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fscream:


All you need to know is here, am talking from experience too. If you can live with it now, then u are good to go because this mood swing and you petting her will be your cross till death do you part

Ghostfaze:


While I read through your comment it was as if you were describing my girlfriend, even the Ludo and Whot game part.

Me I dey deeper hole than the OP sef

ut47:

Exactly what am passing through now. I told her we are not compatible and this relationship can never ends in marriage. Let just be friends. She said No.

whysquare4real:

please are u a psychologist cos u just described my wife. she gets angry whenever I beat her in ludo game and swing moods always; one time she is very happy and next she is all moody and angry. will not even talk to me some times. though we didn't date for long before getting married but she is very supportive and nice overall. I love her though and she do love me very much as well.

Donbabaj:
I could be happy now but the next minute, she changes mood all of a sudden. We dated for over year after someone match make us but this mood swing things continued overtime so sometimes I get confused even as i really tried managing the pressure. She's a nice girl, takes good care of me, buys clothes, cooks, always wants me to look good but the problem is the rate which she switches mood easily.

Financially, we are both average earner but I think she earns better pay than me.

For instance, recently we got a new apartment - 2bedroom flat but whenever I say something she doesn't like or she doesn't want to hear, she just reacts like why would I say such a thing. All the while we were dating, we never stayed with each other as we stayed in our parents house. Fast forward* most times, as the man, after switching mood, I try to pacify her by petting and apologising but she doesn't just want to listen.

Just today, we were playing with each other on the bed, touching each other (not sensitive part) and she wanted me to kiss her. So I told her jokingly that "but you know this is not biblical" as an advocate of no sex until after marriage. I have never had sex with her either. The next thing she said, "why are you talking like this" she stood up, went straight to the sitting room and slept there. I went to meet her there to pacify her again but she wouldn't listen.

Please note that I have not and can never beat or abuse her cos I'm a Christian.

I'm just tired. She's really getting on my nerves. Our wedding is 3 weeks time but I dont just know what to do. People, friends and family are already aware of the impending marriage but I'm afraid that if a lady can switch mood like this, who knows what will happen tommorrow. I cant sleep in peace...

Please advice. This is happening right now.

awetaiye2015:


Many things can cause mood swing. One of the things I've learnt from my own experience is lack of sex. I was never an advocate of "no sex before marriage", so I dated girls while in school. I had this girlfriend among others, that if it's been a while we made love, she gets mood swing. Not until she opened up to me that if she stays away from sex for a long time, she always get this mood swing and act funny, and gets angry unnecessarily. So wat I do is wen I notice that she is about to act strange because we've not had sex for a while, I do the needful and before u know it, she can even give me her life, and u see her happy and doing things well.

I'm not saying u should break ur vow bro but if her case is as a result of what I experienced, then after marriage, u should be able to resolve it. But u need to put it into prayers should it be spiritual. The general solution is to look for what makes her happy and give her wat she wants. She might want to adventure sex with u who knows and knowing that u are not that type for sex outside marriage, it hurts her. Try talk to her to be patient but don't make it look like u are saying that sex is her problem.
Less I forget, don't get too close to her in a sexual way so as not to turn her on while u know that u won't satisfy her urge. Keep ur distance. She no be fire wood. Depending on libido but there are ladies who can not stay close to a man without completing the movie. Their urge is so high that just by seeing that part of ur body that they love so much, they can even atempt to rape u or hit u with something if u deny them the complete act.

Kirinwa:



Not sensitive parts nah, abi the grammar off you?

Donbabaj:
I could be happy now but the next minute, she changes mood all of a sudden. We dated for over year after someone match make us but this mood swing things continued overtime so sometimes I get confused even as i really tried managing the pressure. She's a nice girl, takes good care of me, buys clothes, cooks, always wants me to look good but the problem is the rate which she switches mood easily.

Financially, we are both average earner but I think she earns better pay than me.

For instance, recently we got a new apartment - 2bedroom flat but whenever I say something she doesn't like or she doesn't want to hear, she just reacts like why would I say such a thing. All the while we were dating, we never stayed with each other as we stayed in our parents house. Fast forward* most times, as the man, after switching mood, I try to pacify her by petting and apologising but she doesn't just want to listen.

Just today, we were playing with each other on the bed, touching each other (not sensitive part) and she wanted me to kiss her. So I told her jokingly that "but you know this is not biblical" as an advocate of no sex until after marriage. I have never had sex with her either. The next thing she said, "why are you talking like this" she stood up, went straight to the sitting room and slept there. I went to meet her there to pacify her again but she wouldn't listen.

Please note that I have not and can never beat or abuse her cos I'm a Christian.

I'm just tired. She's really getting on my nerves. Our wedding is 3 weeks time but I dont just know what to do. People, friends and family are already aware of the impending marriage but I'm afraid that if a lady can switch mood like this, who knows what will happen tommorrow. I cant sleep in peace...

Please advice. This is happening right now.

Donbabaj:


Hmm. Can be frustrating

tyup:


Lol nahh....i cut off from Toxic ladies anytime I notice any trace of toxicity

Anyways I've since shifted to a Serbian

paul100:

. I just dey reason that thing he said.Which one be not sensitive parts.I don't know whether na her teeth he dey touch.

