Dklef:
OP most of your assertions here is rather ridiculous. While i agree that a guy should not entertain the thoughts of getting married or putting any lady in a family way when he hasnt establised, i want you to understand that the country we live in, has made it almost imposible for 'boys to earn the dividends of their hustle'

As in, how dare you blame us for having nothing when the government has made it be that way? So one should go and steal huh
Take time oh!

And since yall ladies are now fighting for 'gender equality' i think its high time yall starts doing the hustle, as well as making babies for us. :-

That's my issue with gender equality. On this topic, the forget equality.

Did your father own a car or a house? If No, then you need to visit a doctor

Vinshu:


Can you be less hypocritical? Did I tell you that having children brings poverty?
Why work and save together? A man's duty is to provide for his wife not two of them

What a mentality!am just tired of quoting you girl!(A mans duty is to provide for the wife not the two of them)I can see you have run mad totally with this useless mindset of urs!when next you come to this world-pls choose not to be dumb&stupid ok?

Uchesis:


dnt 4get menopause is around ur corner

word!

DaGeneral:
@Op.. Really a car and house that's your prerequisites for marriage? Mehn dis generation is in trouble, no wonder people do all it takes legal and illegal to make money. Obviously you are bereft of understanding what marriage is my friend.
I am one those who believe no man should venture into marriage without a stable income to atleast feed 2 extra mouth but then life has uncertainties,even the super rich can crumble. So @Op what happens if you marry that man with a duplex and cars and God forbid he goes broke, will you pack and leave him? Pls don't give me that not my portion answer

Don't mind her, I think her bf refused to dole out money anymore until she has proven to him that her 'ovary sack' or whatever is still intack.
Another thing is that her dp misguides: is she a Nigerian living in Europe, or is she a European? If she is a native (even a citizen) of where she stays, there's no way she should be creating this post because, in the many developed and developing countries, as long as you are working-civil work or entrepreneurial- you are entitled to go for a car and a house. this you can keep paying even up to 20yrs or so.
Now, if you are from such a society, why would having a car or a house be your criterium?
If you are a single Nigeria girl living in Europe and calling yourself an entrepreneur, lolz...we know: you be entrepreneur no be small. No wonder you have such a terrible and money-infested heart. You need to respect and consoder foundations; do not look down on the days of little beginning. I wonder what your entrepreneurial foundation was.

Vinshu:
In order to reduce the level of poverty amongst homes, in my opinion I think a man who has not enough money to buy a house of his own not rent at least a 3 bed room flat and a car to move him and his family around should not get married.

When he gets married in his low credit, the family tends to suffer. The probability that he will get rich is actually 0.5 not up to 1 because Sundry expenses will now become expenses when married. Things he could ignore when single will now be important.

When children arrive, the probability of getting rich falls to an all time low of 0.2. Have you observed that most men have a higher credit score when single? If you have $500 at the end of every week when single if your job/income doesn't change or upgrade when you get married your $500 falls to $200 because you no longer feed yourself but feed a woman and probably a child.

When the child grows older school fees will set in. And other bad debts will be incured .

Don't get me wrong, I ain't saying he will never make it but in the mean time, why bring a child to the world to suffer? Even if it's for 6 years before you make it? Why take a woman from her father's comfy house to hardship in the name of marriage?

I advice ladies never to get married no matter how cool a guy is unless he is proven to be able to cater for your needs and that of your children financially in all ramifications both expenses and sundry expenses.

It doesn't make any sense, what you enjoy when single as a lady why stop enjoying it because your husband has no money or your money now goes to supporting him?

They say women ain't equal to men. Ok let the men be rich and rich enough to take care of their wives 101% before getting married. In fact, studies show most men marry for sex.

No , I do not agree with you.

My mom and dad had nothing to their name when they got married , she stayed with his parents house and my dad travelled to find a job out of his country and even tho he finished college he could still not get hired. Since he was good at cooking, he was hired at restaurant became a chef and started sending money back home right away , he struggled like that for years! until one day he got call and was told that his father , mother and wife have fled from the country due to a war.

He had to leave everythingrush back home and started looking for them in the mid of war, but finally they were able to get in contact with him and he found out that they sought refuge in a neighboring country.


