A Nigerian lady has taken to her social media page to cation men against giving ladies money before marriage.

He instead advises them to rather save for their future as majority of the ladies, in her own opinion, are independent.

And she also added that the sex will also not be taken out of the relationship. All they want to see is the guy achieving his dreams.

She wrote:

Dear guys, please stop giving us money when we haven't married you We have our own money, we are independent save for your future we will still sex you without money I'm speaking on behalf of all ladies !

https://lailasnews.com/stop-giving-us-money-before-marriage-lady-cautions-men/

lalasticlala

No, you are speaking for yourself only.

Are you suppose to be having sex in the first place

We have our own money?
Don't give us money before marriage?
Speaking for ALL Ladies?

Lol. Even as pro-women as I am, I do not buy this...

Mumu...many guys will sleep on this thread
Another opportunity for them to bash women

Na her type dey pay man bride price all in the name of trying to form MISS INDEPENDENT.


when they finally get married and the man refuses take up the responsibilities of the family she starts to cry foul.

Mtcheeeeeeeew

See as ladies above attacked her left...right...center

Well, can't say she didn't see this coming

AntiBrutus:
We have our own money?
Don't give us money before marriage?
Speaking for ALL Ladies?

Lol. Even as pro-women as I am, I do not buy this...

She is speaking for decent women not prostitutes

This one pain Nairaland ashawo women

see as them broke hoes up this thread want to eat her alive..
is money your birthright?

I don't know about giving money before or after marriage, but if you are a traditional woman as most African women are just make sure your man CAN provide for you and your unborn kids before you plunge into marriage. And how would you know he is up to the task if you don't use your discretion while dating. If he doesn't take care of you in courtship, he won't in marriage.


Learn from American women. They have toed this independent, strong woman path and have emasculated the men in their lives.

Men are very malleable. It doesn't take much to drive them to work hard, Just love them conditionally. It also does not take much to keep them lazy, just love them unconditionally.

Earthquake2:


She is speaking for decent women not prostitutes

She said "all" women and that itself is a fallacy. Prostitutes do not even have to come out to say this, their rules of association is very clear, money for sex.

Her coming out to speak for ALL women, won't fly. A good number of Nigerian women are very dependent on men, this her talk is definitely not the mind of ALL (these) women. No need trying to play semantics because you wanna counter me. Men will continue to spend on their women, women will continue to collect from their men.

And please, what is decent about a women that has sex with several men before marriage? Are they not the same women you people call borehole pussy? Are they suddenly decent because they do not want anything from you?

TimiRume:
I don't know about giving money before or after marriage, but if you are a traditional woman as most African women are just make sure your man CAN provide for you and your unborn kids before you plunge into marriage. And how would you know he is up to the task if you don't use your discretion while dating. If he doesn't take care of you in courtship, he won't in marriage.


Learn from American women. They have toed this independent, strong woman path and have emasculated the men in their lives.

Men are very malleable. It doesn't take much to drive them to work hard, Just love them conditionally. It also does not take much to keep them lazy, just love them unconditionally.

true

Lazy girls won't like this.

Please speak for your mora fuckiing self. Thank you

I refuse to be in a relationship with a guy with sealed pockets.

Seriously. I don’t understand this misconception that if a woman is independent it’s an abomination to receive money from a guy. The fact that I’m working hard means that I want a guy who will TRIPPLE the amount that I already have. What nonsense.

virgoquin:


Na her type dey pay man bride price all in the name of trying to form MISS INDEPENDENT.


when they finally get married and the man refuses take up the responsibilities of the family she starts to cry foul.

Mtcheeeeeeeew

How do we know she has a job and she is the one feeding herself?
Reject any money from your boyfriend and you will be dumped asap
and learn quickly that reality is different from ideal.

Saffi:
Seriously. I don’t understand this misconception that if a woman is independent it’s an abomination to receive money from a guy. The fact that I’m working hard means that I want a guy who will TRIPPLE the amount that I already have. What nonsense.

The misconception only exists among internet trolls and attention seekers.
No one has the right to dictate another person's relationship since no one
is forced to be in it in the first place.

Na wa o. This thing really pain dem nl ladies o.

Saffi:
Seriously. I don’t understand this misconception that if a woman is independent it’s an abomination to receive money from a guy. The fact that I’m working hard means that I want a guy who will TRIPPLE the amount that I already have. What nonsense.

