he probably isn't comfortable around you yet. how Long have u two been together?

earthsync:
he probably isn't comfortable around you yet. how Long have u two been together?

that's what everyone is saying, I'll try to make him feel comfortable around me and see if he'll loosen up.

Thanks to everyone who commented, you're all appreciated.

seekingop:
Good evening house, please I need your honest opinion on this issue.

There's this guy who has been my friend for a long time. He asked me out recently. He has very good qualities.

The issue is, he lacks confidence whenever he's talking to me thereby making him boring.
I'm thinking of turning down his request because I can't imagine myself living a boring life or are there ways I can help him improve on that?

Thanks

I hate bored man too, just stay close to him to try and cheer him up

AntiBrutus:

No be all these ones wey once you enter their house, they will on gen, close door, put on loud music and start asking if you are comfortable sitting on the chair, abi you will come sit on the bed.

l,mao una no kill person with laff for here

seekingop:
Good evening house, please I need your honest opinion on this issue.

There's this guy who has been my friend for a long time. He asked me out recently. He has very good qualities.

The issue is, he lacks confidence whenever he's talking to me thereby making him boring.
I'm thinking of turning down his request because I can't imagine myself living a boring life or are there ways I can help him improve on that?

Thanks

You want ogbontarigi guys

seekingop:
no sex yet, thanks

Why?

No

You say he has good character, but lacks confidence. Consider:
- confidence is something you can learn.
- character is something you can't change.

So far as he really likes you, just let him feel you're impressed by him and what he does, and help him build up confidence. Being around you will make him feel more comfortable and start coming out of his shell.

AntiBrutus:
Post like this gives credence to the useless saying that girls love "bad guys". You don't want him because you think he is boring.

I understand that you want a lively partner, but I will suggest you take a look at how he behaves around others. There are many reasons he loses confidence around you

1. He loves you too much.
2. You have this dominating aura. Some ladies and guys have it. They have a way of looking at you that makes you swallow saliva.
3. He never saw a relationship with you happening. Maybe because he thinks you are way out of his league. EPL things ehn

Give him time, when he is free enough with you or is done basking in the euphoria of his new found love, he will pickup. You sef go fear.

Hold that guy o.
Guys like this no get wahala.

No be all these ones wey once you enter their house, they will on gen, close door, put on loud music and start asking if you are comfortable sitting on the chair, abi you will come sit on the bed.

See yan

seekingop:
Good evening house, please I need your honest opinion on this issue.

There's this guy who has been my friend for a long time. He asked me out recently. He has very good qualities.

The issue is, he lacks confidence whenever he's talking to me thereby making him boring.
I'm thinking of turning down his request because I can't imagine myself living a boring life or are there ways I can help him improve on that?

Thanks

you are destined to be failure in life

Just look at this women! When the Mr Right show up, them tag him as boring or not fun but rather like the one who will bombard them with beatings and treat them like a piece of shiit

Our naija women are Soo stvpid to the extend that they started obtaining sense at the age of 30 and above but it is already too late

You this unfortunate fellow, the road you are about to walk will be full of shiit and misery for you



USELESS

seekingop:
Good evening house, please I need your honest opinion on this issue.

There's this guy who has been my friend for a long time. He asked me out recently. He has very good qualities.

The issue is, he lacks confidence whenever he's talking to me thereby making him boring.
I'm thinking of turning down his request because I can't imagine myself living a boring life or are there ways I can help him improve on that?

Thanks

Is it I?

seekingop:
Good evening house, please I need your honest opinion on this issue.

There's this guy who has been my friend for a long time. He asked me out recently. He has very good qualities.

The issue is, he lacks confidence whenever he's talking to me thereby making him boring.
I'm thinking of turning down his request because I can't imagine myself living a boring life or are there ways I can help him improve on that?

Thanks

That's a good guy but it you want bad boys like us I'm available but your heart would be shattered sooner or later depending on your FBI skills.
I'm fun to be with, I'm confident ,im romantic , i dress to kill, I take charge , I'm funny ,ive tried almost everything and noting is new to me.
I can't imagine the world without people like u

seekingop:
no sex yet, thanks

Rubbiish:

Why?

Because of his lack of confidence, he does not generate sexual attraction in her. Simple.
Furthermore, he isn't going to initiate it - yet.

However, if he was a confident fellow, she would be attracted (because that's how nature works), and he'd be confident enough to initiate or lead things in that direction.

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A man mustn't talk too much when you eventually get more closer you will get use to him and you will understand him better.
He is an introvert and introversion is not a sickness, however if you can't cope with him don't date him and break his heart later. Go and date a parrot that you think is good for you.

Thank you

Special shout out to all the introverted persons on NL
We don't just talk we make sense

AntiBrutus:
Post like this gives credence to the useless saying that girls love "bad guys". You don't want him because you think he is boring.

