Her friend will snitch on you. One day she and your gf many get into a hot quarrel and she might spill the secret and even used it to mock your babe.

Guy, man up and tell her now o. I know what I am saying and I’ve seen this happen . Her friend won’t keep it a secret , she will indirectly or directly make it know to your babe when the time comes .you better expose yourself now to redeem yourself on time before it’s too late.

AdeeT:
Abuse and curse me all you wished, the did is already done, the one I am not proud of, and never wished for to happen. I took all the blame, and only wanted a best idea/advice to safe landing.

My mind is pushing me towards visiting her to relate with her all that has happened. And again, another mind is telling me that all would be lost afterwards. I don't want to loose her, she's already an integral part of my life.

How best can I confront her without loosing her?

First, In anything you do after now to remedy the situation,
BE INTELLIGENT AND INTENTIONAL, dont act by emotional prompt, try to find out how she might feel knowing you hurt her, try to find out the best way to approach her you'd tell her you cheated, try to act the best possible way to win her back, but bottomline tell her you did.
Now see all the things you'd have to put yourself through all because you couldn't keep your dick in place
My 2 cents.

expert pocohantas come and advice this renegade we have here. i thought he got HIV already so i can tell him how close the end of his life is lol

All your talks about being good looking has no bearing on the case at hand, it slightly makes u come across as immature. If u are truly that good looking, then u shd be used to lots of attention from the opposite sex so much that u shd be used to it by now, let alone fall for it when it’s coming from ur fiancées best friend. However I see u are remorseful, she deserves to know the truth. It wud count for something that u came out with the truth as opposed to her finding out. I’m talking from experience, that’s d only way u can hopefully earn her trust someday. Lastly, there are more good looking men that are faithful in their relationships, it’s time to grow up into the man she deserves. Good luck brother.

Hmmm...... bro... is funny how now you're having all this guilt complex and can't believe how you allowed yourself to be seduced. All this talk I can understand.... if it were after the first time. Didn't any of these guilty feelings pop up? Are you trying to tell us she seduced you several times after?...or is it more you were looking forward to the sexcitement? Is it now after she left you remember your future wife? ...and what she did for you... and how much she means to you? You been enjoying the friend.... why is that so hard to admit?..... why be a weakling and be blowing all this smoke ?
My advice... keep your mouth shut... be a man... act as if nothing happened. She will do the same.... but can guarantee you.... she would be looking to be serviced at every opportunity she has... whether you marry or not wouldn't make a difference. Is for you to let her know...it's over.. history... then say no more on that.

kowema:
He said he Fell into her seduction!.
So now we should blame her?.

Oga man up and take responsibility for your shit!.

You didn't feel guilty all the while you guys had several rendezvous, it's when she left back to base that your guilt resumed work, Nonsense!!!!.

When she started the Art of seduction as you claimed, why didn't you tell your girlfriend?, Na when you don belleful nai your guilt trigger.

Abi you are feeling like a this cus the girl isn't the one feeling horrible, if she was, you would have been spreading ur shoulder, feeling like conqueror, would have gone back to ur babe and then typical she will forgive you and the other person becomes the villain.

Please go and confess to your loving girlfriend and I hope she dumps ur cheating ass. Seduced you indeed!

Abeg no vex... U don't even know if it just a.the next Nollywood movie...sorry , no vex abeg

AdeeT:


I've betrayed her trust, I have really hurt her, I wish that I could undo all I've done. But it's too late, and I'm reek of guilt, it's all over me.

I just cheated on a beautiful lady that has stayed with me through thick and thin for years, a wonderful soul that anyone would dream to have. Cheating might be a common thing, but the moment you cheat on a pure soul, an innocent woman that gives you all, WITH HER BEST FRIEND, then it's beyond cheating.

I am charming, good looking working class guy, guys and girls easily comment how good looking I am, my fiancee is so proud of me, and my achievements that she easily shows me off at the slightest opportunity. She attended the same Uni with her friend, and ever since then, they've been a very good friend. They even served at the same place(worked out), to show you how close they her.

