'd wanted to quote. Must have been an oversight. Cheers.

GodsFavourite1:

lol. of course am in Nigeria. let's face the truth my dear. Sometimes you guys are the architects of your problems, you will go ahead and date a girl you know is after your money.

Really? Girl, I like you cos your way of reasoning is different and I'm not the kind of brother that impress girls with money........ If you don't love me while I'm still struggling pls bounce, that's my motto. We all know money is important in every relationship/marriage and to make your woman happy you also need that as well but its crazy when you discover a woman is only after your money

Hustle, get moni, spend moni, get laid, dump her lazy ass, move to d nxt on d lineup. Simple

finditng:


Realistic post indeed...but let me pitch up this simple inverse to your post which you all similar writers, tend to forget...:

Cool...get money...keep your woman happy ....bla bla bla...now here's the turn...who the hell says the objective after making the money should be to please that woman?...why do women have to just slide in with love at that time...who says you as a guy, can't then decide...IF YOU DONT HAVE MY KIND OF MONEY, BOUNCE!..raise your standards boiz and stop giving these girls handouts....I have always said it....its OK when down as a guy..keep up the struggle...but if your woman don't stay...no wahala..but please, when made don't buy that bullshit love yarns if they ain't got your kind of money or a father that can give them same...simple....

Let's see which gender will weep last last ...
Girls be scamming boiz with looks and surprisingly, they are all dying to become acceptable by these bunch of greedy, lazy, unam
bitious ladies....lol....

PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE......upgrade your reasoning men!...
Don't let women toy with you via the "bought" presentation of love...because, really it is BOUGHT when you are made and a broke babe becomes faithful.....
bid higher...get one with similar status and not just looks....now let's see where all these hungry girls who demand things that their fathers can't afford them will run to... .....
unfortunately they constitute about 80% of the female population...

Small evidence: boiz already zoning into Angola, Zimbabwe, mauritius, e.t.c to marry.....lol

true man. thumbs up

This is your personal conviction. As right as i think you maybe you are still missing an important factor which is live and love are two different things. Ladies are materialistic but there are degrees to it

All what I can say is that "All Ladies ar nt d same"

Ther ar some ladies out ther dat they ar nt after yer money buh true Love...

M'dating a lady getting close to a year nw,i swear she hav never ask common 1k bt she can jealous die nd dat doesn't stop me frm giving her money...

Am a strugglin guy coz am nt yet to rich like my father bt damn far far frm broke coz ah dey work 4my money despite am a student...

Atlantian:
This is reality, but I must add that struggling guys do not need a girlfriend at all.

If you must get married, be sure you are financially stable to provide for your wife, prolonged state of lack drives women into another man's bed, this is a proven fact.

Experience has proven that everyone loves atmosphere of music, alcohol and sex, but sex thrives in the atmosphere of alcohol and music, love isn't necessary for sex to happen.

Experience has proven that the easiest women to lay are the ones in serious relationships and marriages without material supports of 21st century world. Please note that 98% of the women calling me, texting me and begging out-rightly and openly for sex are married or co-habiting ladies whose men are not doing financially well.

There is something wrong with being in love without money to support the lady, you try to prove how much you love by calling, texting, proposing love and you become a nuisance infected with obsessive compulsive disorder, and the lady will eventually run into another man's arm just for comfort, peace of mind and support.

I must stop here.

Abeegiii...

A lady waiting to dump ha nids on a man in marriage is not worthy of a madman let alone a poor man.

Proverbs 31:10-31 talks of the kind of woman worthy of a million dollar bride price and many man wouldng mind going bankrupt just to gey ha because she is not just a bed mate, she's an investment, an inventor, a sage, a mother, a coordinator, a woman of strength and an epitome of royalty...

So bros, struggling bros, the wife keeps the home but a girlfriend rents the bed in the hotel room...if a lady is contesting for your pocket, kick the scumbag out before you are ruined and you head for village in a pair of boxer shorts with a mat...Work, wait, watch, wise up till you find the Proverbs 31:10-31 wife that you'll be more than willing to spend your all on...and not a secondhand LovePeddler whose sensual, sexual and spiritual values have been thoroughly eroded by everyone including: touts, robbers, ritualists, under-15s, grandpas, spare part sellers and internet sex addicts but you!

[quote author=markmira post=37141542]U can only find true love while u re broke,and for the text and calling stuff a lot of girls love it.make's dem see they man as a very confident and social active guy if u dnt call or txt frequently they tag u boring then move on to anoda guy who aint boring lyk u. Funny how u guys tink u can play God truth is u dont know women at all even wit ur cash if a woman dont luv u..men u a waste cuz she will jst drain ur 40,000 mah bat3 then move on to someone dat will make her happy. Keep tinking u know all why others are pulling stunts wit the little they know..as cute nd successfull as drake wit lota award nd international recognition nicki minaj still see's a beta man in meek mill who acts lyk a child on twitter dissing drake 4 no reason, wise up u cnt predict women else u will commit suicide someday. [/Don't bring Meek into this Nicki is not a lesbain to date a female rapper. meek is a full blooded man not that emotional crab called drake]

This thread is on point. now where all those nairaland girls wey i dey jam for every front page topic, make dem come comment now o! i won read una views and opinions

Nice one bro...wandering how most of girls will be feeling now after reading this.

[quote author=Barrysleek post=37161031][/quote] nd wat make's drake an emotional crab??

The virtuous Ladies are God's gifts arranged and packaged for d sons of God... Only sons of the Father can receive the gifts of their Father.

