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Re: How Do I Stop Feeling Ashamed Of My Husband by macklef(m): 4:59pm On Jan 22, 2016

Madam. How ugly is dis man?
Is he as ugly as OBJ, TAIYE TAIWO, TIMI DAKOLO, ADAMS OSHIMOLE, ZEAL am sure u know all
This people i hav mentioned, i also know u might not know d last 'Zeal'

Try googling their wives and see very preety women live with ugly men esp d last.
Yes u may say because this men are rich, but is that what u want also? A rich man?
U want to be a gold digger? If u are a noble woman which i think u are, google dose pipu
I asked u and take dier courage, flunt ur man like its all u have ever dreamt of and live people wandering what u see in him. For anyone dat is so intrigued to ask, tell them he cares for you
Which i know from ur assertion he does. And dats what uve ever prayed to God for.

A MAN THAT REALLY CARES FOR YOU

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Re: How Do I Stop Feeling Ashamed Of My Husband by chinweAlice816: 5:07pm On Jan 22, 2016

Marriage is forever work on it.

Re: How Do I Stop Feeling Ashamed Of My Husband by Nobody: 5:10pm On Jan 22, 2016

LaRoyalHighness:
Super story ... However 'Accept my sympathy'

Re: How Do I Stop Feeling Ashamed Of My Husband by Nobody: 5:11pm On Jan 22, 2016

emekachimek:
Ashamed? Even if you marry a very handsome man, you'll have more worries than you have now. I bet you, even if you get married to the most handsome man on earth, the romantic love will fade away in a few years and what will be sustaining your marriage will be the content in your husband, which you are fortunate enough to have in him. If you check well, those people you said that look at you are most likely to be unmarried who are still swimming in fantasy and haven't come to reality. You really have to thank God for your husband as few men will possess the qualities you described above. To show you off to his friends and very nice to you, then he loves and respects you. If I may ask, what else does one need in a relationship? Pls get yourself to love him; it's actually a matter of choice to love. Forget about the fantasy world, married people here will bear me witness. So pls, give the guy good food, help him dress well and you see him look good.

Pls, how do I bring myself to love cockroaches? cheesy

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Re: How Do I Stop Feeling Ashamed Of My Husband by Nobody: 5:19pm On Jan 22, 2016

scaredy:
I have been married for a year now to a man that is very unattractive. I married him for two reasons

1. My younger ones and friends were all married and I was desperate at 32.
2. He treats me well

He's a good husby but I sometimes get ashamed walking with him because he's very ugly. I'm a pretty girl and when we are in public he's all over me wanting people to know we are together and I see the looks they give us.

I don't mind sleeping with this man and being his wife, I just want the feeling of shame to stop.I know some men don't treat their wife well and I feel lucky mine own does that.

You were insecure before you got married ('everyone was married but me') and you are insecure after you got married (but when I say that marriage is not the magic cure for happiness, people will argue. grin

)

The reason why you feel insecure is not your husband's appearance, the reason why you feel insecure is inside of you and it will follow you wherever you go.

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Re: How Do I Stop Feeling Ashamed Of My Husband by stunning4real: 5:27pm On Jan 22, 2016

@op pray about it, there is nothing God can't do. Pray that God should remold you. He will do it. Enjoy your man because according to you, he got virtue and I believe virtue supercedes vices. God will continue to keep you two together.

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Re: How Do I Stop Feeling Ashamed Of My Husband by parismarc: 5:29pm On Jan 22, 2016

I bet he is finer than Obasanjo, yet Stella was proud of him.

Seriously OP, it's all in your mind, nobody actually cares, people hav too many worries to bother themselves about a man's physical looks, those who do are Shallow.

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Re: How Do I Stop Feeling Ashamed Of My Husband by jashar(f): 5:52pm On Jan 22, 2016

The irony is that everything you think people are saying could be in your mind.

You say they give you looks, the looks might mean;
1. Awhhhhh, such a lovely couple.
2. God, when will my own spouse and I walk around together?
3. I wish my husband would show me such affection in public...

I could go on and on....
Train your mind to appreciate the good he does and see beyond the looks.

