Yea I need to copyright that huh?

DonTim1:
"The human heart is resilient. You can survive without anybody." Cococandy.

cococandy:
Yea I need to copyright that huh?

I guess

Marxxx:
I can't express how I feel right now. Early this month my friend and I ended our relationship that started aeons ago. Although I made efforts to salvage the relationship but it didn't work and we resolved to go our separate ways

For the past two weeks I have not been thinking straight. I do things and then I will ask myself did I just do/say this. Last week I made an error in one of my reporting and that would have landed me a grade 1 query. When by boss alerted me about the mistake, I tendered a resignation letter instead of getting a query but he refused to accept the letter and advised me to take a week leave. I guess it's obvious that I am out of shape.

My decisions are clouded I mean I can't think anything for sure. Even when am correct I doubt and my feeding habit is deteriorating.

I enjoy being alone but now I am beginning to feel lonely. I mean I use to stay for months without my ex and I don't feel it but now I don't know why.

And I discovered recently that I am acting weird like I am now "Vulnerable" I mean...ok let me explain....The lady prepares food for me is from an agency and last week she brought food and I was "staring" at her and she stared back at me too smiling. This is someone that I had not noticed for a year. I had to contact the agency that I will be travelling so they shouldn't expect my order till next month. And now I realise my account officer at the bank has dimples. I have been acting unlike me lately.

I have contacted a psychologist and he is saying these feelings are normal then I asked him if he had being in a long relationship that ended abruptly and he said No. Although we are still communicating but I want to hear from someone with experience.

Pls I need an advice from someone who have had similar experience. How did you cope? And I want to ask again are these feelings normal? What do I need to do to get back on my feet quickly because I don't want to resume work in this state?

I have visited new places like my psychologist advised although meeting people and initiating a conversation is hard but I am bending....is there anything else I can do?

I will appreciate ur advice

I read your previous post and being introvert, I can relate with your disposition as result of unstable mind. I destroyed my phone screen without realising I did until I started looking for the phone, I had a deep cut that required stitches and these were caused by an unstable mind cos a girl was involved.

I have to be frank with you, go back to that girl before it's late.

Bring her to the city and change her gradually. You are being influenced by what people will think of her or your status but remember one this: "if you have problem tomorrow, those same people won't care" the best you will get is "take heart", "it is well". "God will see you through"

No one will share in your problems.

That girl is REAL, not fake.

Since you want another polished lady, remember many have slept with different men, many cheats and so many things you might not be able to handle.

I know someone who married the woman who was there with him when he had nothing. She was supportive and she did send me money in those days.

Today they are married with a son.

It will be wrong and very wrong to dump this lady wherein she had sweated with you and now that it's time to enjoy with you, you decided to dump her.

You are practically telling her to change whom she IS and being as educated as you are, you should know it wrong and very wrong.

It's your choice bro, but I do know dumping her for the reasons you gave in your previous post is very WRONG.

You indirectly telling her she isn't good enough for you new standard but remember we are all humans, irrespective of our class in the society. You are looking down on her and to me that is discriminating.

I STAND WITH HER

sseunth:
Try and talk to her and if she is not ready to talk to you....there is one thing I am sure of....


Kindly get a good gaming system.....

Install pes15 or pes 13, fifa15 or fifa16, assassin's creed, grand theft auto, need for speed, god of war, call of duty, uncharted....

Run one of the software and play it for just 2hrs,....

Trust me, you won't remember her existence

You are my kind of person lol, I have all that game accept Lord of war

Yours wasn't a failed relationship.

Yours was a choice.

You choose what was most important for you.

So live with it and move on. start noticing all the dimples,laughs,great dress sense,fake smiles,nice legs on pencil skirt, fake lashes,mary kay,bm pro, and co faces,well made up pouted lips but nothing beats a good heart,a caring soul,a die hard thick and thin woman.

Look out!!!!All that glitters ain't gold.

