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imperiouxx:
yeye

squared

pls y ar u bringing the issue of bf now! I thought the topic is on a father

No vex! na side comment. just kidding.

r231:
Left Nigeria after secondary school and that was the last time they gave me money

Started working in Burger king at the age 17 to support myself

obviously i got grant and student loan for UNI that time

Bros

Thats the case of many brothers out there. I never had to work making pancakes but i was lucky to get a graduate research assistanceship.
you're the man

Outstrip:
That statement kind of turned me off. Maybe it is this giving money that makes girls think it is okay to ask boyfriends for money. I see it specifically with Nigerian girls. None of my American friends do it and when it happened those girls would have every intention of paying back LOL.

It is obvious that exposure brings alot of changes, in contest, you feel totally responsible for yourself which is a good thing. It's sad that our sisters back home don't share the same belief. The "boyfriends" have to pick the bills otherwise, "what are they there for?"

I seriously dig your comment. Kudos

Strides:
Hmmm! My Daddy still gives me money

hehe

Is not a bad thing. I bet you're still in school or don't have a job yet, so its understandable.

I bet your boyfriend doesnt have to dodge your calls

blank:
My daddy gave me money until i started working. Even then, he used to give me one or two things. Even when i just got married, he gave my husband and i a sizeable amount of money as "settlement" and still paid for my masters and living expenses there. I like that and want to do same for my daughters. But boys, no way. U start hustling as soon as u fininsh NYSC.  

I was am a daddy's girl. Can't apologize to anyone.

you dad "settled" you and your husband?? WOW!
you husband must be a very lucky chap. BUT i think you were alittle over-pampered  

I think the woman-folk need alittle more protection from parents than the male-folks. So, it will be right for you to do same to your daughters.

Outstrip:
Nope. Did not get anything for birthdays, christmas, good grades. I was just expected to get good grades. i remember I got a book once for coming top 10. A freaking book LOL. When I look back though I realize that it just made me not ever want what everybody had. If I did nothave it and everybody else did it never even occured to me.  We are 5 kids  and it was the last two that actually got spoiled a little. When they misbehave we remnd my parents that they caused it. We just did not get things like that and it never occured to me that it was strange or different. We were not allowed to use public transport and chocolate for that matter was practically band in our home. If an uncle or aunty bought any fr us my mother would line us up before we even swalloed the last piece so she can brush our teeth. You could not even enjoy the chocolate. Bottom line is I think sometimes you do not miss what you never had so I never felt like I was deprived

I can't agree less. whenever you see your mum, give her a hug for me

It seems our men are still on daddy's stipend.

The ladies are taking the lead.

ronkebp:
oh yes, i earn my own money, oga is trying his best but i do not personally depend on him, i started working immediately after my service, and am still working. no play at all!!!

May you live long!

@OP,

In as much as what you did isn't bad, how do you plan to repay your debt since you're still an applicant?

Mind you, i believe in helping people when you have the means, however, it is totally wrong to think that you are obligated to foot the bills of your girlfriend.

may you find a helper to help you repay your debts.

what you did is a silly good thing!

ronkebp:
@ Poster, when i got married, my dad stopped giving me money, ,

Daddy's girl.

I hope your "oga" is meeting up. By the way, when did you start earning your own money?

Outstrip:
They don't have to believe. My parents did not believe in giving kids money. I was 16 when I got my first job. The way my parents saw it was anything I needed they already got it for me. My parents never handed me money. When I got in college my dad actually bought me a laptop and it felt strange to me. I felt it ashould be my responsibility.

Wow!

Thats cool but don't get me wrong, i aint contending what you said. In essence, you started making your own money from age 16 right?

Thats just about the age for a freshman in college. Now, when you where in high school, didnt you ever get tips and stipends for hair pins, taxi fares, chocolate and "being a good girl with good grades"? when you said you never got money from your parents, you're blowing it out of proportion.

Anyway, kudos to your independent spirit, I like girls like you.

obowunmi:
I started managing my father's business at age 15 --- stopped receiving money directly since then BUT monetary gifts come in once in a while. Which I don't use personally but pay it forward to other people.

do you really mean 'managing" or "getting involved"??

anyway, you're a lucky chap. My dad never got us involved in his "precious" business talkless of managing. It's so sad now because non of us appears to be interested in his manufacturing business anymore.
Good for you, your dad is family-oriented.

jayron:
I know this kind of question people would not like to reply, cos their conscience will continue to judge them (some still rely on their parents)

In my own case, when my father first stopped giving me money in year 2001, it was like the end had come.
He woke me up at mid night and said "he wanted me to become man of my own". He wanted me to learn how to source for money and plan for it even though had not gotten it. These were his words then.

It was hard, i mean very very hard to start. When i collected my first salary, i give it to him to pray for me n he shd take any amount he wanted, he laughed n said no. He wanted me to start new life with it (how much was it then N6,000 oh what a poor boy)

His words made me what i am today, i used that money to convert our story to a room for myself, i bought foam, rug, tv n panasonic radio pots n stove n other things.




From there i managed my money, time n life.

To God be the glory, it works fine for me to day (u know what i mean)

nice one. i guess you were already out of school before this happened.

Outstrip:
My parents never gave me money

Nobody will believe that. There must be a time you depended on your parents for coins.

I am just wondering, when did your dad stopped giving you money?

As for me, my dad washed his hands off my financial predicaments the moment i graduated from university.

Given the situation in the Nigerian economy, is it fair for your parents (especially the ones that are having) to completely abandon you to your financial challenges and even pressure you to move from their house and get a life

The day i moved for my NYSC, i moved out of my parents life. Thank GOD i pay my bills today but it is not always the case for some people. Life is hard in Nigeria especially if you've lived both in Nigeria and any other developed country. I was lucky to get my life going at a tender age, but i still feel that parents of nowadays should support their children more. School is not just enough.

