I've seen countless narratives on Nairaland about ladies and their love for money. The most annoying one was the one I saw today of a guy complaining that his girlfriend would always want them to eat out where he'll end up paying 2k or 3k. But let's be honest with ourselves, that narrative is very wrong.

Now I'll show you why it is.

There are different types of ladies in a university. As someone who comes from a modest home, go for the ones who are serious with their studies and are more into guys who know why they are in school. These ones are more of the future than the present. They don't even mind drinking garri with you. Others, however, are the ones whose houses off campus are tastefully furnished and who live in apartments worth 150k. They also dress to kill. You think all of these fell from the sky? She has a lifestyle that needs to be maintained. As her man, realize that you also have to contribute to that. Don't ask her out and if she starts demanding, you run to Nairaland, shouting about how ladies are materialistic.

There are also these types of ladies in the larger society. A working class lady will most likely not follow you to the woman who sells beans and bread around your area. She will most likely prefer to lodge or eat Golden Tulips, Jevinik, BluCabana etc. Not her fault, she is classy and has taste. She has probably passed that stage where she followed her university love to the beans and bread seller. She is not about that life anymore. She still loves you a lot though, her taste notwithstanding.

Point being, at every point in your life, know how to cut your coat according to your size. And if you want to punch above your weight, don't go shouting about ladies' love for money. They are most likely just above your league.

Zicoraads, I just don't want to believe that this writeup came from you. Even a demented and dimwitted slowpoke cannot stoop so low to scribble such rubbish.

>Relationship shouldn't be a financial means of a woman. It should be relationship, not a job for a lady.

>The only set of ladies allowed to form class should be a lady who is rich and can afford her needs without depending on any man, which means classy ladies are not suppose to depend on men because they are rich and can fend for themselves.

Simply put: Hungry ladies who asks men for money in a bid to form classy are nothing but riffraffs and poor ladies.

Question is; Why should a poor lady live a level of life she can't maintain without depending on a man?

Oh OP. Just shut up please.

Did I hear you say Golden Tulip? A single room cost 40k minimum per night. Even If you are earning 200k as Salary. You can't eat there more than once.

The problem with some guys is they do not know their problem and do not care to check on it.....

But seriously speaking, you're not making sense here, the guy you used as a reference point explicitly told the girl that he sees a future with her after they are thru with studies which she jumped to accept, without knowing she had her own ulterior motive, she should have known that he's the modest type and he has little to live by.

You made a point about a classy lady not following me to a buka to eat, fine!! why would she accept to date me in the first place when she knows I'm really not her taste and can't afford to pay her bills, does that make sense? if you wanna date someone, date a person who sees the potential in you and knows your ambitions. but then a classy woman won't go for an "I neva chop boy"

Akuko Ifo, OP u forgot to tell them that...

Broke guys won't like this thread


I think the problem with most young guys today is belief of the cliche 'A lady can not be too high for you '. A lot of feeble and innocent minds have been misled by this saying.

Dude! Knock it off to avoid frustrations! Some women are out of your league. Even shoes have sizes

Op you are right
I don't use to have problem with my girlfriend. She's a church girl and also very serious type academically. So anything I give her, no complaints even when I offered her nothing. We are still cool �

cruchenutii:
Oh OP. Just shut up please.

Did I hear you say Golden Tulip? A single room cost 40k minimum per night. Even If you are earning 200k as Salary. You can't eat there more than once.

You are agreeing with me nau

A room is not up to that amount. But even if it is and you are earning 200k as salary, do you think it will be a problem to some whose basic salary is above 500k plus allowances?

women this men that.......everybod is a relationship expert these days.... please let people figure things out themselves there is no text book rule for things of the heart you know.

zicoraads:
I've seen countless narratives on Nairaland about ladies and their love for money. The most annoying one was the one I saw today of a guy complaining that his girlfriend would always want them to eat out where he'll end up paying 2k or 3k. But let's be honest with ourselves, that narrative is very wrong.

