lilmax:
small pikin brain


I wonder if everyone was living a fun life,if the world will still stand

girls like this lack sense, that's why they're used as trash

Please don't say this again, we are wired differently.

Almost every one has spoken well, please go for him.

seekingop:
why did you mention him here

Ubunja scares all of you.

Ubunja is a great man!!!

Does he have a beard ? If not you know wht to do ....
Pls don’t @ me
Sipping Rum


Jokes aside if you find him boring then just decline ... trust me you will tnk me later
Trying to change a man is extremely difficult

vgodwino12:
Almost every one has spoken well, please go for him.

thanks so much

Lalas247:
Does he have a beard ? If not you know wht to do ....
Pls don’t @ me
Sipping Rum


Jokes aside if you find him boring then just decline ... trust me you will tnk me later
Trying to change a man is extremely difficult

thank you and he keeps beard

Pusyiter:
@OP, just open up.
There is something else that want to make you reject him.
If he is boring then, you make it more boring because your sense of humor if you have any would trigger quality conversation.

that's just the reason

believe me,that guy is trying to be careful,he does not want to say or do anything that will hurt you,thats why he is humble while talking to you,he really loves you.I'm that kind of guy.

AntiBrutus:
Post like this gives credence to the useless saying that girls love "bad guys". You don't want him because you think he is boring.

I understand that you want a lively partner, but I will suggest you take a look at how he behaves around others. There are many reasons he loses confidence around you

1. He loves you too much.
2. You have this dominating aura. Some ladies and guys have it. They have a way of looking at you that makes you swallow saliva.
3. He never saw a relationship with you happening. Maybe because he thinks you are way out of his league. EPL things ehn

Give him time, when he is free enough with you or is done basking in the euphoria of his new found love, he will pickup. You sef go fear.

Hold that guy o.
Guys like this no get wahala.

No be all these ones wey once you enter their house, they will on gen, close door, put on loud music and start asking if you are comfortable sitting on the chair, abi you will come sit on the bed.

Lol. Experience

Biglittlelois:
Stay with him, hes just scared of making the wrong move, guys like that gives peace of mind.

if you are still single hala me make I give you small headache.

Biglittlelois:
Stay with him, hes just scared of making the wrong move, guys like that gives peace of mind.

true talk

AntiBrutus:
Post like this gives credence to the useless saying that girls love "bad guys". You don't want him because you think he is boring.

I understand that you want a lively partner, but I will suggest you take a look at how he behaves around others. There are many reasons he loses confidence around you

1. He loves you too much.
2. You have this dominating aura. Some ladies and guys have it. They have a way of looking at you that makes you swallow saliva.
3. He never saw a relationship with you happening. Maybe because he thinks you are way out of his league. EPL things ehn

Give him time, when he is free enough with you or is done basking in the euphoria of his new found love, he will pickup. You sef go fear.

Hold that guy o.
Guys like this no get wahala.

No be all these ones wey once you enter their house, they will on gen, close door, put on loud music and start asking if you are comfortable sitting on the chair, abi you will come sit on the bed.

AntiBrutus:
Post like this gives credence to the useless saying that girls love "bad guys". You don't want him because you think he is boring.

I understand that you want a lively partner, but I will suggest you take a look at how he behaves around others. There are many reasons he loses confidence around you

1. He loves you too much.
2. You have this dominating aura. Some ladies and guys have it. They have a way of looking at you that makes you swallow saliva.
3. He never saw a relationship with you happening. Maybe because he thinks you are way out of his league. EPL things ehn

Give him time, when he is free enough with you or is done basking in the euphoria of his new found love, he will pickup. You sef go fear.

Hold that guy o.
Guys like this no get wahala.

No be all these ones wey once you enter their house, they will on gen, close door, put on loud music and start asking if you are comfortable sitting on the chair, abi you will come sit on the bed.

AntiBrutus:
Post like this gives credence to the useless saying that girls love "bad guys". You don't want him because you think he is boring.

I understand that you want a lively partner, but I will suggest you take a look at how he behaves around others. There are many reasons he loses confidence around you

1. He loves you too much.
2. You have this dominating aura. Some ladies and guys have it. They have a way of looking at you that makes you swallow saliva.
3. He never saw a relationship with you happening. Maybe because he thinks you are way out of his league. EPL things ehn

Give him time, when he is free enough with you or is done basking in the euphoria of his new found love, he will pickup. You sef go fear.

Hold that guy o.
Guys like this no get wahala.