Now my fiancee works in the southern Nigeria, we planned to seal things up next year, and live together here in Abuja. Her friend came for a job interview here, and my woman advised that she rather stay with me for the period instead of her spending a lot on hotel accommodations since I live alone in a bedroom flat. I obliged, and she came down here, little did I know that things would get messy. Long story cut short, I fell in to her seduction the second night of her staying after some series of events. We ended up having sex couples of time before she left. I feel terrible now, though she felt nothing, I can't even flow well with my woman on phone again, guilt is all over me. I don't know how I will stand her whenever we meet. Of all girls in the world, she's the least anyone would want to cheat on.

I'm thinking of telling her. Mind you guys, I'm not a weakling, I've never been one. Before I met her some 3 years back, I was on the other end of life. She changed a lot for good for me, and helped stop many bad things, as well as starting several good ones. I don't know what her reaction would be after telling her. Her friend still communicates with her as if nothing happened.

I'm in pain guys. A serious one. I need advices.

There is Smtn good, strong and sexy about resisting temptation. Smtmes staying with a lady and resisting the urge for her is a great power and control to possess and enjoy than giving in to 5mins of worthless passion. Unless she’s the right one and the right time. Stay true to your principles.

midnighter:
How can somebody use her own mouth to urge their dude and girlfriend stay together...in a self-contained...and she wont even be there to attend to her friend...

Well, couldnt be me sha..crazy..

Maybe she collaborated with the friend to test you and see if you would fall

Exactly my thought. I'd rather help my friend with some cash to Lodge in an hotel than taking that risk.

Trust nobody.

sweetonugbu:
So that you guys will enjoy your marriage without feeling guilty like this

At old age, the arm would be around the shoulders, not on the butt.

bestabigaelever:
You had sex several times with the best friend of the person you claimed you love
You are a plaque, please leave that innocent girl alone and go for medical check up pls
But since u need advice, here is my own
Send a break up message, telling her how u are bad and foolish person, that you don't deserve her
If she calls back, answer the phone crying....dont day anything yet
After she persuade you, confessed what u did
If she forgive ND take you back, then go and sin no more

What a judgemental fool you are...mtcheww

Angy55:


Exactly my thought. I'd rather help my friend with some cash to Lodge in an hotel than taking that risk.

Trust nobody.

Exactly! Just breeding unnecessary familiarity over nothing.

What kind of friend is that that she must stay in your husbands bedroom

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Danwakae:


Abeg no vex... U don't even know if it just a.the next Nollywood movie...sorry , no vex abeg

Lol. I vex no be small

jaxxy:


There is Smtn good, strong and sexy about resisting temptation. Smtmes staying with a lady and resisting the urge for her is a great power and control to possess and enjoy than giving in to 5mins of worthless passion. Unless she’s the right one and the right time. Stay true to your principles.

Baba, you hit nail for im head wella,
As much as must men derive pleasure from falling into girls advances, the joy, feeling of control and highness of refusing to fall after being tempted repeatedly is out of this world

funmisticqueen:
keep your mouth shut

good point.... as for me my advice is that since they are not yet married ..he can still remedy the situation...like someone above said try and spoil the relationship between your girl and her friend.... let them part ways .if you go confess to your girl which would have been then right thing she will either breakup with you or use it to hunt you for the rest of your stay together.somethings are better left unsaid meanwhile let’s hope it wasn’t a planned work.

AdeeT:


I've betrayed her trust, I have really hurt her, I wish that I could undo all I've done. But it's too late, and I'm reek of guilt, it's all over me.

I just cheated on a beautiful lady that has stayed with me through thick and thin for years, a wonderful soul that anyone would dream to have. Cheating might be a common thing, but the moment you cheat on a pure soul, an innocent woman that gives you all, WITH HER BEST FRIEND, then it's beyond cheating.