Donbabaj:


You know at times you just want to please these ladies at times and give them attention. But not with my faith.

paul100:

. I just dey reason that thing he said.Which one be not sensitive parts.I don't know whether na her teeth he dey touch.

Donbabaj:


You know at times you just want to please these ladies at times and give them attention. But not with my faith.

Kirinwa:



Head, hand, back.

Donbabaj:
I could be happy now but the next minute, she changes mood all of a sudden. We dated for over year after someone match make us but this mood swing things continued overtime so sometimes I get confused even as i really tried managing the pressure. She's a nice girl, takes good care of me, buys clothes, cooks, always wants me to look good but the problem is the rate which she switches mood easily.

Financially, we are both average earner but I think she earns better pay than me.

For instance, recently we got a new apartment - 2bedroom flat but whenever I say something she doesn't like or she doesn't want to hear, she just reacts like why would I say such a thing. All the while we were dating, we never stayed with each other as we stayed in our parents house. Fast forward* most times, as the man, after switching mood, I try to pacify her by petting and apologising but she doesn't just want to listen.

Just today, we were playing with each other on the bed, touching each other (not sensitive part) and she wanted me to kiss her. So I told her jokingly that "but you know this is not biblical" as an advocate of no sex until after marriage. I have never had sex with her either. The next thing she said, "why are you talking like this" she stood up, went straight to the sitting room and slept there. I went to meet her there to pacify her again but she wouldn't listen.

Please note that I have not and can never beat or abuse her cos I'm a Christian.

I'm just tired. She's really getting on my nerves. Our wedding is 3 weeks time but I dont just know what to do. People, friends and family are already aware of the impending marriage but I'm afraid that if a lady can switch mood like this, who knows what will happen tommorrow. I cant sleep in peace...

Please advice. This is happening right now.

Donbabaj:
I left her in the sitting room without any remorse but my mind no carry am. I went to plead with her now & she agreed.

Donbabaj:
I could be happy now but the next minute, she changes mood all of a sudden. We dated for over year after someone match make us but this mood swing things continued overtime so sometimes I get confused even as i really tried managing the pressure. She's a nice girl, takes good care of me, buys clothes, cooks, always wants me to look good but the problem is the rate which she switches mood easily.

Financially, we are both average earner but I think she earns better pay than me.

For instance, recently we got a new apartment - 2bedroom flat but whenever I say something she doesn't like or she doesn't want to hear, she just reacts like why would I say such a thing. All the while we were dating, we never stayed with each other as we stayed in our parents house. Fast forward* most times, as the man, after switching mood, I try to pacify her by petting and apologising but she doesn't just want to listen.

Just today, we were playing with each other on the bed, touching each other (not sensitive part) and she wanted me to kiss her. So I told her jokingly that "but you know this is not biblical" as an advocate of no sex until after marriage. I have never had sex with her either. The next thing she said, "why are you talking like this" she stood up, went straight to the sitting room and slept there. I went to meet her there to pacify her again but she wouldn't listen.

Please note that I have not and can never beat or abuse her cos I'm a Christian.

I'm just tired. She's really getting on my nerves. Our wedding is 3 weeks time but I dont just know what to do. People, friends and family are already aware of the impending marriage but I'm afraid that if a lady can switch mood like this, who knows what will happen tommorrow. I cant sleep in peace...

Please advice. This is happening right now.

foleskay:
Lol. You said the relationship is no sex until marriage of a thing. So I can see the reason why she's swinging mood. The babe needs a damn dicck. Fvck her and see d happiness all over her face. Today's ladies love sexx, so you as a man should not let them lack it. Bleep them hard. And besides I think she's honest to you, cos had it be she's been receiving dick somewhere else, her behavior would hv been d same. You would even know anything. So pls fuucck her and see how she's gonna come back to her normal self.

Oluromantic:
Youre abt to marry a mel-chlor or san-mel. Apart from mood swings, they want admiration badly and they get easily angry if not admired. I once dated a girl like that before, I was the one who by myself told her we're not compatible, cus I couldn't cope. She ranted when I told her, abused me and my parents blabla but I felt free like I was caged before. That's me though, you may be able to cope. We're different.

By nature, they lack moderate feelings, emotional independence and stability...that's their weakness. It's usually from one extreme of emotions to the other extreme skipping moderation and balance in-between. At one time, they'll love you like babies, like all their life depends on you. Another time, they'll show serious temper over little things. Either you date for marriage or there's nothing between both of you. No ordinary friendly plays or so at all except birthed by emotions. If you beat her often in a ludo or whot game na wahala. If you decide to be passive abt her swings, she may leave for her parents or friend house for being ignored and that'll be embarrassing. But their strength is being supportive, they can give u their all or even indebt themselves for you in loves name.

If you know u can't cope, you still have time to decide. Forget about family.. only 2 of you'll live together as man n wife. Forget the general conclusion that women are emotional..little things upset them blabla. It's when they want to be selfish they say all that. Not all women are emotional dilly-dallys. Though emotional, some are sensible with their emotions. I'm not wishing you separation at d edge of ur wedding but the truth need be told. You need to be very emotionally balanced and independent on your own to keep her going. If you are, then you can cope, but if you're not, hmmmm...

AccessME:
Op If I were u I will give her good sex that's obviously what she needs.

Forget all this biblical talks, be a man for once and act as one.

Na Hard F*ck she need!