LolaO:


I never cheated.

Fine.... but has he ever accused you of cheating? To some guys this little exchange between you and me amounts to cheating.

pocohantas:


How did you even date for 5 yrs?

When a grown man is ready, he is ready. If he delays for 5yrs. Sis, nigga is weighing his options.

This is just totally wrong LMAO, people date for years far more than that & they still get married.

Did you even read the part where she last saw him 2 years ago? Who the hell is a relationship in same country that takes 2 years to see each other. She has been dating herself all this while.

Also, this seems like a sexless relationship, Men don't wait that long to be honest.

rosalieene:

As part of consolation the nigga said I have a Good heart and deserves someone who would treat me like a queen, even tho this was not coming from his mind...... But today, I am blessed with an amazing man, better than my Ex in everything... so you see, just brace up, someday you will smile and thank God for the breakup just like I did.

He was right, wasn't he? Don't you agree that you have a good heart.
Currently, are you not with someone that now treats you like a Queen?

Some people may not like you as you want but cannot deny you are actually a good person. Being good doesn't make anyone stick with you, once they have attraction for someone else. Your "good" doesn't matter anymore. That is why some people remain in toxic relationships even when their partners are evil to them.

Guest007:


You typed all this rubbish with your hairy balls in your hand, and you expect us to take you seriously?

What is it with you Beta niggers and too much talk? I bet my smaller boob, you're typing all this in your silk underwear, is it red?

ASSUMPTIONS, how do even know he was holding his balls while typing? Ehen! How do you know?

Gaspardd:
I am a nice guy and i live in asaba. Can we hook up?
I mean u come across so many nice guys but i am sure u wud just throw them away.

You get sense so? Na the ex bf go asaba. Abi na the ex bf contact you want?

LolaO:
My relationship of 5 years ended in the most heartbreaking way.

He got transferred to Asaba from Lagos and months later just stopped talking to me, no communication, no closure, nothing, just like that.
It’s been 5 months now.

This is someone I had planned my whole life around.

Distance does not make the heart go fonder.

I am so hurt, it hurts.

I know how much this can hurt.

Emaprince:
So Ladies should rather listen to you, who is advicing them to keep many boyfriends, hence turning themselves to oloshos. Between your advice and the the man you quoted, who is better?

Men should stay away from promiscous woman like you who goes about looking for good women to deceive into living waywardly in the name of having many men to chose as fall back when a relationship goes south.

He is just trolling.

Emphasis on HE.

lefulefu:
there are guys wey go travel go US or UK for further studies and they will come back to marry their boo.ordinary asaba wey ur guy travel to wey no too far that much from lagos im don cut off links from u

LMAO, maybe during that 5 years. Nigeria was in Civil War, so she couldn't travel down to Asaba to see him
She even stated that in 2 years before the break up, they didn't see each other because they were both busy. Mtchew!

Baba nla Red flag.

Sometimes it is not just only call
Madam VISIT him in Asaba.
South-south terrain is very different from Lagos.

During your annual leave visit him. No place is very far to the person we love.
I have work in those environment and my travelled down to visit. I value it a lot and respect her for that

pocohantas:


Oga, no grown man who is financially stable will date that one woman he wants for 5yrs. Quote me anywhere.

The guy wa sout of the relationship since, she was the one who didn't get the memo. I am very sure she would see his wedding invitation soon.

Sex or no sex, a man knows who and what he wants. No be today nyash dey back.

She said they dated from school oh, She said so. Should I look for the comment for you?

He's not even a grown man or financially stable.

OP just move on with your life, whether the guy gives reasons or not. I just chuckled when I remembered that while I was walking along a street this morning, I overheard a woman singing along a song from one sound speaker across - "I can't kill myself". Though I am not a fan of these boys oh but come to think of it, will you kill yourself? If he walked away, it means he wasn't meant for you.

I had this sister in my university days that i respected and loved so much like an elder sister I never had. She was some two years ahead of me. I grow so fond of her that when we used to communicate by letter writing during her youth service, by then I was in my penultimate year in school. In one of my letters I told her if not that she was my senior by age, I wouldn't have mind proposing to her; then probed into her love life. She replied that she was engaged to some guy that was outside the country, that she engaged to this guy when she was in her first year and the guy in his final year.