Marxxx:
Jeeeezzzz....dude seems like you know just what is in my head....i mean exactly how I feel...but you didn't put up any prescription....?hello

Speechless3:
That's how you end up when you marry because Chidimma, Kemi and Umi are already married.

You rush in, you rush the hell out. Now whats the difference btw you and a mistress or babymama??

Also men would not stop being untrue to themselves. They get married to a "public" or people's kind of woman, all in a bid to show class. They turn a blind eye to all the beautiful decent and wifey materials around just because they dont fit in to our mainstream beauty. What happens to promoting women that have real class, real beauty, character as desirables?

Anyway swallow what karma has brought for you. Your reward for being silly.

I had to bring this here as it has some element of correlation with what you have

Sparkles003:
Yours wasn't a failed relationship.

Yours was a choice.

You choose what was most important for you.

So live with it and move on. start noticing all the dimples,laughs,great dress sense,fake smiles,nice legs on pencil skirt, fake lashes,mary kay,bm pro, and co faces,well made up pouted lips but nothing beats a good heart,a caring soul,a die hard thick and thin woman.

Look out!!!!All that glitters ain't gold.

God bless you. The dude has been influenced by city life. I just hope he does not regret this in the near future.

Marxxxx, please try and restore your relationship with the lady, I know this is the last thing u want to hear right now.

Everyone i know who had similar issues live to regret the decision one way or the other. It is always difficult to have it all, except you don't truly love her then there won't be any need to try rather do all you can to move on.

Not everyone has an opportunity at a 2nd chance, even though i don't regret where i am today and won't trade it for anything, i regret the decision i took when i was in a similar position as you years back, cos i was naive and assumed great spouses were easy to come by.

My advise to people i meet in similar situation is, life is more than material things, a spouse's deep xters matters and is very important over taste in the journey of life and what really matters in the long run shouldn't be trivialized in the heat or spur of the moment. You need to be resilient, how would you feel if another man can make her everything your were not able to. if you don't mind see this movie "why did i get married 1& 2, (emphasis on Mike, Sheila & Troy's xter) just to have an insight into the possibility of what can be.

Just imagine, would dressing, accent etc matter in the next 10years? of cos not what will matter will be fulfillment and realization of dreams & goals, good health, happiness, trust, solid foundation for ur children etc. You are not in any competition with anyone learn to love and appreciate what you have before it is too late.

Dyt:


I thought you are better
Are you still bitter?

are you always like this? I mean sarcastic and troublesome?..."No good night to you"....

Marxxxx, please try and restore your relationship with the lady, I know this is the last thing u want to hear right now.

Everyone i know who had similar issues live to regret the decision one way or the other. It is always difficult to have it all, except you don't truly love her then there won't be any need to try rather do all you can to move on.

Not everyone has an opportunity at a 2nd chance, even though i don't regret where i am today and won't trade it for anything, i regret the decision i took when i was in a similar position as you years back, cos i was naive and assumed great spouses were easy to come by.

My advise to people i meet in similar situation is, life is more than material things, a spouse's deep xters matters and is very important over taste in the journey of life and what really matters in the long run shouldn't be trivialized in the heat or spur of the moment. You need to be resilient, how would you feel if another man can make her everything your were not able to. if you don't mind see this movie "why did i get married 1& 2, (emphasis on Mike, Sheila & Troy's xter) just to have an insight into the possibility of what can be.

Just imagine, would dressing, accent etc matter in the next 10years? of cos not what will matter will be fulfillment and realization of dreams & goals, good health, happiness, trust, solid foundation for ur children etc. You are not in any competition with anyone learn to love and appreciate what you have before it is too late.

I appreciate your comment. I believe it was more than just material stuff...I trust it was conflict of interest...do have a great night rest

2sex:
God bless you. The dude has been influenced by city life. I just hope he does not regret this in the near future.

Wow you talk like I came to the city few weeks ago...There are so many things we will have to live with good or bad. My vet doc informed me that my best friend Zara (parrot) may soon give up the ghost...I will have to live with that too!!!

