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Re: Why Do Women Include Their father's Name After Marriage? by Ododoeye0020(m): 6:34pm On Jul 10, 2016
If i we're Adesina i wouldn't tolerate that because mrs obiano did not use her father's name after marrying Willie obiano

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Re: Why Do Women Include Their father's Name After Marriage? by Arijude(m): 6:35pm On Jul 10, 2016
Thunderlicious:


Then get ready to pass menopause with no husband.
Thunderlicious your response is thunderous.

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Re: Why Do Women Include Their father's Name After Marriage? by SeverusSnape(m): 6:36pm On Jul 10, 2016
januzaj:
guys coming for her like
Abeg no kee me with laff grin grin grin hehehehehehehehehehe cheesy

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Re: Why Do Women Include Their father's Name After Marriage? by safarigirl(f): 6:36pm On Jul 10, 2016
jmichlins:
with this mindset just forget about marriage else
gerrout abeg. There are many married successful women who bear their fsther's name.

Where is it stated that a woman should give up her father's name because she's married? Who made that a law?

If i made it with my dad's name, i will have to use it till i die. Women like Chimamanda haven't changed their maiden name cuz that is her TRADEMARK. We know that most of you don't grasp that. You want to possess a human being wholly as if that's possible. Why not change yout name to hers? After all, the bible says "... A man shall LEAVE his father and mother and CLING to his wife"... so who suppose change name?

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Re: Why Do Women Include Their father's Name After Marriage? by tabithababy(f): 6:39pm On Jul 10, 2016
Adekorya:
Most women do it for recognition while few do it for love they have for their father's name.

Me personally don’t blame women who keep their fathers’ names or hyphenate both names. If your dad’s name could open doors or even break walls and you got married to someone whose name does not even ring a bell, what would you rather do?
. cheesy
Re: Why Do Women Include Their father's Name After Marriage? by coachwilcox(m): 6:41pm On Jul 10, 2016
If I marry Aliko daughter, I will change my surname to Dangote.

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Re: Why Do Women Include Their father's Name After Marriage? by Nobody: 6:41pm On Jul 10, 2016
bumtos:
Famous is the major thing. you can't expect me to change my name to Obatunde my Husband name while my Father is Obasanjo (the head of state).

True ^^. I've noticed that trend too. The Mandela daughters married and divorced, then remarried but hey, the surname remains. They seem to forever want to cling to the "well known" name.

coachwilcox:
If I marry Aliko daughter, I will change my surname to Dangote.

grin grin way to go
Re: Why Do Women Include Their father's Name After Marriage? by pamcode(m): 6:43pm On Jul 10, 2016
To capture unsuspecting men. This trick is usually used by gold-diggers.

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Re: Why Do Women Include Their father's Name After Marriage? by Nickymezor(f): 6:45pm On Jul 10, 2016
xreal:
Why should I permit that?

If she does without my consent- she willgo back to marry her father the very day I discover.
grin grin
Re: Why Do Women Include Their father's Name After Marriage? by Nobody: 6:45pm On Jul 10, 2016
BCJAY:
I also use a compound name once the husband did not see any wrong in it you are Free to do so, but that should not cause disagreement once he says no so be it.




Sensible comment as opposed to the woman/girl earlier who said it is "her decision" as if the marriage is about one person. I have no problem with it personally particularly when there are no male siblings


It's not a big deal but if a woman INSISTS on keeping her maiden name or feels it is HER decision and hers alone, then you wonder if she is really ready for marriage or she just like the idea of being married and having kids.....which is the root of many marital problems.
Re: Why Do Women Include Their father's Name After Marriage? by love4rent80s: 6:45pm On Jul 10, 2016
Thunderlicious:

Then get ready to pass menopause with no husband.
Wicked !!!!

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Re: Why Do Women Include Their father's Name After Marriage? by Nobody: 6:45pm On Jul 10, 2016
I will personally tell her to keep her father's name.

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Re: Why Do Women Include Their father's Name After Marriage? by Pataricatering(f): 6:46pm On Jul 10, 2016
The wickedness of men is the reason why women have become so hardened! You all insist on your wife taking your surname but would force her to stop using it out of spite and malice if the relationship does not work out - example EgunMogaji! Why do you treat women less than human? Why be so spiteful? Majority of you are raised to disrespect , abuse and degrade women! It's really sad cause you would go on to have daughters and they would become victims of the culture of abuse you helped to propagate.

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Re: Why Do Women Include Their father's Name After Marriage? by Nobody: 6:47pm On Jul 10, 2016
Pataricatering:


That is why you are divorced! It's men like you that make women keep their last name. Your ego would not let you let her keep her father's name yet when she now uses your name and has built a career or whatever on it you would force her to drop it when things go sour just out of wickedness. You are obviously a woman hater. Goodluck to finding a woman that would stay with you.

Yep, I'm divorced twice actually. Only an effeminate man will succumb to your greedy self defeating egoistical idiocy.

I don't tolerate waspy beyotches grin

BTW, I'm happily married for the past three years wink

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Re: Why Do Women Include Their father's Name After Marriage? by cocoama(f): 6:47pm On Jul 10, 2016
I don't see it as such a big deal if she decides to add her maiden surname to her husband's name.

I guess I have been lucky to date men that are not bothered by such trivial matters and are very open minded.

For those that have a problem with it just make sure that you let ur lady know from day 1. Adding her maiden name to her husband surname should be the least of worries when it comes to marriage.

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Re: Why Do Women Include Their father's Name After Marriage? by nairapolice: 6:49pm On Jul 10, 2016
Joy1706:
Look at them. Small men suffering from small peniss syndrome. There's nothing to permit. It's MY decision if I decide to keep the surname I've been known with all my life.