I am charming, good looking working class guy, guys and girls easily comment how good looking I am, my fiancee is so proud of me, and my achievements that she easily shows me off at the slightest opportunity. She attended the same Uni with her friend, and ever since then, they've been a very good friend. They even served at the same place(worked out), to show you how close they her.

Now my fiancee works in the southern Nigeria, we planned to seal things up next year, and live together here in Abuja. Her friend came for a job interview here, and my woman advised that she rather stay with me for the period instead of her spending a lot on hotel accommodations since I live alone in a bedroom flat. I obliged, and she came down here, little did I know that things would get messy. Long story cut short, I fell in to her seduction the second night of her staying after some series of events. We ended up having sex couples of time before she left. I feel terrible now, though she felt nothing, I can't even flow well with my woman on phone again, guilt is all over me. I don't know how I will stand her whenever we meet. Of all girls in the world, she's the least anyone would want to cheat on.

I'm thinking of telling her. Mind you guys, I'm not a weakling, I've never been one. Before I met her some 3 years back, I was on the other end of life. She changed a lot for good for me, and helped stop many bad things, as well as starting several good ones. I don't know what her reaction would be after telling her. Her friend still communicates with her as if nothing happened.

I'm in pain guys. A serious one. I need advices.

Just promise yourself that you won't repeat such a dirty act next time, even although your marriage with her

Once you can do so then you will find peace

Love her more and more and your conscience will mellow down

As for her friend, reduce your communication with her and use your senses, she will accept a Bleep from you even if your wife is in pains in labour room and you are tensed, she no send and not remorse from her so best option is distance before she break your home a d take over

She no send ohhh

Don't tell your wife because you will create a very deep hole like a pot In her heart and women don't forget such

After your marriage just tell her politely that you don't want what will lead you to have problems with her that she should drop all her girl friends and start making friends with responsible married women

AdeeT:


How please? But then sorry if I was.

You do not deserve her, obviously. I'm glad you realize it yourself.

You need to risk everything by telling her. If the reverse were the case you'd want her to tell you.

Trust the love you have for each other and tell her.

She's going to be deeply hurt. You have to lick her shoes and grovel at her feet if need be to get her back. Show her it is a one time thing that will never happen again. Do whatever you need to do to win back her love and trust.

If you don't tell her, her friend will after you guys are married and she's jealous of her friend's happy marriage.

Most women have B.Sc in Withcraftology, they just don't know it.

Most men have 75% of their thinking faculties located in the smaller head between their legs.

The very very much single reason I dont like long distant relationships. Both parties keep deceiving themselves! If I can't be seeing you every week, then sorry, break up is imminent.

Thanks to all for trying to help.

I'm just more confused now than ever. I'll keep this to myself till we meet in December, by then, I pray that God will forgive me, and help me keep this that have nurtured for a long time.

I've learnt my lessons now. Again, thank you all.

Keep what to yourself??

Bia enyia, better go and tell her. Or you think that sociopath of a friend won't spill the beans Her so-called "best friend" who thought nothing of sleeping with you? She was obviously jealous of you guys relationship

Tell her and let her decide whether she wants you or not. At least you haven't married her yet so the thing is still malleable

So you are ready for your heart to start flying every time her name is mentioned? What of when you start having babies and she leaves them with that girl? You have to let her know that she has an enemy in her camp so that she will know what to do

AdeeT:


I've betrayed her trust, I have really hurt her, I wish that I could undo all I've done. But it's too late, and I'm reek of guilt, it's all over me.

I just cheated on a beautiful lady that has stayed with me through thick and thin for years, a wonderful soul that anyone would dream to have. Cheating might be a common thing, but the moment you cheat on a pure soul, an innocent woman that gives you all, WITH HER BEST FRIEND, then it's beyond cheating.

I am charming, good looking working class guy, guys and girls easily comment how good looking I am, my fiancee is so proud of me, and my achievements that she easily shows me off at the slightest opportunity. She attended the same Uni with her friend, and ever since then, they've been a very good friend. They even served at the same place(worked out), to show you how close they her.

