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Lol he's on that freak stuff

Gennn:
she showed respect; she respected him enough to not as a wife doubt the ability of her husband to provide, but she has a plan to fall back on just incase. Mind you she didn't save that money over night.

Your argument is logical.

Yes, It is possible that she didn't know in time.
I can yield to that.

obc:
Everybody now wants to write like Nwamaikpe thereby committing blunder. Guy, appreciate good omen and stop this criticise-all mentality. Supposing the woman decides to keep the money? Mtcheeeww!!!

If she decides to keep "her money" then SHE would be homeless (her husband can go to hell if it doesn't affect her).
That is the only reason why she ended up releasing money.

Fhemmmy:
[b]If that is the case, it only mean that the husband MUST have done something to make the woman be like that, NO woman in her right sense will NOT love her husband without reason

Other woman would have given the money to a friend and tell the husband to go borrow from there while she gets the interest, so at the end of the day, she still did well

And we - Nigerian men are not selfish to have more than one woman or spend money on ladies outside while the wife is hungry - Will it be fair enough to say Human are selfish regardless of the gender?

She has the right to ask for the money, because i am sure she saved the money to a reason and NOW that they money is gone, what do you expect, so count the ceilings? Infact, a reasonable man will pay it back and in the future, such woman will do more

Other nationality like what nation? I will be back to know what nationality is better . . . .Go and ask most of our brothers that has married then . . . I will be back to read who you think is better[/b]

I have noticed that a lot of nigerian men are hoes "by culture". The problem is that this makes most nigerian women DAMAGED (I think this is the better word). I for one, do not do hoe shit. It's necessary to get that stuff out of your system so when you commit, you commit. And I would expect my wife to put her damage aside and join me in BUILDING the family, not thinking of how to scam me at every turn because she still wants to bring some bullshit victim card into our new home.

Because if it is by damage, I could as well claim that me too I am damaged from past experience or hearsay aka why I must do some dumb shit.
That is just rationalizing stupidity. I have a very strong filter when it comes to my women, a filter that hitherto, many nigerian females fail to pass because they are swimming in their damage, and think that it is in-fact normal or "culture".

Unless she proves herself to think in a different and enlightened manner, I generally keep naija girls at arms length out in these parts.

desiregold:
what does my marital status got to do with my post?

And even if i am single,,is it a crime?

So a pregnant woman dont have to earn money?
so a nursing mother dont have to earn money too?

Does being pregnant or nursing a baby stops you from paying bill? As long you are aldult, hale and hearty, then you owe it to yourself to be making money.

I live by the princple of "He who do not work, shd not eat".

so, please and please, stop making excuses for laziness. Stop making excuses for poverty.

You be betta human being

Fhemmmy:
I love your facts BUT can you please open your mind because it is hard to discuss with a close mind
1. It takes the woman ONE month before releasing the money to the man to pay the rent - Can you please let's spend time to think of what the man has done for that ONE month too
2. Will you agree with me that the woman could pretend like she had nothing?
3. Is it possible for the woman to have a need that she was saving the money for?

Let's praise the woman for her action, she is a great woman to even have such saving because she could have spent the money to buy shoes and bags or even eat gala but she saved it and regardless of when she released it, she still did

Dont't be deceived.
The woman only released the money because it would have meant SHE been kicked out on the street. NOT to "save the man" or because she "cares for her partner". If she did care, she would have released that thing long before he went to do something desperate, like borrow from gangsters/shylocks/bank.
If being homeless didn't affect HER personally, She would have sat down comfortably and watched him go and borrow the rent money at 50% interest + a finger a week sef. That is his problem.

Most Naija women are just deluded and selfish like that.
I bet you she will now be asking that he "pays her back". For paying rent for where SHE also lives. Scam artists.

They are best avoided if you want a mate you can build with.
A woman of any other nationality out here would have intervened from day one seeing that THE FAMILY, couldn't make the rent.
I say again, most Naija women are selfish and only intervene if it affects them directly (afterwards restitution is expected). They could care less about the mental health of the ATM they married.

