LivingFree:


Unless the man has £100k for court fees... The system in the west favours the mother. Where is all this money for psychology assessments coming from?

The reason we have more single mums is because it is sometimes EASIER to be a single mum than to be in a relationship that doesn't work for YOU, not the child But the MUM. It is expensive and soul shattering for the man so to save his money and health, many walk away.

Yes I agree with you that a good number of women who are economically empowered prefer single motherhood as against dealing with the stress of a non-working relationship.

lalasticlala this is an educative post. kindly move to FP

edoman2016:

No man will abandon a good and loving wife to become a single mother. Most single mothers are feminist. They are arrogant, rude and unsubmissive to their husbands. They are full of troubles in marriages.

Even Bible supports a man to run away from a troublesome wife and sleep peacefully on a tree.

and who told you all those trash you said there ? how many single mothers have you come in contact with..?

Run away and sleep under a tree, caught me

edoman2016:

No man will abandon a good and loving wife to become a single mother. Most single mothers are feminist. They are arrogant, rude and unsubmissive to their husbands. They are full of troubles in marriages.

Even Bible supports a man to run away from a troublesome wife and sleep peacefully on a tree.

for.me,i am ripe for marriage, but not yet married cuz I gat no job yet..

edoman2016:
Feminism is the major reason for increase in single mothers in our society. Most ladies nowadays have bad attitude and not ready to be submissive to their husbands. The resulting effect is divorce that produces single mothers.

Let us hear word are the men themselves ready to love their wives.Why the blame game so men do not contribute to the divorce rate abi? because na only women marry And it is only women that make a marriage work or is it only feminist that divorce?Coming with baseless statistics that majority of our single mothers are feminist.

airmirthd1:
when u rush into marriage, you rush out. This is so rampant

I realy do not think marriage has anything to do with a woman being a single mother.

Because our ladies mother(murder) their husbands maka ego!

edoman2016:
Feminism is the major reason for increase in single mothers in our society. Most ladies nowadays have bad attitude and not ready to be submissive to their husbands. The resulting effect is divorce that produces single mothers.

You just said my mind... U'll see dem arguing with you now cos dey it's d true. Y would a female think she has equal rights with her husband

airmirthd1:
when u rush into marriage, you rush out. This is so rampant

This is not about marriage dear. Most of the single mothers you come across were not even married in the first place.

Many ladies out dere now, wat dey think is bear a child n dey don't want to knw wat d outcome will be... Most of dis guys who shld perform a fathering role aren't close to ready. After all, d reality will now surface. Initially, lust have crave their so calling love forget dat d outcome is not a child play.

chillychill:



You just said my mind... U'll see dem arguing with you now cos dey it's d true. Y would a female think she has equal rights with her husband

Maybe because she is a human being and has constitutional rights.Mind you not every relationship is stereotypically defined some people do practice egalitarian relationships.Neyoor the quote applies to you.

Pavore9:


What is your personal definition of feminism?

A man who fathers a child and disappears from the scene because of fear of playing the role of a father to his offspring, what can you attribute that to?

Feminism wants women to have the right to be whatever they chose. It wants women to have power over their own lives and bodies. It wants women not to feel lucky for being given and allowed things they are entitled to in the first place. Feminism wants women not to have to censor their dreams or fine tune their ambitions so as not to be criticized or maligned.
In pidgin, Feminism jus wan make woman sef dey fit chuk mouth and hand too. Make dem sef no send.

Back to the thread, Feminism is not actually the problem. Feminism doesn't have problem, feminists are.

Because the mum and dad we have now are Shisha mum and dad Clubbing mum and dad Science student mum and dad

I. Have you taken note that the girls are mostly better employed. I live in Lagos and work on VI, most brand new cars are driven by ladies. With this financial emancipation comes the courage to choose between having a dependent baby or having a semi-dependent husband.
2. The allure of sex without responsibility.
3. I know a bank, where a lot of its unmarried very senior female staff are single mothers. Smart women don't loss on all sides. They have a good career but a bad biological time. They acknowledge they don't have the time before menopause kicks in and so while still 'believing God' for the knight in shining armour, they help themselves to a pregnancy or two

single moda thread again. Why dey nor go be single moda when they'll not listen to their parents.