They reunited , but had to start from scratch, new country new language and culture, they didn't even had a shelter on their heads. My mom and grandma sold their gold and with that my dad was able to open a small store. They all lived in the store which had a very small room and a toilet, my dad started import and export and while he was away my mom used to man the shop and take care of my grandma and grandpa, She supported him and stood by him and by God's mercy my parent's were able to rent a place and we're doing fine.

Fast forward , my dad reunited with his old friend, he was one of the lucky ones that were taken to the u.s for refuge after the war. he was a really wealthy and believing man who has been blessed with Allah , after he heard of my dad's condition he helped him as if he was his own blood and flesh.


My dad now has 4 buildings , 2 restaurants and 3 shops
and my mom still enjoys doing import and export with my grandmother, they travel alot and get to enjoy going to new places. And thanks to them I have learned ALOT from the struggles they went through together and how they supported eachother!


So trust me when I tell you this , everyone will be tested with hardship! and its ur iman (faith ) which u should hold on to for the rest of ur life never let go if it! And this is what our parents always tell us and I absolutely live it -


"Be content with what God has given you and you will be the richest of people "!!

adeaks:
Only guys with houses and cars should even date.


Simple question: when your dad was dating your mom, did he have a house and a car?

Let's start from there.

Has she, Vinshu replied you?

Monalisa185:

Choi!! my niqqa, keep my share of the bet ooo

Ehnnnn..... Noted!

keyman0007:



I dey laugh, it still the same you that will begin to complain "am 60 yet am still paying school fees, when my colleagues stopped paying in their 50s" Dude wake up you can neva have enough money. but what do i know everyone is entitled to their opinion.

your opinion is solely yours,will you go hang if i tell you i hate kids and dont want any??or that marriage to me is the last form of legal slavery a man can ever get into? The problem with you people is taking pills for others pains,how does my opinion affect you?i wont have kids i cant cater for every of their needs,you can go ahead and make babies while living in a face me i slap you rented apartment,hellsbells!!!!

Vinshu:
In order to reduce the level of poverty amongst homes, in my opinion I think a man who has not enough money to buy a house of his own not rent at least a 3 bed room flat and a car to move him and his family around should not get married.

When he gets married in his low credit, the family tends to suffer. The probability that he will get rich is actually 0.5 not up to 1 because Sundry expenses will now become expenses when married. Things he could ignore when single will now be important.

When children arrive, the probability of getting rich falls to an all time low of 0.2. Have you observed that most men have a higher credit score when single? If you have $500 at the end of every week when single if your job/income doesn't change or upgrade when you get married your $500 falls to $200 because you no longer feed yourself but feed a woman and probably a child.

When the child grows older school fees will set in. And other bad debts will be incured .

Don't get me wrong, I ain't saying he will never make it but in the mean time, why bring a child to the world to suffer? Even if it's for 6 years before you make it? Why take a woman from her father's comfy house to hardship in the name of marriage?

I advice ladies never to get married no matter how cool a guy is unless he is proven to be able to cater for your needs and that of your children financially in all ramifications both expenses and sundry expenses.

It doesn't make any sense, what you enjoy when single as a lady why stop enjoying it because your husband has no money or your money now goes to supporting him?

They say women ain't equal to men. Ok let the men be rich and rich enough to take care of their wives 101% before getting married. In fact, studies show most men marry for sex.

and what are u gonna bring to the marriage madam? pretty facr, waist trainer, blush,selfie and ... nonsense

Vinshu:
In order to reduce the level of poverty amongst homes, in my opinion I think a man who has not enough money to buy a house of his own not rent at least a 3 bed room flat and a car to move him and his family around should not get married.

When he gets married in his low credit, the family tends to suffer. The probability that he will get rich is actually 0.5 not up to 1 because Sundry expenses will now become expenses when married. Things he could ignore when single will now be important.

When children arrive, the probability of getting rich falls to an all time low of 0.2. Have you observed that most men have a higher credit score when single? If you have $500 at the end of every week when single if your job/income doesn't change or upgrade when you get married your $500 falls to $200 because you no longer feed yourself but feed a woman and probably a child.

When the child grows older school fees will set in. And other bad debts will be incured .