Urgh this is why I don't think I'll be marrying a nigerian woman.
Most of them think like stingy cretins.

So after absorbing all the mans money over the years, it had to get to this point before she could contribute to the long standing rent matter.
She would sit and rather watch the husband go and borrow money from the mafia, to feed/clothe/house HER, than join hands to support her family.

Every naija woman I talk to home an abroad have this fawked up mentality that their money is their money and his money is theirs.
He will now not hear the end of it i.e "blah blah blah...that time when I payed the rent....blah blah blah" when her mates from other nationalities are earning money on standard and combining it with their husbands to make boss family moves.

Parasitic scum.

All that one is beans.
No one expects an evil selfish person to say "yes I'm evil and selfish". They must always have a rationalization.
Like the idiot poster before me. ^^^^

Just look at Thanos, who could have easily just killed himself to contribute to less universal resource consumption �

dangotesmummy:
You better be ready to get ready to marry or date your fellow man because every woman falls into one of these categories irrespective of nationality

Since we're all terrible, entitled, lazy, beechy etc kuku marry yourselves or better still your mom. It's too much for you people. Kilode gan
You see Virgin you go bash am
You see non virgin, you go still bash am
You see su omo Jesu, still complaint. Una no dey taya. Aseju yin ti poju jare ke koshi Lo

I saw the bolded and didn't even bother reading the rest because you already made yourself out to be a staggering idiot in my eyes.
OP listed 7 type of women, 3 of which are good, but you used your own mind to self identify among the shitty 4.
Thankfully by you saying "we're all" you have already classified yourself under one of such gutter trash groups that men should ignore.

Now leave this place and go sck more prck for money.
You have already been ignored

OKay now I know this OP is a either a woman hiding under blue m or is gay.

Thanks OP

Some fresh hoodrat shit

sarahade:
Sir why did you mention me in this thread now.
I will postpone your insult.
Let me tell you I'm a feminist which means I don't take bullshit and I don't give out bullshit.

Im also in love like crazy in love with my partner I cook,clean tell me what I don't do for him. I'm loyal you know Why? Because he deserves it like he is my dream come true.

Being a feminist doesn't teach you to be rude or you should misbehave or have a nasty attitude. it teaches you to have self respect and appreciate your self irrespective of your gender.
Thanks

LOL I don't think you know what a feminist is.

MarieSucre:
Am I complaining? If I come on nairaland and complain is it not the same you people that will call me a lazy woman, and that this one I'm asking for help, next thing I'll start asking my husband to wash pant?

I have been on nairaland for a long time and I have seen all you guys response to issues so this your prayer above cannot sway me because I know the reality is different, una mouth too dey change. Let him do his duty 100% shikena. Let him be the head. Let him be the man.

Regardless of whatever you are trying to form here, You still have people helping you in the house.
Abi were you getting down to scrub floors yourself when you were pregnant? All this one you are saying is just Hypocrisy.

But you are here saying he needs to be on his knees (out there) scrubbing the floor (working for money) 100% on his own even when he is pregnant (jobless, incomeless, transitioning, etc). All you sha care about is that he gives you money to buy paynt.

Just know that we eligibles avoid your kind in this generation and century.

Elder001:
They think they're too big to wash plates and cook.

Dump his sorry their sorry asses.

Well, he certainly can feel that way if she has chosen to go the "traditional" route of making him the sole bread winner.
It means him doing house chores is solely then left to his discretion.

That said, I will always want my woman to have an outlet into the world besides Home and children even if it means I do chores too.
It keeps the mind sharp and we can relate with each other better. Children will not always be there. They will soon leave and start their own. What then? Surely popping out babies isn't all you came here to do.

There's nothing I love more than being a power couple.
And if house chores becomes too much we can hire a maid to come deep clean the house couple times a week.


That said, I will always want my woman to have an outlet into the world besides Home and children. Keeps the mind sharp.

I think "homophobic" only applies to man on man BS. That ish is disgusting.

