modelmike7:
........ Blackmailers never collect ransom once and for all like kidnappers bro, they keep collecting till Jesus comes. Wise up!!

j0rdannkyle:
Rather than throwing insults at her which won't solve anything...... I think we should help her beg. As this can ruin her.

So mr, hopefully you're reading this(she says u're on NL), I kindly ask that you forgive her, we're all human beings. Imagine your self in her shoes now, its quite disturbing to think that one day you'll wake up and the whole nigeria is talking about you. Yeah, I know what she did was wrong, but it doesn't justify this, am not excusing her here but am asking that u see reason, revenge never solves anything, just continues a cycle of hate... Be the bigger person, forgive and just let it go am sure you wouldn't wanna be the cause of someone else's down fall. So again, and again I ask that you forgive, not cos she deserves it, but cos its the right thing to do

taryour:
@ op. Honestly I don't want to believe this your story is for real, but if its real then you are not smart at all. Hold on a minute,how old are you? Where are your parents? Do you have elder sisters,brothers,uncles and aunties? Cause really if you were to be a relative of mine I would give a very dirty hot slap first for not being wise.

How long are you going to beg for Is he your god Is he married to you or obligated to you in any way

YES you dint wrong by cheating on in while you where dating which is VERY VERY WRONG,you apologised to him and he forgave you. You said yourself that he deserved a better person than you are which means you totally know your flaws,so you left it cause your conscience wouldn't let you rest.

Now isn't it better you left than stay and he being a second fiddle You going back to him to have s3x with him makes you even less smarter than I thought.

Now the deed is done and he has your nUde pictures and a video of you having s3x. Wake up girl and take the bull by the horn. What the hell is all that? That guy must be so stup1d and a weakling, he is a big F00L.

Get up girl and regain your dignity!!! That is to personal,he has no right whatsoever on this earth to have such in his hands no matter what you have done wrong either you are married to him or not.

Stop begging him abeg, you making him feel what he did is right. Here is what to do.

Bear the shame and report the incidence to your parents, go with soldiers to his parents house and give then strict warning,if possible HE or his PARENTS to should write an understatement, For no reason whatsoever should your nude pictures and videos bee seen anywhere, not only on social media but also any other phone except his. If he wants to keep it,let him fantasize on it even to his grave.

Not just that alone o, if anything as liitle as an insect bite comes your way as vengance from his side,either he double crosses you or send friends or touts to hit you then he is in a deep sh11t.

You need to be very serious about this o, this souldnt be a treat but a strict warning cause this can tarnish your future and your image. GO with soldiers. Nothing should happen to you, not even a mosquito bite.

Quit the begging abeg, you cheated on him so!! He isn't your hubby yet oo,and do you know what he has also done

WTH that guy must be so silly in his brain and you are so DuMb to have go meet him to have sEx again after breaking up.

Arrant nonsense.

j0rdannkyle:
Rather than throwing insults at her which won't solve anything...... I think we should help her beg. As this can ruin her.

So mr, hopefully you're reading this(she says u're on NL), I kindly ask that you forgive her, we're all human beings. Imagine your self in her shoes now, its quite disturbing to think that one day you'll wake up and the whole nigeria is talking about you. Yeah, I know what she did was wrong, but it doesn't justify this, am not excusing her here but am asking that u see reason, revenge never solves anything, just continues a cycle of hate... Be the bigger person, forgive and just let it go am sure you wouldn't wanna be the cause of someone else's down fall. So again, and again I ask that you forgive, not cos she deserves it, but cos its the right thing to do

RColours:
The guy has already commented on this thread. And the Op has addressed him by quoting him.
Ya'all obviously missed it.

Diffdeef:
Nonsense! What your ex did was wrong!

recording the whole sex scene??

Infact,I personally want to see that video........!!





What nonsense!
Guys can be so heartless.

FLAWLES:
Shoki ah

theplanmaker:
When you hurt some so much, it's only fair they take a bite from you too. He ll just blackmail u 4 more sex, being d biitch u r, I'm sure u won't av a problem wit dat

Peaceemerald:

I dated my ex for about 2 years, somewhere along the line i started cheating on him. It's not like i didn't love him then, i just don't know what came over me. Somehow he found out when he saw a conversation between me and the guy i was cheating with. I begged him, he forgave me. It kinda happened again, and the guilt was too much to bear, so i broke up with him despite his pleas cos i felt he deserved better. He invited me over, and begged me to have sex with him one last time,. I didn't know he recorded the whole thing. He later showed me the video, and some nude pictures of me on his bed. He didn't say why he did it, or what he was going to do with the pictures and videos. But I'm terrified, i can't sleep at night knowing that a guy that now hates me that much has my nude pictures and a sex video. Please i need help, what do i do? What if he starts to blackmail me? I have begged and begged, he refused to delete them. i know i am a bad person, and i regret everything i did please forgive me, i know you are on nairaland plssss

dayleke:
@ Immortalvoices,
Your comment is DEEP o. Really really deep.
I really like your analysis.
BTW,I thought I was the only one who noticed that the supposed guy was reading and making comments
on here with his cronies.
Hey dude,yes you were hurt but it's not the end of the world na.
If you can do this to a girlfriend,what action(s) will you take if it is a fiancé or a wife?
Pls think twice o.

