Ziggylady:



I tell you..they are protecting their one plastic bucket,foam,ceiling fan and kerosene stove incase of 'incasity'

MhisTahrah:
For the purpose of this thread, One who doesn't 'whine'.

teebee22:
he has to and wat does he even need the original for? if he is not been pushed by bad influence. u sure know she will keep it safe if its with her cos its her right and the man can easily destroy that right cos he has nothing to loose.

manomam:
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LaudableXX:

Madam, I pray your streak of good luck will not run out, as you continue your ministry of full-time housewife. Two of my female friends lost their husbands recently. One was married for 12 years, while the other was married for 9 years. Both of them were full-time housewives.

The first one has been unable to get a job, and has had to withdraw 2 out of the 3 kids from school, since there is no money. The 2nd one is busy battling in-laws over her late husband's property. Only God knows how the case will end.

Another female neighbour (who is totally unrelated to these two women) was just informed that her husband has suffered a stroke, so he cannot walk or earn a living until he recovers. Luckily, she works for a multinational organisation, and she has medical insurance which covers the entire family, unlike her husband that was self-employed.

The point is that you are better off having a job or career, that will put food on your table and funds in your bank account, so that you can have something to fall back on when challenges come up. Apart from that, any funds you earn will come in handy to help your husband the day his cash reserves run low. Having a job/career/business improves your mind, helps you to network and increases your appreciation and understanding of the different sides of life.

As for monitoring househelps, nannies and drivers - every sensible woman usually ensures she gets a job/career, that allows her ample time to monitor and supervise her children & her home. Even if you give your husband home-cooked meals, the day he decides to follow one 'soyoyo' to her house to eat her own version of home-cooked meals, I can bet that you would not be there. Women who end up weaving their whole lives around hubby, are the ones who end up with high-blood pressure, the day the man loses interest in the marriage, or decides to seek for a diversion outside the home.

As a housewife, staying with your children 24x7, does not guarantee that the day they go to stay in boarding house or university on their own for the first time, (without you hovering around them), they would not get carried away by the things they see or people they meet, and lose their heads. What matters most in a child's upbringing is quality time, and not quantity time.

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Kimcutie:
You mean the ones whom women manipulate?

bebe2:
I worked till till the year I had my daughter, it was the same a the boyfriend of a childminder was putting his penniss in a babies mouth to us as sucker.

No amount of money can make me leave my child to a stranger.

Stop comparing the abuse of a child with the wrong choices a young adult might make in university. Think of urself before ur 13th birthday and unwilling understand wat am trying to say.

LaudableXX:

Oh, did you get the boyfriend arrested? I hope you did. It would serve as a deterrent to others. Please note that I spoke about taking a job/career/business that allows proper supervision and monitoring of your home and children. I never suggested that you should leave your child alone with a stranger.

Many working mothers these days, take their kids along with their maids to the creche or to the daycare centre close to their offices, while they are at work. They pop in at regular intervals, to ensure that the baby & nanny are ok. Others who have their businesses, make sure they convert a section of their shop or inner office to a playroom, where their maid and kids can stay, under their supervision.

My point is that taking care of kids can be combined with a job/career/business, if you are a woman. Many women have done it, and not all of them have sob stories to tell. You might do yourself a great disservice by staying at home as a full-time housewife, with nothing to show for it, except kids who would soon grow up and leave you behind, much later in life.

The sad thing is that by the time this happens, it may be difficult to get the kind of job you desire to fill the gap, and you might have remained stagnant career-wise and educationally, after spending years as a stay-at-home mum/full-time housewife. I have seen women who choose such options, and have ended up feeling inadequate, after making such choices. Anyway, it is your call. I wish you the best in your full-time housewife ministry.

Ziggylady:



Must you marry??...why not stay single and chop whatever money you think you have..What is the point of going into marriage expecting it to crash??