Now my fiancee works in the southern Nigeria, we planned to seal things up next year, and live together here in Abuja. Her friend came for a job interview here, and my woman advised that she rather stay with me for the period instead of her spending a lot on hotel accommodations since I live alone in a bedroom flat. I obliged, and she came down here, little did I know that things would get messy. Long story cut short, I fell in to her seduction the second night of her staying after some series of events. We ended up having sex couples of time before she left. I feel terrible now, though she felt nothing, I can't even flow well with my woman on phone again, guilt is all over me. I don't know how I will stand her whenever we meet. Of all girls in the world, she's the least anyone would want to cheat on.

I'm thinking of telling her. Mind you guys, I'm not a weakling, I've never been one. Before I met her some 3 years back, I was on the other end of life. She changed a lot for good for me, and helped stop many bad things, as well as starting several good ones. I don't know what her reaction would be after telling her. Her friend still communicates with her as if nothing happened.

I'm in pain guys. A serious one. I need advices.

My dear don't kill yourself! Now let me shock you. Your supposed innocent girlfriend is a lesbian or should I say a bisexual. Her girlfriend is her lesbian partner and they have been worried how to break this to you. So she sends her to seduce you all in the guise of staying with you to reduce hotel bills!
What to do? Just play along. Pretend like nothing happened. Very soon their intentions will be very clear. She will want you both to have a party eventually.
Now most young girls of nowadays are lesbians but they pretend a lot. They only date guys because of societal pressure. Any day Nigeria legalizes homosexual marriage you will see Genevieve Nnaji, Linda Ikeji, Euchariah Anunobi, etc rush to get marriage certificates for their lesbian partners! For now they hide behind ridiculous excuses!

Yeah, back to you. How did I know this? It happened to my Cousin!

AdeeT:


For days I've been so weak bro, I'm so out of thoughts. I really bleeped up, I know.

I actually kept my distance from her, the first day, she slept in the bedroom, while I in the living room. I fell to some cheap plays, and she cornered me. I'm seriously regretting my actions.

This is a girl that have been praying with me(and for me) before I sleep or go to work the next day. I shouldn't have do this to her. It seems that I can't live with the guilt, neither do I wanna loose her.

Her friend is already ignored, both off and on-line.

Her friend will come back with an audio pregnancy. Pls, let us know when that happens.
Meanwhile, invite your girlfriend over for the weekend from Friday, and make her have a good time. When you come back in the evening from your outing on Friday, get on your knees and let her know you've wronged her. Tell her you slept with her friend and it will never happen again. Tell her you were drunk the night it happened, and you realised only too late. You may need to lie it happened just once as a mistake otherwise if you say it happened more than once, it is of course deliberate. We all know you're a dog, and it was deliberate.
The only reason I would advise you tell her is because it won't be a secret forever, and it will get messy sooner than later. If you had slept with someone she doesn't know or who isn't close to her, I would have asked you to keep the secret.
Use Saturday and Sunday to keep begging her in tears and regret. Even fake a heart attack in your remorse if you have too, especially if she says she quits there and then. Tell her you will die if she leaves you. We all know that's a lie, but a little drama goes a long way atimes. Women being women, will forgive you but will also cheat on you as soon as she gets back to her base. Scores 1-1

Donjazzy12:

My dear don't kill yourself! Now let me shock you. Your supposed innocent girlfriend is a lesbian or should I say a bisexual. Her girlfriend is her lesbian partner and they have been worried how to break this to you. So she sends her to seduce you all in the guise of staying with you to reduce hotel bills

Yeah, back to you. How did I know this? It happened to my Cousin!

This is another angle! Strange but possible....

Some things are better left unsaid.
I mean, don't lie but never say the truth when not asked to.

Just tell her it better to tell her the truth.. Last week my babe cheated on me.. She cried and told me how it happened.. I can't loose that girl because of just that single mistake. I forgave her and I even found out within myself that I love her than ever.. I can't leave that babe..