No be all these ones wey once you enter their house, they will on gen, close door, put on loud music and start asking if you are comfortable sitting on the chair, abi you will come sit on the bed.

how quick girls are to say that their love for Bad Boys is a myth. I just laugh.
Who are they trying to trick in 2019. Like who really would believe that blue lie. Lmfaooooo

mozele:



if you are still single hala me make I give you small headache.

lol smallnyana headache.

CyberWolf:
Same thing Ubunja has been talking about. When you’re nice to ladies, they call you weakling, boring, etc.. Treat them like trash and they run after you.

Same thing from you.
So being nice means being boring and lacking confidence? And having confidence means you must be nasty or be a bad boy. Please. A man can have confidence and still be nice. A man can be boring and still be a devil.
All these ridiculous stereotypes.

badadvice:
Op, that guy you're talking about is a "nice guy" and you should fight to keep him unless of course you're one of those girls who like bad guys in their youth and later pray and fight to settle with a nice in the future.
I'll advice you make him comfortable around you by being yourself around him, and by being yourself, i mean being your real self i.e how you were born.
Dress in front of him.
Touch "him" like you own it.
And if possible, fvck more than enough confidence into him.
When a guy becomes comfortable seeing your unclothedness, or having sex with you, he level of confidence around you will pique and you would end up not living a boring life!

SMH

Lalas247:
Does he have a beard ? If not you know wht to do ....
Pls don’t @ me
Sipping Rum
Jokes aside if you find him boring then just decline ... trust me you will tnk me later
Trying to change a man is extremely difficult

Thank you jare.
seekingop
If you feel he is too boring for you, you can decline. You don't have to wait around hoping he gets comfortable enough to start having confidence around you, neither do you have to feel you need to do this or that to get him to have confidence when he is with you.
Man never finish for this world.


If however you want to try out the suggestions given here that's all good also. Since he is has been your friend and he has good qualities
I wish you luck.
There is nothing wrong with the way you feel.

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All of u go and prepare for the days hustle....before u join the next level hustle

If a guy is boring and you as a girl cannot come up with something to spice up the moment, then you are more boring than him. Where is it written that it is a man's job to always come up with something new to discuss, spice up a conversation with jokes and humours, etc?

Daeylar:

Quite unnecessary and you're jumping into conclusions
She is concerned about him lacking confidence how does it relate to she wants a bad guy? Or give any type of credence to that saying? Is it only bad guys who have confidence?
And yes, she is allowed to say she doesn't want him because she thinks he is boring, there is nothing wrong with that. Doesn't mean she wants a bad boy,
Don't project on her.

Madam Daeylar, before you go attacking like someone on heat...I called it useless for a reason.

If there is anyone jumping into conclusion, it has to be you. Like how can someone ignore a whole post and focus on just the first paragraph. Seems like you are looking for a way to attack without remorse and reading further wouldn't help that.

How do you do this?

seekingop:
Good evening house, please I need your honest opinion on this issue.

There's this guy who has been my friend for a long time. He asked me out recently. He has very good qualities.

The issue is, he lacks confidence whenever he's talking to me thereby making him boring.
I'm thinking of turning down his request because I can't imagine myself living a boring life or are there ways I can help him improve on that?

Thanks

Help him build his confidence. You want to throw away other good qualities. Entertain him or are you boring as well

seekingop:
that's just the reason

The question now is, what exactly do you really want?

AntiBrutus:

Madam Daeylar, before you go attacking like someone on heat...I called it useless for a reason.

Aunty Brutus. You're still projecting.
If you're on heat. Has no business with me.

If there is anyone jumping into conclusion, it has to be you.

How can it be a conclusion when there is a question mark there? Do you know what a question and a conclusion is at all?

Like how can someone ignore a whole post and focus on just the first paragraph

Same way you ignored my whole post and started flying into conclusions.

Seems like you are looking for a way to attack with without remorse and reading further wouldn't help that.
How do you do this?

More flying into conclusions.
All to divert attention from the questions I asked you.
You can answer my questions or you can move along.

Daeylar:

Aunty Brutus. You're still projecting.
If you're on heat. Has no business with me.

How can it be a conclusion when there is a question mark there? Do you know what is a question and a conclusion is at all?

Same way you ignored my whole post and started flying into conclusions.
More flying into conclusions.
All to divert attention from the questions I asked you.
You can answer my questions or you can move along.

Your question is totally irrelevant and it wouldn't arise if you took some time to read and understand. I do not buy the school of thought that only bad guys have confidence, but knowing it will be the next things guys say...I started my post with it.