Don't get me wrong, I ain't saying he will never make it but in the mean time, why bring a child to the world to suffer? Even if it's for 6 years before you make it? Why take a woman from her father's comfy house to hardship in the name of marriage?

I advice ladies never to get married no matter how cool a guy is unless he is proven to be able to cater for your needs and that of your children financially in all ramifications both expenses and sundry expenses.

It doesn't make any sense, what you enjoy when single as a lady why stop enjoying it because your husband has no money or your money now goes to supporting him?

They say women ain't equal to men. Ok let the men be rich and rich enough to take care of their wives 101% before getting married. In fact, studies show most men marry for sex.

Am not surprised that this is coming from a woman. The way they reason is very shallow. They are too materialistic. They fail to realize that a man with a good future, great dream with good drive and action can break even a fallow ground.

This kind of idea is what has kept so many girls from getting married until they become so old that they start going to prayer houses and start disturbing God for any kind of man.

OP, let me give u instance with myself, I saw my wife when i had virtually nothing. I was in a job that was not paying me well. When i planed going to see my inlaw for collection of list, i lost my job but i kept telling my wife that we can still make it. Most times, she got discouraged and wanted to walk out of the relationship.

What i always tell her was, never write of an educated person, his opportunity can come at any time. I also used to tell her that i am not lazy. When I was able to make her see where i was going, she gave me all her support. She is a great woman and I love her so much for that. I was able to start a one-computer biz centre where i type, print and make photocopies for pple until my opportunity came. Now i have a good job. I have built my own house, have a sleek car, two beautiful kids and other dependents. Nice household items, feed well and everyone is happy.

If you have a guy that has a dream and pursuing it, girls, u can marry such a man and give her your support.

First and foremost, we should understand d situation of our country, d culture, norms beliefs (religion and societal) and mentality we all share as Africans, from there we can surmise our opinions on d issue! D writer made very important points that we can't completely throw into waste bin, bt we av to be cautious in decoding d points, otherwise many of yet to be married men here perhaps wud wait endlessly to own a house and car of one's own as conditions to settle down as family. Sometimes, when a man marries, d wife becomes a blessing to his life and both of them become better as a solid unit that rocks d society. Remember 2 heads are better Dan one if both are 'good' and focus; I personally don't support a woman of 'liability' in a family cos it usually affects d woman on d long run. Let me stop here, thank you.

Don't give birth to many children, one is better, two is the best. And what makes you think she is enjoying in her father's house? Well boys gats work very hard.

MARKone:


No mind these small Brats, wey go come online dey type rubbish, people that are still being spoon fed. Go to crusades churches and see the number of ladies looking for husbands, many are even willing to fund their wedding because guy man no hol, and they fear of menopause is the beginning of wisdom. Check the statistics of unmarried ladies and men in our society, you'll shiver.
Nwata akwo n'azu amoro n'ije siri Ike. Let them continue waiting for ready made men.

D@ op needs to go back 2 school, GBOWAM!!!

...and this is that type of post that makes me want to kill somebody!
Whoever said girls should find fulfillment only im marriage?
Op, go and make money and stop thinking of men!

The baboon himself.

My dear OP, please, take note: NOTHING LASTS FOREVER.

Wil Odedola's daughter Ever want to Marry a broke dude......the Nigeria of 2day the rich marry the rich, and the poor marry the poor.


quote author=Lytech post=43937629]Nice quote thou..
But for how long will a man remain single because of money..
A man at the age 30 with master degree without a car or a house(talkless of a well paid job) should remain single till he gt one?
Our government and economy makes this quote invalid..
You never can tell,your wife might be the source of God picking up ur call....(getting married to otedola daughter lol)[/quote]

adeaks:
Only guys with houses and cars should even date.


Simple question: when your dad was dating your mom, did he have a house and a car?

Let's start from there.

Killer squad.

Vinshu:
In order to reduce the level of poverty amongst homes, in my opinion I think a man who has not enough money to buy a house of his own not rent at least a 3 bed room flat and a car to move him and his family around should not get married.

with all due respect, i think you are poor, i might be wrong but i stand to be corrected.

Living in a rented apartment isnt a crime and it musnt be a 3bed room apartment. In saner climes where there is an effective rail, water and taxi system, why should I buy a car?

