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joyberry:
Am an airwoman so am gonna talk about this issue, i think its fear from the guys part,thinking the lady would punish them if the relationship goes haywire. And most guys are insecure,always trying to intimidate ladies to boost their ego,so probably they can't really intimidate those ladies. Lastly, majority of military ladies are always unruly, saucy and having a low value of civilians .Ordinary admiration from civilians, they blow up,some even goes as far as punishing the guys fr it,forgetting that its not an order you must marry a military personnel as a female soilder .So my fellow military ladies abeg calm down if civilians toast you, if u fancy him, go on with the relationship, stop intimidating guys with your military presence. Alot of us are in the base old and unmarried, frustrated always putting undue pressure and trying to frustrate young ladies.As for civilian guys are my pick for relationship and marriage. A word is enough for the wise.And my fellow military ladies, Please always look good, simple and pretty, leave your military attitudes in the base,stop looking manly and unruly cos you are a military lady.if you are on mufti and unarmed, You are a civilian, stop intimidating people.

Don't tell anybody to stop anything please.
Only brain dead savages think like the way there female colleagues you have described act.

It would be a shame if a Savage were to "form" and deceive some poor bloke until D day. Let savages continue to act like savages in plain sight so they can be filtered and ignored!

See topic.
Why are Nigerian bathrooms so small and poorly designed? Even in big homes!

laudate:
For you to have used the word 'masturbate', it means you are secretly practising it or engaging in such a thing, which is why you are tossing such words around, when nobody else has made reference to it. Giving a woman what she needs to be happy in a relationship, does not involve such things as 'unlocking her cherry,' or 'unlocking her' like you arrogantly claimed. Giving a woman what she needs to be happy in a relationship, merely involves being honest, truthful, loving, respectful, understanding and willing to put her desires above your own, without asking for anything in return.

Once that is done, the woman has the choice to freely accept your love, or to deny it, if that is not what she needs at that point in time. There is absolutely no compulsion or manipulation involved. She only ends up accepting you, for what you truly are on the inside, and not because of any false or stage-managed gimmicks or experience you have cooked up, in order to enable her fall for your charms.

Unlike your manipulative schemes of 'unlocking', true love does not seek its own way, neither is it selfish. Your 'unlocking' schemes are being done simply to control her, and not because you desire what is best for her.

You aren't deceiving anyone, you are a woman.
You've shown this by the level of emotionalism you display over something so basic and obvious.

Illogical women stick to what they want to believe regardless of provided facts. We don't waste time argueing with women like you. Stew, boil and Simmer in your emotions woman. Ain't nobody got your time

laudate:
And I pity you if you think your so-called 'unlocking' will keep a woman hooked to you for life. Shey, you know that another man can easily 'unlock' her, too... or do you think the game of manipulation only has one participant?

To the pure all things are pure. If giving a woman you are in a relationship with what she truly needs to be happy is "manipulation" to you, then you are either dumb, have zero relationship experience (as all you likely do is masturbate & fantasize about women at a distance) or you're just a jealous fellow. Either way, You get no more of my time.

Ugowizboy:
A controversial facebook writer who goes by the name Kosi Ugo, has this to say about vagina shaming.

Dear guys, listen to what I'm about to say.

You see the vagina, it is very powerful. Don't ever joke with it.

A vagina was responsible for bringing you into this world. That should be enough reason why you should respect and adore it.

The idea of vagina shaming a woman should be stopped. When I mean stopped, it should be stopped with immediate effect.

I hear people calling women "loosed pussy" "smelly toto" "expired toto" and other vagina slurs in attempt to make a woman feel bad.
There are thousands and other ways to hurt a woman, but never never say bad things about her sex organs.

Let me tell you, you might think you are important as a man, but you aren't even up to half important as that of a woman.
Women can survive and live in this world without the help of any man, but a man can never do same.

All a man does is to bring his sperm and that's the end! A woman nutures it, watches it grow gradually for nine months and goes through pain in bringing the baby out.
And you silly tarts who call themselves men have the mouth to vagina shame women?!

Technology has become so advanced that a bone marrow of a human body is being groomed to start substituting the male sperm.
You and I know what happens next, right?
We the male gender would be totally useless when that technology finally comes to life.

