TheUpsetGirl1:


I refuse to believe that.

Though I exaggerated but he is a grown ass man sha

TheUpsetGirl1:



it's useless arguing with you.

I think religion should marry her then.
after paying huge bride price and footing traditional marriage you can wait till after your wedding before having sex.

some people are just a disgrace to African culture, I wonder why the so-called Westerners don't steal our cultures too.


please don't quote me. you're reasoning like a kid
bye

You're as ignorant as fck.


Hypocrites claiming to love traditions. You love traditions so much, yet won't allow a proper Yoruba man marry five fives.

People like Alaafin of Oyo are the only kind of people permitted to talk about tradition. If you can't share your man with 4 other women, then shut the fck up when core traditionalists are speaking.

Stick with the borrowed white tradition that gave you a voice.

Like I said, if a woman decides to close her thighs until a man tells her "I do" to the White Customs, then let her be. Meanwhile, it takes only 45k to say I do in a White Court. If he can spend 750k on your gluttony lazy traditions, 45k is insignificant if he loves her woman.

Acidosis:


If you can give your man sex because he spent N700k on aso ebi, groundnuts, palm oil, goats, etc., then should as well give him sex when he buys you an iPhone.
Religious factors are the major reasons women deny men of sex. So a woman can decide to wait until she meets her religious obligations. It is her choice.

However, what I'm saying to ignorant minds like yours is this: that thing you call traditional marriage is a total waste of time, because it is not recognized. If I spend 700k on your bride price today, I can wake up tomorrow denying ever meeting you. You don't have any proof apart from the unrecognized photoshop pictures and empty bottles of ogogoro and goats.

Guy calm down, ur blood too dey hot,

Traditional marriage is recognized in Nigeria, I do agree that if u stop at only the Traditional marriage rites ,then you are subject to the laws governing it. But to outrightly
throw it away is a no no. No church in Nigeria even the firebrand ones will perform church marriage until you have done ur trad,dat in itself speaks volumes.
the question is can one have sex after trad marriage, I believe is yes if u decide to wait till u finish all other ceremonies, agree with your partner.

xynerise:

Acidosis is somebody's grandfather o

I never born oo

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Seeking permission to have sex after traditional marriage is just one hell of a senseless and hypocritical move. A lot of people have been having sex before introduction and some on their first few weeks of dating. Yet, they got married and have a happy home.

There is no attached consequence(s) for having sex before white wedding when you have already done the Trad-marriage. The wedding at Cana Jesus attended was a traditional wedding. The white wedding we see in our society today is the Western Traditional marriage..but trust Africans na. They are like a student who copied answers from another in an exam and was given the best student in the class.

Acidosis:





I never born oo

You mean legitimately?

myk2mic:


Guy calm down, ur blood too dey hot,

Traditional marriage is recognized in Nigeria, I do agree that if u stop at only the Traditional marriage rites ,then you are subject to the laws governing it. But to outrightly
throw it away is a no no. No church in Nigeria even the firebrand ones will perform church marriage until you have done ur trad,dat in itself speaks volumes.
the question is can one have sex after trad marriage, I believe is yes if u decide to wait till u finish all other ceremonies, agree with your partner.

I honestly get the views. I'm strictly against denying a man sex because of traditions that have gone into extinction. Religious reasons are the only permitted factors to deny a man sex in my books.

There is no point waiting until 750k is spent on paparazzi before having sex with your man. Besides, sex is a two way thing, if a woman chooses to wait until a contractual agreement is done, then so be it. Unless the man has some "traditional motives", 45k would not be a problem after spending 750 on photographs.

xynerise:

You mean legitimately?

both ways

TheUpsetGirl1:



you're still a kid. grow up

if you think the traditional marriage is of no effect, don't do it.
just go for only wedding.
nonsense

Lol since ure the so called adult why don't u just do wat u like or prefer u don't need us to give u permission or validation.

girls that wear heels � to events or church and come back with slippers don't last in a marriage. please, don't argue because I know things

TheUpsetGirl1:


I refuse to believe that.

For as long as you continue to look at how much was spent, you won't get the point. The good and right things don't always cost much, but like the typical Naija girl that you are, you've probably been wired to believe the higher the '000s, the better.

If the brother is desperately in need of sex, what he should have done was to conduct a "silent in-house" marital rites without calling the whole world to witness what is obviously not legally binding. Thereafter, take your woman to a court and seal the deal. As far as that is done, you can even sue the woman for denying you sex and consequently demand a refund.

What you spent on "traditional wedding" does not count. When you realize that the good things of life don't always come at high cost, you will find peace and fulfilment at all times.


