They'll not agree with you now Mr Toks... Later they'll say that "all men are scum".

Toks2008:
Date only when you are ready for marriage,abstain from premarital sex and if you date a guy for a year and he is not discussing marriage with you...LEAVE HIM.

To a great extent,this is a good way for wise unmarried young ladies to avoid guys who are just out to damage them.

Bros leave matter,its economy driven.

Shugavee:
happiness, companionship , love. Etc they can get married why not,, but don’t pressure urself, like jeezz

so you mean happiness ,companionship and love is limited to opposite sex . dating is no big deal if you re not ready for marriage .you can get happiness ,companionship love without dating a guy. marriage is not by force the point is dont commit yourself to relationship with a guy that does include you in his future plans.

Toks2008:


lol see me see wahala.this is an advise and not every lady will take it. Some ladies want to be used as long as they get something in return and such girls are everywhere so why the fuss? the advise is for reasonable young ladies who are not interested in being used as toys and not for every young lady out there so calm your nerves bro.

Then u need change the Heading of this post then because it was generalized. So change it to "Some reasonable young ladies"

[quote author=Toks2008 post=73557582]

And after one year you gave him free access and you are now waiting and hoping it will end well.

Sis get this here and now..sex can not keep a man with you and a man who wants you will remain with you sex or no sex.[/quote...,she says she is happy why do you seem soo interested in her sexual life like you are taking it personnal

@ Nobody, you're making real sense
@Op, sometimes things can complicated,what works for you might not work for someone else. No two situations are the same especially in relationships

Mariangeles:
LADIES, ACCORDING TO MOST COMMENTS SO FAR, YOU CAN WITNESS THAT MOST GUYS ARE SELFISH BASTARDS AND ARE OUT TO USE Y'ALL !

THEY WANT TO EAT THEIR CAKE AND HAVE IT !
A CASE OF "WHY BUY THE COW WHEN YOU CAN GET THE MILK FOR FREE "

WISE UP !

SAY NO TO PREMARITAL SEX!

You sef see am

Loool

Some ladies are not smart at all.

I think you are all stupid here for this trash talk,we talking abou Xmas,you are here talking about relationship,wen all the woman Na olosho if you know you know.

missyblissy:


It wont increase the body count if the lady has principles and respect for herself.

Op its a wonderful advice but the indomine generation and some slay queens with foolish thinking will not accept it at all.

Ladies, know this, sex can never and will never keep a man no matter how skilled you think you are in bed. I learn a lot from my experience and from people's experiences.


THINK WITH YOUR HEAD THIS TIME, NOT YOUR HEART OR PUSSY!!!!!

Preach it




I repeat SEX CAN NEVER AND WILL NEVER KEEP A MAN NO MATTER HOW SKILLED YOU THINK YOU ARE IN BED.

Repetition is for emphasis.

mhizbel:

My dear you get strength o... I make sure I define my relationship from the very beginning. Oga I wee not cook for sombori who is not my husband, I wee not wash or clean anything. The least I can do is to give him some assistance while he's at it.
In fact, I wee not even go visit him at his place till the relationship is very defined and preparations are already kicking off.

You no even fine sef.

good one there, if only the ladies learn

Ladies please if you are going by the advice "avoid premarital sex" then you should avoid collecting premarital monies from boyfriends. I believe majority of men who give out money free will later want something in return even indirectly. Things like sex will come in here.

Toks my man. I always like your topic
The Truth is that many folks are very confused
Because the society today has misplaced there priorities.

The way people view is sex today is alarming
A lot of women you are advising easily sleep around
Many of them don't know what they want in life

Only the wise ones will listen to your advice
Others will just offer themselves willingly to randy men.

NoToPile:
Lool, I cant believe I agree with toks2008

What works and will still be the best is the old school method, thats part of what toks is saying. Not a popular opinion and 90percent wont even agree with you

Someone will come and squeeze 3 years out of the life of a lady.