A vagina is so powerful to the extent that we should even bow and reverence it before doing justice to it.
That's why I pity those men who make agreements with prostitutes and refuse to pay them after sleeping with them.
You are such a fool to joke with a powerful tool such as the vagina!

I watched a video where men where giving hormonal drugs to experience half of the pains women go through during child birth and you needed to see the way men were crying in pains and agony.
We can't survive in what women go through, not even for a day!

Respect women! They deserve every bit of it.

©Kosi Ugo

Shut up.
Pussy is nothing without Dick.
Come back to spew all this filth when scientists have found a way to fabricate sperm.

laudate:
All your 'unlocking' is nothing more than manipulation. When women too begin to talk of unlocking men, then you will know the difference. Anyone who is looking for a way to unlock another person, is just proving to the world that he or she lacks God-given virtues or desirable attributes, that could attract and keep a person's attention. That is why he needs to resort to dicey schemes like 'unlocking.'

I pity you if you marry a woman you have not first unlocked.
You go hear am

What is it with Nigerians and tiny, fawked-up toilets though?
I noticed this in every house I visited. Big homes too.
Animals!

There is nothing modern about this. Stamping Brick wall-paper on the walls of an eyesore doesn't make it modern.
Posting that disgusting rubbish here, are you trying to make me loose my lunch?!

SBG04:
I disagree!
The people you classed as "youth" are old men in their late 40s and 50s. What would you call then Emmanuel Macron? All of them have zero administrative experience. Moghalu has been a deputy governor of the CBN. Would he know anything about defeating Boko haram? Sowore is the publisher of an online whistleblower, what does he know about leading millions of people when his Sahara reporters has a staff strength of less than 15. Durotoye is a motivational speaker that wants to become President. I'm yet to hear anything about his views on Boko haram, our foreign reserves or petrol subsidy.
All these guys you mentioned are empty barrels with little or capacity to lead Nigeria.
The only one I would have given a slight chance, Donald Duke, is showing little interest. Duke transformed Cross Rivers. He has never been investigated for corruption and he led a state of more that a million people without trouble. That is someone I would vote as President if he presented himself.

What you are failing to learn (over several years of being fawked up the arse by your current leaders) is that good rulership is not by all that one you are talking about.
It is by the disposition of the heart. Everything else can be picked up to achieve what the heart has already set out to do.

Give Nigeria a ruler that is passionate, modern, virile, disconnected from godfathers, AND INTERNATIONALLY EXPOSED...and that would be the best starting point for positive change.
People who are internationally unexposed are a bit too "soaked" in the shit that is Naija's state of things that they don't even see where things are smelling anymore. Their noses have acclimatized to the stench.

In Sowore's case, There is something about living day by day in a country where things work (USA), and then you come to Naija. You will feel an intense burning urgency to fix certain basic things that the average nigerian now sees as "normal". Not understanding that the fixing of these basic things are what will attractive certain elements that will organically move the country forward....in complete parallel to your other governorship gains.

Sowore has also been pleading with fellow passionate and capable youths to get into political offices and contest for all the seats held by utterly useless senators so there can be an alignment of purpose in the house when the time comes to make big moves.

You will notice that no other candidate actively encourages this, because they are not actually interested in rocking the boats of their godfathers in crime. All they do is pitch themselves to the masses. A wash-rinse-repeat strategy. Nigerians would have to be the greatest fools if they don't discern this, and would be rightfully deserving of another 4 years being buggered even deeper up the arse if they allow their ignorance make them choose foolishly.

I look forward to seeing Sowore get the presidency. He is the helmsman for the revolution Nigeria so desperately needs.

Xisnin:
You have been cajoled, they don't really want the qualities they claim they want,
at least many of them. Many men who claim to love independent ladies are liars,
they will still be the one to reject such ladies because they are not "humble".
Slay queens are not totally wrong as you think, they have just learnt the difference
between what people say and what they do.

Independence and humility are not mutually exclusive.
Not sure how many times I have to call out this false dichotomy.

Divay22:
She didn't beg him
Omo if na me, na to dey roll for ground dey cry and beg o..