Fast forward to some years later. Do you know she waited for nine (9) good years and when the bobo came back, he got married to another girl without explaining my sister's offense or why he had to call quit the r/ship. Thank God my friend moved on with life. Was she heartbroken? Yes, it hurt deeply but as a child of God she took it and God gave her a very good replacement.

In life we must always strive hard to be on top things we can control and handover to God, the things that are outside our control. You would be fine. Just occupy with the things of God, loosen up and engage in activities that will bring out your radiance, smiles and laughter.

Fortissimo502:

You get sense so? Na the ex bf go asaba. Abi na the ex bf contact you want?

Ahan ahan, why are you trying to c0ck block this guy na? I'm also in Asaba & about to shoot my shot to the OP, please don't put sand in our garri abeg.

bobowaja:

Never do that. She is done fuvking other guys. She was disappointed by those who she think were better than you. Since you are more reliable and stable than the rest, she wants back.

You are not a back up plan or planB bro. Ignore her or turn her to fuvk buddy (only allow her as fuvk mate if u re sure u won't fall in love with her again).

She has been begging me to d extents she came to place with my frds and her frds to beg me, l swore in their present I will never take her back, she still continue disturbing me, na her business be dat, no going back
@op am free, chat me up, let console ourselves

truthsayer009:


He was right, wasn't he? Don't you agree that you have a good heart.
Currently, are you not with someone that now treats you like a Queen?

Some people may not like you as you want but cannot deny you are actually a good person. Being good doesn't make anyone stick with you, once they have attraction for someone else. Your "good" doesn't matter anymore. That is why some people remain in toxic relationships even when their partners are evil to them.

It's TRUE

greypencils:
Red flag. You've not seen him for two years? Are you both in Nigeria? Even if you are not, You claim to be in a relationship with someone you've not seen for two years? really? I am going to cut your man some slack. You both have crazy work schedules that doesn't give you time for each other. That's a disaster waiting to happen. Your man simply got tired of being alone.

See ehn, It's sometimes necessary for Women not assume that they always know how a Man thinks. That's why it's good Women should have a Male figure in their lives, perhaps Father or a close Uncle/Friend they can relate with & reveal some important info.

Red flag that has been showing since.

Even Pilots & Iraq soldiers don't spend such time away from their loved ones. Na ordinary Asaba to Lagos

truthsayer009:


Ahan ahan, why are you trying to cock block this guy na? I'm also in Asaba & about to shoot my shot to the OP, please don't put sand in our garri abeg.

Don't shoot any shot at OP.
She's in Lag. Not Asaba.
Besides, I think she needs some rest for now

Not sure what we are supposed to do with this information.

You were the one in the relationship and if you don't know why he acted that way or how it could have been salvaged (if possible), neither do we.

Sorry about the heartbreak though.

Also, stop building your life around someone you aren't married to.

LolaO:
My relationship of 5 years ended in the most heartbreaking way.

He got transferred to Asaba from Lagos and months later just stopped talking to me, no communication, no closure, nothing, just like that.
It’s been 5 months now.

This is someone I had planned my whole life around.

Distance does not make the heart go fonder.

I am so hurt, it hurts.

Stop trying to make it work...
In every relationship there is always the lover and the beloved...
If you're not the latter you will definitely feel hurt at some point...
And it's obvious you're the lover...
my one cent stop trying to make it work just let him be, I know its hard but try We men sometimes just need break... and the truth is that he enjoys sex with you while he was in Lagos (hence the love he was showing you)..Now that you're miles away from him...you can't offer him that any longer...
If you think you still love him, Go visit him, get intimate...I assure you things will normalize...
but the circle will still have to continue over and over again...

CosmicJames:

Don't shoot any shot at OP.
She's in Lag. Not Asaba.
Besides, I think she needs some rest for now

Rest bawo! Oga leave me. Lemme shoot my shot Jejely

Take time please!

Mscheew. It was meant to become a tree? Go and find someone else. Life continues.