Do you know what it takes to buy a plot of land in Abuja or even rent a 3 bedroom apartment in Abuja? so someone who works in abuja shouldnt get married till he has a 3 bedroom apartment or a car abi? some self contain apartment in abuja is above 400k


what you should advocate for ought to be that the man must have proven to have been taking care of himself successfully and the ability to take care of someone else. by successfully, we mean meeting his basic needs which isnt limited to food, clothing, accomodation, immediate siblings etc

do u have a house and a car?
if at all u are married, ur wife should be very careful with you......scammer!!!!!

I can read a lot of senseless comments in this thread. Even the OP is senseless

LMAO!!! This is what you hear from dumbass chics that can't even recharge their phones without calling on guys for help. If you are a lady and you don't earn at least half of what a prospective husband earns then you should go back and hustle harder. All of una go school no be so Abi ladies dey go school for nothing ni Mtcheew ''What a man can do'' no reach this side??

No Naija babe wan be 'Orente' again. smh

therealMcCain:


with all due respect, i think you are poor, i might be wrong but i stand to be corrected.

Living in a rented apartment isnt a crime and it musnt be a 3bed room apartment. In saner climes where there is an effective rail, water and taxi system, why should I buy a car?

Do you know what it takes to buy a plot of land in Abuja or even rent a 3 bedroom apartment in Abuja? so someone who works in abuja shouldnt get married till he has a 3 bedroom apartment or a car abi? some self contain apartment in abuja is above 400k


what you should advocate for ought to be that the man must have proven to have been taking care of himself successfully and the ability to take care of someone else. by successfully, we mean meeting his basic needs which isnt limited to food, clothing, accomodation, immediate siblings etc

Alright.

Vinshu:


No not really. I'm actually an Economist.

Explains a lot.. great one..

adeaks:
Only guys with houses and cars should even date.


Simple question: when your dad was dating your mom, did he have a house and a car?

Let's start from there.

The world isn't what it used to be... A lot has changed..

adeaks:



And the majority of girls who will support this are lazy, gold diggers who are only looking for already-made men that they can just pop out babies for without any thought of adding something tangible to the guy's life.

mean!!!

Krismart:
Lecturer. And who says ladies shouldn't be made before marriage?

Lol my friend, as I said, that isn't being made. That is what any capable grown person should be able to accomplish with their own hands before marriage. Talk less of a man, who normally gets paid at least 25% more in salary than his female counterpart.

Only lazy, non ambitious and unserious men would find this expectation a real challenge or setback. We are talking about marriage here, so by extension you are talking about your future children. If your wife takes in on your honeymoon, you'll expect her to put to bed in your one room flat? Ok, have you ever gone to work after being in the same room as a crying baby? You don't even take your own health seriously lol. I pity you

And yes, my father had a 3 bedroom flat and a car when he married my mom, she gave birth to me 10 months later in a nice comfortable home. Haven both of them worked and toiled, they now own several homes and travel to the Caribbean every month with their grandchildren. That is being made. That is success, being able to do the things you want with the people you love. Being able to provide a safe and comfortable place for your family to live in is called being responsible. Learner...

[color=#990000][/color] I can't believe I wasted 1 hour out of my life span reading what this lazy girl in person of the op is saying....this is baseless seriously. So car and house has replaced Love now? Okay continue..... when I have the car and the house, please let the lady have a car and a house and also be a virgin.

@OP....with the way you are going, I don't think you are married. no, I doubt it, you can't be, even if you are, it's just a marriage of convenience. Anyway, lucky you....what do you think a lady should have to be eligible to date a man with all this?

Specialbaby:
life has evolve the stage of sitting down and waiting for a guy and shitting babes out like watery stool,majority of ladies these days are making plans on how to better their lot and making headways but that not withstanding,no sensible and focus lady will settle for a guy with the future sha be bright mentality!


If i am working and toiling to better my self,what prevented the guy from doing so?see ehn,poverty is a curse,try being broke and you will hate your existence!

are you married or in any serious relationship?. May God grant you your heart desires. Your kind will run away if your rich husband faces any financial challenge in the marriage..... Don't get it twisted.