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Re: I See No Use In Having A Girlfriend. Change My View!! by Kingrexyl(m): 12:08pm On Jan 02, 2020 |
makydebbie:Says a hungry looking Ghanaian girl.. 9 Likes |
Re: I See No Use In Having A Girlfriend. Change My View!! by AstroG: 12:17pm On Jan 02, 2020 |
Michellekabod2: There's nothing subjective about it,what the Op stated are basically the real facts. 3 Likes |
Re: I See No Use In Having A Girlfriend. Change My View!! by Nobody: 12:28pm On Jan 02, 2020 |
Makz: Brother he said girlfriend not wife ooo 3 Likes |
Re: I See No Use In Having A Girlfriend. Change My View!! by leokid866: 12:29pm On Jan 02, 2020 |
Makz: It's called the Demilade Effect....translated from Yoruba as "She who Crowns". |
Re: I See No Use In Having A Girlfriend. Change My View!! by Geniemoi01(m): 12:32pm On Jan 02, 2020 |
GraGra247: I just hope your kindness will not be used against you or used to string you into a parasitic committed relationship. Be careful how you help women. I'll not say more than this. 6 Likes |
Re: I See No Use In Having A Girlfriend. Change My View!! by Richnerd69: 12:59pm On Jan 02, 2020 |
xendra: He said a 'foreign lady ' and not necessarily a white one. I'll choose a foreign lady any day, over some Nigerian ladies. My mom is foreign and she gave my father peace. Even in her stay in Nigeria, she was taken aback by the way some Nigerian ladies behaved; They have this strong entitlement mentality, hoping to be established by a man. Lady what happened to your own dreams and goals? An average Nigerian girl is motivated to date you because your financially buoyant , wow. They will turn down a gentleman because he is struggling, trying to make ends meet. Talking about drama: Ladies generally are very dramatic, so it's something we guys have to adjust to. In real sense, an average Nigerian girl can hardly keep up in intellectual conversations when you engage them ; They rather enjoy talking about romance , movies , food, hair and make up. Just a few intellectual ladies in Nigeria I've come across and I was marveled. 6 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: I See No Use In Having A Girlfriend. Change My View!! by Albinoworwor: 1:03pm On Jan 02, 2020 |
Congratulation on your journey to becoming a recluse....before you know what's up you start drowning in depression |
Re: I See No Use In Having A Girlfriend. Change My View!! by monex(m): 1:12pm On Jan 02, 2020 |
Jodha: he actually didnt say so. He said he is low on libido. Libido has nothing to do with quick ejaculation 7 Likes |
Re: I See No Use In Having A Girlfriend. Change My View!! by Splinz(m): 1:13pm On Jan 02, 2020 |
Why would you want anyone to change your views? Like you rightly said, it's your opinion. Please keep it. Now, I'd also share my opinion with you. I started a relationship with someone last year, precisely on my birthday. You may called it my birthday gift and you wouldn't be wrong at all. Such a sweet gift! It may also interest you to know that I wasn't in any form of relationship with the opposite sex prior to this current one, for at least a period of 5 years. It was deliberate, neither was it about the girls: I just wasn't ready for any form of commitment with anyone; either emotionally or otherwise. But now I'm in a relationship, and here's at least 3 take home for me:- 1. Companionship/partnership: Aside enjoying her sweet companionship, my girl is also my number one team member. We do everything in common. You name it: Business, politics, education, etc. I'm always on top of my game though. But then, my girl will always add these spices here and there and make everything so beautifully tasteful. Girl is so intelligent... 2. Playmate: I enjoy watching little children play and fight, and also learn a lot from them. These little ones are always happy, though fighting here and there. They have first class in conflict management which ensures that they're always playing together despite their fights... This is also my relationship with my girl. I cannot coman be doing bigi man and die of boredom . We run around the house like rabbits, throwing pillows here and there, planting surprise kisses etc. If anyone thinks that playing is for children alone, then your relationship is in for a long thing... 3. Sex: My brother, I like sex mehn What!!! That stuff is good my G! So after all the play and running upandan, I'd carry her like Arnold Schwarzenegger , lay her on my bed, kiss and... In the end, I'm happy I loved and cared for someone: happy I can be a source of happiness to someone. My brother, may you find love in this new year. |
Re: I See No Use In Having A Girlfriend. Change My View!! by Nobody: 1:13pm On Jan 02, 2020 |
Op, you are in denial phase!! No man can resist the poise of a lady with good Spec!!! |
Re: I See No Use In Having A Girlfriend. Change My View!! by monex(m): 1:18pm On Jan 02, 2020 |
makydebbie: isnt he free to decide how he wants to live his life. why do you then insult him? I honestly believe his third point is flawed as I think a lot of use crave companionships but i am liberal enough to accept that there are those who might not want it. 2 Likes |
Re: I See No Use In Having A Girlfriend. Change My View!! by Richnerd69: 1:22pm On Jan 02, 2020 |