Now I'll show you why it is.

There are different types of ladies in a university. As someone who comes from a modest home, go for the ones who are serious with their studies and are more into guys who know why they are in school. These ones are more of the future than the present. They don't even mind drinking garri with you. Others, however, are the ones whose houses off campus are tastefully furnished and who live in apartments worth 150k. They also dress to kill. You think all of these fell from the sky? She has a lifestyle that needs to be maintained. As her man, realize that you also have to contribute to that. Don't ask her out and if she starts demanding, you run to Nairaland, shouting about how ladies are materialistic.

There are also these types of ladies in the larger society. A working class lady will most likely not follow you to the woman who sells beans and bread around your area. She will most likely prefer to lodge or eat Golden Tulips, Jevinik, BluCabana etc. Not her fault, she is classy and has taste. She has probably passed that stage where she followed her university love to the beans and bread seller. She is not about that life anymore. She still loves you a lot though, her taste notwithstanding.

Point being, at every point in your life, know how to cut your coat according to your size. And if you want to punch above your weight, don't go shouting about ladies' love for money. They are most likely just above your league.

Trash

MrCork:

Spill it

you have a point but it still doesn't change the fact that most women are materialistic


how can a lady from a poor home immediately start living and claiming to maintain a life where she spends 500k weekly...........................................is she a winsh



every lady now claim level even the DPO (dumb poor ones)


even if they meet a guy that's up to their level or meets their standard financially, they'll still leave him for another guy "above their level finanicially"


#bunchofleeches

zicoraads:

You are agreeing with me nau

A room is not up to that amount. But even if it is and you are earning 200k as salary, do you think it will be a problem to some whose basic salary is above 500k plus allowances?

No, you're getting it wrong Oga ! Ladies who earn that amount don't need your money. They just need you to have a decent job & be responsible & faithful. The problem arises only when as a MAN you are totally jobless & not working "at all, at all".

Nonsense write up.
Is relationship all about material gain?

IamD18:
Zicoraads, I just don't want to believe that this writeup came from you. Even a demented and dimwitted slowpoke cannot stoop so low to scribble such rubbish.

>Relationship shouldn't be a financial means of a woman. It's should be relationship, not a job for a lady.

>The only set of ladies allowed to form class should be a lady who is rich and can afford her needs without depending on any man, and by that, classy ladies are not suppose to depend on men because they are rich and can fend for themselves, in other words, hungry ladies who asks men for money in a bid to form classy are nothing but riffraffs and poor ladies.

Question is; Why should a poor lady live a level of life she can't mantain?

Let's try and keep it civil, shall we?!

That said, I'll tell you my reasoning. I totally agree that relationships should never be a financial avenue for anyone, man or woman. I also agree that the only woman agree to form that level of class should be a financially independent woman.

Since we have agreed on the above, I'll like to ask you some few questions.

I think we can also agree that a lady like Linda Ikeji falls into that category. Now if, for instance, you ask her out and she agrees to date you, do you think because she is financially independent, she wouldn't want diamond necklaces, wrist watches, original designer shoes and bags as gifts? Or won't you surprise her by taking her to the best restaurants in town, or even a getaway weekend at a good and expensive hotel or even to other places abroad?

I'll love you to answer the questions above.

Getting her those things won't change the fact that she is financially independent.

But how about when you date the lady in your street? Will she want all of that? Of course not!

So why ask a "Linda Ikeji" out? Instead of asking that lady in your street out. Which one do you think will be more financially draining on you? The answer you have is the reason why this thread was created.

cruchenutii:


No, you're getting it wrong Oga ! Ladies who earn that amount don't need your money. They just need you to have a decent job & be responsible & faithful. The problem arises only when as a MAN you are totally jobless & not working "at all, at all".

Who is talking about money here?

So you don't gift the ladies you date?

And what if she gets into a financial problem, you won't help out?