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Re: How Do I Stop Feeling Ashamed Of My Husband by Nobody: 6:46pm On Jan 22, 2016

kallmemrB:
sorry fot What ?

i feel so bad for the Husband....the most hurtful feeling in this life is to feel under appreciated....

i know we guys always complain of ladies not-so-pretty but calling a guy ugly is annoying cos this same guy you dont wanna appreciate has over 100 ladies out there wishing they could have a husband as caring as ur man..

am 100% percent sure you are not as pretty as Heidi Klum,She married Seal for years with kids... so whats ur Prob

you see lots of ladies in church praying for a Good and caring husband even if he looks like Gorrila...you have a Good and caring husband but u aint satisfy....

i pity you alot...in 10yrs time when that ur beauty is gone ,am sure by then you will be praying he doesnt leave you cos no matter how many make up u use that beauty of yours will surely fade away...

Learn to love and appreciate ur partner....Him loving you and caring for you should be more important to u than his looks...

2face and Flavor are hansome dudes but their babymamas holds pillows to sleep at night..

Learn to Love him more before someone that will appreciate him better will come along

P.S dont think he doesnt know that you dont admire him

That line is too deep and heavy

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Re: How Do I Stop Feeling Ashamed Of My Husband by Nobody: 6:47pm On Jan 22, 2016

Mindfulness:

You were insecure before you got married ('everyone was married but me') and you are insecure after you got married (but when I say that marriage is not the magic cure for happiness, people will argue. )

The reason why you feel insecure is not your husband's appearance, the reason why you feel insecure is inside of you and it will follow you wherever you go.

Guy you should be a psychotherapist, cuz you hit the nail on the hard

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Re: How Do I Stop Feeling Ashamed Of My Husband by zed7: 6:58pm On Jan 22, 2016

@ op
29 in Oct 2013
28 in Nov 2013
33 in Jan 2016

U guys make this forum a joke.

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Re: How Do I Stop Feeling Ashamed Of My Husband by Godmother(f): 7:07pm On Jan 22, 2016

thorpido:
Be content with such things as ye have!
You have married him already so quit thinking otherwise.You are honest with reasons why you married him.Now choose to enjoy him and your marriage rather than worry about what people say.At 33yrs old,you should have learnt to care less about many things.
You should help him dress neatly and trendy and he's good to go.

If any of your kids look like him,would you begin to hide the child?

Well said.

Re: How Do I Stop Feeling Ashamed Of My Husband by Nobody: 7:20pm On Jan 22, 2016

pcguru1:

Guy you should be a psychotherapist, cuz you hit the nail on the hard

I am a love doctor cool

Re: How Do I Stop Feeling Ashamed Of My Husband by Miami11: 7:22pm On Jan 22, 2016

Would you rather walk with a strikingly handsome man that treats you like a goat,

Your mentality is that of a 20 years old. You, yourself is the problem, you lack self esteem, self confidence and happiness,

My older sister nit picked men until she settled for one at 35, she still said he wasn't cute but felt in love and forgot looks, you should see the kind of good looking kids they sired, she now regrets for waiting to long for mr perfect.

Girl be proud of your man and flaunt him proudly.

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Re: How Do I Stop Feeling Ashamed Of My Husband by Miami11: 7:38pm On Jan 22, 2016

Give us your definition of his ugliness, is it his mannerism, etiquettes, height, fat or what,
What do you mean ugly, please help us understand

Re: How Do I Stop Feeling Ashamed Of My Husband by stanvesco(m): 7:41pm On Jan 22, 2016

scaredy:
I have been married for a year now to a man that is very unattractive. I married him for two reasons

1. My younger ones and friends were all married and I was desperate at 32.
2. He treats me well

He's a good husby but I sometimes get ashamed walking with him because he's very ugly. I'm a pretty girl and when we are in public he's all over me wanting people to know we are together and I see the looks they give us.

I don't mind sleeping with this man and being his wife, I just want the feeling of shame to stop.I know some men don't treat their wife well and I feel lucky mine own does that.

......hmmmmm, if the kids start rolling in,and they all look like him? Chai! Hmmmmmmm

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Re: How Do I Stop Feeling Ashamed Of My Husband by musicwriter(m): 7:53pm On Jan 22, 2016

scaredy:
I have been married for a year now to a man that is very unattractive. I married him for two reasons

1. My younger ones and friends were all married and I was desperate at 32.
2. He treats me well

He's a good husby but I sometimes get ashamed walking with him because he's very ugly. I'm a pretty girl and when we are in public he's all over me wanting people to know we are together and I see the looks they give us.

