AntiWailer:
Calm down for him.

He might be going through a lot and be forming Man.


He is under pressure. MAKE HIS D1CK HARD not HIS LIFE

I have same problem with my babe too, its like a prison where u cant stay and at same time still cant leave as well, a da y without quarel is like a strange day. We have been dating for 3years plus, last year June I had an issue thats eating me up till date. U just made it known to me that I was actually the cause, she hardly see beyond my smiles. I would have love to talk to you more about it, u seem like someone who understands. I love her and she does too.

MistadeRegal:
I'm walking awayyyyy... I don't want trouble in my life... I'm walking awayyyyy... To have a better day....
(Walk out of thread....) (Returns to thread.....)
Sister, what if he's testing you?

testing.. 7years??

jbaby265:
hello house please help a sister out.. my relationship of 6 to 7 years is about to crash..
I Love my man and he loves me too.. he stands by me in all times and I do the same for him too in fact our relationship is a typical example of grassroots relationship.. but recently I'm beginning to get frustrated at his attitude or should I say our attitude towards each other.. which is why I resorted to you guys.. this is a faceless forum so I feel comfortable to share my worries..

in recent years I found out that our quarrels, dispute, misunderstanding and bitterness has drastically increased and it bothers me alot.. he quarrel more often this days and can even stay up-to a month without communication.. he complains about everything I do and that's me angry.. AM NOT A SAINT HERE cos he complains of my non Challentless too.. but this our constant quarrels and misunderstanding is driving crazy.. I've cried and ask GOd to dissolve us if it's not his will for us to get married rather than us fighting all the time. HONESTLY AM CONFUSED PLEASE YOUR ADVICE IS NEEDED. I love him and he loves me but we fight a lot.. our wedding is Sept ( still don't believe is possible though)..

Its d final temptation!! Weather it through. And u guys will be aiite! Happy married life in advance.

jbaby265:
hello house please help a sister out.. my relationship of 6 to 7 years is about to crash..
I Love my man and he loves me too.. he stands by me in all times and I do the same for him too in fact our relationship is a typical example of grassroots relationship.. but recently I'm beginning to get frustrated at his attitude or should I say our attitude towards each other.. which is why I resorted to you guys.. this is a faceless forum so I feel comfortable to share my worries..

in recent years I found out that our quarrels, dispute, misunderstanding and bitterness has drastically increased and it bothers me alot.. he quarrel more often this days and can even stay up-to a month without communication.. he complains about everything I do and that's me angry.. AM NOT A SAINT HERE cos he complains of my non Challentless too.. but this our constant quarrels and misunderstanding is driving crazy.. I've cried and ask GOd to dissolve us if it's not his will for us to get married rather than us fighting all the time. HONESTLY AM CONFUSED PLEASE YOUR ADVICE IS NEEDED. I love him and he loves me but we fight a lot.. our wedding is Sept ( still don't believe is possible though)..

All this is normal after dating for so long. Like I told someone, we tend to take each other for granted after a while.

If as I believe, he wasn't like this prior, then some thing might be going on with him.

Could it be the stress of the wedding ?, Could it be fear ?, Worry or concern ?.

Whatever it is, it's left to you to find a way to talk to your partner and let him now how his actions and recent behaviours has been hard for you to take.

Peace.

Dat time you left me shebi I told you sey you go regret am and cry come back. We discussed your issue at our coven last December. #itsourworko

jbaby265:
hello house please help a sister out.. my relationship of 6 to 7 years is about to crash..
I Love my man and he loves me too.. he stands by me in all times and I do the same for him too in fact our relationship is a typical example of grassroots relationship.. but recently I'm beginning to get frustrated at his attitude or should I say our attitude towards each other.. which is why I resorted to you guys.. this is a faceless forum so I feel comfortable to share my worries..

in recent years I found out that our quarrels, dispute, misunderstanding and bitterness has drastically increased and it bothers me alot.. he quarrel more often this days and can even stay up-to a month without communication.. he complains about everything I do and that's me angry.. AM NOT A SAINT HERE cos he complains of my non Challentless too.. but this our constant quarrels and misunderstanding is driving crazy.. I've cried and ask GOd to dissolve us if it's not his will for us to get married rather than us fighting all the time. HONESTLY AM CONFUSED PLEASE YOUR ADVICE IS NEEDED. I love him and he loves me but we fight a lot.. our wedding is Sept ( still don't believe is possible though)..