To the Lady involved.
If you are not ready for a serious relationship,then don't string a man along.
Reading thru your post,the man forgave you after the first time you cheated and you said in your own words
that "it kinda happened again" the second time.
You broke up with him cos the guilt was too much for you but he was even pleading with you not to leave him
despite your short coming but you did anyways and you woke the tiger in him.
Just continue to plead with him and pray that God touches his heart.

theplanmaker:
When you hurt some so much, it's only fair they take a bite from you too. He ll just blackmail u 4 more sex, being d biitch u r, I'm sure u won't av a problem wit dat

taryour:
@ op. Honestly I don't want to believe this your story is for real, but if its real then you are not smart at all. Hold on a minute,how old are you? Where are your parents? Do you have elder sisters,brothers,uncles and aunties? Cause really if you were to be a relative of mine I would give a very dirty hot slap first for not being wise.

How long are you going to beg for Is he your god Is he married to you or obligated to you in any way

YES you dint wrong by cheating on in while you where dating which is VERY VERY WRONG,you apologised to him and he forgave you. You said yourself that he deserved a better person than you are which means you totally know your flaws,so you left it cause your conscience wouldn't let you rest.

Now isn't it better you left than stay and he being a second fiddle You going back to him to have s3x with him makes you even less smarter than I thought.

Now the deed is done and he has your nUde pictures and a video of you having s3x. Wake up girl and take the bull by the horn. What the hell is all that? That guy must be so stup1d and a weakling, he is a big F00L.

Get up girl and regain your dignity!!! That is to personal,he has no right whatsoever on this earth to have such in his hands no matter what you have done wrong either you are married to him or not.

Stop begging him abeg, you making him feel what he did is right. Here is what to do.

Bear the shame and report the incidence to your parents, go with soldiers to his parents house and give then strict warning,if possible HE or his PARENTS to should write an understatement, For no reason whatsoever should your nude pictures and videos bee seen anywhere, not only on social media but also any other phone except his. If he wants to keep it,let him fantasize on it even to his grave.

Not just that alone o, if anything as liitle as an insect bite comes your way as vengance from his side,either he double crosses you or send friends or touts to hit you then he is in a deep sh11t.

You need to be very serious about this o, this souldnt be a treat but a strict warning cause this can tarnish your future and your image. GO with soldiers. Nothing should happen to you, not even a mosquito bite.

Quit the begging abeg, you cheated on him so!! He isn't your hubby yet oo,and do you know what he has also done

WTH that guy must be so silly in his brain and you are so DuMb to have go meet him to have sEx again after breaking up.

Arrant nonsense.

SeverusSnape:
Wait!...Is someone begging this dude,He doesn't need to be begged. what will the begging achieve?... you beg him now,that doesn't make him delete the photos and video, it may just cool him down,but he can still use it to blackmail her.

Let the OP just go with my previous advice, USE THE POLICE!. like taryour rightly said,he should also sign an Undertaken.

olatunji21:

Which Police, they wil only take advantage of her

F117AA:
If i were the guy and you bring soldiers to assault me without proof, i will not only sue you and your family for all that you guys are worth, i will send the video through an untraceable source to porn sites all over the continent and the united states.

theplanmaker:
When you hurt some so much, it's only fair they take a bite from you too. He ll just blackmail u 4 more sex, being d biitch u r, I'm sure u won't av a problem wit dat

SeverusSnape:
Your first post, I see you registered just to get solutions to your problem.

Report to the police, simple!...Let them confiscate all the footages. You can't do it on your own.

taryour:




And you your mind you have posted something reasonable


After you have sued her and her family you go ahead to release the video abi? And you think after releasing the whole world will clap for you has a good movie producer shey Just releasing the video is a straight way to jail,no need for court at all.


Am really amazed a lot are saying beg the guy, beg him for what please YES the op was wrong but what this guy has done is far worse than what she did.

@op do you have a mother? The longer you delay this issues isn't funny at all o.

If you where to be my daughter ehen...

I rarely post on nl and this will be my 2nd or 3rd time posting on the romance section. This topic is really getting at me. I wish I knew this op personally.

The guy in question must have been doing this act for long and getting away with it. This act is worse than rape.

The guy needs to be dealt with and served as a lesson to those into same act.