Anyway, whats your take? tell us your story (was your dad a skunk? hehehe )

chamber2:
If that is the case, i will advise you to take the job. There is always time to do the PhD if that is what you want. PhD these days is mainly for the ego, it does not add more to your pocket, unless you want to lecture thereafter.

Also, you are already 28 and will be about 32 by the time you finish the PhD. At 32, without work experience you may find it difficult getting a job that suits your skills and training. At 32, you will be too old to be taken as a trainee staff and still will not pass for an experience recruit. This poses a great danger, unless if you want to teach.

Take the job, work, marry, save and then go for PhD later. You can take a study leave later, spend two years in the school to satisfy residency requirements and then go back to your job while still on your research.

Life is too short to gamble with opportunities.

my 2cent

I really do appreciate your response, Thanks.
I actually feel am running down on age and need some work experience before i pursue further studies. we're riding on the same boat.

idmanzik:
Life is not all about the money but satisfaction. If you say you've been enjoying the company scholarship right from grad school then there is a greater chances that this company will want you after PhD (why will they offer to send you for PhD if they will not want to call you back).

PhD at 32 is ideal, you'll have an upper edge at the firm, that is if you want to return to the same firm because you'll be the one to choose where you want to go to and there will be other research opportunities.

Please go for your PhD, it is definitely the way forward.

Good luck

your comment is remarkable. Thank you. I really want to do Phd but wouldnt want all the certificates without basic work experience. Though, hopefully, if i take up the program, i'll be involved in a major project and work with world renowned professors. Don't you think am a little old for this? lol just asking.

Am not in Nigeria. My field is geophysics. Actually, the company is an NOC (National Oil Company) of a country i wouldnt want to mention. I have been enjoying the company's scholarship right from when i started my graduate studies in the UK. They offered me a job and also an opportunity to pursue my Phd. I can either go for the job or go for my Phd still under their sponsorship.

[quote author=190_@ link=topic=756251.msg9117162#msg9117162 date=1315638556]why do nigerians look @ people from head to toe

thank God im not a Nigerian

Im from The peoples republic of Guniea [/quote]No wonder! never knew you were a guinea fowl, its all coming together

yes. The company is sponsoring me

anybody?

Hello folks, i solicit for as many views as possible.
I am winding up my Msc in a reputable university and already has a slut in a top Oil and Gas firm. BUT i was also offered the privilege of pursuing my phd in the states with one of the top universities in Texas (UT Houston or Rice university) all paid expense by the same firm. Please note, am almost 28 and seriously wants to settle down.

If you're me, will you pick the job and move on or will you pursue the Phd?? (additional 4 years of study )


help me.

afam4eva:
I speak Igbo, English, Pigeon english(broken bottle), Engligbo and a little Yoruba.

@Emmyk, you nko?

Can't remember the last time i heard that.

Its a very critical issue, given the fact that Nigerien were accused of fighting as mercineries in Lybia. Definitely, Ghadaffi must have allowed access to his arsenals to these elements. Now, envisage a situation where these elements run these weapons in black markets across Nigeria-Niger border. It is common sense, to assume that the Boko haram elements might want to create a weapon supply channel via Niger.
Honestly, Nigeria have to strengthen border control.

The current arms proliferation in Libya has given a lot of Institutions cause for worry. In the current conflict, arms storage depots have been left unsecured, arms and weapons such as “man-portable air defense systems” (MANPADS) have been looted, and the Libyan countryside is “littered with abandoned munitions, unexploded ordnance and land mines.
The fall of Libyan dictator Moammar Gadhafi has touched off a race to secure his arsenal of portable, terror-ready weapons such as shoulder-fired antiaircraft missiles, and part of the solution may be for the United States and its allies to go out and buy them. There is evidence that a few Soviet-made SA-7 antiaircraft missiles from Gadhafi's arsenal have reached the black market in Mali, where al-Qaeda in the Islamic Maghreb is active, said two U.S. government officials not authorized to speak on the record.
Now, the question is, given the fact that weapons and arms black market is very active in Niger which shares a porous border with Nigeria, what is security implication of this dreadful situation? What is our Government doing to secure our borders?
I think this should be a source of worry for every Nigerians and the states that share border with Niger.

Moderator Abeg move this to politics. Sorry

The current arms proliferation in Libya has given a lot of Institutions cause for worry. In the current conflict, arms storage depots have been left unsecured, arms and weapons such as “man-portable air defense systems” (MANPADS) have been looted, and the Libyan countryside is “littered with abandoned munitions, unexploded ordnance and land mines.
The fall of Libyan dictator Moammar Gadhafi has touched off a race to secure his arsenal of portable, terror-ready weapons such as shoulder-fired antiaircraft missiles, and part of the solution may be for the United States and its allies to go out and buy them. There is evidence that a few Soviet-made SA-7 antiaircraft missiles from Gadhafi's arsenal have reached the black market in Mali, where al-Qaeda in the Islamic Maghreb is active, said two U.S. government officials not authorized to speak on the record.
Now, the question is, given the fact that weapons and arms black market is very active in Niger which shares a porous border with Nigeria, what is security implication of this dreadful situation? What is our Government doing to secure our borders?
I think this should be a source of worry for every Nigerians and the states that share border with Niger.

lagcity:
this whole federal police thing sef na wah. let each state have their own security force. i tell u a lot of things need to be re-examined in this Nigeria. i think we need to buy papa Jona an African parrot for his bedroom so that whenever Jona wakes up, the parrot will just shout "SNC! Jona! SNC!"

LMAO you nailed it!