CONTINUE FIGHTING

jbaby265:



money yes it might be true.. cos my sis inlaw said I will know the true colours of a guy when he is rich. but hmmm

Stop "hmming" my dear and work on yourself too.

all u need is prayers.avoid raising issues.be patient with him.when pple i have seen are planning wedding it is usually like this.be positive

what? seven years in a relationship? Dammm!! that's a long time to be in a relationship, who the hell want to smell the same Vagina, touch the same breasts or smell the same breath for 7 fuvking years? take my Advice move on to the next man! it's not marraige is it? even marriages doesn't last that long thesedays.

what does relationship mean Anyway?
have sex with as many men or woman as you can YOLO!
i ve only had sex with just 156 women since i became an adult and i am still trying to see if i can exceed that number, you can do the same. Ciao!

A BROKEN RELATIONSHIP



IS FAR BETTER THAN,



A BROKEN MARRIAGE.


MY sister did i hear u say u guys fight a lot?



Pls you better share d grace and end it there.
I pray u get someone better, but dont carry excess baggage of your PAST relationships into a new one.


TAKE sometime before entering a new one.
MY suggestions though.

If u guys were having steady sex in those seven years, then he is tired already. All d excitement is gone, nothing to look forward to again. Na see finish remain. But if there was none, d guy would have held on like goal keeper.

It's a difficult situation, but tell him straight to his face in a gentle way that u guys should call it quits. His response or reaction will let u know what to do.

jbaby265:
hello house please help a sister out.. my relationship of 6 to 7 years is about to crash..
I Love my man and he loves me too.. he stands by me in all times and I do the same for him too in fact our relationship is a typical example of grassroots relationship.. but recently I'm beginning to get frustrated at his attitude or should I say our attitude towards each other.. which is why I resorted to you guys.. this is a faceless forum so I feel comfortable to share my worries..

in recent years I found out that our quarrels, dispute, misunderstanding and bitterness has drastically increased and it bothers me alot.. he quarrel more often this days and can even stay up-to a month without communication.. he complains about everything I do and that's me angry.. AM NOT A SAINT HERE cos he complains of my non Challentless too.. but this our constant quarrels and misunderstanding is driving crazy.. I've cried and ask GOd to dissolve us if it's not his will for us to get married rather than us fighting all the time. HONESTLY AM CONFUSED PLEASE YOUR ADVICE IS NEEDED. I love him and he loves me but we fight a lot.. our wedding is Sept ( still don't believe is possible though)..

you guys are just tired of each other. Difficult as it might sound, you guys should take a breather, explore a little...please postpone that wedding or you will have a fight filled and boring marriage.
I dated my hubby for as long and believe me, we both started getting so irritated with each other. With the fight fight we still loved each other. We took a mutual decision to break up, we thought it wasnt working. Few years down d line we found each other again and got married easy. It was like falling in love all over again. Please don't rush anything, a qualrrelso.e marriage isn't worth it at all. If you guys are meant to be you will be and if not you each will find someone better

6 to 7yr great mistake. If a guy didn't make afford of seeing your parents within a month of dating, such a relationship is disastrous, worst than BOKO HARAM

@jbaby265. It would have helped us understand the situation better if you had listed some things that led to your fights.

I don't have the whole story, yeah, but I can deduce from your writeup and largely from experience that he's getting fed up. It may not be deliberate, but a part of him is already disconnecting from the relationship. That's the reason you're fighting more often than not. When you stop loving a person or they are looking for an exit out of a relationship, the littlest of things becomes a catalyst for odd behaviour.

I've been there before. I fell quickly out of "love" with a guy I had once dated. Being in the relationship wasn't settling well with me anymore. I'd get pissed if he wrote a sentence and didn't put a full stop. I'd want to pick up a fight when he asks me to pick up my ringing phone that I've been ignoring. I knew I was reacting that way because I was tired of the relationship; but I didn't seem to have sufficient reasons to break up. And somehow, too, I must have been expecting him to get as irrational as I had been so I'd latch onto that and use it as a justifiable reason to call it quits. Lol...Smh.

So, my dear. observe the traits very well. Your fiancé may be tired. I'm pretty sure he doesn't even want that wedding to happen in September anymore, but he just doesn't know how to say it.

Search yourself; too. Be truthful to yourself? What are you not doing right?

