UBGG:
You need advice on how to dump someone who cheated whilst you lot were planning to get married? It's easy to see why she cheated repeatedly. Such a sissy!

For Christ sake, man the hell up!!!

Wawu.. Sister de vex

Get sex doll jor they don't cheat

OboOlora:
Op. If there’s an award for dullards, u deserve a gold version

Haba.. No na... Only if you know the power of love...

I know once a cheat,always a cheat. Just tell the cheating queen,it is over,why stressing over how u gonna break the news to her.

antidisestablis:
Hello guys, I hope you are doing good, also i want to appreciate everyone that contributed to my last thread I created last year. https://www.nairaland.com/3803311/dont-trust-anymore

Pls read through the thread .
It is true saying when people say, 'a cheat is always a cheat' . After the last incidence everything returns to normal for us but early this year God reveal to me in a dream that my fiancee got impregnated by another man. This awakens my me and I decide to check what she is up to of a recent because our introduction is slated for this month.

To cut the long story short I discovered she has been cheating again with her ex not with the same guy of last year . They have met in the city where I reside now many times according to the recorded conversation between them. Though she told the guy she has chosen to marry me, she still professes her love to him ,also she calls the guy several times at times she spent over 20 minutes, I also discovered she hides her number when doing so. The guy was trying to win her over because he knew she is a relationship with me.

Also I discovered she saved the name of the guy she was caught with , with another name and she spoke with him recently.

I regretted for not dumping her last year, but I know God still loves me that is the reason he is revealing all these to me before we tie the knot.

My sis who has been making some preparation for our intro when I told her all my findings, she was heartbroken and devastated she said that was the least thing she expected from her, she said I should have told her when the last incidence happened.

I have not confronted her again with her all her escapades yet, I want to seek advice what's the best approach break up with her because I have made up mind to end everything between us. God bless you all

Guy abeg rest for women matter turn gay better pass this heart disease

Run for your life, if you don't want to train another man's kids

Pls i want to ask a question...

Why do women leave evidence of their cheating on their phones?

This stuff is what really baffles me.

antidisestablis:

Thanks very much once again my guy, I have made up mind this time to break it off and d only person that might want to stop me is my sis which I respect so much. I have told her everything,she was so shock with all my findings. She has told me to dump her ass without looking back.
The major challenges is that everyone has known her with me, the two families, the Church of God and my place of work. I know I will overcome it.

I can not categorically say ur gal neva loved u cos she agreed to date u and even to marry u bt i can definitely say she is not a fan of ur type/conditions of ur relationship. In other words shes a hypocrite or was being hypocritical with u. She clearly wants more flavor and feelings which ure not showing probably due to the Holy man attitude which isnt bad at all bt u have to be sure thats wat the other party really wants or else they will pretend to u and that wat ur partner did. Shes clearly isn't the type that can be such conservative relationships or needs alot of help to be in one

U may want to leave this relationship as it clearly seems unredeemable bt u need to understand why it failed also and learn so u can choose the right person for u and if she indeed ok with such type of relationship also.

What is her name? Chisom?

antidisestablis:
Hello guys, I hope you are doing good, also i want to appreciate everyone that contributed to my last thread I created last year. https://www.nairaland.com/3803311/dont-trust-anymore

Pls read through the thread .
It is true saying when people say, 'a cheat is always a cheat' . After the last incidence everything returns to normal for us but early this year God reveal to me in a dream that my fiancee got impregnated by another man. This awakens my me and I decide to check what she is up to of a recent because our introduction is slated for this month.

To cut the long story short I discovered she has been cheating again with her ex not with the same guy of last year . They have met in the city where I reside now many times according to the recorded conversation between them. Though she told the guy she has chosen to marry me, she still professes her love to him ,also she calls the guy several times at times she spent over 20 minutes, I also discovered she hides her number when doing so. The guy was trying to win her over because he knew she is a relationship with me.

Also I discovered she saved the name of the guy she was caught with , with another name and she spoke with him recently.

I regretted for not dumping her last year, but I know God still loves me that is the reason he is revealing all these to me before we tie the knot.

My sis who has been making some preparation for our intro when I told her all my findings, she was heartbroken and devastated she said that was the least thing she expected from her, she said I should have told her when the last incidence happened.

I have not confronted her again with her all her escapades yet, I want to seek advice what's the best approach break up with her because I have made up mind to end everything between us. God bless you all

If I meet this your girl, I would gladly help her cheat on you. You talk too much and its damn boring. I can imagine what the poor girl is passing through. How can you be asking rhetorical questions?

