centje: Here are the reasons such girls stay in the relationship:
1. The girl is financially dependent on him
2. The guy gives him good se*x
3. She loves the guy too deeply
4. The guy dis virgined her
5. The girl is timid or has low self esteem
6. .......

The bolded are the main reasons why some women stay in abusive relationships. N its just sooo sad.

candieangel12:

LOL, well atleast after this, he will think twice before putting his hands on a woman again.

i doubt if he'll survive after the manhood must have been cut

Shollypopz:
Eze Promoe this is not the time to joke with me! This girl is suffering from mental slavery and it manifests in every of her post. I expect you to support such slave-like behavior.

Btw, I never said a woman should physically fight her man, that goes against what I've been saying! In most cases when a man fights a woman,, it's an unfair battle. It's never a fight but serious beating received by the wife.

Don't take this too serious. She isn't suffering from any mental slavery, she's just a true African woman who knows the value of a husband and would not afford to lose him to cheap pride of the heart.

Eze Promoe:
Don't take this too serious. She isn't suffering from any mental slavery, she's just a true African woman who knows the value of a husband and would not afford to lose him to cheap pride of the heart.

And man who beats on his wife has no value.

Is that so difficult?

Eze Promoe:
Don't take this too serious. She isn't suffering from any mental slavery, she's just a true African woman who knows the value of a husband and would not afford to lose him to cheap pride of the heart.

My point exactly! She's suffering from Slave-like mentality! Mental bondage! E.O.D!

hornipipe: i doubt if he'll survive after the manhood must have been cut

Nah, he will survive. Theres been a couple cases of this happening and the men didn't die.

candieangel12: There was even a couple times he would just pick me up and get me out of his way and then leave.

lol...'pick u up...' ur funny!

carefreewannabe:

Then I am really sorry that you are surrounded by this kind of people. Wouldn't want to be part of your environment. Be careful, most people become like the people they engage with.

Now, two last questions:
Is it RIGHT for a man to slap a woman when she insults him?
Is it RIGHT for a woman to slap a man when he insults her?

I think I can answer that:
For the first one, yes if it goes out of hand
For the second one, yes if she can handle the outcome.
That's my opinion

So this thread has degenerated to brawling,4th page already

Mynd_44:
And man who beats on his wife has no value.

Is that so difficult?

An African man got no value yet he marries as many wives who would fight and quarrel themselves day in day out just to please the man?

candieangel12:

Nah, he will survive. Theres been a couple cases of this happening and the men didn't die.

well..
Don't just think about it, you may not be as lucky as those who did it and the man still survived

Eze Promoe:
Don't take this too serious. She isn't suffering from any mental slavery, she's just a true African woman who knows the value of a husband and would not afford to lose him to cheap pride of the heart.

On point! Me like..

Shollypopz:
My point exactly! She's suffering from Slave-like mentality! Mental bondage! E.O.D!

No Shollybaby she isn't.

Eze Promoe:
An African man got no value yet he marries as many wives who would fight and quarrel themselves day in day out just to please the man?

Ask yourself this. Do those women have any inch of self esteem?

Would you fight another man over a girl?

Please don't turn to me, I have this argument locked already

Eze Promoe:
An African man got no value yet he marries as many wives who would fight and quarrel themselves day in day out just to please the man?

you didn't understand mynd's post

carefreewannabe:

I can tell you why! It's the only way for her to get attention from men.
She will have some men on her side, of course. And she'll even get standing ovations from them. She will regret wishing attention from this kind of people sooner or later.

Eze Promoe:
Don't take this too serious. She isn't suffering from any mental slavery, she's just a true African woman who knows the value of a husband and would not afford to lose him to cheap pride of the heart.

Emmerlee:
On point! Me like..

carefreewannabe said it all.

low battery, will continue tomorrow.

hornipipe: you didn't understand mynd's post

It was not so hard na

Mynd_44:
It was not so hard na

hornipipe: you didn't understand mynd's post

Maybe you're in the best place to explain better to me.

Mynd_44:
Ask yourself this. Do those women have any inch of self esteem?

Would you fight another man over a girl?

Please don't turn to me, I have this argument locked already

Trust me Mynd, they'll never respond intelligently to ur post. All the questions posed, all my points weren't debunked. All u here is d same silly trash based on beliefs born out of a bigot society.

mynd i have seen you type about this you 'self esteem' and i think you have a narrow definition of it.

self esteem is very broad ok.

Shollypopz:
Trust me Mynd, they'll never respond intelligently to ur post. All the questions posed, all my points weren't debunked. All u here is d same silly trash based on beliefs born out of a bigot society.

And that's why I choose who I have a discussion with here. My fingers hurt a lot these days

vivian chinaza: mynd i have seen you type about this you 'self esteem' and i think you have a narrow definition of it.

self esteem is very broad ok.

I agree that it is broad but these 70% or women you mentioned only stick cos they have no where else to go.

That's why you here men say successful women scare them. They know they won't take their shît.

Which woman would have a place to go and stay with a man who beats on her?

Oh sorry, which sane woman would have a place to go and stay with a man that beats on her?

Eze Promoe:
Maybe you're in the best place to explain better to me.

i am not an English teacher

bigot society my cute azz. you dont need society to teach you common sense.

wife battery is a serious issue..........and it should be dealt with. both men and women should put their hands on deck for it.

hornipipe: i am not an English teacher

Lmao

vivian chinaza: bigot society my cute azz. you dont need society to teach you common sense.

wife battery is a serious issue..........and it should be dealt with. both men and women should put their hands on deck for it.

Vivian please leave wife battering out of this. I don't know about in Bayelsa(no offence) but in Lagos state now, if you beat or hit your wife, It is a felony.

No matter how much she nags or insults you. You don't go around hitting people cos the insult you na. What kind of society would we have if that holds true?

vivian chinaza: bigot society my cute azz. you dont need society to teach you common sense.

wife battery is a serious issue..........and it should be dealt with. both men and women should put their hands on deck for it.

When I told u u were st*upid, I wasn't joking. U prove it with every one of ur post. Bigot society clearly influences ur mentality. You are not broken free from it, ur core beliefs are born out of it and even d blindest of all can see that.

Not insulting ur husband would not cure the man's violent nature or the psychological issues he's dealing with. If u think a husband's violence depends on what his wife does not do or say, then u're in for a shock. Tiptoeing around your husband would not solve the problem, he needs help.

vivian chinaza: I don't support a guy physically abusing a lady but most ladies should check themselves. Most times the ladies are not completely innocent in the case. No guy has ever raised his hands on me before and I have never done anything to warrant that. So if I really did something wrong and he slaps me? I'd suck it up. But if he lay his hands on me for no just cause? I'd end the relationship, his azz will be thrown in jail or my brothers will give him the beating of his life.

How sick is this?? How fvcking sick is this??

mynd you are now twisting my argument. did i ever say its not an offence? did i ever support it? i only said women should control their mouths period.

vivian chinaza: mynd you are now twisting my argument. did i ever say its not an offence? did i ever support it? i only said women should control their mouths period.

I get your point, you mean that women shold not provoke their husband.

My point however is that a man should not just responds to insult with a slap. What is the world turning to?

Conductors insult people everyday, market women insult people everyday na.

It is about self control. Most of these men need anger management classes. It is not normal

yes its a felony in Lagos, so is it in US but we still hear cases of it.
we want it totally eradicated!