2sex:





I had to bring this here as it has some element of correlation with what you have

In a relationship there should be unity of purpose, direction and interest. Mine was the opposite.....gracias splendid nite rest

Sparkles003:
Yours wasn't a failed relationship.

Yours was a choice.

You choose what was most important for you.

So live with it and move on. start noticing all the dimples,laughs,great dress sense,fake smiles,nice legs on pencil skirt, fake lashes,mary kay,bm pro, and co faces,well made up pouted lips but nothing beats a good heart,a caring soul,a die hard thick and thin woman.

Look out!!!!All that glitters ain't gold.

Nice write up!...I understand. I notice that you are slim too. Have a good nite rest

2sex:
I read your previous post and being introvert, I can relate with your disposition as result of unstable mind. I destroyed my phone screen without realising I did until I started looking for the phone, I had a deep cut that required stitches and these were caused by an unstable mind cos a girl was involved.

I have to be frank with you, go back to that girl before it's late.

Bring her to the city and change her gradually. You are being influenced by what people will think of her or your status but remember one this: "if you have problem tomorrow, those same people won't care" the best you will get is "take heart", "it is well". "God will see you through"

No one will share in your problems.

That girl is REAL, not fake.

Since you want another polished lady, remember many have slept with different men, many cheats and so many things you might not be able to handle.

I know someone who married the woman who was there with him when he had nothing. She was supportive and she did send me money in those days.

Today they are married with a son.

It will be wrong and very wrong to dump this lady wherein she had sweated with you and now that it's time to enjoy with you, you decided to dump her.

You are practically telling her to change whom she IS and being as educated as you are, you should know it wrong and very wrong.

It's your choice bro, but I do know dumping her for the reasons you gave in your previous post is very WRONG.

You indirectly telling her she isn't good enough for you new standard but remember we are all humans, irrespective of our class in the society. You are looking down on her and to me that is discriminating.

I STAND WITH HER

Thanks for your advice. It's not about looking down...I understand you though..

Marxxx:
are you always like this? I mean sarcastic and troublesome?..."No good night to you"....

So he told everyone goodnight
Me nko?
Snaps fingers

I am still waiting for you o
You no gree my proposal?

GodnGold:
Marxxx,you want help but you already served yourself a bowl full of help by being too smart...

Pay attention brother,that's how to get help.

Now,you say you guys are good with the break up,right?

Give yourself time.

I say time cos each time I loose a loved one,I give it time.

Time heals physical wounds,it sure heals emotional wounds.
Time is what you need.

Work on your attitude too...
You sound egocentric...I could be wrong and please correct me if I am.
no offence.

Thanks I am getting along pretty well. I am not egocentric. I may be Xenophobic. Although My Introverted nature makes me look unfriendly and I am a choleric (According to a psychologist). Nevertheless recently I discovered I can be funny and playful. Pray for my best friend Zara (parrot). It may die soon...

Dyt:



So he told everyone goodnight
Me nko?
Snaps fingers

I am still waiting for you o
You no gree my proposal?

You should be sleeping. Why are you awake? I didn't say good night because you were having fun at my expense! ...That is not cool. and you were being sarcastic too...oh your proposal? You are already married. I don't want to start preparing my will now. I know what a 9mm bullet looks like put that through my rib cage; I will lose 4litres of blood in 200seconds...not a good way to exit planet earth

Marxxx:
You should be sleeping. Why are you awake? I didn't say good night because you were having fun at my expense! ...That is not cool. and you were being sarcastic too.

Bite me


At having fun at your expense, not really
Since you want the opposite of what you had
I thought I could fit in so me too can be getting that 7 digits
Muchechecheche



Don't mind me
I can be quite annoying
Sleep e no come so I just wanna hang around a bit looking for small small troubles

Marxxx:
oh your proposal? You are already married. I don't want to start preparing my will now. I know what a 9mm bullet looks like put that through my rib cage; I will lose 4litres of blood in 200seconds...not a good way to exit planet earth

Come and post with your original moniker ooooo
Ehn ehn

Na you marry me?

dytbabe:


Bite me


At having fun at your expense, not really
Since you want the opposite of what you had
I thought I could fit in so me too can be getting that 7 digits
Muchechecheche



Don't mind me
I can be quite annoying
Sleep e no come so I just wanna hang around a bit looking for small small troubles

Pardon my ignorance are you Dyt? Or you have another monicker/handle?

