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Re: A Candid Advice For The Young Unmarried Ladies by Nobody: 7:40am On Dec 17, 2018 |
Is that how you date ? marriage worthiness is not touch and go.....you need time to see all their quirks to know if it’s something you can live with that’s what ends marriages quickly people unable to endure character and circumstances for life as they promised Our character matters always and our strength even when we go wrong if you like do merry go round We women are also competing with cross dressers too now as well remember so all this one doesn’t work again lol Ladies make your judgement based on the situation The company you keep can ruin your relationship with their jealousy not everybody appreciates your new found happiness if in billions you found one worthy of love and trust and patience please don’t listen to the crowd 1 Like |
Re: A Candid Advice For The Young Unmarried Ladies by Nobody: 7:40am On Dec 17, 2018 |
majekdom2: Wasting a girls time, having marranton sex, decieving a girl, making empty promises, living off women is supposedly for the matured minds Abi? Do not explore at the expense of other people's happiness, that's selfishness.. the point is, why keep a girl for years when you are not ready to settle down and still wanna explore? Do you have an answer to that? There are somany girls out there who are willing to offer sex for money every night, why not keep patronising those ones at the expense of your life pending when you are done exploring instead of pinning down someone's daughter for years with empty promises just for your selfish interest without remorse?? I think you should grow up man and learn how to take responsibilities, life isn't a fairly tale.. It should be only grown ups who are done exploring and ready to settle down that should have the right to go into a relationship.. Let's make this world a better place! 4 Likes |
Re: A Candid Advice For The Young Unmarried Ladies by mhizbel(f): 7:44am On Dec 17, 2018 |
kandi006:My dear you get strength o... I make sure I define my relationship from the very beginning. Oga I wee not cook for sombori who is not my husband, I wee not wash or clean anything. The least I can do is to give him some assistance while he's at it. In fact, I wee not even go visit him at his place till the relationship is very defined and preparations are already kicking off. 1 Like |
Re: A Candid Advice For The Young Unmarried Ladies by Nobody: 7:53am On Dec 17, 2018 |
mhizbel: Those were my stupid naive old days dear, ain't doing that shit for any man anymore.. let's all be having sense together now |
Re: A Candid Advice For The Young Unmarried Ladies by Nobody: 7:53am On Dec 17, 2018 |
kandi006:living off, who lived off you? Wow you must have been through loads carrying the responsibility of a man. You are a strong woman indeed. Did he at sometime pop the question and asked you to plan, what was your own response? I have another post that addressed sex clearly. Sex is not the aim, it is only a benefit. There is always some person willing to have sex without any attachment or cost with your partner. Think differently majekdom2: |
Re: A Candid Advice For The Young Unmarried Ladies by Nobody: 7:56am On Dec 17, 2018 |
kandi006: mhizbel:the problem is many of you see these things as big deal in relationship. Serving the other doesn’t make you lesser. Ask yourselves, if the same guy is able to wash my clothes, do my dishes, cook for me, why shouldn’t I do the same. This are. Or what relationships is about. Be emotionally intelligent to know the sacrifices the other person is making. Relationship is about sacrifice! 1 Like |
Re: A Candid Advice For The Young Unmarried Ladies by Nobody: 7:59am On Dec 17, 2018 |
mhizbel: I suspect u are not married Becus u go too Tay for your papa hux I will not cook for him until preparation are already kicking off I will not wash his cloths untill preparation are already taking off Hope u will b ok if he doesn't give u money untill untill both of u are married But I kw u are still an undergraduate,,,,,,becus na there their sense day reach 2 Likes |
Re: A Candid Advice For The Young Unmarried Ladies by Nobody: 8:04am On Dec 17, 2018 |
