Stevengerd:
If dem backward romancelander's most esp. girls no bash Op. Call me a bastard. officialdad make we mecudown deh watch as e go unfold

before nko. I am waiting for them, but seems nah reasonable people dey here.

Lalasticlala op has a point.

OfficialDad:


before nko. I am waiting for them, but seems nah reasonable people dey here.

Lalasticlala op has a point.

Yea. Op deh always make sense bro! Dem deh cum ooo

MissCokie:


I don't mean to insult you, but that was silly. You gave a girl 300k?, why.

She be my girlfriend den, so she carry that opportunity take suck me dry. Although i am way above that cash, but i felt sick for 2weeks .

OfficialDad:


She be my girlfriend den, so she carry that opportunity take suck me dry. Although i am way above that cash, but i felt sick for 2weeks .

Next time, give that money to a family member, since you're above that, they would appreciate you forever, and in case things goes bad, they will help you.

Stevengerd:
Yea. Op deh always make sense bro! Dem deh cum ooo

Lolz, make I dey watch. I don sight one person sef .

MissCokie:


Next time, give that money to a family member, since you're above that, they would appreciate you forever, and in case things goes bad, they will help you.

Thanks misscokie . I don note this advice.

OfficialDad:


Lolz, make I dey watch. I don sight one person sef .

Lol, naso. they are never api seeing good things. dem go soon start their E- Cry

To me, Miss cookie is 100% right. I can't sponsor a gal friend. If I have I can help u like I would help any other person boy or gal

MissCokie:


No woman is "proper" if she is still your girlfriend.

I swear down

MissCokie:


If the guy has no commitment with the lady, sponsoring her is just an added advantage for her, because their is 100% possibility that she would walk away.

yeah at least it should be very clear to both of them that they are going to get married and not on a gf and bf level

Stevengerd:
Lol, naso. they are never api seeing good things. dem go soon start their E- Cry

I dey watch.

zionmde:

yeah at least it should be very clear to both of them that they are going to get married and not on a gf and bf level

Yes. Investing in her at a gf stage would end up with heartbreak.

OfficialDad:

I dey watch.

Yea

raylord:
I swear down

So many guys make this same mistake, investing your hard earn money on a total stranger. Such act beats my imagination.

Its called love.

No one knows me here,so I'm just gonna say somethings I consider personal. My gf has some financial issues,her parents are not forthcoming,I try to offer any assistance I'm capable of. I do this not because I'm trying to keep her,I help because it's the right thing to do. Stupidity is you running down yourself and future just so your gf can smile. It's stupid wanting to impress her,but acceptable wanting to help her. And the stuffs I will do for my gf,I will also extend such to my good male friends,it's not only limited to her. My gf has helped me too in this our world,so why shouldn't I help her when the chips are down.

MissCokie:


I understand. But a lot of guys do that. Sponsoring a teen who is not your wife. We women are just insatiable.

LordKO:
@OP

Literally, where there's no agreement between a girl and boy that they would marry each other if they mutually remain loyal to each other throughout the cause of their dating period, with the normal accompany assistances from both parties towards each other, there's nothing wrong if a guy (vice versa) selflessly, conscientiously and altruistically sponsors his girlfriend's education or career, and still leave her to decide whom to marry between him and other suitors in the end. In this kind of scenario if the girl chooses another man to marry, I see no evil in her action - one who denied another free will is an evil personified.

However, where there's a mutual understanding that the boy (vice versa) is to sponsor the girl through school/career, so that in the end they would marry each other, then, the lady would sure be blamed if she reneged from such an arrangement in the end - so long as she wasn't cajoled into the relationship by the boy and also so long as the boy didn't give her reason to question his loyalty towards her in the cause of their courting period, because loyalty is like a two way traffic, its reciprocal. In this particular scenario, the boy shouldn't regret his action or have others crucify him, because s/he who betrayed you will always remain your slave till the end of time.

Personally, I have a maxim that says "betray me shame unto you, outsmart me shame unto me." I'm never afraid to stick out my neck fully to any cause I believe in. It will take only my fellow adventurers and reciprocity proponents to understand me better.

It could not have been said any better.

Your first pargraph is the proper way of showing help.

The second paragraph with the mutual understanding thingy is no more giving but a contract. Such should be dealt by a court i.e the boyfriend/girlfriend sign an agreement of "I help you, you marry me".

To cap it all, one of the biggest problems we have that is making Nigeria not progress today is self-centeredness. We enter government positions - we only want to help our families, we are blessed -we only want to help people we can benefit from in return, Boko haram is in Borno -what's my business with that as a Lagosian?

If you see how people risk their lives for strangers, bless people selflessly in some parts of the world you would be surprised.

@op, if you are blessed and can gallantly sponsor anyone who does not have the means, be it your boyfriend, stranger or what not, please do it. If everyone gives like this, watch the reduction in crime, the more patriotic people would be.... etc. If the table turns around though and you happen to be the one who needs help from who you have offered help before and there is no reciprocal, such is life. Move on!

@op, you should be putting up posts that would attract benevolence, not one that would spoil people's minds.

So no to broke gals

True

MissCokie:


insults don't really get to me.

I always love your topics. I love you misscokie.

The moment you are no more her taste after sponsoring her

illuminated93:
If I do anything for my gf or anyone,it's not really because I owe such person a duty or something, it's just because I'm the bigger person,and if I don't like,I won't do,no matter the noise.I don't do things for people because I expect a payback,that's a poverty mindset. But the idea is this, never allow emotional blackmail as a way of getting you to do stuffs

Your head dey dia joo.

Learn it the hard way.

uzoormah:
No matter how d love carry me reach..i no fit abeg..girls wey dia nash no dey stay one place..its better that her fada train her biko

I agree with d woman

Tell us say u no get money

Whatever good you do, if you are doing it because you're expecting any form of payback, then it should be stated in a legal and binding document.

If you're really doing good, there should be no expectation. Gf or wife.

True talk.

For real.women are corny

I concur

Change it to "she might leave you...."
Not everyone is an ingrate.

LordKO:


Dear, mind games is only for small-minded people. If I cannot be of goodness to a lady/person I termed a friend then, I have no reason keeping her close. Pretense isn't my thing. Nothing justifiably inhibits someone that has the wherewithal, from genuinely changing for good, the cause of people around him/her (blood relations and friends) simultaneously.

My previous submission stand.

You don't get it, how many friends do you have ?
Are they all at your level of financial capacity ?

There is a clear difference between helping a friend out in times of need
and taking up the role of a parent by sponsoring his/her education.

I am not against doing good to your fellow humans on a neutral ground
but when emotions are involved, one should steer clear usurping their
parental roles unless one do not care about the outcome, which is nothing
but a pretence to save face since nobody want to be a loser.

what if her skul fees is just 50k