As for me and every single female i know...Court marriage MUST be included!

omoloulah:
I usually don't like to put my mouth in all this divorce matter but sometimes I can't help it. Y'all talk about women wanting your property and that's the reason they ask to be wedded in a marriage registry and you won't consent to it, I just can't stop laughing at your ignorance especially if you're a Christian. Does any of you even know that you need a marriage licence to get wedded in most structured churches? Have you ever asked any of your friends what the purpose of that license is? Now let me school y'all a little, any church that requires you to provide them a marriage license to wed in church from the registry, such a church will issue you a marriage certificate under the marriage act of the federal republic of Nigeria. Now that is to say, your wife may just be laughing at you behind your back because what this means is, whether it's at the registry or the church, your marriage certificate from the church under the marriage act is the very same as the one issued at the marriage registry. In other words, if you married in Anglican, Catholic, etc, your church marriage certificate is = that same certificate from that registry you think you avoided. You therefore cannot escape alimony if that's the only reason you avoided the registry marriage in the first place. Luckily, a woman like me don't even need your shitty assets, I can do well on my own. Walking away from a toxic marriage is an asset on its own, just ensure you do what's right by the kids and don't try to use them as pawn to get to your ex-wife. It ain't worth it. If your purpose of getting married is not genuine, please don't get married. Find you a partner who'll agree to have kids with you on contract and move on with your life. There are a million ways for a woman to claim your assets as a man and if divorce won't give her, she may just stick around and eliminate you silently. NB: There are poisons that are odourless, tasteless, colourless and undetected under forensic. � I am not bluffing. May we not marry our enemies and may we also not use our hands to cause trouble that'll push other to cutting our lives short. Ire o!

bebe2:


Yes am a full time housewife.

It works for us.

U can throw ur kids to minders and nursery or even househelp that will be doing the unthinkable to them, We decided that our kids will be raise by us, drop off at school, get lunch ready before they come back, pick them up , feed them , take them to football or swimming lessons. Get dinner ready for hubby , prepare school and Hubbys things for tmrw.

If I didn’t this, nanny will be busy beating my kids for no just reason, the driver will be probably be fingering my 7yr old without my knowledge and the house girl will be using my sons dick to practice, my husband will be eating buka food and having dysentery every now and then.

And I won’t work till my last child is in secondary school, yet I can bet a million that am still financially better off than u.

greatman247:


No, only agree on one condition. I.e. if the lady in question is wealthy herself. That way if you or her divorce in future and she wants to evoke the law, you also share in her property lol.


By the way, no lady, I repeat no lady can share my properties. Especially broke ass. Men should be wise. Don't allow your woman know about all your properties. If for example you have ten houses, let her know only two and never you hide your property documents in the house.

Also invest your money and hide them away from the prying eyes of your wife. This is what I do and I am married. There are a lot of ways to hide your money when investing. I obviously cannot share that one here. All I know is men should be wise. And never allow love enter your head. Also watch your mouth and don't share everything with a woman. I really don't care if she's your wife or not. The least she will say you don't love her. Leave it like that. Always love with common sense. Don't let your guard down, some women are investigative wives

Ziggylady:



Dear misguided op and your stupidd male supporters...why not completely stay of marriage instead of polluting the space with your junk??

Elder001:



I'm married. Purchase some sense before you insult people because you don't agree with them.

Elder001:


why did you quote me?

Ziggylady:



Because your posts are insane.

Ziggylady:



If your type is married,then its little wonder most marriages are a joke these days.

Elder001:


Your mind is insane. Nobody compelled you not to ignore the post.

teebee22:
he has to and wat does he even need the original for? if he is not been pushed by bad influence. u sure know she will keep it safe if its with her cos its her right and the man can easily destroy that right cos he has nothing to loose.

Ziggylady:



I honestly do not see the need for your immature and emotional out-bursts and insult,are you that small-minded.obnoxious and horrible??...Is it that you cannot have a civil conversation without behaving like a frustrated and enraged bull in a China shop??...I never insulted you nor was i even talking to you,only for you to jump down my throat like a tout with insults in tow.

.. Eveything you said is basically bullcrap cos if you think you can walk into an American Embassy or an European one seeking for a VISA as a Nigerian in Nigeria,fill a form and claim you are married or have a 'partner' and they will believe you without hard evidence,then you have another thinking..

They consider Nigerians as pathological liars and career fraudsters whose words and claims should be taken with a pinch of salt until proven innocent .