Cheers

TheUpsetGirl1:
I'm just confused.
is there anything wrong in having sex after traditional marriage?
The weird thing is some people especially ladies usually say stuffs like; wait till after wedding, honeymoon.

so is the traditional marriage not a marriage?
if you think it's useless why did you agree to traditional marriage in the first place?

After spending a lot of money in paying for bride price and the marriage ,you still refuse to have sex.
If you were to be in that man's shoes, won't you leave?

Some ladies also forget that wedding is supposed to be footed by the parents of the bride, when Africans want to copy things they only copy the part they think is favourable to them and leave the other part.
Just as the wedding system was copied, in the countries it was copied from the parents of the bride foot the wedding but in Africa the man is expected to foot the traditional marriage and the wedding, isn't that insane?


to my question; what's Wrong with sex after traditional marriage??

Nothing is wrong with sex after traditional wedding

TheUpsetGirl1:
I'm just confused.
is there anything wrong in having sex after traditional marriage?
The weird thing is some people especially ladies usually say stuffs like; wait till after wedding, honeymoon.

so is the traditional marriage not a marriage?
if you think it's useless why did you agree to traditional marriage in the first place?

After spending a lot of money in paying for bride price and the marriage ,you still refuse to have sex.
If you were to be in that man's shoes, won't you leave?

Some ladies also forget that wedding is supposed to be footed by the parents of the bride, when Africans want to copy things they only copy the part they think is favourable to them and leave the other part.
Just as the wedding system was copied, in the countries it was copied from the parents of the bride foot the wedding but in Africa the man is expected to foot the traditional marriage and the wedding, isn't that insane?


to my question; what's Wrong with sex after traditional marriage??

Go to Question Nigeria www.questionnigeria.com and ask the question..... Thank me later

Marshalxv:
my contribution.

highpriestess:
our people don't respect our culture anymore,they have placed more value on foreign culture forgrtting that both white wedding and our traditional marriage are the same thing in different ways.

brilliant

Acidosis:


For as long as you continue to look at how much was spent, you won't get the point. The good and right things don't always cost much, but like the typical Naija girl that you are, you've probably been wired to believe the higher the '000s, the better.

If the brother is desperately in need of sex, what he should have done was to conduct a "silent in-house" marital rites without calling the whole world to witness what is obviously not legally binding. Thereafter, take your woman to a court and seal the deal. As far as that is done, you can even sue the woman for denying you sex and consequently demand a refund.

What you spent on "traditional wedding" does not count. When you realize that the good things of life don't always come at high cost, you will find peace and fulfilment at all times.


Cheers

so when did court marriage turn to a spiritual stuff?

dude since traditional marriage is useless to you, you shouldn't bother doing it.

you should just proceed to your wedding and court marriage whatsoever.

There's absolutely nothing wrong with it, In fact no church will wed you without payment of Bride price because that's the marriage itself, but if you want to get married in church adhere to the rules of the church you want to get married in.
Lobatan.
"White wedding is feeding of people who aren't hungry, and impressing people who are not seeing you."

TheUpsetGirl1:


so when did court marriage turn to a spiritual stuff?

dude since traditional marriage is useless to you, you shouldn't bother doing it.

you should just proceed to your wedding and court marriage whatsoever.

Paying the family rites and dowry is not useless. Asking your Father in Law to give her daughter to you in matrimony is not useless. The only useless thing about traditional marriage is the extravagance and ceremonial conducts that appear to be a repetition of what is to come in the church and reception. Why do we have to buy a special aso ebi for traditional wedding and another for white? What is the essence of making a traditional wedding cake and another for white? Isn't the cake concept a white culture in the first place? Who taught the African man how to bake?

As regards the sex thing, you're considering the moral aspect of this issue; but I'm more concerned about the legal aspect. In law, morality is hardly defined (ask any lawyer) so it is best to go the legal way if you must demand sex. Like I said earlier, the traditional weddings we do nowadays are not legally binding. It doesn't mean traditionally wedded couples can't enjoy their marriage. It doesn't mean they can't sleep with each other. All I am saying is simple: 750k is not enough reason to prove that you're legally married to someone.

Nothing wrong with sex after traditional marriage. In short sef d traditional marriage is d real marriage. Any pastor that tries to tell me i must not touch my wife after d traditional wedding is looking for my trouble.

TheUpsetGirl1:



not okay... I'm only talking about sex after the main traditional marriage.
some ladies will still be saying let's wait till after wedding.
so if the traditional marriage is of no effect why did they agree to it in the first place?
if they were men, won't they leave?

U have a point ...

lefulefu:
Nothing wrong with sex after traditional marriage. In short sef d traditional marriage is d real marriage. Any pastor that tries to tell me i must not touch my wife after d traditional wedding is looking for my trouble.