I even wonder if some people see dating as a hobby or something.

u mean the old skool method of someone arranging a wife for u. It certainly wont work in this 21st century. I have witnessed cases where parents unknownly arrange female monsters for their sons thinking they are good girls and in some cases where u tell a friend to look for a wife for u he will bring one of his ex for u and still be fuking her while u arranging to marry her. Getting hooked with someone u really know its the safest method.

There’s nothing wrong with cooking and cleaning, just don’t overdo it and become a housemaid for the man when it’s not necessary. Once in a while, let him know that you’re skilled in that department, but when it starts becoming a chore and you’re expected to do it, then it becomes a problem. You get? Just find a balance.

mhizbel:

My dear you get strength o... I make sure I define my relationship from the very beginning. Oga I wee not cook for sombori who is not my husband, I wee not wash or clean anything. The least I can do is to give him some assistance while he's at it.
In fact, I wee not even go visit him at his place till the relationship is very defined and preparations are already kicking off.

mhizbel:

My dear you get strength o... I make sure I define my relationship from the very beginning. Oga I wee not cook for sombori who is not my husband, I wee not wash or clean anything. The least I can do is to give him some assistance while he's at it.
In fact, I wee not even go visit him at his place till the relationship is very defined and preparations are already kicking off.

if a lady is too ridgid and laying down rules upandan the guy will think twice in marrying her. A normal man will want a lady who relaxes when she's around him and fun to be with. No be the babe wey go dey put down rules and dey put deadlines for the man to marry her sharp sharp.

Saffi:
There’s nothing wrong with cooking and cleaning, just don’t overdo it and become a housemaid for the man when it’s not necessary. Once in a while, let him know that you’re skilled in that department, but when it starts becoming a chore and you’re expected to do it, then it becomes a problem. You get? Just find a balance.

certainly did not expect this type of post from u but u very much on point.

What you fail to understand is that the man is the pursuer. The woman is the prize, you chase the woman. You go after her to impress her. You pick the woman of your choice and court her. Therefore money and gifts or whatever it may be comes with Pursuing the woman. Once the woman chooses to accept your offer, which will then lead to marriage then she will give you the sex you desire. Both of you will now compliment each other. This is how it’s supposed to be, but so many women do not understand this. Instead they chase after the man and give him everything he wants, then when he dumps you, the lady begins to cry. That’s all I have to say.

olayinka63:
Ladies please if you are going by the advice "avoid premarital sex" then you should avoid collecting premarital monies from boyfriends. I believe majority of men who give out money free will later want something in return even indirectly. Things like sex will come in here.

Fuhrerfran6:
This trash about ladies and marriage is becoming too much.

Guys need to wake up and raise the bar when it comes to marriage. The OP is making girls feel special like they all got something to offer.


Most of the ladies hanging around today looking for husband are not marriagble. All they got going is fine face and big buts, no plans, no job, no ambition and they all pray to get marriage to a rich, hardworking guy to elevate them from poverty.

Guys should wise up! Don't date any bimboo with no ambition. Raise your standards, and if a girl comes up with marriage, ask her questions that will shock her bone marrow.

Never settle for less as a guy. If a your babe is not ready to help her life, dump her and move to the next one because women are the most selfish Humans on earth.

The OP is making girls feel like sex is the key because actually sex is the only thing an average Nigerian girl has to offer in a relationship.

This advice is not only baseless but putrid and shows how thoughtless the OP can be.

Not everyone who can afford a phone actually deserves it.

as in eh bro,u really nailed it oo,d op brain seems to b leaking,what is all this fuss about marriage marriage, as if that is the only thing we have come into this life for,as a man,we should really raise our standard for these ladies,cos they are now so comfortable in their mediocrity lifestyle thinking any man that loves them enough will marry them for the trash they are
they all think its easy to ask a woman out and u start shouldering her own responsibility too
we men need to wake up bro,my 2 cent

Chai! I don laugh tire...see thread meant for ladies getting hijacked and masturb*ted on by guys..see guys practically wailing on top simple advise.

Ladies this is a sign for you all to wise up cos moat guys are just out to damage you.