I hope the guy doesn't have anything cooking for her..she went to far

Why slap in the first place only to beg?
Are you controlled by the shit in your anus?

nahzyla:
I can see so many men coming to praise you and even propose marriage to you for thinking like this. Of course men like when women say things like this, they want you to provide for yourself and still be very obedient and submissive, you should only ask for money from them on very few occasions.
The truth is that once a man notices you have money to spend on yourself he will expect you to join him in taking care of finances while he himself will never ever join you in daily cooking or share authority with you.

Many if these people are just so selfish.

Some not all

nahzyla:
Boland, don't mind these people telling you you are wrong, you are very correct it's just that many men of nowadays have an entitlement mentality.

The basics of a male/female relationship still remains that the man has the duty of providing and, the woman does any housework and childcare. They might decide to assist each other but the fundamentals remain the same.

If you cannot provide Co's your girlfriend or wife is demanding excessively then dump her and get a low maintenance partner. Simple.

But many men want to date and marry supermodels with expensive beauty regimes and flashy lifestyles and then complain when they start asking for money.

They want their wives to contribute 50/50 when it comes to finances but expect 100% submission from her without questions. Yimu

So now you have resolved to start insulting women who are also fine and independent by alluding that if she is fine then she must be a dummy?
This your comment is as pathetic as when a broke guy makes illogical statements like "Ladies that rich guy you are dating will beat you/ use you for ritual blah blah blah. That is why you should date a broke guy".

Do you females have no introspection at all when you make the same dumb moves you point out when the other gender makes? Lack of introspection of your actions in the 3rd perspective speaks of a quantum lack of maturity.

Anyway, beautiful and independent women who do not think like hos exist everywhere.
I personally do not date anything less.

consultancy:
she must have accessed you well as she entered the bank and seen that you are the type she could intimidate, cos i believe u were not the only one standin on the queue. next time, dress properly, hold ur head up high, and speak well, with this u do not need to get into a street fight to be respected.

What does this have to do with respect?
If he went with shorts and slippers nko?

Anyway, if I were the one though, I wouldn't have slapped her back, but I would have broken her hand by grabbing it after the last slap and crushing it within my clenched fist, prior to casting it aside.

That way it would look like I didn't slap her back, but I know that bitch will have to go to the clinic to fix that broken metacarpal

Nope.
LDRs are founded more upon IDEAS/IMAGINATION not REALITY.

kneehighbootz:
My sister! some of them are truly useless. Imagine one that I exchanged numbers with only once calling me to sleep over at his place and cook "small stew" for him!
I blocked the fooool's number!

LOL good you X'd all that but "fuckfolk mentality" isn't exclusively a male trait (aka fuckboi).
You don't date girls, so you don't know that females are just as likely to act like fuckgirls.

If I had a dollar for everytime I exchanged numbers with a naija girl who immediately began asking for innappropriate things from recharge card to transport money to come visit me.

There are fuckfolk in both gender.
You simply cross them out and keep it going.

victorian:
Yes o!


When a woman sees the right one, no need wasting time for too much long things.

He's a rare breed

@Boland, it is prudent to be mindful of compliments from women.
Most tend to only do so to further their selfish agendas...in this case, making sure there is a steady supply of "real men" (in certain circles this clause is an insult) who will support their lazy lifestyles.

It is the language of females. They understand themselves and that is why if you notice, it is hard for a woman to accept a compliment. They know it is but a tool to further an endeavour, and nothing more

ModelX:
Okay I think the point you guys are missing in this entire argument is that the ALL of the female folk in naija have turned into demanding gold diggers. The sluts, the virgins, the single mothers, spinsters, married, the young, the old... ALL of them! Therein lies the frustration of the men.
So at the end of the day, it becomes NOT a question of game. @2buffagain

And who's fault is that?
It is men in Nigeria that created this environment of lecherous vagina-weilding leeches by themselves (using money to toast instead of game), and it is only men that can change it.

You guys in naija need to band together and Apply the law of supply and demand in reverse.
If they keep demanding, and there is no supply, their brains will eventually reset no?

Hanseel1:
What is the basis of this post?
This is the 21st century not 18th century.
The percentage of stay at home housewives is at an all time low in history worldwide.

Likewise I believe only few men will deliberately marry stay at home wives who'll take care of kids, clean and gossip while they wait for the man to bear heavy burden.

100% agree.
The demands on the 21st century family have evolved.
That "Ah the hussle of the outside world scares me" female mentality is totally not hot for this century at all.

