₦airaland Forum

kimbraa:
How do you take up a one-sided tale? Does she have any proof to tender that will nail the man or just her words against his? I think he may have sexually harassed her but something else could've made him fire her.

Thank God ridiculous things like #MeToo madness hasn't made it to naija yet.
Na so all these oloshos go dey wan ransom big men wey never even smell their toto before.

alanka:
That should be enough for hungry people.

Seize heaven from them, replace it with Sunday Sunday food.

It is better you save the food because there is no food in hell fire. But fire that you can use to cookfood is there.

Idiot.
As if Jesus himself did not feed the crowd when it was clear that they were hungry.
Your heart is not connected to this Christianity thing you say you are into. You're just another over religious Nigerian that does not share God's heart.

am4truth:
Daddy Freeze is simply a noise maker; he doesn't know the bible. He might be going to church, but he is not a christian. He doesn't understand the bible, he is a confusionist, twisting God's word and causing gullible souls to deray.
Mark my word, God would soon deal with him if he fails to repent.

Repent for preaching against greed WITH the bible?
Pride without intelligence is dangerous indeed.

dekung:
If freeze had not called your gods of men out this wouldn't have happened

That call out was extremely necessary my guy.
At a point I stopped going to naija churches because it was just too much.

Now, church leaders are repenting small small from their past excessive, uncurbed Takism.

There we go.
THIS is what the church of old did, not just collect collect collect.

Treasuredlove:
even with all those gadgets, it is still work. Ever seen a walking calculator? That is a fullhouse wife.I am not a full house wife but I will never downplay their job.
I have seen broken kids because the mothers are out there working and have no time for them
I have seen mentally malnourished families because the mother is out there and have no time for them
I have also seen sexually abused children because their mothers are out there working with little time for them
I have seen cheating husbands because the wife is too busy making a living to satisfy their urge
I have seen a woman slump and die in the kitchen while making an evening meal for the family after a stressful day at work
I have seen pregnant women lose their health for life or even the foetus because they carry their responsibility and the husband's....
I can go on and on but all I will tell you is that God is not foolish and He knew what He was doing when He made the woman the home maker and the man the provider. A real man should never depend on a woman's money. ..after all even if the wife complains about too much work, the man also complains about too much stress at work.

A bit dramatic don't you think?
Why do most women tend to magnify their problems?

There are no critical deadlines in keeping a home. And you won't get fired if you miss any (or for no reason), plunging you, your spouse and your children into poverty. Sometimes after doing what he can to avoid this unfortunate scenario (which sometimes involves staying late) he then comes back home to receive EVEN MORE stress by some unappreciative person accusing him about being late for false reasons if it becomes often enough...after sacrificing his health and sanity for said person. See THAT is stress.

As for home, Whatever you cannot do today, simply move to tomorrow....as long as your loved ones have food to eat.
But no, problems are only problems if it affects women.

Treasuredlove:
you are not God dear, so you can never be too sure how many kids you would have or how the future will pan out...let's not be too quick to judge because you are lucky to have a job now. I am sure you heard about the glo issue of married women being sacked. I am not siding with laziness but let us all be truthful...being a full house wife in itself is great work on its own.its is 24/7 continuous work and if indulging in a movie or 2 when no one is home is a bad thing, then let it be bad. I am sure you do not do all the chores on your own...wash clothes etc and if you do especially when preg and still working, you can't say truthfully that you didn't complain once or twice bitterly.
I love my husband so much ehn....I work but once he smells a hint of belle he will just lock me in my room and say ayam going nowhere till pikin has started walking....and yes, we as a family are all the better for it. I didn't have to take my kids to daycare too early etc
And you must remove that mentality of "my money and his money" it is both your money. Please recollect your wedding vows. Once you are married it is ",our"

As if being a so-called fulltime housewife will still stop some women from complaining that their husband, who leaves home all day for work, should still come back home to do chores for them... In this age of Washing machines, dish washers, and vacuums.

Treasuredlove:
some lazy men will like this. Come back and say this after three kids and you must say it like this

LOL who is this leech?

wurabecca:
Babymamaing is a taboo Here in Nigeria

But, really... I want to have the child now, before I clock 45 the child will be getting close to 20....

That's Blissful;!!!


Buh Nigeria... Smh

So you want to give yourself plus 1 and be a single mother?

hanked:
When a wife refuses to see reasons with the husband , after so much explanations about the situation of things, despite the facts that the husband provides the basic needs of the family except the luxury ones, she still insist that the husband is being stingy, that the house will not be peaceful for him , and the feelings she had for him are dead. Is this the right time to call on the inlaws to call their daughter to order?

If you are in Nigeria, why are you concerned?
There is nothing a woman can do to a man in naija. You simply kick her out to go and see how hard life is at her parents house while you carry on with life stress free. I really don't understand.

If you were in yankee now, I would have said your own has finish because she would be the one to kick you out of your house, while you are forced by the law of the land to be financing her from a distance as she brings other men to your house.

There is a reason most modern men currently do not marry in the west ...but in Nigeria, no cuntic female can stress any man.
Put her in her place. You are being too gentle.

She may have been a virgin, but her throat, tongue and ass could have also been thoroughly used .
Chances are high that this is the case because only a girl who operates like that can think to sell her virginity for money.

Halfpenny:
Like you'd know them... I'm Arabic.

Good for you.

Halfpenny:
I come from a Family and I rep their name(even after marriage, we keep our fathers name)So Yes... penny for penny... including his bride-price. The wedding would've been a 'Gift' from his family anyway, unless he was an old established man...