You mean the you don't know what to do...

antidisestablis:

Thanks very much once again my guy, I have made up mind this time to break it off and d only person that might want to stop me is my sis which I respect so much. I have told her everything,she was so shock with all my findings. She has told me to dump her ass without looking back.
The major challenges is that everyone has known her with me, the two families, the Church of God and my place of work. I know I will overcome it.

that is very easy..

just say "fuvck everybody else". now repeat that severally till you gets to them

Op please just take a long walk and never look back. Trust me, people like that do not change. Just start ignoring her from now on, she will get the message with time.

antidisestablis:
Hello guys, I hope you are doing good, also i want to appreciate everyone that contributed to my last thread I created last year. https://www.nairaland.com/3803311/dont-trust-anymore

Pls read through the thread .
It is true saying when people say, 'a cheat is always a cheat' . After the last incidence everything returns to normal for us but early this year God reveal to me in a dream that my fiancee got impregnated by another man. This awakens my me and I decide to check what she is up to of a recent because our introduction is slated for this month.

To cut the long story short I discovered she has been cheating again with her ex not with the same guy of last year . They have met in the city where I reside now many times according to the recorded conversation between them. Though she told the guy she has chosen to marry me, she still professes her love to him ,also she calls the guy several times at times she spent over 20 minutes, I also discovered she hides her number when doing so. The guy was trying to win her over because he knew she is a relationship with me.

Also I discovered she saved the name of the guy she was caught with , with another name and she spoke with him recently.

I regretted for not dumping her last year, but I know God still loves me that is the reason he is revealing all these to me before we tie the knot.

My sis who has been making some preparation for our intro when I told her all my findings, she was heartbroken and devastated she said that was the least thing she expected from her, she said I should have told her when the last incidence happened.

I have not confronted her again with her all her escapades yet, I want to seek advice what's the best approach break up with her because I have made up mind to end everything between us. God bless you all

Does she has an elder brother? Let me coach you on what will help.

Lexusgs430:

Just take her for what she is.... Love exists in sharing.....

this same line is what glo has been sending to me

This made my day
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I don't have strength for yama yama talk. If a lady is cheating on you and you find out, leave her and move on. The same devil that tempted her to do it, is still alive and hasn't changed, and would still tempt her again. Most people who cheat, rarely change irrespective of the tears they shed and promise of not doing it again. Staying back would only hurt you and your sanity and make you suffer. Nobody cheats accidentally as it takes a continuous flow of chats and all that, for things to happen when it's not a one night stand from a club or party. Leave that girl alone if you like yourself.

Bros, invite her over and f*ck her like you're gonn' lose your di.ck the next day, and push her away.

Acidosis:
Remember my advice and warnings on that thread?

You should have listened o but of course some guys diverted your attention by faulting my conclusions.

Well, it is not too late to back out. Your girl is soo into her ex. There is absolutely nothing you can do to change her "feelings". It is better to die a single man than live with a woman that is strongly in love or attached with some ex somewhere.

Your woman will NOT change. Do not waste your time bruv.

Nothing is more entertaining than watching an emotional guy taken for a ride because he fails to listen to voice of reasons. The only control we have is over ourselves. I don't understand why people find it difficult to let bad things go. There are certain things that cannot be wished away--Infidelity is one.

The saddest thing is that the OP is still seeking some advice instead of being a man and dumping the train wreck waiting to happen.

My advice: Go ahead and marry her. Perhaps two of you deserve each other.

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UBGG:


I'm peeved about it.

I can't wait to have sons. The rule will be simple..."Treat a queen like a queen and a thot as a thot".

I'll be damned to raise sissies who ignorantly parade themselves as good men.

Nice one! This is the type of woman I will like to marry and raise kids with. Not some sentimental and emotionally biased lady that won't call a spade a spade but would be giving you a million reasons why you should see a spade as a very large spoon.

But op o
I want you to define this cheating.
Because from what I gathered from old andnew post you both are christian bro and sis, still virgins.

By cheating, do you mean she was sleeping around?
Or just on long phone calls with them.

I see somewhere you said the ex is obviously trying to talk her over to choose him and not you, that means she never denied her engagement status. She admitted she has chosen to marry you.

You need to define this cheating

My brother to start with you need a CAT scan to check if your brains are functioning properly. Once you marry that woman your life will never be the same, if you are even lucky she didn't send you to early grave. You should be going for Thanksgiving

Getting married to her will mean marring a certified prostitute, am surprised that you are still asking for advice when the almighty God has revealed that lady to u,

Apostle Paul spoke, when I heard the Lord spoke to me, I consulted no flesh, I want to let you know that God reveals to redeem, God just delivered u from an unfaithful woman but it seems u r spiritually immature,

Pls don't allow ur love, lust, and emotional feelings for ur prostitute wife to becloud your sense of reasoning, you are a man and I expect you to man-up and break that relationship,

Going ahead to marry her will be like putting your car in reverse gear and still expect it to move forward,

We have more than one billion beautiful,decent,and faithful ladies all over the world, why do you want to settle with a prostitute

Marriage is all about trust and when trust is lost, everything is lost,

My Bible says that He that finds a good wife finds a good thing, my question to u is this, the woman in your life that u want to marry, is she a good thing to u??

If your friend happens to be passing this ugly experience u r into now, will you advice him to go ahead and marry the lady??