Even Ubujah that is more defensive than you, got the message.

Once again, how do you do this?

Next thing na, you will start prancing upandan, taking side comments at people who do not agree with you. The only time you are happy is when things go your way. You are one special giel.

Op, some of us like those boring guys.
I like a guy that's shy oo

About his confidence, that's what you will have to help him build cos it's paramount.

seekingop:
Good evening house, please I need your honest opinion on this issue.

There's this guy who has been my friend for a long time. He asked me out recently. He has very good qualities.

The issue is, he lacks confidence whenever he's talking to me thereby making him boring.
I'm thinking of turning down his request because I can't imagine myself living a boring life or are there ways I can help him improve on that?

Thanks

You want the confident and cocky ones, be ready for a heart break.

AntiBrutus:

I do not buy the school of thought that only bad guys have confidence, but knowing it will be the next things guys say...I started my post with it.

This is all that needed to be said.

Your verbal diarrhea is unnecessary.
But I understand. You can't help it.
If you don't turn a simple answer into some type of drama and spectacle with unnecessary lines filled with delusions and projections. You wouldn't be at peace with yourself.

Besides.
This

Next thing na, you will start prancing upandan, taking side comments at people who do not agree with you

from the same girl who runs up and down different threads giving people who have disagreed with her unnecessary snide mentioñs?
I've told you to stop projecting, but it's seems like a second skin to you while hypocrisy seems to be the Cherry on top

Anyways.
Don't let your hypocrisy and stupid projections hit you on the way out from my mentioñs.

You've answered my question. I'm done here.

Daeylar:

This is all that needed to be said.

Your verbal diarrhea is unnecessary.
But I understand. You can't help it.
If you don't turn turn a simple answer into some type of drama with unnecessary lines filled with delusions and and projections. You wouldn't be at peace with yourself.

Besides.
This

from the same girl who runs up and down different threads giving people who have disagreed with her unnecessary mentioñs?
I've told you to stop projecting, but it's like a second skin to you while hypocrisy seems to be the Cherry on top

Anyways.
Don't let your hypocrisy and stupid projections hit you on the way out from my mentioñs.

K

AntiBrutus:


Your question is totally irrelevant and it wouldn't arise if you took some time to read and understand. I do not buy the school of thought that only bad guys have confidence, but knowing it will be the next things guys say...I started my post with it.

Even Ubujah that is more defensive than you, got the message.

Once again, how do you do this?

Next thing na, you will start prancing upandan, taking side comments at people who do not agree with you. The only time you are happy is when things go your way. You are one special giel.

nne biko hafu that lady... You bigger than that abeg..

Ejiod:

nne biko hafu that lady... You bigger than that abeg..

Lol, e never reach like that.
How you dey?

AntiBrutus:


Lol, e never reach like that.
How you dey?

Very fine..... .
Enjoy your weekdays dear..

AntiBrutus:
No be all these ones wey once you enter their house, they will on gen, close door, put on loud music and start asking if you are comfortable sitting on the chair, abi you will come sit on the bed.

Format that we've been using since 4500 BC, Poco just came from nowhere and scattered. If no be say I get home training, I for call you winch.
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Lalas247:
Does he have a beard ? If not you know wht to do ....
Pls don’t @ me
Sipping Rum


Jokes aside if you find him boring then just decline ... trust me you will tnk me later
Trying to change a man is extremely difficult

Madame has been going gags over beards since time immemorial.

Also, there are reasons why he is boring and boring can be classified into different parts.. "Does he just mope while you do the talking", " if the music player is turned on and you want him to come dance with you and he prefers to support his jaw with his fist and watch", and several other examples that will warrant I start contemplating on concurring your "decline if he is boring" assertion.

The first few commenters made the good points, she should analyze the nig' further. If he is my former self, the kinda guy that is ashamed of going all worldly to the girl to avoid being seen as a player but is lively enough to make her smile most times, she should soldier on with him and get to know more about him, there is every possibility he needs to be comfortable around her.

lilmax:
small pikin brain


I wonder if everyone was living a fun life,if the world will still stand

girls like this lack sense, that's why they're used as trash

bro, you are the one who lacks sense here not the op.why do you like you partner?
is it not because she has all the qualities you like in a woman lets say she is beautiful and intelligent or would you settle for an ugly and dumb woman ? same thing with women too they all have qualities what they want in a partner and most times it is confidence and charisma accept this fact or be doomed with women .the op is even considerate sef most women will just reject you straight.