For one, it makes it hard for her to relate intellectually with the man as the years go by.
There is a special pleasure when you both can talk about victories won outside the home....an share the spoils of said victories with each other.

MarieSucre:
A woman does the house chores, takes care of the children and when you go for family social gatherings, she joins the other woman to cook and clean to represent your name.

This setup works for some, but not so much for others....especially in this generation.

Much more is expected of women today than "maid work".

But I'm sure everyone will figure ot who works for them as water finds its level.

kimbraa:
I asked you a question, mr. Do you consider yourself a man? 'cause you said men don suffer for this forum.

I'm not going to go into feminism discourse with you 'cause 99.9% of your likes don't get the concept, and that's the only reason why you dread feminist but want women to be independent.

I believe women can and should be materially independent. This has nothing to do with anything.

The real question is, can you provide those immaterial things your partner needs while they provide yours immaterial needs as well.
I say "partner" because the way some females are setup mentally, they can never partner with a male, because one of the core immaterial needs of a male is respect.

Some of these females eventually go the way of homosexuality...

@Hanseel1 Oga age is shown here by engaging her intellectually. Age need not be brought into a faceless forum.
Keep all that agbada runs for real life.

laudate:
I saw you describing how you embark on a game to 'bust a woman's emotional cherry,' in order to get her hooked to you. And I responded that what makes a relationship truly great are attributes with substance, such as respect, honesty, transparency, affection, accountability, etc, and not just some hype related to busting cherries. So why are you getting defensive?

Again, where did you read that these things were lacking? And why does the term "busting cherry" raise up such a strong negative aspect within you?
You're still making illogical conclusions because you're stuck in your emotions about my post. Did the person that bust your cherry do so cruelly?

laudate:
How? In what way?

You saw me describe how When I date someone, I give her what her soul needs to unlock itself.
Yet you're coming at me with some offbase about how I'm toying with emotion, a farce, blah blah.

So now I'm asking you, have you married every single person you have ever been in a relationship with?...seeng as your mind is so quick to assume the negative

laudate:
You talked about busting her emotional cherry, didn't you? It is all a game or a farce to you.....

You speak like someone who has married everyone you have ever dated or loved.
Is this correct?

Cuz sounds to me like you're throwing some unwarranted stones my way.

laudate:
Is this the reason why you date such women? To emotionally unlock "things" in her? To bust her emotional cherry in different ways? Chai! It sounds like you are just taking the girl on a wild goose chase, and having fun at her expense. Believe me, when it all comes crashing down as it eventually does, such women might end up going ballistic on you, when they realise that the whole relationship was nothing more than a game to you. Or a trip to hype your women-chasing skills.

A lot of women are far more intuitive than men. At the end of the day, no matter how rich or loaded such women are, they still want relationships based on truth, honesty, respect, understanding, accountability etc. All the 'first time' stuff, shooting range exercises, skydiving activities are just hype, when compared to the substance of what truly makes a relationship truly great, or what makes it last.

Such things will not mean much, when a woman realises that your words are largely meaningless, and a relationship with a man like you, is just a means to score a 'hit,' with her.

And where in that whole epistle did you see anywhere that I wrote I date girls to "deceive" them?

...she doesn't give head.

Isn't that the girl that says she is a priestess of mammy water?

Boland:
Oh Man. .
We're getting somehwere.

2) Women aren't wired the way men are wired and as such it's quite easy for power, control, influence and attention to get to their head and mess them up.
You as a man should always be prepared to dodge these bullets by working hard to atleast provide for the basic needs of the family and if all goes south, Pray, work and believe, God is merciful.
There are good women, rare ones that would do all these good things and wouldn't complain but they are rare. Trust me.

I see that you're a mattured man, sir. It's refreshing discussing with you.

Likewise Sir.

"but they are rare"

Hence why I used the term "Filter".
Also, when you expand one's scope beyond just the women confined to geographical Nigeria, they are not as rare as you might think and they come in different skin tones too...intercontinental naija included.