It's only an advice, you still have your final decision to take, thanks

Geez...... do I still need to comment Oga,shine ur face now.... n take d bold step Biko....

antidisestablis:
Hello guys, I hope you are doing good, also i want to appreciate everyone that contributed to my last thread I created last year. https://www.nairaland.com/3803311/dont-trust-anymore

Pls read through the thread .
It is true saying when people say, 'a cheat is always a cheat' . After the last incidence everything returns to normal for us but early this year God reveal to me in a dream that my fiancee got impregnated by another man. This awakens my me and I decide to check what she is up to of a recent because our introduction is slated for this month.

To cut the long story short I discovered she has been cheating again with her ex not with the same guy of last year . They have met in the city where I reside now many times according to the recorded conversation between them. Though she told the guy she has chosen to marry me, she still professes her love to him ,also she calls the guy several times at times she spent over 20 minutes, I also discovered she hides her number when doing so. The guy was trying to win her over because he knew she is a relationship with me.

Also I discovered she saved the name of the guy she was caught with , with another name and she spoke with him recently.

I regretted for not dumping her last year, but I know God still loves me that is the reason he is revealing all these to me before we tie the knot.

My sis who has been making some preparation for our intro when I told her all my findings, she was heartbroken and devastated she said that was the least thing she expected from her, she said I should have told her when the last incidence happened.

I have not confronted her again with her all her escapades yet, I want to seek advice what's the best approach break up with her because I have made up mind to end everything between us. God bless you all

If that ur fiancee's name na sandra(fair),bro run for your life. Na cheerful giver she be.

I may have read your past post about your relationship . I can't remember. Too many relationship things on nairaland. I don't even want to go into it.
But reading through this today I just have this feeling
If you don't trust her and have doubt about her why are you with her .
You sound like all this snoppy guy. Always trying to see what the girl is up to. Her phone her messages . Her personal life.
My dear if you don't marry her she won't die. Don't over rate yourself like one good guy like that. She will marry someone else.
Being with you doesn't mean she can't have conversation with other people she knew before you. Meeting up and all. Every individual has personal life.
Am not saying she is cheating or she isn't. But then if your are not comfortable step out and stop running into nairaland to tell us what the girl is up to and what she is doing. You don't even sound matured to me.
This time you will leave her dump her do this and that. You have told you sister she said dump her. Abegiii
You people should leave the girl alone jare. You are not interested leave. And stop making so much noise about it.

Guy cancel all marriage and engagement arrangement. You could be taking care of kids you aren't their father as your present woman has knack for away games. Be a man and kill future sadness from your life. I have always told my wife time and time again that if she cheats on my and i found out, that will be the end of the marriage. Don't trust any woman of this generation

Temibabie:
Some girls be falling my hands Sha... I smh,it's vice-versa tho

there is nothing like vice versa here. If ur man loves u,there is not need playing extra games. the idea of staying cheating on a good guy only show stupidity. if one wants games,go play with yahoo boiz n not with some cool guy.

You are a very weak FOOL, giving men bad reputation. You still want advice for what? And you still wanna marry her? I spite on you several times

What do you wanna hear?? Awww God is with you? Awww women are so bad but don't worry she will change??

If you like expose your family to danger just because you are too annoyingly weak to move on... No forgive her and marry her and watch how she will deal with you, your mother and sisters... Ewwwwu

Acidosis:


I understand how you feel bro. Walking away is not going to be difficult, just get something to distract yourself for a while. About the two families, allow her convey the message to her family, I'm sure your family will get the message.

When it comes to deciding who you want to spend the rest of your life with, you've got to be selfish. You're in this alone and can't afford to make a mistake. Nothing is more disgusting than seeing two male adults struggle over a woman. If she wants her ex, don't fight it, choose to be the "loser".

Exactly. Marriage is not like those Telemundo films where Raimundo fights with Miguel over Dolores' love.

You'll only set yourself up for serious pain in the near future.

It is the woman who chooses. In 9ja often the one with deep pocket is chosen. Though she might cheat with the one she truly loves or offers the sweeter koboko.

@ OP,

If a girl you're with cheats and promises to stop only when caught, believe her at your own peril. Unless you can be sure the reasons she cheated before do not exist anymore. Such as both of you living in different cities or countries but now live together. Even that is not guaranteed as others reasons may be involved that she didn't tell you.

If she cheated with multiple guys at the same time, then just move on. She probably enjoys the thrill of doing it. Thrill can become addictive and she'd probably return to it when bored or issues arise in your marriage.

If she does it for the money, same problem. At some point in life, money could be tight. Especially when kids are still young, elderly parents/grand parents and siblings to assist one way or another. She might resort to her old ways for money.

If a lover displays attitudes and character you cannot accept in marriage, better walk. DO NOT bank on people changing because of marriage. They might just make a lot more effort to disguise or conceal it. ONLY very few can truly change. Mostly when it is in their own interest only.