AnodaIT:
The two of you need a spark

Find out if he is under pressure from work, probably the impending wedding plan may be making him to stress out himself to met his target

Above all, stop talking back at him when angry, long-term relationships tends to make the woman feel more comfortable talking back at her man more often.

Men eat respect, give him an overdose, forget that you know him in and out
Little things like greeting him in the morning, kissing when he is leaving for work, surprise him with a special dinner, hold the water dish while he washes his hands for food

Just do those things you did 6 years ago. Get your man back

nice advice, always keep quite when your man is angry, go for a counselling

It is very possible you guys are not really meant for each other ...you (you both) have come to see other people that posses 'better' qualities but you think 6-7 years is too much to throw away, hence the frustration. Both of you may be trapped. You feel you are both entitled to each other...a case of 'he/she has invested too much in this relationship, so I feel sorry for him/her' hence the frustration is taken out the partner. If the scenario I am trying to paint sounds familiar, I have been there before...hanging on because I felt her heart was going to be turn in beats if I let her go. You should not feel sorry for him, If you don't see yourself very happy as his wife. It's better so save yourselves a lifelong pain now. It hurts but you will be fine in the end.

OR it could be that one of you is distracted, there's a side chick/boo somewhere. If na you get side boo, abeg let am go..these guys are masters at plugging girls off their destined husbands, and leaving them in the cold.
my 1 cent.

jbaby265:
hello house please help a sister out.. my relationship of 6 to 7 years is about to crash..
I Love my man and he loves me too.. he stands by me in all times and I do the same for him too in fact our relationship is a typical example of grassroots relationship.. but recently I'm beginning to get frustrated at his attitude or should I say our attitude towards each other.. which is why I resorted to you guys.. this is a faceless forum so I feel comfortable to share my worries..

in recent years I found out that our quarrels, dispute, misunderstanding and bitterness has drastically increased and it bothers me alot.. he quarrel more often this days and can even stay up-to a month without communication.. he complains about everything I do and that's me angry.. AM NOT A SAINT HERE cos he complains of my non Challentless too.. but this our constant quarrels and misunderstanding is driving crazy.. I've cried and ask GOd to dissolve us if it's not his will for us to get married rather than us fighting all the time. HONESTLY AM CONFUSED PLEASE YOUR ADVICE IS NEEDED. I love him and he loves me but we fight a lot.. our wedding is Sept ( still don't believe is possible though)..

Madam, pls first correct urself. God did not join u in the first place.
Back to advice, I think is becoming tired of u. its best u pick ur pieces and move on

ipobarecriminals:
fnt wait till both una kill unaself b4 u kal it quit..The handwriting is on the wall"znur "if u think thank u can weather the storm/mend fence,ur case nah OYO STATE.Leave dat abusive relationship b4 God leave u.He's got sumbody else,just looking for a way to KICK u out afta eaten. ur ponmo sotey and find it ddistasteful. Look elsewhere

Are you married?.
I don't think this gonna solve the problem..Misunderstanding in a marriage is inevitable and moreso we are all born of different characters.
A marriage institution isn't an easy one,it requires wisdom,knowledge and understanding.
I always advise married couples to erase the word DIVORCE in their marriage because it will only make things worse generally.
May God continue to bless the married couples on this thread and also give us the strength to keep our marriage.

It will be unfair to judge the guy without hearing from him...commenters need to be careful before accusing wrongly.

In this kind of scenario, the best is for the 2 to sit down and talk about.,all fears must be do away, it is either u come together or not, whatever it is d case, life goes on.

In general, somethings must not be lacking in any relationship..1).communication 2).submission 3)respect 4).love and 5).dreams.

When last did you both talk about your dreams?. Respect is not by kneeling or d use of sir or Ma. It is giving honour to whom it is due. Relationship without communication is dead on arrival, their must be constant form of communication and reasoning...