Maybe she is just seeking attention and trying to make away into the heart of the guys there.


The way you start with a man is the same way you will end.

Allow the men be to the provider, defender that they are.

Saffi:
Seriously. I don’t understand this misconception that if a woman is independent it’s an abomination to receive money from a guy. The fact that I’m working hard means that I want a guy who will TRIPPLE the amount that I already have. What nonsense.

You want a guy who will triple your amount

U no go MMM?

Rejecting a partner's money or gifts is a silent code for lack of interest and potential breakup.

If she doesn't want her boyfriends' money, kindly stay single and enjoy your independence
with peace of mind.

I see no reason why she doesn't want money before marriage but wants money after marriage
when she could happily maintain her independence.

This post is directed at financially stable guys and not those struggling to make a living.

Shut up. I want you to take my money.

My kind of woman

Heheheh

I cannot come and kill myself ontop woman

Xisnin:
How do we know she has a job and she is the one feeding herself?
Reject any money from your boyfriend and you will be dumped asap.
and learn quickly that reality is different from ideal.

Lol, she doesn't know. There is a limit to MISS INDEPENDENT. That men appreciate her type of MISS INDEPENDENT is a big lie. It ends on the pages of NL.

I learned a lot about men after working with a team of only guys for years. The day I dropped 60% of my Miss Independent, started telling them to help pump my tire, make photocopies,buy my lunch along with theirs, get me water from the dispenser, help with my reports..etc, that was the day they started loving me 200%. Before then, they saw me as just another man; a competition that is totally unattractive/unfeminine.

As long as you do not come up with that nasty entitlement mentality, you are appreciative and content...you are good to go.

Social media is indeed different from reality. After close observation, I discovered that men love to be felt. They want to know a good part of your life revolves around them. They want to be missed. Whether for their ego or altruism, them go sha do!

When will Nigerian womem be independent.

They earn as much as men but want to collect.

AntiBrutus:


Lol, she doesn't know. There is a limit to MISS INDEPENDENT. That men appreciate her type of MISS INDEPENDENT is a big lie. It ends on the pages of NL.

I learned a lot about men after working with a team of only guys for years. The day I dropped 60% of my Miss Independent, started telling them to help pump my tire, make photocopies,buy my lunch along with theirs, get me water from the dispenser, help with my reports..etc, that was the day they started loving me 200%. Before then, they saw me as just another man; a competition that is totally unattractive/unfeminine.

As long as you do not come up with that nasty entitlement mentality, you are appreciative and content...you are good to go.

Social media is indeed different from reality. After close observation, I discovered that men love to be felt. They want to know a good part of your life revolves around them. They want to be missed. Whether for their ego or altruism, them go sha do!

You are not totally wrong

But there are other ways to be dependent than financially.

Are you not aware buhari is president? Wey the money?

Saffi:
Please speak for your mora fuckiing self. Thank you

I refuse to be in a relationship with a guy with sealed pockets.

that one is dead weight Na. I would rather stay single and adopt than to marry such.

RTSC:

You are not totally wrong

But there are other ways to be dependent than financially.

Are you not aware buhari is president? Wey the money?

it is available, go sand hustle for it.

funmisticqueen:
it is available, go sand hustle for it.

Where you go since?

Saffi:
Seriously. I don’t understand this misconception that if a woman is independent it’s an abomination to receive money from a guy. The fact that I’m working hard means that I want a guy who will TRIPPLE the amount that I already have. What nonsense.

"TRIPPLE the amount that I already have" -- by working harder for yourself & getting more money you really need Plizzzzz! By yourself, for yourself, to thyself.

(Lemme look for trouble small)

If I tripple the amount myself then my man must double tripple and quartripple the amount that I have already tripled. Thank you.

truthsayer009:


"TRIPPLE the amount that I already have" -- by working harder for yourself & getting more money you really need Plizzzzz! By yourself, for yourself, to thyself.

(Lemme look for trouble small)

AntiBrutus:
We have our own money?
Don't give us money before marriage?
Speaking for ALL Ladies?

Lol. Even as pro-women as I am, I do not buy this...

Ahn Ahn, what do you mean? Berra spend your own Money oh!

Oh thou Independent women, Spend thy money for thy Self & asketh not for any other -- Book of Solomon Chapter 5 vs 6