I believe it is a relationship.

And not a "Poverty Alleviation Program".

zicoraads:
I've seen countless narratives on Nairaland about ladies and their love for money. The most annoying one was the one I saw today of a guy complaining that his girlfriend would always want them to eat out where he'll end up paying 2k or 3k. But let's be honest with ourselves, that narrative is very wrong.

Now I'll show you why it is.

There are different types of ladies in a university. As someone who comes from a modest home, go for the ones who are serious with their studies and are more into guys who know why they are in school. These ones are more of the future than the present. They don't even mind drinking garri with you. Others, however, are the ones whose houses off campus are tastefully furnished and who live in apartments worth 150k. They also dress to kill. You think all of these fell from the sky? She has a lifestyle that needs to be maintained. As her man, realize that you also have to contribute to that. Don't ask her out and if she starts demanding, you run to Nairaland, shouting about how ladies are materialistic.

There are also these types of ladies in the larger society. A working class lady will most likely not follow you to the woman who sells beans and bread around your area. She will most likely prefer to lodge or eat Golden Tulips, Jevinik, BluCabana etc. Not her fault, she is classy and has taste. She has probably passed that stage where she followed her university love to the beans and bread seller. She is not about that life anymore. She still loves you a lot though, her taste notwithstanding.

Point being, at every point in your life, know how to cut your coat according to your size. And if you want to punch above your weight, don't go shouting about ladies' love for money. They are most likely just above your league.

....Bro. .so u tryna start trouble on nairaland encouragein women to be gold diggers making it difficult for us guys to catch them. ..correct?

MrCork:





....Bro. .so u tryna start trouble on nairaland encouragein women to be gold diggers making it difficult for us guys to catch them. ..correct?

I'm sorry Corky

It'll never happen again

zicoraads:

Who is talking about money here?

So you don't gift the ladies you date?

And what if she gets into a financial problem, you won't help out?

If a girl already has money as you claim. Little things will make her happy. You can give her gifts as little as 5k - 10k. She will be fine.
In case of financial problem. Yes if you have (If you don't, Kindly explain to her the situation of things).

You are talking about Linda Ikeji, Do you think she cares about your cheap ass Diamonds?
She needs a Man who will spend quality time with her & believes in her vision. End of Story.

Oga, I think you are moving with the wrong crowd. Change your circle.

You thought you made sense

Relationships are for LOVE, not FOOD.

IamD18:
Zicoraads, I just don't want to believe that this writeup came from you. Even a demented and dimwitted slowpoke cannot stoop so low to scribble such rubbish.

>Relationship shouldn't be a financial means of a woman. It's should be relationship, not a job for a lady.

>The only set of ladies allowed to form class should be a lady who is rich and can afford her needs without depending on any man, which means classy ladies are not suppose to depend on men because they are rich and can fend for themselves.

Simply put: Hungry ladies who asks men for money in a bid to form classy are nothing but riffraffs and poor ladies.

Question is; Why should a poor lady live a level of life she can't mantain?

The two points you made contradicts another. Relationship shouldn't be a financial means to a woman, yeah! that's true.
The only form of ladies allowed to form class are the rich ones. I want to believe Rich in this context connotes financial stability.

Are you indirectly saying Finance is the only reason and criteria relationships are formed?

In as much as you try to diminish the credibility of this thread, you ended up agreeing with the original poster of the thread by the emboldened Sometimes it is best to agree with the truth than tackle it with baseless arguments. It isn't a sign of weakness but an affirmation of Sanity.

MariaLavina:
The two points you made contradicts another. Relationship shouldn't be a financial means to a woman, yeah! that's true.
The only form of ladies allowed to form class are the rich ones. I want to believe Rich in this context connotes financial stability.

Are you indirectly saying Finance is the only reason and criteria relationships are formed?

