Toks2008:


Due diligence is mostly centered on the person you want to have as a spouse and not just the family.

Alesandese:
Could you pls desist from using the 'f' word all the time? You are shouting at your audience

FvckShiT:
lalasticlala
it's high fůcking time already dăwg!
push it...

Alesandese:
Of course one shouldn't suffer in marriage for the sake of the children but the innocent lives are entitled to a happy and complete home. So why not take your time to set things right before bringing them in.

Sure anything can happen in marriage but this is where the love and friendship the marriage was built on plays its role. How do you build such friendship / love your proposed period of time?

Like I stated earlier, Marriage is more than cohabiting!

Alesandese:
Point to me the weapon I used in attacking you . You are entitled to your opinion Mister.

Toks2008:


I have lost friends who tend to be myopic as regards my articles. ..they juxtapose my realistic threads to who I am and I'm sorry I can't help them on that.

I'm a realist and I dont write things to favor the way they ought to be rather I write stuffs the way they are.

I hate divorce but what if I marry today and the lady decides to divorce me against all odds would you blame me for that? does it not take two to tango?

People have blamed Chris oyakhilome for his wife's decision to divorce him and I keep wondering how people see things.

If you like preach about marital chastity but that does not change the fact that people leave their marriage daily and if a lady is too careful about getting married because she hates divorce then she should rather remain single for life cos shits happen in marriage even if you the lady is an angel.

My point is simple

Take the risk and dare the consequence rather than being careful forever which is never a guaranty of good marriage.

Sacluxpaint:

You some marriage counselor or something?

Rainmaker69:
Interesting words... written by a single gentleman.

solasoulmusic:
For me two questions is this person adding value to my life. Can I handle my children sharing the same personality etc

This helped me stay away from deep end

Alesandese:
Courtship / dating opens your eyes to some things in your partner.Courtship is when you how your level of compatibility.

koolguy88:
not just adding value to your life but to the the family.

You also have to ask yourself this question, what have I brought into this family to make it better?

Amarabae:
Its very easy in the mouth saying it. Choosing a life patner is a process a lady shiuld apply carefulness to.
don't make it look as if a girl should marry anyone she sees, desperations sometimes lead to regrets.

Toks2008:


One can always leave if the heat is too much.

Toks2008:
...You can't be too careful or careless when it comes to your choice of spouse because there is no good or bad choice but what we have is "YOUR CHOICE". Good people can turn very bad and a great courtship is no guaranty of a great marriage so take the risk and stop wasting your time in the name of "being careful"

So if you are a man or lady who is really interested in getting married then read this.

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those that are ready to settle down

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1.For the guys :

Ask yourself some vital questions about the type of woman you want,her tribe,physical attributes as well as inherent attributes and so on and don't just try out every lady in skirt.

Understand that whatever pleases your eyes will inadvertently please your soul so go for a lady that catches your fancy physically, ask her some basic questions about her persona,do a quick background check on her and if you are ok with your findings just take the risk as long as you can feed yourself and one more person and also have a place of your own.



Remember that you can never know a woman but you can only try to understand her gradually only when you start living together.

And remember that though GOD hates divorce,there is always an option of walking away from the marriage if needs be.

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If only you are ready to settle down

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2.For the ladies:

Save your self the bull poo of dating and courtship...it's a total waste of time cos it's no guaranty of a happy union.

Except you are a teenager or in your adolescent when dating is mostly just for the fun of it,
If you are really interested in a purposeful affair then you don't need to court any guy for more than a year.


If you see a guy you have strong desire for and he says he wants you,...do a quick background check on him and if you are ok with your findings..take that risk and go for it...

Stop complicating your life about doing an expensive wedding by fire by force...you can always do that latter but if the money is available then go ahead with the wedding of your dreams

I have seen many guys and ladies despite their over Sabi and meticulous courtship still break up with their spouse so why fool yourself.

If you like continue to waste your time looking for the ideal man and fooling yourself in the name of courtship while actually getting used by the guy.



My take.

babyfaceafrica:
Not bad..OP you don't have to respond to everybody nah..some will get it,some won't ..leave them..haba!!

Danty37:

what is ur problem with the word "Bleep"...?

rosalieene:

hi, what's your name so I'd tell Anty Nike

rosalieene:

hi, what's your name so I'd tell Anty Nike

babyfaceafrica:
how the place nah,hope u managing well?

Alesandese:
And the children? Do you know who bears the consequences of divorce? The children. Moreover for how long will you continue to walk out?

Toks2008:


That was married..

Courted for 6 years and thought I knew her but I was dead wrong.

rosalieene:

Yea Yea


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rosalieene:

Yea Yea


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