Our men are irresponsible and the women are not ready to endure in thick and thin.

ImaIma1:
Most of these men are too proud and believe that submitting to a man means he has to control their lives. Many hide under the guise of submission and treat the woman like she is nothing.
There has to be a meeting point.

Erm... I believe you wanted to say that most men are chauvinistic?

Ladyhippolyta88:
Maybe because she is a human being and has constitutional rights.Mind you not every relationship is stereotypically defined some people do practice egalitarian relationships.Neyoor the quote applies to you.

Lol! Just one out of ten egalitarian relationships work out. I really do not like to debate this issue.

Wait, does feminism contradict with African morals and traditions or not?

Because more women are desperate enough to try to tie a man down with pregnancy. Fewer men are succumbing to that trick
Because women are no longer pro active with contraception, gullible in the belief that it is "our pregnancy" when the guy does not have an agreement with you. It's your body, your future, your life that are more impacted than his . Why do skin to skin when he has not put a ring on it?

edoman2016:
Feminism is the major reason for increase in single mothers in our society. Most ladies nowadays have bad attitude and not ready to be submissive to their husbands. The resulting effect is divorce that produces single mothers.

ceriously?!,feminism! nah nah nah,nigerian aint reach dat level yet.thanks to religion,most gals think its normal to be submissive.a lot of gals sef wud tell u chimamanda adichie is not normal or ask if she is the boss in her home?

Neyoor:



Lol! Just one out of ten egalitarian relationships work out. I really do not like to debate this issue.

Wait, does feminism contradict with African morals and traditions or not?

Where did you get such statistics?(your first statement)Well I am liberal and progressive in ideology so I won't pretend to form African.I am African by race does not mean I behave like an African in person and I can never support or be a part of any African tradition that treats women like second class citizens.So I am grateful to the people who brought in the idea of democracy,liberalism and the age of enlightenment.

ImaIma1:


Most of these men are too proud and believe that submitting to a man means he has to control their lives.
Many hide under the guise of submission and treat the woman like she is nothing.
There has to be a meeting point.

Spotted. God did not see the meeting point while making the arrangement for a peaceful home.Na una go tire.

Provabz:
Please I've this thing that have been bothering me and I'll like the house to help me with some reasonable answers..
'Why do we have a lot of single mothers in our current society '?
Mods Abeg push to front page for better answers thanks

Simply because we have a lot of irresponsible randy men in our society

Provabz:
Please I've this thing that have been bothering me and I'll like the house to help me with some reasonable answers..
'Why do we have a lot of single mothers in our current society '?
Mods Abeg push to front page for better answers thanks

Premarital sex and Ignorance of some gals/ladies.
Even me sef get baby mama.

airmirthd1:
when u rush into marriage, you rush out. This is so rampant

Because you aren't married.

TSOM:

...Or maybe they were raised right but, being higher beings with the ability to make choices, chose to seed offsprings whose moms they are willing to make life-time partners.

Contemporary men are increasingly gamophobic and that's an issue the society isn't really addressing.

What does it mean to be gamophobic

HUVKV

Sex have become so easy to get. Our girls needs to be advised to respect their bodies. Men would want it, you shouldn't always give it because you are intellectually lazy to make money with your brain. Most girls offer sexually services as their part time work.

ImaIma1:


You are right.A woman naturally loves but submission doesn't come easy. That's probably why the submission part is emphasized.

As long as they both love each other, they should be able to work out what works for them. All these guys acting macho and demanding submission or slavery up and down don't understand yet. They haven't got the memo.

And it is not about feminism or equality but about a woman also being a human being with a mind of her own, dreams,ambitions, strong will,etc.

wow,you really are realistic nd sensible.let me add to wat u typed.i think a man must show himself worthy of respect;its a useless man dat wud be telling his wife 'why dont u respect me'.our fathers in d past married as many women as they desired and they still got them all to respect them! thats being a man.