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Re: My Fiancé Verbally Insults Me Always by Asojam: 11:56pm On Jun 16, 2017 |
Sometimes am amazed as to how some women still choose to fall for this kind of men that lacks respect for them despite even their level of education. If u choose to wanna spend the rest of ur life with someone who sees u as a fool definitely you must be a fool indeed. 1 Like 1 Share
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Re: My Fiancé Verbally Insults Me Always by Sparklee(m): 11:58pm On Jun 16, 2017 |
tosyne2much: |
Re: My Fiancé Verbally Insults Me Always by ImaIma1(f): 11:58pm On Jun 16, 2017 |
tosyne2much: Very true. My friend's husband abused her verbally before they got married. After marriage, it graduated to physical abuse. To the extent that he beat her weeks after she gave birth and also hit her mum that tried to wade in. No matter what a woman does,nagging,rudeness,etc...you don't have an excuse to beat her. You married the nag and rude woman so manage your situation. 2 Likes |
Re: My Fiancé Verbally Insults Me Always by Nobody: 11:58pm On Jun 16, 2017 |
tosyne2much:You're right tho. Some women seem to be blind to the obvious signs of a violent partner. Same person will probably come on nairaland in 6 months to ask us if she should leave him because he beat her. Smh 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: My Fiancé Verbally Insults Me Always by dangotesmummy: 12:01am On Jun 17, 2017 |
MrSly:yinmu Na your type go say endure beating. At least he's your husband .the beating shows he loves you |
Re: My Fiancé Verbally Insults Me Always by dangotesmummy: 12:03am On Jun 17, 2017 |
Asojam: |
Re: My Fiancé Verbally Insults Me Always by jaxxy(m): 12:03am On Jun 17, 2017 |
habeny: Let me just tell u plainly now. U will never be respected in ur marriage cos after marriage it only gets from bad to worse unless God intervenes and that intervention must be before u get married and not u hoping he will change after marriage. Insulting ur fiancée at every argument is not a normal behavior of sm1 inlove or valued. I don't know if this is smtn from d inception or it just started bt i tell u do not get married to junk. His attitude is junk. Dats all. I personally will call of d mf wedding I don't give a flying fxck unless u ready to run out after a year or 2 max!!! 1 Like |
Re: My Fiancé Verbally Insults Me Always by BrandBucket: 12:06am On Jun 17, 2017 |
habeny:oh Abeni...what made you wait this long...what were you holding on to....it's only some weeks to go with parents, friends anticipating...how easy would it be to call things off at this stage. Please, your parents can still get to know about this matter now...when you graduate into marriage they'll have little or know say to your home affairs. And I ask again, what were you holding on to? |
Re: My Fiancé Verbally Insults Me Always by AreaFada2: 12:07am On Jun 17, 2017 |
@OP, Something is not quite right. Maybe he considers you less intelligent/smart. His outburst may just be out of generation frustration with you. Does he do that when other people are around? If so, very bad. He's unlikely to change. If you can live with it & possibly a dose domestic violence as time goes on, carry on. But why did you not sort this out until weeks before wedding? Hope your decision will not be influenced by "we have already sent out invitation, we have already bought aso ebi, paid for hall aready, what will people say" and so on. Buona Fortuna! |
Re: My Fiancé Verbally Insults Me Always by greggng: 12:08am On Jun 17, 2017 |
habeny: Is a pity is a sign he wll be abusive person and the end point abusive marriage. Go and seek advice from tonto dike or mercy. Nairaland cannot help u |
Re: My Fiancé Verbally Insults Me Always by oloriadebusola: 12:10am On Jun 17, 2017 |
Would like to suggest that's what he grew up seeing his Dad do to his mum,maybe he thinks it's OK to insult shows he is the "Man". Be very careful cause as it is he doesn't have an iota of respect for you, to call a child such names is bad talk less of a grown woman. Have you ever tried insulting him back to see if he can take it like he dishes it out to see his reaction. It's going to be bumpy marriage o so brace up well well. |
Re: My Fiancé Verbally Insults Me Always by Nobody: 12:17am On Jun 17, 2017 |
tosyne2much:That's my boy |
Re: My Fiancé Verbally Insults Me Always by ogtavia(m): 12:17am On Jun 17, 2017 |
habeny:you are walking into a deadly trap,dont ever think marriage will make him change...if he calls you names already...he doesn't have a drop of respect for you...he will beat the living daylights out of you..if you were my sister, I will ask you to back out of the relationship,then I will get boys to beat the hell out of him for wasting your time and embarrassing you.. 1 Like |
Re: My Fiancé Verbally Insults Me Always by tosyne2much(m): 12:20am On Jun 17, 2017 |
