We all have our struggling days. Most wealthy people you know in the society today all had their struggling days; except you were born with a silver spoon. It is nothing to be ashamed of because as the Bible puts it: 'Do not despise the days of humble beginnings'. One true fact is that you won't even remember your struggling days when you finally attain success.

If you were born with wooden or no spoons at all, you need not despair. Success is not only achieved by physical strength; it also has to do with your mental strength. Your level of rational thinking matters a lot, for without it, your physical strength will be equivalent to pouring water into a basket. I believe you know what that means.

Below are some things you should avoid as a struggling bachelor:

1) BEER PARLORS/DRINKING JOINTS: It's not a bad idea to visit a bar for one or two bottles of drink occassionally (that's if you drink). What is killing is when you make it a habit to be there everyday to oblige your urge for alcohol! These spots are pocket-drainers for struggling guys. At the end of the day, you'll discover that you've not been able to meet most of your important needs. Why? Your habit is draining your meagre resources at the expense of self-development.

2) CALL GIRLS: Once you entangle yourself in this unfavourable market where deposits are allowed but no withdrawals, you can be completely compared to a fly that's entangled in a spider's web! If you spend N20,000 monthly on prostitutes and your monthly income is N40,000, my brother, your future is not brighter than the back of a cooking pot!

3) FINANCIAL WOMEN: (Apology to Phyno aka Eze Nnunu). If you can afford a phone of N280,000 for your girlfriend without waving, very fine. After all, we give in love. Bro, but not when you are struggling. There's a time for all things. Leave these set of people for those who are already comfortable, rich or have enough to throw around. Life is not and has never been a competition. You too will get there if you strive. Don't be fooled by flashy appearance. Women are created with brains too; they can work and take care of their needs. Don't kill yourself to make a woman look super fly while you are struggling to survive. It makes no sense, for tides and times come and go. Let whoever you are with know your present state. The good ones will encourage you but the materialistic ones...hmmm. That doesn't mean you should be stingy; give freely but let it be within your means. Give with no intention to receive.

4) COMPETITIVE LIFE: This has never been a helpful friend to struggling guys. What will it profit a struggling guy if he spends N2,500 for a bottle of beer in club, knowing fully well that the neighbourhood shops sell same for N200? The kids who spend lavishly right in the club or elsewhere trust their account balance. Trying to compete with them is useless. My brother, na you go still go house go cry! Regret is a personal thing. Nobody regrets with you Ogbeni, experience na the best teacher but to learn from anoda man own go make you escape paying the high tuition fee.

5) MULTIPLE AFFAIRS: Just like patronizing call-girls (Point 2 above), engaging yourself in multiple affairs as a struggling guy is a fatal blow that can slow your progress. Apart from wasting resources, you will become less focused. My brother, wetin you dey find go Sokoto dey inside your Shokoto o! Even if she's a 'village girl', you can 'package' her as far as you both love and understand each other. Look for an understanding and emotionally mature girl to date; she must also be engaged in something worthwhile. Stop running after these little slay queens! They'd rather prefer a yahoo-yahoo guy to you.

Thumbs up OP
On point...

LifeIsGuhd:

Meaning?

Rapmoney:
Meaning?

she was just booking, you for let her write first ,

lalanice:
she was just booking, you for let her write first ,

I haff hia you

IamKashyBaby:


# 3 tho...

If ur broke or struggling, why not encourage ur woman to wear NO WIGS/ WEAVE

This is the thing, a lot of african women forgets how beautiful their natural hair is..y'all dont need these crap and wrapped ur head for months with fake hair...

Lol! I'm a sucker for girls that keep low-cut. Especially when it's stylish and little tinted.

BiafranBushBoy:
Sex should top the list. it drains mental Energy outta you.

Gosh! Will you ever change?

LifeIsGuhd:
Thumbs up OP
On point...

Thank you, madam

Rapmoney:
Lol! I'm a sucker for girls that keep low-cut. Especially when it's stylish and little tinted.

I agree thats very seXXXy...especially when she gives u head..At least u dont have to worry pulling her fake hair when u nut in her mouth

Absolutely. I concur

IamKashyBaby:




I agree thats very seXXXy...especially when she gives u head..At least u dont have to worry pulling her fake hair when u nut in her mouth

Damn! You are spoilt

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RichieDaVinci01:
Ó make zenzze

Broke Boys Assemble!!

There's a difference between being broke and struggling. Life is in phases, boy.

Rapmoney:
There's a difference between being broke and struggling. Life is in phases, boy.

well okay you can move on now

Rapmoney:
Gosh! Will you ever change?

haha.
I was being serious na

no 6 as a struggling guy, you must stop bet9ja,, especially visual

Great post

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True talk

indodon:
no 6 as a struggling guy, you must stop bet9ja,, especially visual

Yeah, gambling don finish many guys.

Noted

7 have high ambitions not high taste

OP your points are extremely valid. Though it takes a whole lot of self discipline to adhere to them.

Back from hiatus, Brother? Welcome!

IamKashyBaby:


# 3 tho...

If ur broke or struggling, why not encourage ur woman to wear NO WIGS/ WEAVE

This is the thing, a lot of african women forgets how beautiful their natural hair is..y'all dont need these crap and wrapped ur head for months with fake hair...

Call it some type of complex thinking some oyinbo hair is better than theirs...I'm not surprised this is coming from you cuz you obviously know better.

No.5 is mostly the irresistible cheese on the mouse trap to most guys


But the break even must be having a chic that gives you more , if you must.

Stay Faithful.

Ok

You see that tin called wisdom ehn, its lacking in the lives of many-a-guy, especially when a woman is involved.
Solomon who had sampled every kinda punna known to man said it, :" 7 things baffle me, yet 8 is a misery... .....the way of a man with a woman"
It's an irony of life , cos it used to baffle me when my broke friends would come borrow money jus to host a babe who he just met a day ago or to go do short time at sharp corner.
As my Yoruba friends would say, "oro okunrin ati obinrin ehn, ko se Ro!"