I engaged a random lady some days ago when I and my cousin took his kids to the park. I'm single(tho I have a friend), so my bro told me to approach this lady; She was alone . She's quite beautiful, sounded smart and cool. We spent hours talking and hanging out that day . I appeared average wearing a white polo and a Jean, I noticed she was eying me from head to toe. She asked about my watch and she said it looked expensive , she asked about my job and if I had a ride... I was smiling , I told her I'm still searching for a job and I came with my brother in his car. I recall asking her a few questions and one of the things I asked her was, "what she wanted in a man", to my amazement, she said she wanted a man that could establish her all round and provide her needs ; She doesn't want to suffer with any man. My zeal died immediately, as I left that park , I deleted her number and vowed never to contact her. She sent me a Good morning message , I'm not going to respond. I'm dodging this bullet. 17 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: I See No Use In Having A Girlfriend. Change My View!! by Ay04z(m): 1:22pm On Jan 02, 2020 |
Fact. But I need sure one anyway. 1 Like |
Re: I See No Use In Having A Girlfriend. Change My View!! by LINTUNE(m): 1:27pm On Jan 02, 2020 |
Richnerd69:u are lucky 5 Likes |
Re: I See No Use In Having A Girlfriend. Change My View!! by Trimque2k1(m): 2:08pm On Jan 02, 2020 |
Varlfott:Abeg tell me ur brand, name and location you deserve some cold beer. Incase you're shy manage this ones below 1 Like
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Re: I See No Use In Having A Girlfriend. Change My View!! by riche12: 2:19pm On Jan 02, 2020 |
Nice writeup @op A man priority should be to widen his horizon, develop himself with every possible opportunity, Learn new thinz etc.. Ladies should be the least of our concern.... Cause mostly, Nigerian girls contribute nothing at all to a mans life.... Just there to eat there share of the money in exchange for sex.. Low IQ, Eq... However the right lady can serve as a motivation to do more and achieve more BUT WHERE CAN WE FIND SUCH LADIES IN NAIJA 3 Likes |
Re: I See No Use In Having A Girlfriend. Change My View!! by SeverusSnape(m): 2:35pm On Jan 02, 2020 |
makydebbie:You commented on the post, Which means you gave a F**k. |
Re: I See No Use In Having A Girlfriend. Change My View!! by sophtcopy: 2:43pm On Jan 02, 2020 |
Jodha:Sister make I tell you something, there's nothing like somebody married or did not marry his/her wife/husband. Once you're married, the said person becomes your partner hence wife/husband. All those ones wey you dey talk na based on religious beliefs. |
Re: I See No Use In Having A Girlfriend. Change My View!! by Starz825(m): 2:58pm On Jan 02, 2020 |
Lightangel65:Esp..when u ain't ready for marriage |
Re: I See No Use In Having A Girlfriend. Change My View!! by Starz825(m): 3:01pm On Jan 02, 2020 |
Varlfott:I love this reply..so obvious they were bitter.... because there is no proof u are a one minute man....he pain them both 1 Like |
Re: I See No Use In Having A Girlfriend. Change My View!! by Newguyhere: 3:05pm On Jan 02, 2020 |
person wey you for just Bleep and dump Richnerd69: |
Re: I See No Use In Having A Girlfriend. Change My View!! by Richnerd69: 3:26pm On Jan 02, 2020 |
Newguyhere: It's not about the Sex big man. Those type of ladies are the type to want to exploit you. I don't know how to cut people off, it's better I don't encourage them in my life. 5 Likes |
Re: I See No Use In Having A Girlfriend. Change My View!! by Nobody: 4:31pm On Jan 02, 2020 |
Michellekabod2: subjective ke ! you're jus been sentimental, when yu concern all the point OP listed from a neutral point of view or lens as yu wuld say its da truth. A man benefit only one thing frm r/ship which is sex, compared to what women stand to gain or benefit frm r/ship. Before marriage, as a bachelor a man takes care of himself, his home, laundry & cook ... so! OP is on point but i don't think most of us wana emulate OP. make God sha dey provide. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I See No Use In Having A Girlfriend. Change My View!! by stanisbaratheon: 4:31pm On Jan 02, 2020 |
Varlfott: It is difficult for a lady to contend with your points without attacking you one way or the other. Nice points though, you couldn't have made them any better. |
Re: I See No Use In Having A Girlfriend. Change My View!! by xendra: 4:48pm On Jan 02, 2020 |
Richnerd69:men! the only thing men now do better than women is to complain. with my job comes the requirement to meet people of different classes daily and I've met alot of dumb men and women, mostly men but maybe because more men frequent the place and I don't always come out to talk about how dumb men are but men with their expectant mentality think women owe them anything + I said they have "more" drama, that's admitting we all have some drama any man would have called a woman dumb over your ignorance there but I wouldn't call you one. as your mum might have been the good one, so are there good ones in Nigeria. I'm still saying, if you think the way you do then chances are you are the problem. men and women all over have flaws. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: I See No Use In Having A Girlfriend. Change My View!! by Akinbahm(m): 5:47pm On Jan 02, 2020 |