As to the issues of "power, control, influence and attention", I agree that a man must certainly establish himself (I hate idle men), but at the same time I only really date women who are also well-of. Because it makes the relationship more fun and also because anything can happen in this world. Have you ever had a woman get on her knees and BEG you to let her be there for you before? That is a woman you have unlocked.

if you have emotionally unlocked "things" in her already then she is already hooked. You do so by being that guy who has led her down paths no one has taken her before. Bust her emotional cherry in different ways. Be the first guy to take her skydiving. The first guy to take her to the gun range where she shoots her first gun. The first guy she trusts to fifty-shades her body and mind (Most women secretly want this). You get my point.

I can bet you half of these high-class/well-to-do babes haven't been led down some real memorable paths yet because most Naija guys themselves are not that adventurous when it comes to these things.

Bro, it is easier than you think to hook a babe. At that point, as long as it is concerns you, all she is and has she will WANT to make available to you. And all you have to do is keep her high on love.

Boland:
1) Feminism: The fight for equal right of living for females.

My view: Females enjoy what the males don't and as such it's fair for male to enjoy what females don't.
Now: If the females want to enjoy what the males are enjoying while still holding on to their own priviledge, there is sure to be a problem.
That's just the summary (in layman's words)of my own opinion.

2) If the man is experiencing a financial downturn, the wife being the present breadwinner should help out, we've been told marriage is "for better for worse", but I'm sure you and I know that the relationship will most likely be out of balance because they are both occupying the wrong position.

This is what I'm saying:
Men shouldn't nag about a woman's demand if she's not yet your woman, if you think her standard is higher than your own pocket, let it go.
It will only be unfair if you've gotten her and later because of a bad situation she decides to leave, that'll be disloyalty on her part.

3) That depends on the husband, you know what you're going for, you should be prepared to deal with the cons of it. Besides, a woman with such profession can still be a good " wife".

See: There is a definition for a Husband as there is for a Wife.
I often ask my female folks this question;

Do you wanna be a Wife, just a Woman or a Man for your husband?

For a ship to sail, there must be a captain. If leaders aren't necessary, men in uniform wouldn't need commanders. I'm sure you knwo what I'm trying to say here.
Equality is bullshit in marriage.

1) Agreed. Female Feminists should fully embrace the pros and cons of the mantra and not just cherry-pick the good bits.

2)

but I'm sure you and I know that the relationship will most likely be out of balance because they are both occupying the wrong position.

I disagree. That all depends on how you built that relationship.
If you have a true partner and not just "some girl who calls you daddy", this need not cause issues, especially if the woman herself is well off.
It all depends on how you configure the relationship from the start. You do this by setting a standard of mutual investment e.g Sometimes, she pays sometimes you pay when you both go out. If she is the typical naija girl and you are still training her, playfully yabbing her like "Are you not even ashamed of yourself that you haven't taken your boo out on a date yet? "....etc When you date like this, women who suffer from the cognitive dissonance of wanting to eat their cake and have it will be filtered out long before you get to marry them!

3) You're right, it does depend on the husband. Your disposition is valid, however within that disposition lies the notion that a man *will* have issues if he dated a girl on Beyonce's level. This is not true. With GAME, no human being (in Falz voice)"that make use of toilet" is undateable/above your level.
Some dudes can only date a girl who they feel is below them, and that just makes them basic. Again your disposition is valid, but very limiting.
I, and guys like myself, have this unshakeable confidence that no babe is beyond reach, no matter how much money they have. In fact, those babes tend to be the loneliest.
You can stlll be the commander by activating something deep in the girl, regardless of where you both are.

I understand it is easy to see the guy writing this post as some sort of broke guy.
I am not broke, far from it in-fact. Neither am I a golddiger....but whenever I visit naija I see how dudes date and I just shake my head.
Are you dating prostitutes or girlfriends? Y'all just too one-way with it.

greiboy:
op I can see you have a profile of a car and talking about taking care of women


Continue


Yes guys are meant to be Atms in Nigeria, right?


Oya big girls come and do the needful

There is a way to attract lovers, and there is a way to attract golddiggers.
I find most naija guys don't know the difference.

JESUSBOIY:
I met him last week for the first time. I met him again this evening for a date.

Gush, I'm beginning to talk like a girl already

Ok. Better put some lube in your boipussy next time you meet him without giving anything back because gay rape is a thing.

...slut

LivingFree:
Tell him you're shy and a virgin, in the ass

This will buy you 3 months of chopping

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