majekdom2: At bolded, most guys actually do go into false relationships for this same sex, especially the broke ones that can't afford constant sex from sex workers, to them, it's easier and safer to keep a naive girl around for the same sex with empty promises than patronising the LovePeddler house.. some civilised ones define it from the beginning while the cowards just decide to play the game at the expense of the other person involved for as long as they want. My dear, sex means a lot especially to men, how many men stay in a relationship without "sex" 2 Likes |
Re: A Candid Advice For The Young Unmarried Ladies by mhizbel(f): 8:07am On Dec 17, 2018 |
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Re: A Candid Advice For The Young Unmarried Ladies by DanDeeBoss(m): 8:10am On Dec 17, 2018 |
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Re: A Candid Advice For The Young Unmarried Ladies by Nobody: 8:12am On Dec 17, 2018 |
majekdom2: My dear, you just won't understand.. most things I share here are from my past experience.. I am only trying to relate with some girls who might be presently making the same mistakes I made.. And yes, I am a very strong woman, thankGod we don't look like what we've been through in the past 1 Like |
Re: A Candid Advice For The Young Unmarried Ladies by Nobody: 8:13am On Dec 17, 2018 |
kandi006:the broke ones will be the ones that give their girlfriends 1k monthly or nothing not the one that have taken it upon themselves to provide shelter, trips and gifts at different times. If I was in a relationship for 3 years and say I spent close to a million on my babe. Let’s divide it by 1000. This means I would have been able to have sex with 1000 different girls daily for that 3 years if I wasn’t in a relationship. Again, sex is cheaper and can be gotten. There are women willing to have sex with men without any cost. I don’t have relationships because I want to have sex. |
Re: A Candid Advice For The Young Unmarried Ladies by Canadianbreed01(m): 8:15am On Dec 17, 2018 |
lol @dump him, as if the guy na trash, you think it's easy to let go of someone you deeply love?Okay about the premarital sex, you're right, but dumping a guy because he refused to say anything about marriage doesn't make sense to me sha, what if he's trying to know you more?you think it's easy to plan the future with someone you hardly know, even people that has been dating over 3yrs are not planning to get married talkless of 1yr,a lady must be patient with her man instead of rushing him, apart from trying to know her better... What if the guy is not financially stable, even mentally too, you think marriage would be the first thing on his mind, na marriage go put food on his table?Marriage is not for kids, it's for people who are ready in every aspect,, So dumping a guy does not make any sense to me, patience is golden Haba! You sound so young to venture into marriage. One year down and you are getting to know her better? And i guess asking for sex init? During the period, they are still young men probably old men too asking her out for marriage. Even men that just met her . Now ladies, mature men ready for marriage know within three months of courtship weather they will marry you or not. 1 Like |
Re: A Candid Advice For The Young Unmarried Ladies by Nobody: 8:16am On Dec 17, 2018 |
kandi006:matured girls don’t have man problems. Maturity is not about what you post online, it is about what you do and how you handle situations. |
Re: A Candid Advice For The Young Unmarried Ladies by Nobody: 8:16am On Dec 17, 2018 |
majekdom2: My dear, trust me.. these guys don't spend anything, they even take from the girl.. 1 million Ke? Iffa hear If they had 1mil.. they won't even be in a relationship at the first place, they just want free food and free unprotected sex dassal |
Re: A Candid Advice For The Young Unmarried Ladies by Nobody: 8:20am On Dec 17, 2018 |
majekdom2: Maturity is not defined, it comes from within.. people have different ways of expressing their thoughts especially in this world of somuch hypocrisy. |
Re: A Candid Advice For The Young Unmarried Ladies by TheVictorious(m): 8:25am On Dec 17, 2018 |
This makes sense. But what entails "readiness for marriage"? |
Re: A Candid Advice For The Young Unmarried Ladies by mhizbel(f): 8:25am On Dec 17, 2018 |
majekdom2: You are making sense... You see, I have learnt to enjoy friendship/being single. If it is not yet defined it is just friendship, and if it is just friendship, there shouldn't be too much expectations. The problem some ladies have is that they allow themselves to be so tied to a relationship that is not going anywhere. I strongly agree with op said. You are not ready to get married, what then are you in a relationship for? 2 Likes |