What tribe are you from?

Halfpenny:
Yes... I can! A lavish one at that

You think we are mates?

Hopefully you're not just taking the piss and actually can put your money where your mouth is.

Richy4:
I don't understand the part u said the feelings was dead... What's there to do salvage again qin a relationship when the feelings were dead...

Did she say that out of anger or was it the simple truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth so help me God?

You must be a child.
The OP is talking about marriage, not relationship.

Also, When you enter marriage mode, feelings mean very little. It's mostly about responsibility.
It would be foolish for A man to say he won't pay the rent because he is having a dissagreement with his wife.
Just as well it is raw stupidity for a woman to say she won't carry out the duties of a wife because she has a disagreement with her husband.
From the sounds of it, this is a naija traditional marriage where the female is expecting to be financed completely and totally while she stays at home.

If guy is doing all he can, she should go and find work if she wants to keep up with the joneses.

BossLaifay:
And you are?
Why do you feel I owe you an explanation?

Answering with cliche'd responses does not take away from the fact that you haven't answered the question yet.

Surely there is a rationale to your answer...unless you agree to being irrational.

BossLaifay:
Back in the day.... Yes!
But now eye yaff open.... Never!

2buffagain:
I don't follow, so if you can't part with your money to finance your own wedding (of which your wahala probably accounts for 80% of the cost of it)....why should he?

BossLaifay:
The OP asked a question and I answered! What don't you follow again? Or is your eye sight poor?

My eyesight is fine.

I am asking you to explain the rationale behind your answer

BossLaifay:
Back in the day.... Yes!
But now eye yaff open.... Never!

I don't follow, so if you can't part with your money to finance your own wedding (of which your wahala probably accounts for 80% of the cost of it)....why should he?

Cadec007:
I want to overthrow the FG with my platoon of special forces or let the government be, become an assasin and kill all politicians in da coun3 above 45yrs!

Have your actions today aligned with this purpose?

Would you say it is a wish or a goal?

DeadRat:
I Want 30billion For My Account...



Should I Send My Account Number?

Have your actions today aligned with this purpose?
How much time do you calculate to be there at?

Permit 2Buff to be your shrink only for a moment...

A lot of us go through our day without really linking it to purpose....i.e Without linking it to what we want.
Without a clear idea of what we want, our actions are unfocused; Our moves,

Before you allow the neurons in your brain mundanely blast through their pre-established paths i.e scrolling down, making posts, looking for who to project your negative feelings about yourself onto by insulting them, etc....

...Just....

Take some time to introspect on what you truly want...today.
Put aside your facades.
Put aside the masks/forming.
Put aside what you think your pastor/boss/parents want you to say.
Put it all aside and focus on what your base self wants

...Are you ready....

Now say it.
Say what you want.
Say it so your brain can help you.
Trigger a change in your neural pathways by giving your brain a clue of what its passenger wants.


...And just for fun, type it here too. Beginning with "I WANT..."

Mcy56:
In other words, a lady and a man jointly spend for marriage ceremony, not only the man.

My post is in response to a moniker that said only men spend, women only receives, which I faulted. Clear?

Why phrase it as "Supporting him"?
Makes it sound like you're doing him a favor, which is far from it as far as weddings are concerned.

Mcy56:
Truth is that nowadays, some ladies support their man financially to cover for the wedding cost.
A working class lady who love his man and knows that its finances that's still delaying him from proceeding with the marriage rites, wouldn't mind supporting him financially.

What do you mean by "Supporting him financially". Is it not your wedding too?

hajoke2000:
fill in the gap

No

hajoke2000:
Eve was created to support adam .......





a ...............(anything u are thinking ) bride will pay....

I don't follow

QueenSuccubus:


And who gives a fuuucck about the wedding?

It waste a lot of money, time and effort... Alot of bitches still believe in a fairytales of a wedding but after a year they started crying coz their husband is cheating , so now they file a divorce..

Ladies, in this economy crisis, We better use our brain regardless if u are rich or poor. Instead preparing and extravagant wedding, how about save that money for ur future?

I wish more naija ladies shared the same mindset.
Most seem to want their own to reach Linda Ikeji's blog.

RuthDaniels:
Lol you got it wrong Bro, Parents are supposed to be the sponsor of their daughters wedding.But due to some reasons probably not being financially okay... Intending couples support

Your attempt to insult ladies here is weak Bro... Try again

No insult, just stating facts.

Also I think parent sponsoring a wedding varies by culture.
I know the eastern and south-eastern sides of Nigeria generally impose full financial handling of these things on the groom's side as that is a show of capability.

Quick show of hands:
Given that most ladies have been dreaming about their wedding day all their life and that most big weddings stem from the result of these desires on the woman's end, How many of you ladies can actually pay for your wedding?

Clarification: I don't mean all of it ofcourse, just the majority of it.

MissRaine69:
You have the part time feminists who are selective with what they want to advocate these are the ones who hijack a cause they know little off.
You have made very valid points. Now I have a scenario I need to discuss and your input is appreciated. I am dating someone and this is has been going swimmingly well. I make plans to take him out for dinner this goes well as too . The bill arrives and I state since it was my treat I am paying. World War 3 errupted. I was accused of offending him. This confused me greatly. It’s my treat so why should he pay? It was not done in front of him. So how then can you demonstrate your independence when situations like this happen?

Situations like that basically tell you that you are sitted accross the table to a fool.

He needs to go look for a basic takist female, so correct guys can see road to you.

gloria34:
I more decent clothing would have looked great on her

Shut up there.
What do you know?