Even before seff
Tomorrow they will create topic crying how they eventually got married and found out not sexually compatible, saw one saying her husband last a min, another nit satisfied .. guess it’s divorce next

Lalas247:


Even before seff
Tomorrow they will create topic crying how they eventually got married and found out not sexually compatible, saw one saying her husband last a min, another nit satisfied .. guess it’s divorce next

i talk yesterday that a virgin's worst nightmare is getting married to an impotent. There are lots of younger with sexual problems.their equipment no dey gree work again. Could be na deadly wicked STD we dem no gree treat na scatter their down there or dem dey chronically diabetic. Now how would a virgin feel after keeping her womanhood for such a man,fantasiszing on how the weddinnight will be... Now on d wedding night she strip for d man ..then romance the man but d tin no gree work.she use her hand hold d tin but the tin still look lifeless in her hand...now tell me what is she going to tell the pastor. Double kasala for one virgin.

lefulefu:
i talk yesterday that a virgin's worst nightmare is getting married to an impotent. There are lots of younger with sexual problems.their equipment no dey gree work again. Could be na deadly wicked STD we dem no gree treat na scatter their down there or dem dey chronically diabetic. Now how would a virgin feel after keeping her womanhood for such a man,fantasiszing on how the weddinnight will be... Now on d wedding night she strip for d man ..then romance the man but d tin no gree work.she use her hand hold d tin but the tin still look lifeless in her hand...now tell me what is she going to tell the pastor. Double kasala for one virgin.

Lol haha lefu no kill me abeg ...
Too bad .. but at least after traditional they can do the needful ..after all that’s how it was done back in the old days

Lalas247:


Lol haha lefu no kill me abeg ...
Too bad .. but at least after traditional they can do the needful ..after all that’s how it was done back in the old days

it depends sha. There are some very religious couples who believe say na white wedding be the real wedding...hence dem no go do d do after d trado wedding until d white wedding. But there are some men with very stubborn moms who won't hear any of it dat d man must wait after wedding to do d do. Some mothers even insist dat their son must have sex with d wife to be even before any wedding so as to know if d woman is fertile. Wetin important sha is that both parties should be honest with each other.

highpriestess:
our people don't respect our culture anymore,they have placed more value on foreign culture forgrtting that both white wedding and our traditional marriage are the same thing in different ways.

... So on point.I wonder why our people are so ignorant of what you ve just said.

Lalas247:

U have a point ...

ukwu babe, you can have sex whenever you like oh..make your ukwu no go reduce

lefulefu:
it depends sha. There are some very religious couples who believe say na white wedding be the real wedding...hence dem no go do d do after d trado wedding until d white wedding. But there are some men with very stubborn moms who won't hear any of it dat d man must wait after wedding to do d do. Some mothers even insist dat their son must have sex with d wife to be even before any wedding so as to know if d woman is fertile. Wetin important sha is that both parties should be honest with each other.

any lady who feels wedding is the real marriage shouldn't bother to do traditional marriage..
she should just go ahead with the wedding and forget about the trad. since it's useless


lemme see if her family won't disown her

lefulefu:
Nothing wrong with sex after traditional marriage. In short sef d traditional marriage is d real marriage. Any pastor that tries to tell me i must not touch my wife after d traditional wedding is looking for my trouble.

no pastor says such....
nobody cares about that, and no church cleric is going to ask you stupid questions like have you had sex before?

it's rare, even if, if I slap that mouth eh you'll resign

Acidosis:


Paying the family rites and dowry is not useless. Asking your Father in Law to give her daughter to you in matrimony is not useless. The only useless thing about traditional marriage is the extravagance and ceremonial conducts that appear to be a repetition of what is to come in the church and reception. Why do we have to buy a special aso ebi for traditional wedding and another for white? What is the essence of making a traditional wedding cake and another for white? Isn't the cake concept a white culture in the first place? Who taught the African man how to bake?

As regards the sex thing, you're considering the moral aspect of this issue; but I'm more concerned about the legal aspect. In law, morality is hardly defined (ask any lawyer) so it is best to go the legal way if you must demand sex. Like I said earlier, the traditional weddings we do nowadays are not legally binding. It doesn't mean traditionally wedded couples can't enjoy their marriage. It doesn't mean they can't sleep with each other. All I am saying is simple: 750k is not enough reason to prove that you're legally married to someone.

you've comprehension issues, I'm not talking about how traditional marriages are legally binding or whatsoever.

you read the title of the topic; what's wrong with sex after marriage?

that's the title not all this trash you're saying.

and for your nonsense talk, how many people have sued their spouses because their spouses refused sex?


you must be dreaming.
so because you did some court marriage shít you think a lady can't deny her husband sex whenever she likes ?

keep deceiving yourself