My Pre-nup statements are on-point cos most males in Nigeria intending to marry are actually poor dudes with nothing much to boast of interms of material acquisition so what nonsense 'terms of agreement are they signing..to protect what really??..their 8inch foams,stove,boiling rings and fans?...pleasee!!!!!..Majority are still poor after 30years of marriage so laughter is all i have for 'pre-nup' Nigerian agitators.

amethystnnty1:


Brilliance!
I would have stopped at just giving you one like for this comment but that wouldn't be enough.

Marriage was never about men or the benefits he gets out of it though some infinitesimal few might (not something I believe) but mostly about women who get all their reason for existence from it and I'm talking about through all history not just the modern times. Men have always been utility for women and subconsciously or consciously women are aware of it.

This is why they rarely if ever get hitched to Someone who doesn't offer a better life or the life as they currently have it. Nothing was and will ever be done for the man that is not directly or indirectly for her.

I know the realization won't be what they think they want when we all get the equality FEMINIST think they're pushing because in a relationship of equals why would anybody deserve to get anything that isn't theirs.

P.S: IF MARRIAGE EVER GET TO BE THE OPTION I TAKE TO PRESERVE MY GENETIC LEGACY IT WOULD BE TO A FEMINIST WHO FOR ALL INTENTS AND PURPOSES WOULD LOVE EQUALITY, NOTHING GIVEN THAT IS NOT EARNED

Daboomb:


Look at this Dindinrin!
When you said "Naija males and their delusions" ....l guess that is a complement?
People like you are so foolish you just talk banally and throw words around..

Its a pity that you cant think beyond "Emabssy Visa Application" like that is what marriage is all about!
What about people who have dual citizenship (Nigerian and European/American) and dont have to go to an Embassy before travelling abroad?

Suffice to say, your comprehension skills are non-existent and its a shame you cant see beyond your nose.
That you fall into the category opf "No Future Ambitions (NFA) and will still remain poor after thrity years, is quite understandable...
especially with your type of mentality and shortsightedness, that's 'given'.

Now Buzz-off and let me discuss with intelligent people joor.

Ziggylady:




Go take your biopolar drugs....you need them urgently.

Daboomb:


The bolded is the 'historical summary of marriage', even in Blblical times when the woman marries a man, for protection, procreation and feeding.

All these shyters talking about a "One Bucket man" mot needing a Pre-Nup, you can bet they would never marry a One Bucket man, even when all they bring into the marriage is just only a single, broken and utterly useless wash-hand Bowl.

Obierika:


We're not in California...

No Nigerian man in Nigeria will split his property with his wife especially if it was acquired before he contracted the marriage!

bebe2:
BUT why are u pple so evil?

Why do u always think like zombies?

So u marry a woman for twenty years, she has kids for u, looked after them while u work, cooks for u , cleans for u, wash ur clothes, U have two houses , in the case of divorce u can not give her one? Are u ok?

Where do u want her to start from?

HARDDON:


That reply wasnt for you. I hadnt even reasoned your malodorous post yet.

Are you alright ? Elder001 reeling like a child who just had his first taste of chili pepper?

What is property? and how much do you even have? Convert it to pounds, worth anything?


Your mindset is TOTALLY flawed.

here is a little SENSE PILL:

Wealth is not tied to some mundane, soon-to-fade-off-radar properties, real wealth is a fully developed mind beaming with creative ideas.

So stop yapping dust and renew your mind

pocohantas:


I have never even seen or heard of an average Nigerian woman that benefited financially from a divorce.

mistyebby:





Girls, women all the time. Guys are the real golddiggers now. I know about 3guys who hurriedly sealed court wedding with women for their own is selfish interest.

As we speak, these men are yet to bring a cup of palmwine to their in-laws, talk of church wedding. Of course they have had children.

Just yesterday, my friend's boyfriend who has been milking her just suggested same court wedding. Who is the golddigger here??

A woman has "EVERYTHING" to lose from a relationship built on lies and falsehood regardless of who lied or was deceitful.. everything!!! While a man has " NOTHING " to lose.

May God always keep us away from deceitful and deceptive human beings through our life sojourn.. Amen.