ImaIma1:My sister, most women who normally got beaten by their husbands saw those battering tendencies in him during courtship but they overlooked it with the notion that he would change |
Re: My Fiancé Verbally Insults Me Always by tosyne2much(m): 12:21am On Jun 17, 2017 |
MasterRahl:Hope say a talk am well bros? 1 Like |
Re: My Fiancé Verbally Insults Me Always by davidif: 12:24am On Jun 17, 2017 |
habeny: Like they say, when someone shows you who they really are, believe them the first time. 1 Like |
Re: My Fiancé Verbally Insults Me Always by micflo28(m): 12:29am On Jun 17, 2017 |
NNE gba oso for your life. |
Re: My Fiancé Verbally Insults Me Always by pocohantas(f): 12:32am On Jun 17, 2017 |
tosyne2much:See as you run to edit post and add something irrelevant. Where did you draw conclusion that she is dependent on him? Stop demonising rich men please, there are broke guys that abuse their women. Verbal abuse is a character ish, has nothing to do with financial status. Your other points are sensible for a change. 1 Like |
Re: My Fiancé Verbally Insults Me Always by Nobody: 12:32am On Jun 17, 2017 |
tosyne2much:Of course u did. Nevertheless, its time for bed. Run up!!! |
Re: My Fiancé Verbally Insults Me Always by Donwilly20(m): 12:35am On Jun 17, 2017 |
habeny:. I think you should hold on for the marriage till he change his attitude |
Re: My Fiancé Verbally Insults Me Always by tosyne2much(m): 12:37am On Jun 17, 2017 |
pocohantas:As if I knew you would find me here again |
Re: My Fiancé Verbally Insults Me Always by Nobody: 12:42am On Jun 17, 2017 |
habeny:You need to sit him down and talk to him. It can be done when both of you are cuddling then you bring up the matter but use wisdom. It's possible that your attitude is contributing to insults too so you have to iron it now before its too late. |
Re: My Fiancé Verbally Insults Me Always by Nobody: 12:45am On Jun 17, 2017 |
cerowo:Make she leave d man or money? |
Re: My Fiancé Verbally Insults Me Always by Nobody: 12:47am On Jun 17, 2017 |
Then be rest assured that after the marriage it will be assault all the way. 1 Like |
Re: My Fiancé Verbally Insults Me Always by GoodMuyis(m): 12:49am On Jun 17, 2017 |
habeny: What about you trying to get used to it and avoid argument with him, Oko won Lode oo (Husband is expensive outside oo). You are a strong and wise woman if your spouse later change that attitude |
Re: My Fiancé Verbally Insults Me Always by rinzymarc(m): 12:55am On Jun 17, 2017 |
it might b part of him cos me here,I'm a victim of dis but i love her to de moon |
Re: My Fiancé Verbally Insults Me Always by LordAdam16: 12:56am On Jun 17, 2017 |
FLYFIRE: And what happens if he pretends/tones down for a couple of weeks just to tie the knot and then unleash the real tiger. According to the narrative, this isn't new and she has talked to him "several times". Even if someone else has to talk to him, it is very clear that the wedding does not have to go on next month. All this last minute stitching will not salvage a marriage that as we know in Nigeria is a prison for ladies, when sh*t hits the fan. Them say na from clapping dance dey tk start. -Lord 1 Like |
Re: My Fiancé Verbally Insults Me Always by Toluensdollars(m): 12:58am On Jun 17, 2017 |
U are aren't married yet and he's already spewing all this trash at u, and u are still coming here to ask for advice. I want to believe that u are above d age of 25 and at such believing that u are very much matured and experienced about relationship. There's no gainsaying that your man who has been spitting all these trash at u while still courting u as no regards and honour for womanhood. He will abuse u, thereby causing heartache, heartbreak, disappointment, grief and regret. There's still enough time for u to weigh up your options and choose what's good for u. Don't be blinded by his sugarcoated words, and never allow your emotions control your thoughts. Think deep sis, because Nigeria is in a dire need of urgent attention now than disturbing ourselves trying to help u out with advice's and opinions on how to protect an abusive marriage. Please look well, u still have enough chance to ditch him now and jump ship not when u guys might have walked down d asle. Success and best of luck. 1 Like |
Re: My Fiancé Verbally Insults Me Always by ngwaba(m): 1:00am On Jun 17, 2017 |
Enjoy your wedding and the marriage. You're seeing the signs but don't want to heed to them. Stop disturbing and distracting us with your problems. |
Re: My Fiancé Verbally Insults Me Always by LivingHuman: 1:01am On Jun 17, 2017 |
habeny:See rhetorical question. Your upcoming marriage to that woman-beater is a LION. What do you do when you see one? Help yourself |
Re: My Fiancé Verbally Insults Me Always by dhardline(m): 1:02am On Jun 17, 2017 |
tosyne2much: This is so true bro. Nice one. 1 Like |
Re: My Fiancé Verbally Insults Me Always by Tominiola: 1:04am On Jun 17, 2017 |
ImaIma1: Na wa is she still with him? |
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