FrancisTony:
Women are their worst enemy is a "chauvinistic/sexist phrase", as MEN are equally their own enemy.

Human rebellion, frailties, imperfection etc is mostly emphasized on, when it's towards female gender.

I agree that women are their worst enemy but I can still give you many instances of men being their own worst enemy.
Nobody would deny that he/she hasn't seen any man envious of his friend's success - politicians comes to my mind.

For example - If Omotola is having a little misunderstanding with Genevieve, the phrase pops up; but when the role is reversed e.g Davido versus Wizkid, tone would change that they are kids instead of men are their worst enemy.
Even on Nairaland, as a female, don't go on threads about successful female celebrities hating, as you'll be bashed with that phrase but MEN are free to hate on male celebrities. Hypocrisy!

Well, It's not a gender thing but depends on individuals.
Our society isn't nice towards feminine gender.

YourCoffin:


What are you saying? Apologies but you're a mass of confusion.

Ngokafor:

The most wonderful people who have helped me more in life(school,career and relationships with the opposite sex) without hounding me for s$x have been women from diverse works of life...and tribe.

Moana:
I wouldnt mind a male or female superior so long he or she is respectful and competent. I guess some woman always believe that if they have a male boss it will be easy to receive advantages or opportunities by using their charm, its will not always be easy for them to have their way with a female boss

FrancisTony:
Women are their worst enemy is a "chauvinistic/sexist phrase", as MEN are equally their own enemy.

Human rebellion, frailties, imperfection etc is mostly emphasized on, when it's towards female gender.

I agree that women are their worst enemy but I can still give you many instances of men being their own worst enemy.
Nobody would deny that he/she hasn't seen any man envious of his friend's success - politicians comes to my mind.

For example - If Omotola is having a little misunderstanding with Genevieve, the phrase pops up; but when the role is reversed e.g Davido versus Wizkid, tone would change that they are kids instead of men are their worst enemy.
Even on Nairaland, as a female, don't go on threads about successful female celebrities hating, as you'll be bashed with that phrase but MEN are free to hate on male celebrities. Hypocrisy!

Well, It's not a gender thing but depends on individuals.
Our society isn't nice towards feminine gender.

Mintayo:
Lol, not trying to sound like a women-hater or something But truely women are their own enemies,I have witnessed firsthand How some woman was trying to bring to bring down another woman!

AfricanApple:
my question is: is there a solution this situation or do we just continue to flow with it

VictoriaBee:

Goes to show the kind of women around you.

TV01:


You are the chauvinist here ;


And my "superiority" over effeminate gender-confused men did not come cheap...I had to study to show myself approved ! Now assume the position, there are females on the thread !


Certainly...just as soon as you stop "posting stoupid"


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Mintayo:

Funny you said this, not even one or two and it's actually at my place of work!

Moana:
I wouldnt mind a male or female superior so long he or she is respectful and competent. I guess some woman always believe that if they have a male boss it will be easy to receive advantages or opportunities by using their charm, its will not always be easy for them to have their way with a female boss

VictoriaBee:

E.g Amber Rose and Kim Kardashaian.

cococandy:
I think what that phrase means is that it is worse when women pull each other down than when men do.

How will you talk about women empowerment and hope to be successful when it is women that will still run the idea down because of some pseudo-goodism? Probably done to impress men who most times don't give a hoot.

Talk about many culture that are oppressive against women and you will find that it is women who are also the champions propagating such practices.
Who are those that are first to advice abused women to stay and fast and pray? Women.
Who are those teaching growing girls to value themselves so lowly that sharing one 'blokkos' in the name main chick is ok? You guessed right. Women.
Plus many other annoying examples too much to type here.

So in general, women are part of the circus holding themselves down.

But it is worse because it is women who should be less judgmental of each other.
So if you have two enemies and one of them is yourself, the worse enemy of the two is you.
Because you have to first make the effort to help yourself before anyone will listen to you.

bukatyne:


You are very correct. As a female, the best bet I have at learning What it means to lead is from my female leaders. If I think that female bosses are naturally evil, How would I learn?

How would I even have a Good relationship with her?

SAMBARRY:
You should strive to be the boss because


True that

FrancisTony:
Women are their worst enemy is a "chauvinistic/sexist phrase", as MEN are equally their own enemy.

Human rebellion, frailties, imperfection etc is mostly emphasized on, when it's towards female gender.

I agree that women are their worst enemy but I can still give you many instances of men being their own worst enemy.
Nobody would deny that he/she hasn't seen any man envious of his friend's success - politicians comes to my mind.

For example - If Omotola is having a little misunderstanding with Genevieve, the phrase pops up; but when the role is reversed e.g Davido versus Wizkid, tone would change that they are kids instead of men are their worst enemy.
Even on Nairaland, as a female, don't go on threads about successful female celebrities hating, as you'll be bashed with that phrase but MEN are free to hate on male celebrities. Hypocrisy!