I understand that you want a lively partner, but I will suggest you take a look at how he behaves around others. There are many reasons he loses confidence around you

1. He loves you too much.
2. You have this dominating aura. Some ladies and guys have it. They have a way of looking at you that makes you swallow saliva.
3. He never saw a relationship with you happening. Maybe because he thinks you are way out of his league. EPL things ehn

Give him time, when he is free enough with you or is done basking in the euphoria of his new found love, he will pickup. You sef go fear.

Hold that guy o.
Guys like this no get wahala.

No be all these ones wey once you enter their house, they will on gen, close door, put on loud music and start asking if you are comfortable sitting on the chair, abi you will come sit on the bed.

Nothing person non go see for nairaland

CyberWolf:
Same thing Ubunja has been talking about. When you’re nice to ladies, they call you weakling, boring, etc.. Treat them like trash and they run after you.

My dear, women are so difficult. My experience ooo. Women are wretched things I dare to say. Be nice to them and they become all acting, snubbing. Treat them like nobody and they fall over you.

nextstep:



Because of his lack of confidence, he does not generate sexual attraction in her. Simple.
Furthermore, he isn't going to initiate it - yet.

However, if he was a confident fellow, she would be attracted (because that's how nature works), and he'd be confident enough to initiate or lead things in that direction.

u are right...

seekingop:
why did you mention him here

So you are not new to nairaland? Just hiding moniker.

...just passing by

seekingop:
thanks sis

Wash hin buttocks after he don shit finish comot for toilet, you go use hand and water, make the shit no come stick to the hair for hin nyash. If you do that one bobo go come gather confidence dey mess for your front sef.

Relationship experts full here ooooo

Biglittlelois:
Stay with him, hes just scared of making the wrong move, guys like that gives peace of mind.

You don jump from one guy to another sote you know a guy's intention from afar.
I fear ooo

Godsent12:
believe me,that guy is trying to be careful,he does not want to say or do anything that will hurt you,thats why he is humble while talking to you,he really loves you.I'm that kind of guy.

and that's how good guys lose good girls and that's how good girls lose good guys

lilmax:
small pikin brain


I wonder if everyone was living a fun life,if the world will still stand

girls like this lack sense, that's why they're used as trash

U are calling someone senseless for seeking an advice meanwhile u're the one displaying the highest level of senselessness[size=8pt][/size]

AntiBrutus:
Post like this gives credence to the useless saying that girls love "bad guys". You don't want him because you think he is boring.

I understand that you want a lively partner, but I will suggest you take a look at how he behaves around others. There are many reasons he loses confidence around you

1. He loves you too much.
2. You have this dominating aura. Some ladies and guys have it. They have a way of looking at you that makes you swallow saliva.
3. He never saw a relationship with you happening. Maybe because he thinks you are way out of his league. EPL things ehn

Give him time, when he is free enough with you or is done basking in the euphoria of his new found love, he will pickup. You sef go fear.

Hold that guy o.
Guys like this no get wahala.

No be all these ones wey once you enter their house, they will on gen, close door, put on loud music and start asking if you are comfortable sitting on the chair, abi you will come sit on the bed.

Even shy, quiet guys can't be trusted o.

You call me baby Call me zaddy Are you okay Are you okay Come to my bathroom Cassava dey for you Are you okay Are you okay I want to use my money To scatter your brain for you Permit me I love you Na you be my bae I want to use my **** To shift your womb Oh permit me Girl make you be be my money oh She say oh aye oh Aye mo kpe No lele (Ya kowale) Aye oh ah ah madu madu madu Aye oh Aye mi oh No lele Aye oh Madu madu madu Eh eh eh eh eh eh eh eh Bad Charlie you be bad You like a sugar mummy Charlie you be bad Oh my honey pani Charlie you be bad [Verse] E be you Witchi witchi, winchi winchi Win Gucci Honey honey Honey honey Baby lucy You carry load oh You carry Eka motor Nobody know oh Nobody Nobody no go know Go know [Chorus] I want to use my money To scatter your brain for you Permit me I love you Na you be my bae I want to use my *** To shift your womb Oh permit me Girl make you be be my money oh She say oh aye oh Aye mo kpe No lele ya kowale Aye oh ah ah Madu madu madu Aye oh Aye mi oh No lele Aye oh Madu madu madu Eh eh eh eh eh eh eh eh Flyboy Bad charlie you be bad You like a sugar mummy Guy you be bad Oh my honey pani Charlie you be bad

Well, it's not enough reason. As long as he's not awkward in public and lacks confidence only with you, then u good.

I'm sure a good kiss or finally hitting it will boosts his confidence though. Just saying.

Women love men who can stare them directly in d eyes and take charge.

Is he a virgin

Oponu,akindaninani

rottennaija:


My dear, women are so difficult. My experience ooo. Women are wretched things I dare to say. Be nice to them and they become all acting, snubbing. Treat them like nobody and they fall over you.

Being nice doesn't equal being stupid pls. Being nice doesn't equal being a sissy. You can b nice and be in control.