Marxxx:
Pardon my ignorance are you Dyt? Or you have another monicker/handle?

The name is dia na
Ahn ahn
Why asking again
Every moniker with the D, Y and T as the first letters belongs to no one else
Muchechechechecheche

dytbabe:




The name is dia na
Ahn ahn
Why asking again
Every moniker with the D, Y and T as the first letters belongs to no one else
Muchechechechecheche

ohhhh....How is the baby? What does the acronym DYT mean?

Marxxx:
ohhhh....How is the baby? What does the acronym DYT mean?

I have said you should post with your other known moniker
Lil man is great, you don't expect him be up at this time when he's not marxxx

The name is Idayatu
You can figure it out

Stop flirting with me
Do you have money?

dytbabe:



Come and post with your original moniker ooooo
Ehn ehn

Na you marry me?

I thought you have a baby?

Marxxx:
I thought you have a baby?

I haven't said I don't have


But wait ooo
Ehn ehn
You want to mingle seriously?


Are you old
Tall
Slim
Bald
Big belle
Do you live in banana island
Can you dash me a 2017 RR envogue
Chechechechechecheche




*i bet some people will read my posts and shake head*

dytbabe:


I have said you should post with your other known moniker
Lil man is great, you don't expect him be up at this time when he's not marxxx

The name is Idayatu
You can figure it out

Stop flirting with me
Do you have money?

I do not have another monicker. Definitely he should be in dreamland right now. I hope he likes to read...? You are a muslim?...marxxx is still at the office not yet home....your last question...you don't need an answer do you?

dytbabe:


I haven't said I don't have


But wait ooo
Ehn ehn
You want to mingle seriously?


Are you old
Tall
Slim
Bald
Big belle
Do you live in banana island
Can you dash me a 2017 RR envogue
Chechechechechecheche




*i bet some people will read my posts and shake head*

I know you are being sarcastic. I did not say I want to mingle...you are funny

Marxxx:
I do not have another monicker. Definitely he should be dreamland right now. I hope he likes to read...? You are a muslim?...marxxx is still at the office not yet home....your last question...you don't need an answer do you?

He's a 3 year old boy and most at his age loves to read and write even sing it out loud

At the office this time?


Abeg make I force myself sleep
Gotta wake 6am for prayers

Yes, a practicing muslim
I bet you would ask over and over again if you know me, I likey sha, makes me feel special

Marxxx:
I know you are being sarcastic. I did not say I want to mingle...you are funny

Marxxx:
I know you are being sarcastic...I love the attributes you listed there

I hope you not finding me attractive already?
*judging from your post ooo*


Sorry I have indulged you too much tonight
This mama gotta force sleep to come else I will be dozing at work tomorrow


BTW, my company is into FM (facilities mgt) do you have a job for us?

dytbabe:


He's a 3 year old boy and most at his age loves to read and write even sing it out loud

At the office this time?


Abeg make I force myself sleep
Gotta wake 6am for prayers

Yes, a practicing muslim
I bet you would ask over and over again if you know me, I likey sha, makes me feel special

That is good(@ ur son). It is good to be steadfast in your religion. Finally good night!

Marxxx:
That is good(@ ur son). It is good to be steadfast in your religion. Finally good night!

Did I tell you I am sleeping



FM thing jor and I wee go bed

dytbabe:


I hope you not finding me attractive already?
*judging from your post ooo*


Sorry I have indulged you too much tonight
This mama gotta force sleep to come else I will be dozing at work tomorrow


BTW, my company is into FM (facilities mgt) do you have a job for us?

Now you are sounding ridiculous. Funny you. You are funny in an eccentric way though. I am not in Maintenance. I don't have an inkling about how they function. But I believe it is outsourced...