Re: A Candid Advice For The Young Unmarried Ladies by TheVictorious(m): 8:25am On Dec 17, 2018 |
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Re: A Candid Advice For The Young Unmarried Ladies by mhizbel(f): 8:26am On Dec 17, 2018 |
mogbojaiye:Ok.. |
Re: A Candid Advice For The Young Unmarried Ladies by Wuraola01(f): 8:28am On Dec 17, 2018 |
GodblessNig247: Yeah. Exactly |
Re: A Candid Advice For The Young Unmarried Ladies by Omoluabi16(m): 8:30am On Dec 17, 2018 |
I think people are missing the importances and those benefits that come with marriage. As far as I'm concerned marriage could be an achievement if you find fulfillment and joy in it. To be fair, if I was with a guy and he isnt talking marriage or some sort of futuristic commitment, I may see him as unserious and move on.It's no point being with someone you can't see as part of your life over 2year As for the sex matter.. Do what pleases you. 2 Likes |
Re: A Candid Advice For The Young Unmarried Ladies by afroxyz: 8:30am On Dec 17, 2018 |
people would just post rubbish in the name of advise. |
Re: A Candid Advice For The Young Unmarried Ladies by Youngpo413: 8:33am On Dec 17, 2018 |
kandi006:unfortunately,those wasters are very rich and some ladies will flock around and they find it very difficult to pick the right one,so it is not their fault,it is the cruel world we find ourselves in today. |
Re: A Candid Advice For The Young Unmarried Ladies by mungoparks: 8:46am On Dec 17, 2018 |
lol @dump him, as if the guy na trash, you think it's easy to let go of someone you deeply love?Okay about the premarital sex, you're right, but dumping a guy because he refused to say anything about marriage doesn't make sense to me sha, what if he's trying to know you more?you think it's easy to plan the future with someone you hardly know, even people that has been dating over 3yrs are not planning to get married talkless of 1yr,a lady must be patient with her man instead of rushing him, apart from trying to know her better... What if the guy is not financially stable, even mentally too, you think marriage would be the first thing on his mind, na marriage go put food on his table?Marriage is not for kids, it's for people who are ready in every aspect,, So dumping a guy does not make any sense to me, patience is goldeni ignore every other comments for this one,this were it stopped, its so good to be true ,nice write up and a very big kudos. |
Re: A Candid Advice For The Young Unmarried Ladies by Shugavee(f): 8:50am On Dec 17, 2018 |
Toks2008:ur advise is dumb dear....don’t destroy people’s relationship with trash epistles, not like the guy is treating you bad or something, just cause he isn’t mentioning marriage? Like u gonna get them another man!! Marriage isn’t an achievement, we should aim for genuine love and companionship not marriage. Sex is nothing to me.... I am collecting a good D . I love it. It’s damaged with happiness. |
Re: A Candid Advice For The Young Unmarried Ladies by panmunium(m): 8:51am On Dec 17, 2018 |
Imaging dumping guys after a year each after ravaging your kpekus,let's say it takes you 10yrs to finally see the main guy, I just pity ur kitten, na you loose oo |
Re: A Candid Advice For The Young Unmarried Ladies by Shugavee(f): 8:55am On Dec 17, 2018 |
panmunium:happiness is all that matters to me n should be what matters ,, not marriage, n so what if u been with a guy for 10yrs, r u happy yes!! So what’s the problem,, are all the women who r married happy? Please everybody n their own life. |
Re: A Candid Advice For The Young Unmarried Ladies by Nobody: 9:05am On Dec 17, 2018 |
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Re: A Candid Advice For The Young Unmarried Ladies by ArmedRobber: 9:12am On Dec 17, 2018 |
Shugavee:so what is the essence of growing a relationship with opposite sex without no seriousness abt settling down. if you dont date to marry what is the reason for dating in the first place. 2 Likes |
Re: A Candid Advice For The Young Unmarried Ladies by AryEmber(f): 9:17am On Dec 17, 2018 |
ArmedRobber:I tire oh! |
Re: A Candid Advice For The Young Unmarried Ladies by Shugavee(f): 9:17am On Dec 17, 2018 |
ArmedRobber:happiness, companionship , love. Etc they can get married why not,, but don’t pressure urself, like jeezz |
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