2 girls making out / licking each other is really just "condiments" to normal sex.
Abi how do you think Solomon handled all of his 700 concubines and 300 wives in a single year?
SURELY, everynight was at least a 3-way.

Barayeks:
So it's safe to say every single woman on earth is sensible and majority of men are stupid.

Men are generally stupid and cheap, yes.
All an otherwise useless small girl has to do is wear white miniskirt and they have already lost their senses. Talk'n bout "Give me a chance to love you" when the nigga doesn't even know what she does or how she thinks about life.

If it's a woman, it doesn't matter how much chest hair you have or how tight your pants are, she will still ask you: "So Mr BigHead, what do you do?"
They don't play that ish.

Which is why men need to start doing the same.
Abi don't we like good thing too?

YelloweWest:
What of a woman who is pregnant or taking care of her baby at home?
I can tell u are still single...

What of maternity leave or taking a little time off work to nurse a baby (after which you go BACK to pursuing something)?
I can tell you are still a liability.

No sensible female goes for a male liability.
No sensible male should go for a female liability either.

Colourich:
A submissive man will make a good husband unlike their dominant counterpart.

What exactly do you intend to do with a submissive husband?

Sit on his face and take his money?

I suggest you go get yourself a white guy then.

@sarahade

Bring yourself here and learn sis

sarahade:
But it's ok for a man to misbehave if he has money abi.
Mtcheeeeew

You've come again with your illogical fallacies.

When did you see me make that argument?

Elder001:
First of all I'm a married man.

Your aim in marriage is not to stay at home and look after children.. Please stop saying that nonsense.


Yes whatever you work for is yours alone and whatever the man works for is his alone.

From this kind of words I'm sure your type will deliberately turn into a full time housewife in the name of looking after kids then later after you've wasted your own life without making money and acquiring properties you'll start dragging properties in case of divorce.


No man feels intimidated when his wife is earning more. .Stop saying nonsense.


Go out there make money and acquire your own properties.

To even enter the boldened, it is mostly women who don't know how to act when they find themselves in that position.
With the exception of a few good women, a lot of them would feel the guy needs to be disrespected constantly....eventually leading to the destruction of the marriage.

Some careers just have different end-game earning potential.

If one was to now say "no women should be hired as executives in fortune 500 companies so they don't feel their non-executive-but-very-comfortable husbands are beneath them", that one will be another issue all-together, not to mention stupid.

That's why all that old toxic thinking does no good for anyone's marriage in this day and age.

Anyway, people evovle in different speeds.

Best to leave cavemen to marry cavewomen, and for modern men to marry modern women.

Fhemmmy:
I have nothing against savings or all your theory . . .Anyways, i can't say much about what i dont know . . . BUT there are millions of people that are able to use same account where operations is being done as savings and they are doing well
Only when one of the party is overspending that you will need to now separate to prevent trouble
At the end of the day, one cap doesn't fit all heads

I am sure.

But clearly you are still not getting what "Structure" means (Must be a naija thing).
It means things are set in place BEFORE any of all that happens so there is no need for any argumentative adjustments later in the future if anything happens.

It's a no-brainer.

Cadillac15:
Says a pained lady who is busy looking for a relationship with any guy based in the USA

Obviously she is one of these annoying naija girls here in yankee who are tired of working and are just looking for some nigerian fool to marry her and finance her life.

Laziness. They have to understand that guys these days don't play that ish. ESPECIALLY in the western countries.
If anything happen now, government will set her up in such a way that the man will still keep on paying for everything, but won't be there to enjoy the same house with her, so she would be free to do anything she wants while he rots away in some basement somewhere.

One of my guy just last 2 months had the same naive view until he got into a financial argument with his wife and after the usual flawed argument of "it is biblical for the man to provide" was not working on him anymore she finally let down the mask looked him dead in the eye and told him "What will you now do? If we split shebi you know you will still be paying for everything?". Her exact words. Had to buy some bottles for the guy to help Dampen his shock that his"holy" wife could brandish the weapon of divorce-rape against him. This would not be the case as much if SHE TOO was working.