Michellekabod2: Sis, I dont belong to the Males sect that offer girls only money and Prick, I offer beyond those duos to girls that proved she's not only offering sex and if she only offer sex then I'll offer those duos to her alone.... 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: I See No Use In Having A Girlfriend. Change My View!! by maynation(f): 6:01pm On Jan 02, 2020 |
Ride on Sir. The Lord is your strength. |
Re: I See No Use In Having A Girlfriend. Change My View!! by MajorWarren: 7:49pm On Jan 02, 2020 |
Nice write up man. If I voice my opinions on this topic It’ll look like I hate women. |
Re: I See No Use In Having A Girlfriend. Change My View!! by rosy1992(f): 8:23pm On Jan 02, 2020 |
Everyone is entitled to their opinion. Love doesnt exist. Most relationship are on compromise. |
Re: I See No Use In Having A Girlfriend. Change My View!! by bindukwe(m): 8:57pm On Jan 02, 2020 |
Dating is useful to those who desire marriage. Its a form of biological engineering, from an evolutionary standpoint. A way of finding a partner whom you can tolerate over a lifetime. It can also be a good yardstick for self evaluation; knowing, only the fittest will survive. Women will only select the mate with the best chance of reproducing a stronger offspring with and their safety. What type of women do you attract? That analysis holds within it, your worthiness. How much you weigh in the grand scheme of things. Its helpful to know women are attracted to men across and up dominance hierarchies. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I See No Use In Having A Girlfriend. Change My View!! by Angela62: 9:20pm On Jan 02, 2020 |
Varlfott: Your points seem valid, and as a woman, it pains me muchly to see that men are not the traditional, family-oriented men like my dad, and how I was raised to see men. Personally I love men, from my brothers to my father and boyfriend who made me see the hard work men do to keep society running. Having said that, here are the reasons why I think women are useful to you (if you are open enough to consider different perspectives). 1. If you want to have a child, then I see no way you can have it without a woman. You didn't mention this part in your writeup, but only a woman can fulfill this goal. 2. Feminine energy is needed to motivate you. Society becomes advanced when men are motivated by the thought of creating a wonderful place for their wives and children to thrive. I have two brothers who are married, and to my utmost surprise, both of them doubled their hustle and became responsible, quit playing video games and became good fathers and husband to their family. There is something refreshing seeing this transformation that boys make when life's responsibility shows up, and I don't think this would happen if there are no women in their lives that loves them. A woman that loves you will give you every reason to stay and see value above what you highlighted. I understand that we live in an era of human being disposable, the illusion of abundance via dating sites and social media, and other toxicity, but be strong, and see it as distractions preventing you from enjoying natural happiness that previous generations did like our parents. Personally, I have actually gave up on men, as all seems just wanna have sex until I met a man that completely changed everything. Be vigilant, and surely, good women do exist. Lastly, and most importantly, do you not want kids that will live after you? to continue your paternal line and everything you have built for yourself? Even the sex you mentioned is a human thing, it is a primal, strong drive that most people can't do without, it is not an object or something you can refuse to engage it. You have to be really tough, or an asexual no to love sex. Do reconsider your stance, and I hope the day that men and women will not see value in each other never comes. Angela. 2 Likes |
Re: I See No Use In Having A Girlfriend. Change My View!! by emkz: 9:26pm On Jan 02, 2020 |
Bros, what are the likely benefits for a woman going into a relationship with you? In the (un)likely event that you meet the woman of your dreams and she asks you what you are offering to the relationship, what can you tell her? Forget sex because it is the easiest thing women can get, forget your money because she was surviving before you, forget your car because she was moving before you, forget all the mundane stuff. WHAT can you really offer her to make her never forget you? On a personal level, a valuable woman would bring value into, and improve your life. Before you can appreciate these values, you must first understand them, and they are far from our primary considerations going into relationships. My point is that relationship is more than sex (it would be less colourful with time); relationship is more than companionship (there are days you don't just feel or want to see each other), and it is certainly more than social clout/external validation (only insecure guys are defined by the structure and looks of the women they are seeing). I have no intention of deconstructing your mind as I advocate everyone acts within the limits of their own understanding. I am just suggesting that we look beyond the narrow prism we examine relationships by. I agree that for some girls, relationships are transactionary thereby making relationships with them calamitous; and if you are not going into relationship for transactionary purposes, you'd not entertain people of such leanings. |
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