Rednaxelot:
see this relationship scavenger

Scavenging is allowed.

LolaO:
My relationship of 5 years ended in the most heartbreaking way.

He got transferred to Asaba from Lagos and months later just stopped talking to me, no communication, no closure, nothing, just like that.
It’s been 5 months now.

This is someone I had planned my whole life around.

Distance does not make the heart go fonder.

I am so hurt, it hurts.

Pls is this Ms ? is it that guy you once celebrated in a facebook post?

truthsayer009:


ASSUMPTIONS, how do even know he was holding his balls while typing? Ehen! How do you know?

He was having a verbal self-service

Shit happens just take heart and move on

truthsayer009:


See ehn, It's sometimes necessary for Women not assume that they always know how a Man thinks. That's why it's good Women should have a Male figure in their lives, perhaps Father or a close Uncle/Friend they can relate with & reveal some important info.

Red flag that has been showing since.

Even Pilots & Iraq soldiers don't spend such time away from their loved ones. Na ordinary Asaba to Lagos

Op definitely didn't tell us the whole truth. She make us believe the relationship lasted for 5 good years. But the truth is that the relationship lasted for about 2.5 yrs.
Even when the relationship was active, I'm not even sure if it was strong enough.

Now people are commenting base on incomplete information. Is not good

makydebbie:
Awwn op, lets look at the bright side, he probably wasn't the one for you.

Five years no be beans tho, damn.

Exactly.

thowbie7ven:
Pls is this Ms ? is it that guy you once celebrated in a facebook post?

Yes sir... you know me?
Please, edit my name off

LolaO:
My relationship of 5 years ended in the most heartbreaking way.

He got transferred to Asaba from Lagos and months later just stopped talking to me, no communication, no closure, nothing, just like that.
It’s been 5 months now.

This is someone I had planned my whole life around.

Distance does not make the heart go fonder.

I am so hurt, it hurts.

Why not give him a call?

U don't have to always wait for him to call cos he's the man.

And u cannot tell, what if he had an accident on his way and he's being hospitalized?

So, don't assume.

I hope you eventually re-connect but if not, "Shove your ass along lady" ....
.... life is good and it goes on and on and on ...

truthsayer009:


She said they dated from school oh, She said so. Should I look for the comment for you?

He's not even a grown man or financially stable.

Why you come quote me na? He is just a transitional bf then. It is normal they breakup. I can't even remember the full name of my bf that year. Wetin I dey use that kind mumu bf do?

E pass "hello, I miss you. Have you eaten?".

Toor! Na ancestor levels we dey now

Annie001:


She is married and you think she still regrets it
If you guys are still together would you have married her by now.
She is married that justifies her happiness
Nice write up though

So you think all married are happy? does the fact that she's married actually translates to happiness?

truthsayer009:


LMAO, maybe during that 5 years. Nigeria was in Civil War, so she couldn't travel down to Asaba to see him
She even stated that in 2 years before the break up, they didn't see each other because they were both busy. Mtchew!

Baba nla Red flag.

abegi the relationship don already get comma and the bros was already looking for a way to escape and the asaba transfer offered a sweet opportunity and talking of the asaba transfer it could be he even formed that excuse to escape .its like op don already dey exhibit traits wey d bros no like so hence he just perfected his plans to leave her.u know some girls wen u bring up things u dont like they start creating drama and calling u insecure and bla blah blah .so to make peace reign just leave her alone,cut off contacts and go ur own way..who cares if she cries..she go see another man nah.i just like the way op boyfriend just handle the whole issue..he didnt quarrrel or b!tch like most weak men do(who even has the time to quarreling over relationship these days).he just made up his mind that enough was enough and cut off from the relationship .and as for the issue on why op no visit her guy for asaba u might not blame her on that oo cos if u want to leave a girl will u let her know ur new address? .

LolaO:


Yes sir... you know me?
Please, edit my name off

Edited...I'm sorry I had to put up your name just wanted to be so sure it's you...You went to laspotech rite? I just wondered why I don't get to see you post anything about him again...it was such a relationship then which I was viewing from afar....All I know all will be well with you...take your time and this time shall surely pass