Don't give parasites power over you in the 21st century.
She needs to have an outlet for her existence besides just staying home! Idle hands are the devils workshop.
A word is enough for the wise.

Look at all these foxes looking at grapes.

You are hating because you feel you cannot acquire her.
If the same girl tells you to kneel down and beg to kiss her yansh now una go do am without delay.


You also don't ned to give her any attention.
Learn to look and pass.

Fhemmmy:
Why the new savings again during the marriage since according to you, they are both with accounts before the marriage?
Why cant they use the already opened account before marriage for the savings and is there any reason why the joint account can't be used for saving as well and just ONLY for paying BILLS

That way the "Family Savings" is kept seperate from "Family Operations" money and isn't sitting in anyone's own singular account and there can be constraints.

I know structure isn't a typically valued thing in Naija, but it is a good practice to prevent future arguments and maintain financial harmony.

If you've ever run a business before you'd understand.
A family is basically like a joint venture.

Also, It is very hard to be fiscal or financially sensible if you are using your checking account as a savings account as well.
After 3-months worth of operational money, all other family ops money contributions should go to a savings account that can be locked down appropriately. Releasable by both, or one person only if the other is incapacitated or critically unavailable in some way.

All these things can be automated.

sarahade:
As long as you men refuse to reason like people in the 21st century I won't reply you like one.

What is the primary aim of marriage if it's not to raise a family have someone to protect and shield you against the world.
You people have turn marriage to a war zone who is better who is to do what everything I work for is mine alone not ours. Where is love? you are not married you are creating a topic on how to divorce your wife and hide the property you don't have and might never have.

So many women are ready and we are getting wiser because most men are nothing but a gender nothing more.

They are many women with nannies that their husband sleep with whose fault is it the wife now.
you know what since its the 21st century the father should come and do omugo now.
Mtcheeeeeeew.

You men are confused when the woman is earning more you feel intimidated. Then you start creating stupid thread of how your wife is sleeping with her boss and getting promoted and shit.

You are just annoying me try to sound sane when you are the total opposite.

You're making pretty genaralized blanket fallacies there sis.

You are obviously high in your emotions and not contributing logically to this argument.

For example:
"When the woman is earning more you feel intimidated?"
Who does? Certainly not the chap you were talking to. He is in support of the 21st century way of keeping things real in the family. So where is that coming from? You're creating Straw man arguments just to feel like you're arguing against something. Stop it. And come back to the real argument.

We've already stated that no man in this century will marry a financial liability.

The real argument:
What stops women from being financially relevant during the length of the marriage? Especially in a place like Nigeria where There are house maids who literally do all the things that y'all complain that you do. While the man is running up and down the hard world receiving insults, striving to bring money home, WHAT are you doing?

You said something that reveals your true intent:
"What is the primary aim of marriage if it's not to .... have someone to protect and shield you against the world"
So what is your contribution to your husband and to yourself?
My grandma till today runs several businesses and kicks ass, even with 7 children.

Are you just bent on being a liability to everyone and yourself? and so your brain is just trying to rationalize/explain your laziness in whatever poor wisps of logic it can muster about your actual illogical intent? (Leading to your failed argument because there is a limit to which the brain can rationalize selfishness and laziness)

Look at this yanshless thing. Not even worth N50

The only person I am disapointed in are the thirsty men who will still agree to pay this grotesque creature money to fck it.

NwanyiAwkaetiti:
So people now go into marriages with divorce in view

Elder001 wehdone

You don't need to have accident in view when you buy your car, to get car insurance.

Eveezy:
I no wan marry white lady b4, never ever crossed my mind

bro Who said anything about white lady?

Eveezy:
Una think little of women, marry the right woman and avoid this over thinking, when I get married, why will I be thinking of divorce? When am ready to get married, d lady I will marry will av access to everything I own cos I know I will trust her

Just be sure to remain in Naija when you marry.

A lot of Women are savages out here in obodo oyinbo.
Utter beasts. Just be careful.