U r suffering from too wide vag.ina syndrome

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Re: Why Do Women Include Their father's Name After Marriage? by Nobody: 6:49pm On Jul 10, 2016
Pataricatering:
The wickedness of men is the reason why women have become so hardened! You all insist on your wife taking your surname but would force her to stop using it out of spite and malice if the relationship does not work out - example EgunMogaji! Why do you treat women less than human? Why be so spiteful? Majority of you are raised to disrespect , abuse and degrade women! It's really sad cause you would go on to have daughters and they would become victims of the culture of abuse you helped to propagate.

I absolutely love women, why won't I when I have 4 beautiful Daughters? wink

You're just acting all wounded knee because your thinly veiled attempt is not being kowtowed by me. I'm not one of the men that you can use as wrapper.

You and I are not in the same league, go to Somolu or Oshodi okay and find your agbero level.
Re: Why Do Women Include Their father's Name After Marriage? by love4rent80s: 6:50pm On Jul 10, 2016
ify84:
My wife never even add my own name to her surname... She still go with the name from secondary school.

We are going to two years.

Who surname don epp... Fighting over it is useless.

Help me ask dm if dem dey use surname or husbands last name collect money for bank

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Re: Why Do Women Include Their father's Name After Marriage? by Walexz02(m): 6:51pm On Jul 10, 2016
Me think it is allowed in Islam so that when something happens afterward and they both separate, the woman can continue with her life with out qualms.

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Re: Why Do Women Include Their father's Name After Marriage? by Nobody: 6:52pm On Jul 10, 2016
nairapolice:


U r suffering from too wide vag.ina syndrome

Yeah, you can typically tell girls that have big caves between their legs, they usually have big mouths to match it grin

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Re: Why Do Women Include Their father's Name After Marriage? by Abuklaw(m): 6:54pm On Jul 10, 2016
philit22:
Pls what do you say on this?
There is a trend of women retaining their father's name even after they are married..E.g Chisom Obiano gets married to Martins Adesina, She begins to answer Chisom Obiano-Adesina..As a man will you permit this and as a woman do you prefer this and why?
Islam permits a woman to retain her father's name even after marriage. So, there is no big deal if she want to add her father's name to mine or outrightly refuse to use my own.

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Re: Why Do Women Include Their father's Name After Marriage? by telemapreye1(f): 6:54pm On Jul 10, 2016
Joy1706:
Look at them. Small men suffering from small peniss syndrome. There's nothing to permit. It's MY decision if I decide to keep the surname I've been known with all my life.
I haff die cheesy grin
Re: Why Do Women Include Their father's Name After Marriage? by yunnyp(m): 6:55pm On Jul 10, 2016
No. sadNo.
Re: Why Do Women Include Their father's Name After Marriage? by telemapreye1(f): 6:55pm On Jul 10, 2016
There is nothing wrong in it
Re: Why Do Women Include Their father's Name After Marriage? by Xbox222: 6:55pm On Jul 10, 2016
ify84:
My wife never even add my own name to her surname... She still go with the name from secondary school.

We are going to two years.

Who surname don epp... Fighting over it is useless.
And you call yourself a man?
I bet your wife must be the head of that home
Re: Why Do Women Include Their father's Name After Marriage? by charlieot(m): 6:56pm On Jul 10, 2016
ebudera:
dats not true,a woman changes her name all in d name of marriage gets into d business of making a family 4 u,give u d opportunity 2 answer father,spends all her time effort & even shape jst 2 make u a perfect home,wat ur own (men) sacrifice 4 her
what's dis one saying?

so a woman is the only one giving her all by getting married?
see leme tell you,in marriage no party is sacrificing more than the other...

as if u don't know woman desire to get married more than men do..so if that's her desire then wat is she sacrificing?
I'm even helping her by getting married to her so she will not expire being single
Re: Why Do Women Include Their father's Name After Marriage? by eemjay(f): 6:57pm On Jul 10, 2016
That's how we make mountain out of a mole hill. Different strokes for different folks. Each couple with their style. It's part of the things you talk about, and if you as a man isn't cool with her having a compound name, then move on. Just that everyone has by default just assume once you get married, you automatically start using the man's surname. There wives who use their husband's name instead of the family name. And such men have no issues with such. It's when you start enforcing it on the kids that there might be issue.
Re: Why Do Women Include Their father's Name After Marriage? by tabithababy(f): 6:57pm On Jul 10, 2016
basingstoke:
The men crying no, what about ig your daughter wants to retain your name wen they are married , what will you say ?
. Now this is what we call hypocrisy. angry

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Re: Why Do Women Include Their father's Name After Marriage? by Xbox222: 6:58pm On Jul 10, 2016
ebudera:
Wats d big deal in it, its wat I ve been knw 4 all my life & I shuld jst throw it away cos am married?





No way will do
Then a single life is your portion

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Re: Why Do Women Include Their father's Name After Marriage? by johnson232: 6:58pm On Jul 10, 2016
Joy1706:
Look at them. Small men suffering from small peniss syndrome. There's nothing to permit. It's MY decision if I decide to keep the surname I've been known with all my life.
smh for u
Re: Why Do Women Include Their father's Name After Marriage? by Arijude(m): 7:00pm On Jul 10, 2016
Missyetty:
There is nothing bad there for me to retain my father's name after marriage. My dad is a very important figure in my life.
Then marry your dad.

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Re: Why Do Women Include Their father's Name After Marriage? by Notyourb1tch(f): 7:01pm On Jul 10, 2016
Some women do it as its a part of their identity, sometimes for career as you may be well known by your surname, famous or popular family etc etc.

I wouldn't want to marry a man anyways who would have a problem with something small like me keeping my maiden name. This is a clear indication that he is very backwards in thinking and most likely than not we would have a lot of issues and fights about other stuff.

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