If u both want to call it quit,their must be a reason, it is that reason u need to talk about and base your decision on.

my 2 naira opinion on this..
the spark in you guy's relationship is about to die..
if one of you don't take the bull by the horn.
best advice both of you should see a relationship counselor
the outcome of it will determine your next step..
I pray it comes out well.
a 7 year relationship down the drain aint pleasant to the ear

jbaby265:
hello house please help a sister out.. my relationship of 6 to 7 years is about to crash..
I Love my man and he loves me too.. he stands by me in all times and I do the same for him too in fact our relationship is a typical example of grassroots relationship.. but recently I'm beginning to get frustrated at his attitude or should I say our attitude towards each other.. which is why I resorted to you guys.. this is a faceless forum so I feel comfortable to share my worries..

in recent years I found out that our quarrels, dispute, misunderstanding and bitterness has drastically increased and it bothers me alot.. he quarrel more often this days and can even stay up-to a month without communication.. he complains about everything I do and that's me angry.. AM NOT A SAINT HERE cos he complains of my non Challentless too.. but this our constant quarrels and misunderstanding is driving crazy.. I've cried and ask GOd to dissolve us if it's not his will for us to get married rather than us fighting all the time. HONESTLY AM CONFUSED PLEASE YOUR ADVICE IS NEEDED. I love him and he loves me but we fight a lot.. our wedding is Sept ( still don't believe is possible though)..

I think he his depressed. He his going through something serious and most time,people that go through such wouldn't want to share it with anyone but keep it to themselves. For example, I am going through a lot too now and it's only God that can See Me through. In fact, someone else would have committed suicide if they go through half of what I'm going through now and the funny thing is that I can't share my problem with anyone not even my fiancee. I transfer sometimes such attitude to my girl but I can tell u that I don't show 10% of what I'm passing through and just pretending as if all is well. I'm planning on seeing my Bishop soon and I hope life can get back to me and live normally back. So look at him very well and seat him down. Ask politely what the problem is and if he his reluctant, let him be but let him know that whatever he his passing through is affecting u too and that u both are in it together. It is well with u my sister and it is well with your relationship. Don't let people talk him down and don't listen to negative advice here. He can't be a bad person but he his going through something. Trust me, he his

jbaby265:



money yes it might be true.. cos my sis inlaw said I will know the true colours of a guy when he is rich. but hmmm

Have you sat down with him to discuss about this?

You sounded apprehensive and doubtful.talk with him and clear your doubt

sorry my dear, I think you just made the wrong move. nothing here will help, instead they will give you more reasons to break up.

AnodaIT:
The two of you need a spark

Find out if he is under pressure from work, probably the impending wedding plan may be making him to stress out himself to met his target

Above all, stop talking back at him when angry, long-term relationships tends to make the woman feel more comfortable talking back at her man more often.

Men eat respect, give him an overdose, forget that you know him in and out
Little things like greeting him in the morning, kissing when he is leaving for work, surprise him with a special dinner, hold the water dish while he washes his hands for food

Just do those things you did 6 years ago. Get your man back

Very simple and practical. This is the way to go, OP.

gen2lpat:
I think the relationship started at a very young age and then, both of you value love more. Understanding is key in every lasting relationship. As you grow, you have to accommodate some changes and those you find disturbing should be discussed in person. Nothing kills the zeal of a man that love you than nonchalant attitude. Stop faking nonchalant when you care. Both of you have so much to talk about in person.

thanks dear

babra19:

My dear this is devil at work
if you can yield to my advise it will work
STOP ANY COMMUNICATIONS WITH HIM
Don't be the first to send messages or to call
continue with what makes you happy
If he is the right person he will definitely come back to you without wasting time
get closer to God....he will review so many things to you.
remember marriage is a life time institution...if you enter you don enter be that.
one needs to be careful
Good luck...

thanks

madridguy:
Visit a relationship Counselor with your guy.

Best advice

Wash ur hand in the sink

genghiskhan007:


I hope u 2 are not fornicating
Abstain from pride, sauciness and put God first in the relationship
if u 2 have ever indulged in fornication, get on ya knees and ask God for fornication
Go and buy MISTAKES SINGLES MAKE IN COURTSHIP BY D.K. Olukoya
Use it and pray with it
Ask God to open ya eyes to see whether he is ya God-ordained husband
Sit down with him and request that he tells you your shortcomings, so you can make amends

Stay blessed
[Don't make yaself look desperate 4 marriage]

thank you so much

Live goes on. Just went through almost same but am still here..

hammer2010:
Nothing keeps a man emotionally unstable than not being financially capable


OP, trust me, if he aint doing so good financially, it is going to have a negative impact on him. So please, be his peace. Try as much as you can to tolerate his "nonsense" when ever he starts acting up. When ever he is calm, talk things out with him. But by all means, BE HIS PEACE!

this one just put a smile on my face.. you spoke like a prophet abi psychologist. thanks