AdeeT:
Abuse and curse me all you wished, the did is already done, the one I am not proud of, and never wished for to happen. I took all the blame, and only wanted a best idea/advice to safe landing.

My mind is pushing me towards visiting her to relate with her all that has happened. And again, another mind is telling me that all would be lost afterwards. I don't want to loose her, she's already an integral part of my life.

How best can I confront her without loosing her?

Bro there are some secrets that must be taken to the grave... what you posted up there is one of them. You will surely loose her the moment you confess. The ball is in your court

AdeeT:
Abuse and curse me all you wished, the did is already done, the one I am not proud of, and never wished for to happen. I took all the blame, and only wanted a best idea/advice to safe landing.

My mind is pushing me towards visiting her to relate with her all that has happened. And again, another mind is telling me that all would be lost afterwards. I don't want to loose her, she's already an integral part of my life.

How best can I confront her without loosing her?

I don't blame you bro. Your lady trusted you and her friend but she forgot that the surge of your testosterone overwrites your reason. Her friend knew this and took advantage of it. I blame her for foolishly pairing fuel and fire and hoping that it won't catch fire. As you said, that ya lady has invested so much in you so for now, don't tell her now but have it in mind to tell her someday.

Do not try telling her anything because that's exactly her friend mission


you gat to be smart like a street guy, tell her you want her friend to stay off your apartment that she's trying to seduce you and you've restricted her so many times. tell her you're scared she might blackmail you if you resist her seduction


not everything you share to a woman, telling her will weaken her trust for you because it's the strong trust that made her not have negative things in mind to allow her friend stay with you, even if she forgive you, she won't forget and she will never trust you even when you guys married plus she might have reason to cheat on you post marriage


make sure that friend leave your apartment before Monday, don't give room for another temptation that might lead to pregnancy. when that her friend is pregnant, you will hate yourself as a man

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From all one could read here is someone who is scared that the news will get to his fiance first.

If perhaps the girl whom he had sex with was a random girl with no connection to the fiance, I don't think he would be scared

It's either the relationship is dead or you would live a long life of misery and guilt.

Even the so-called Jesus of the bible wont be able to redeem this guilt of yours.

You are not a real ni66er. Real ni66ers should cheat only when their wife deserves it and this is when:

1. Your wife has been a cheat in her past relationships
2. Your wife has cheated / been cheating in her current relationship
3. She doesn't support financially

From your story, she doesnt seem to fall into any of these categories. This is actually why you feel the need to confess. If u were dating a harlot, u may not have bothered too much.

Again, you are 400lish for not accepting the blame. You had multiple sexual acts with this girl and you are saying you were seduced? Why not also claim you were raped? You are very 400lish and your story sounds just exactly like that of Busola Dakolo -- 4oolish people who would never own up to their error. (You are still quite better though )

But now, there is a catch-22.

Have you for once ever thought your fiancee may have cheated on you too within this timeframe? How very sure are you? Can you stake your life that no other guy has kissed her lips or squeezed her breassts before? Are you so sure she hasnt been laid by another man.

When many men cheat, they feel this need to either confess to their wives and if they are not brave enough, they act carelessly like not clearing all their chats or behaving rashly to hint their babes. Women are the exact opposite and can take their secret to their grave. Most women make the first errors, but keep it secret, usually suspecting later on that their bfs/ husband would misstep. And then they somehow feel the equation is balanced, and from there on in, they wont confess anymore

SO FIRST AND FIRST FIND OUT ALL U CAN IF SHE HAS REMAINED FAITFHFUL THROUGHOUT BEFORE CONFESSING. DO ALL YOU CAN, RESEARCH TO THE VERY DEPTHS AND TAKE YOUR TIME. I THINK THE RESULT MAY SHOCK YOU

I know girls and I have the experience.

Your fiancee Na mumu.Person dey tell goat make e watch over yam?