In as much as you try to diminish the credibility of this thread, you ended up agreeing with the original poster of the thread by the emboldened Sometimes it is best to agree with the truth than tackle it with baseless arguments. It isn't a sign of weakness but an affirmation of Sanity.

Yeah, that's the major reason why women opt in for relationship, that's what they've turned it into.

zicoraads:

I'm sorry Corky

It'll never happen again

thanks bro...you tha man!!!

I like this write up, know thyself and where you belong.

cruchenutii:


If a girl already has money as you claim. Little things will make her happy. You can give her gifts as little as 5k - 10k. She will be fine.
In case of financial problem. Yes if you have (If you don't, Kindly explain to her the situation of things).

You are talking about Linda Ikeji, Do you think she cares about your cheap ass Diamonds?
She needs a Man who will spend quality time with her & believes in her vision. End of Story.

Oga, I think you are moving with the wrong crowd. Change your circle.

Cheap ass diamonds?

Women, no matter the wealth, value gifts and surprises. If today you happen to meet a billionaire, do not make the mistake of thinking the little gifts mean nothing to her.

As you will gift your girlfriend gifts of 5k and 10k, be prepared to do bigger if you are dating someone whose class is above that girlfriend.

Must you lot always argue and do a merry go round?

I should change my circle? Do you have any idea the circle I'm in? I honestly think it's your orientation that needs changing. My circle is just perfect!

zicoraads:

Let's try and keep it civil, shall we?!

That said, I'll tell you my reasoning. I totally agree that relationships should never be a financial avenue for anyone, man or woman. I also agree that the only woman agree to form that level of class should be a financially independent woman.

Since we have agreed on the above, I'll like to ask you some few questions.

I think we can also agree that a lady like Linda Ikeji falls into that category. Now if, for instance, you ask her out and she agrees to date you, do you think because she is financially independent, she wouldn't want diamond necklaces, wrist watches, original designer shoes and bags as gifts? Or won't you surprise her by taking her to the best restaurants in town, or even a getaway weekend at a good and expensive hotel or even to other places abroad?

I'll love you to answer the questions above.

Getting her those things won't change the fact that she is financially independent.

But how about when you date the lady in your street? Will she want all of that? Of course not!

So why ask a "Linda Ikeji" out? Instead of asking that lady in your street out. Which one do you think will be more financially draining on you? The answer you have is the reason why this thread was created.

I now understand.

But, how about adding "financially independent ladies" to your writeup?

Because we still have poor hungry ladies claiming class in a relationship, which was the reason why I countered.

IamD18:


Yeah, that's the major reason why women opt in for relationship, that's what they've turned it into.

No,i asked of your opinion of what relationship should entail and not What "they " have turned what to. You made the statements I pointed out not "they".



Let's keep this civil please.

zicoraads:

Let's try and keep it civil, shall we?!

That said, I'll tell you my reasoning. I totally agree that relationships should never be a financial avenue for anyone, man or woman. I also agree that the only woman agree to form that level of class should be a financially independent woman.

Since we have agreed on the above, I'll like to ask you some few questions.

I think we can also agree that a lady like Linda Ikeji falls into that category. Now if, for instance, you ask her out and she agrees to date you, do you think because she is financially independent, she wouldn't want diamond necklaces, wrist watches, original designer shoes and bags as gifts? Or won't you surprise her by taking her to the best restaurants in town, or even a getaway weekend at a good and expensive hotel or even to other places abroad?

I'll love you to answer the questions above.

Getting her those things won't change the fact that she is financially independent.

But how about when you date the lady in your street? Will she want all of that? Of course not!

So why ask a "Linda Ikeji" out? Instead of asking that lady in your street out. Which one do you think will be more financially draining on you? The answer you have is the reason why this thread was created.

I now understand.

But, how about adding "financially independent ladies" to your writeup?

Because we still have poor hungry ladies claiming class in a relationship, which was the reason why I countered.

DonPiiko:
I like this write up, know thyself and where you belong.

As simple as that....
Why are guys acting up?