Proverbs 19:14 >>> House and riches are the inheritance from fathers, but a wise, understanding, and prudent wife is from the Lord. (AMP)

Sons of the kingdom know daughters of the kingdom when they meet them...

Rapmoney:
Ignore this post if you are too lazy to read, please!!!

In life, there are two types of people as regards human reasoning; the idealist and the realist. People who hold idealist view of life see events that happen around them as 'how things ought to be but are not' while people who hold realist view of life see events that happen around them as 'real facts or occurences' and should be accepted without pretending as if we didn't know that this is how things truly are!!!

With deep thoughts, I write this post. I am not afraid to face criticism; neither am I afraid to express my thoughts. I am a realist. I believe that events that happen around us as humans are real!!! Often times, things 'ought to be' in a particular way but in reality, they are not; so it becomes necessary to accept bitter and painful facts! Especially, when they are real!!!

We live in a material world and whether you like it or not, material things play a lot of important roles in our everyday life. As a struggling guy, loving only one girl whole-heartedly might end up leaving you with numerous emotional scars! . This is due to the high level of emotional pressure you would put in the relationship and the possible outcome of getting dumped, especially, when you don't have the resources to spice up the relationship. A struggling guy with low funds would find it difficult to spice up his relationship even when he has the intention to do that . In order not to lose the girl, he might start being too protective/desparate and pester the girl with phone calls, texts messages and numerous 'I love you's' in order to be assured that he is still loved! Common!!! That's trash! Are you begging to be loved? After displaying all these, she would dispise you and might even dump you because the truth remains the same...relationships without trips, surprises and outings are as boring as hell!!! Pretend at your own risk!!! . If truth be told, all young ladies want the good things in life, even those that put up what I call 'social media good face'. You cannot obtain total loyalty from a girl when you are lacking! Don't make the mistake of trying to force her to be loyal; you cannot!!!

Women, sometimes need to feel jealous that their man could be taken anytime by another woman. This can put them back on track when they 'backslide' romantically...but this can only be made easy when you have the resources. She knows fully well that ladies will not flock around you if she leaves you today or tomorrow. Don't love just one lady if you are still on 'struggling mode' . The love pressure you would mount on the relationship might make her get fed up quickly with you and eventually get your ass dumped painfully! Again, I am a realist and I am telling you that sooner than later, your ass will be dumped if you don't have the resources to 'oil' the machines of relationships!

As a struggling guy, you should buckle or lace your shoes and tighten your belt very well. You must set your priorities right. There is what economists call 'scale of preference'. What is on top of your scale of preference? Is it your education or career? Or is it trying to please a girl with your meagre earnings all in the name of seeing her pleased with you? Do you want to waste your youthful years trying to please a girl that might end up being married by another dude, who was probably hussling seriously, while you were doing your usual lovey-lovey? Book of Ecclesiastes says 'Money answereth all things'. Take note, 'all things' and not 'some things' . Take the pains now and strive to be comfortable and you will avoid the painful experience of trying to please a girl!!! The love between a man and a woman is not AGAPE LOVE, let us stop deceiving ourselves!!! It is not the type of love described in the Synoptic Gospels and in the Epistles of Apostle Paul...it is called EROS and it costs something!!! Yes, the eros love goes for something; it doesn't come with nothing and that's the bitter truth we all need to accept

Good morning everyone!

u can never be more truthful than this

Nice post bruhv! In retrospect, if i get the dough and I bring a Range Rover to the table what is her own contribution? LOVE, LOYALTY AND what.., that ASSs? fuucck that!! My mumma is hungry in the villa jor!!!!!!!!

Atlantian:
,,,,,,,,,.

You need love in your life.
After all the angels worship you, with love you know is fake, all the G-Wagons, pools etc, what do you do about the emptiness deep within.
Who can you truly share happiness and grow old with? How do you feel around a couple in love?

It's not too late. At the end, it's all vanity.
#IveBeenThere

finditng:


Yaaay..thanks for the medal ....i just couldn't hold back at the myopic representation of love and naivity that these girls thrive on

As in, you took every word right out of my mouth, I was about saying the same thing, then I decided to take my time to read your post, I was amazed that two people who don't know each other could have the same mind


I would duff my hat for you right now if I were in front of you... well done

sonofananimal:
I be dey rest ohh, now I don get back my energy.
Shall, Good to hear from you.

Lol.....same here....abeg free Naija babes ooo...e don do

boboLIL:
For the records,,,Na guys wey no get moni de love pass.....na dem de jealousy pass..... ..if the bae strts acting strange.....d guy wil ask her,,,is it cos I don't av money?

wetin u expect? Before nko?

markmira:
U can only find true love while u re broke,and for the text and calling stuff a lot of girls love it.make's dem see they man as a very confident and social active guy if u dnt call or txt frequently they tag u boring then move on to anoda guy who aint boring lyk u. Funny how u guys tink u can play God truth is u dont know women at all even wit ur cash if a woman dont luv u..men u a waste cuz she will jst drain ur 40,000 mah bat3 then move on to someone dat will make her happy. Keep tinking u know all why others are pulling stunts wit the little they know..as cute nd successfull as drake wit lota award nd international recognition nicki minaj still see's a beta man in meek mill who acts lyk a child on twitter dissing drake 4 no reason, wise up u cnt predict women else u will commit suicide someday.

this OP havent seen whr ladies collects from the rich guy and gives to the struggling guy who she is truly in luv with...... Luv is not all about money