I don't mind sleeping with this man and being his wife, I just want the feeling of shame to stop.I know some men don't treat their wife well and I feel lucky mine own does that.

1. You cannot get everything you want in life. Would you rather marry a very handsome man that don't love you?.

2. Remember, you're not the most beautiful woman in the world. Not even in Africa. Not even in Nigeria. Not even in your state. Not even in your LGA.

Be wise!.

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Re: How Do I Stop Feeling Ashamed Of My Husband by adexdon(m): 8:01pm On Jan 22, 2016

hhiii

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Re: How Do I Stop Feeling Ashamed Of My Husband by macho44(m): 8:20pm On Jan 22, 2016

scaredy:
I have been married for a year now to a man that is very unattractive. I married him for two reasons

1. My younger ones and friends were all married and I was desperate at 32.
2. He treats me well

He's a good husby but I sometimes get ashamed walking with him because he's very ugly. I'm a pretty girl and when we are in public he's all over me wanting people to know we are together and I see the looks they give us.

I don't mind sleeping with this man and being his wife, I just want the feeling of shame to stop.I know some men don't treat their wife well and I feel lucky mine own does that.

U are forgetting something @ OP, u also forgot to tell the house that u married him for his money.
www.adielem.com

Re: How Do I Stop Feeling Ashamed Of My Husband by Olufemiolaolu(m): 8:21pm On Jan 22, 2016

scaredy:
Thaxs for the advise and kind words.I was expecting a bashing but was ready to take it so long as someone will advise me too. Its not as if I dnt love my husband its hard to not love him , but I want the shame to go. I feel the private is more important. He carries me like a princess that's why I want to give him the best too and I want to start with not being ashamed.

If u really love him u wont be ashamed of him. U better start 2 value walking wt him or else dose desperate girls ll take him. is like u married him becos of family pressure & becos ur time has gone.

Re: How Do I Stop Feeling Ashamed Of My Husband by sevantex(m): 8:42pm On Jan 22, 2016

thorpido:
At 33yrs old,you should have learnt to care less about many things.
You should help him dress neatly and trendy and he's good to go.

This comment says it all op, help ur man look stylish and enjoy ur marriage. Naija hustle many so nobodi got time to notice wat u complaining about oo. HML

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Re: How Do I Stop Feeling Ashamed Of My Husband by Funminicrown: 8:45pm On Jan 22, 2016

scaredy:
I have been married for a year now to a man that is very unattractive. I married him for two reasons

1. My younger ones and friends were all married and I was desperate at 32.
2. He treats me well

He's a good husby but I sometimes get ashamed walking with him because he's very ugly. I'm a pretty girl and when we are in public he's all over me wanting people to know we are together and I see the looks they give us.

I don't mind sleeping with this man and being his wife, I just want the feeling of shame to stop.I know some men don't treat their wife well and I feel lucky mine own does that.

Can you post one of his pics so that we can know where to start?

Re: How Do I Stop Feeling Ashamed Of My Husband by Dyt(f): 9:10pm On Jan 22, 2016

zed7:
@ op
29 in Oct 2013
28 in Nov 2013
33 in Jan 2016

U guys make this forum a joke.

Hehehehe
I thought I was the only one who viewed her other topics
cheesy

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Re: How Do I Stop Feeling Ashamed Of My Husband by HaneefahRN(f): 9:39pm On Jan 22, 2016

scaredy:
I have been married for a year now to a man that is very unattractive. I married him for two reasons

1. My younger ones and friends were all married and I was desperate at 32.
2. He treats me well

He's a good husby but I sometimes get ashamed walking with him because he's very ugly. I'm a pretty girl and when we are in public he's all over me wanting people to know we are together and I see the looks they give us.

I don't mind sleeping with this man and being his wife, I just want the feeling of shame to stop.I know some men don't treat their wife well and I feel lucky mine own does that.