Abeg make the guys continue to wail and let me continue to laugh in Jubril voice..

Toseenlove:


Then u need change the Heading of this post then because it was generalized. So change it to "Some reasonable young ladies"

An African proverb says..."But for fools, all words should be spoken in proverbs"

Saffi:
There’s nothing wrong with cooking and cleaning, just don’t overdo it and become a housemaid for the man when it’s not necessary. Once in a while, let him know that you’re skilled in that department, but when it starts becoming a chore and you’re expected to do it, then it becomes a problem. You get? Just find a balance.

True

Toks2008:


An African proverb says..."But for fools, all words should be spoken in proverbs"

Hmmm are u trying to abuse me now.

Toseenlove:


Hmmm are u trying to abuse me now.

Nope...why should I?, I'm too civil for such.

Toks2008:

Nope...why should I?, I'm too civil for such.

Alright then I trust u on that cheers.

lefulefu:
u mean the old skool method of someone arranging a wife for u. It certainly wont work in this 21st century. I have witnessed cases where parents unknownly arrange female monsters for their sons thinking they are good girls and in some cases where u tell a friend to look for a wife for u he will bring one of his ex for u and still be fuking her while u arranging to marry her. Getting hooked with someone u really know its the safest method.

Naa not the arrangee old school type

I mean the way courting is done properly, infact there would be less heartbreaks.

For e.g before before you cant just 'go out' with a girl like that, her whole clan will be aware, the papa will say bring my baby before so so time, you have to go knock at their door just to go on a date oo.
Infact if you think of all these 'unnecesary wahala' if you are not interested to wife the girl you wont even attempt wooing her.

Shey it someone that you had to take lots of permissions to go out lasan that will come and do washaman, even give you sex?

NoToPile:



Naa not the arrangee old school type

I mean the way courting is done properly, infact there would be less heartbreaks.

For e.g before before you cant just 'go out' with a girl like that, her whole clan will be aware, the papa will say bring my baby before so so time, you have to go knock at their door just to go on a date oo.
Infact if you think of all these 'unnecesary wahala' if you are not interested to wife the girl you wont even attempt wooing her.

Shey it someone that you had to take lots of permissions to go out lasan that will come and do washaman, even give you sex?

oh u mean dat type of dating? Its not old skool na. My guy who schooled in unijos told me dats how d hausas date. Dat if u movin with a hausa girl she will introduce u to her ppl as her boyfriend. And by the way is dat not how d whites date? Its only in the south dat a guy will be sneaking around moving with a girl.

lefulefu:
oh u mean dat type of dating? Its not old skool na. My guy who schooled in unijos told me dats how d hausas date. Dat if u movin with a hausa girl she will introduce u to her ppl as her boyfriend. And by the way is dat not how d whites date? Its only in the south dat a guy will be sneaking around moving with a girl.

OhoOokayy

lefulefu:
oh u mean dat type of dating? Its not old skool na. My guy who schooled in unijos told me dats how d hausas date. Dat if u movin with a hausa girl she will introduce u to her ppl as her boyfriend. And by the way is dat not how d whites date? Its only in the south dat a guy will be sneaking around moving with a girl.

Lefu it's been a while..
How u dey?

lefulefu:
if a lady is too ridgid and laying down rules upandan the guy will think twice in marrying her. A normal man will want a lady who relaxes when she's around him and fun to be with. No be the babe wey go dey put down rules and dey put deadlines for the man to marry her sharp sharp.

I am not too rigid neither am I boring. It's just that I have my own principles... yes, I can compromise a little bit but no, I can't compromise.

Saffi:
There’s nothing wrong with cooking and cleaning, just don’t overdo it and become a housemaid for the man when it’s not necessary. Once in a while, let him know that you’re skilled in that department, but when it starts becoming a chore and you’re expected to do it, then it becomes a problem. You get? Just find a balance.

Yes, I get your point... Thanks!

Toseenlove:

You no even fine sef.

Yes! I understand that beauty is in the eyes of the beholder.