Well, It's not a gender thing but depends on individuals.
Our society isn't nice towards feminine gender.

cococandy:
Bukatyne here's example of what I'm saying.
I'm on one disgusting thread and a foolish girl on there thinks a woman raped by her husband until she had a miscarriage has no case.
(He's your husband. The head of your body. Crappy kind of comments)

Now she's probably not the only one who said something similar to that, but hers is the most annoying because when some guys say it, although it is annoying, your annoyance will be diluted with the knowledge that they don't know what pregnancy is like or what being penetrated forcefully can be like.

A lady (even if she may not have been pregnant before) has had periods and probably had sex before and should know that being penetrated by force is not funny at all nor is pregnancy a walk in the park. That's a perfect example of why it is worse when women lack empathy towards other women than when guys do the same.

bukatyne:


This is my stance in This issue.

Men always backstab and betray themselves yet men don't feel they are each others' worst enemies

They see as humans are Naturally deceptive and treat it as such.

So true about the celebrity ish

FrancisTony:

Men naturally have overbloated ego.

for example, different men have been ruling Nigeria and we are not getting it right.
Many male politicians, loot and commit all atrocities.

Just mention Okonjo-Iweala and Allison-Madueke, they'll give you 1,000 reasons why women shouldn't be in power forgetting good deeds of Magareth Ekpo, Oby Ezekwesili, Dora Akunyili.

When they err, human beings are imperfect.
When women err, women are devil.

Oloun maje for hypocrisy!

FrancisTony:
A female boss commands her male subordinate and he declines; awon Nairaland frustrated family-section male would say he's right and tell you how she has an inferiority complex and want to exercise it.

A male boss commands his female subordinate and she declines; awon Nairaland frustrated family-section men will give you many reasons why Nigerian girls are b1tchy, rude and uncouth.

FrancisTony:
A female boss commands her male subordinate and he declines; awon Nairaland frustrated family-section male would say he's right and tell you how she has an inferiority complex and want to exercise it.

A male boss commands his female subordinate and she declines; awon Nairaland frustrated family-section men will give you many reasons why Nigerian girls are b1tchy, rude and uncouth.

bukatyne:


Hmmm! Coco

I agree with you that women mostly champion the barbaric cultures et al against fellow women.

However, I find it amusing that the women who parrot This phrase are not even talking from This POV. It is more like 'I don't want to have a female boss; girls make bad friends' etc. Which makes me wonder who the Good ones are .

FrancisTony:

Men naturally have overbloated ego.

for example, different men have been ruling Nigeria and we are not getting it right.
Many male politicians, loot and commit all atrocities.

Just mention Okonjo-Iweala and Allison-Madueke, they'll give you 1,000 reasons why women shouldn't be in power forgetting good deeds of Magareth Ekpo, Oby Ezekwesili, Dora Akunyili.

When they err, human beings are imperfect.
When women err, women are devil.

Oloun maje for hypocrisy!

lavatoz:


You can't win these guys. Their upbringing has some influence to it

cococandy:

njokusboy:


We know that already, we are however, thinking it's not the only problem..

Mintayo:
Lol, not trying to sound like a women-hater or something But truely women are their own enemies,I have witnessed firsthand How some woman was trying to bring to bring down another woman!

Chillisauce:


at least na only down dem dey hold. Men kill everything starting from their fellow men in times of war, Mediterranean immigration, bombing etc to bushmeats, rats, dogs.
no one holds anyone down except you want to be held down.

MarvellousGod:
No gender is perfect.. Even men get jealous of their friends who have a 'perfect' relationship..

Saw a thread few days back where a lady was being talked into, to get a divorce by her husband's best friend so that he, her husband's friend could marry and take better care of her.. smh.. You also see guys sleeping with their friends' gfs... or a gal tells you she's already in a relationship, you keep pestering her.. no be another man parole you wan spoil?

Even in places of work, men get jealous of a promoted colleague. ..

So op, it goes both ways, human imperfection.. Just that anything that has to do with the female gender in our society gets more pronounced...

For me, I have good female friends who I hv known for years and no issues at all... or maybe cos I'm good myself?

AfricanApple:
my question is: is there a solution this situation or do we just continue to flow with it

bukatyne:


This is my stance in This issue.

Men always backstab and betray themselves yet men don't feel they are each others' worst enemies

They see as humans are Naturally deceptive and treat it as such.

So true about the celebrity ish

TV01:

Happy anniversary Bukatyne. Hearty congratulations. Are you baking yet ? It's a race betwixt yourself and Coco.

No bashing, but I'mma troll on your thread small. Appears to be suffering the usual malaise .


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