Get him to do a plastic surgery.
Sincerely now, only u can stop tht feeling. Why shld u be ashamed of him, is he not human? U shld stop caring what others think (it cld even be all in ur head), be proud to walk with him, and introduce him as urs. Why marry him when u know u ain't attracted to him, the reasons u gave are flimsy. Know tht beauty is a vague and vain thing, a person looking like a Prince Charming one minute cld turn to something else after suffering burns or a dermatological condition, wld u divorce him or stop loving him then? If it's the way he dresses u don't like, tus.h him up, buy him stylish clothes as gift and help him pick out clothes u like
Be proud of ur husband, he is urs afterall. He might even be getting u feel ashamed of him and this can affect him psychologically and consequentially ur marriage

Re: How Do I Stop Feeling Ashamed Of My Husband by emekachimek: 9:46pm On Jan 22, 2016

Mindfulness:

Pls, how do I bring myself to love cockroaches?

Obviously you are not married

Re: How Do I Stop Feeling Ashamed Of My Husband by Nobody: 9:47pm On Jan 22, 2016

Madam, nobody is ugly. Take good care of ur husband. If u ve got better taste, help him change and organise his wardrobe, suggest a haircut more befitting for his face, give him good food...I mean,which man chop better egusi soup for two months no fresh? If he uses omo to baff, buy him lux. . . After you have finished tushing him up ehn...come back and create a thread about how your husband has become popular demand and he doesnt have time for you again

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Re: How Do I Stop Feeling Ashamed Of My Husband by Adaeze003(f): 9:54pm On Jan 22, 2016

Mindfulness:

You were insecure before you got married ('everyone was married but me') and you are insecure after you got married (but when I say that marriage is not the magic cure for happiness, people will argue. )

The reason why you feel insecure is not your husband's appearance, the reason why you feel insecure is inside of you and it will follow you wherever you go.

@bold then they(guys) will start with that crappy cliché "single women cry all night"...

People think once you're married as a woman, you've finally made it and all will be right in the world... cheesy

Anyhoo @op I think the real problem is he doesn't also have money. You know, it's a known fact that if a woman doesn't see money, she starts noticing other faults, same can be said for a sexstarved man... cheesy

But uhm to be serious, love is a choice like someone said so learn to love him.

More importantly tho, work on your confidence, maybe get busy and actually do well at something(you'll find that solving problems, adding value to something or someone brings a sense of fulfilment and happiness), hit the gym(with your hubby if possible, great confidence booster), engage in outdoor activities in leisure time, just find ways to be happy with yourself.

Don't be deceived, you'll always care about what people say about you, what makes a difference is if you let the negativity affect you or not which of course is a function of how happy and content you are with your life.

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Re: How Do I Stop Feeling Ashamed Of My Husband by Richy4(m): 10:03pm On Jan 22, 2016

scaredy:
I have been married for a year now to a man that is very unattractive. I married him for two reasons

1. My younger ones and friends were all married and I was desperate at 32.
2. He treats me well

He's a good husby but I sometimes get ashamed walking with him because he's very ugly. I'm a pretty girl and when we are in public he's all over me wanting people to know we are together and I see the looks they give us.

I don't mind sleeping with this man and being his wife, I just want the feeling of shame to stop.I know some men don't treat their wife well and I feel lucky mine own does that.

I feel so ashamed of myself right now reading a write up of a superficial person.....when I am extremely allergic to them....sorry it won't happen again..... undecided

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Re: How Do I Stop Feeling Ashamed Of My Husband by Nobody: 10:51pm On Jan 22, 2016

playtheblues:
How ugly is he? I mean is he uglier than Mr. Ibu? Be sincere.

You expect her to say the truth? Hehehe...her hubby is finer than Mr. Ibu. Copy that? lipsrsealed

Re: How Do I Stop Feeling Ashamed Of My Husband by Raydos: 10:58pm On Jan 22, 2016

Everything God Created Are Beautiful, I Don't Know Why You Still Find Mistake In Someone's Facial Look - Just Assume That You're In Your Husband's Position, How Would You Feel If He Comes Online And Post Something Like This? - Remember, Opportunity Lost, Can Never Ever Be Regain.

Re: How Do I Stop Feeling Ashamed Of My Husband by idupaul: 11:13pm On Jan 22, 2016

scaredy:

haba no

Please post his pic so we can know if he is even ugly in the first place

Re: How Do I Stop Feeling Ashamed Of My Husband by fatshadys: 11:14pm On Jan 22, 2016

Highly irresponsible of you so leave him then

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