Kccheechy:
I understand you perfectly!!! This has always been my philosophy. If you can't love me now when I'm nobody, don't love me when I become somebody!!!
All this talk about making money first then you can get any woman you want is all horseshit!!
Fine, your money will get you any woman you want but what happens if the money is gone?? I know of a man whose wife left him and eloped with her lover after their marriage produced 3 children. She left him because he was financially down at that time. She said she never wanted to marry him from the beginning because he wasn't her spec. He was a short man and she didn't like short men but when he started showering her with money, she decided to play along. Immediately his business started dwindling and money wasn't coming again as usual, she dumped him straight!!! After 3 children o!!!

Nothing beats finding true love when you are nobody and you guys go tat I'm still struggling. I have vowed never to dissapoint her when the money starts coming.

Dande55:

My dear, never let these broke idiots talk you down.
When they make money, they upgrade their standard and either leave you or cheat on you.
They aren't worth it.
Develop yourself and match up with a man that's worth it. Thank you.

seanwilliam:
does this mean even if you are hardworking, prudent and smart you still might get to the top?

luminouz:



Now,I know the reason for your vitriolic outbursts here on NL.

A word of advice? He didn't leave you because he got rich and wanted to upgrade, he left because you have no value to him(love,sex whatever). Its not about being broke, its the kind of person he is.

When naija ladies talk about staying with a broke man through tough times, I shake my head. I dont get it...are you supposed to hate him because he is broke or that he is human? This apparently disjointed mentality has made many women prey to men. You all scream about how you pay his bills and all that,like he is indebted to y'all for life. What if una character no good,or you actually are abusive or a downright nasty. But some women can twist narrative and make themselves look like saints. I need your ex's own side of the story.

In your case,while it is possible you were nice and all that, I still think no man who knows your worth would gladly leave based on changing levels alone.

The basic question is this...DOES HE KNOW YOUR VALUE? IF NOT, YOU AINT SHIIT TO HIM

pansophist:
Op, I feel you, man. I think every valuable man should by default, reached the point where they suddenly become attractive to women, even if a few years back, they were totally invincible. But you should not have disgust for the players (women), but be a better player yourself.

What you are saying is the female version of ''where have all the good men gone''? if you notice, you will never hear such statements from women at that prime, but from most women that men do not consider attractive anymore and do not seek out their companionship. Women retain value (to keep looking attractive), but men create value (to become attractive by establishing themselves).

You have spent years becoming a valuable man and your journey has paid off hence, women suddenly flock to you. This is a side of women you may never know if you didn't improve your life. Also, most attractive women came to learn that the men they ignored recklessly during their prime will become scarce as they get older.

In a nutshell, the romance marketplace rewards only the individuals with value. It rewards young and attractive women and valuable men with resources. Do not get angry at women, or feel negative, it is just how it is. The truth may be bitter, but it is what it is. Handle it like a strong man, and play to your advantage. Keep doing better, and make sure you put yourself in the spotlight, and when the right woman comes, you will know, and pick her.

Kenplay:
At this stage of my life when am still on the journey of my dream is when I thought am suppose to find a true lover who will be with me and enjoy the fruit our labour in the future but the opposite is the case because ladies am meeting and dating are all after the here and now, even the ones that pretend to love you will start showing you their real character after few moment in the relationship.
Am not poor, I can provide the basics of my life and even for my siblings but I cant call myself rich for now because am still young and building my future.

I dont think I will ever love or be committed to any woman if I become rich and successful in the future because when I needed true love must have past by. I may just have baby mamas, sex mates but not any lady I will ever call a lover. Even if I eventually marry I wont be committed to her because I know she never came into my life when I was still struggling.

Kccheechy:
I understand you perfectly!!! This has always been my philosophy. If you can't love me now when I'm nobody, don't love me when I become somebody!!!
All this talk about making money first then you can get any woman you want is all horseshit!!
Fine, your money will get you any woman you want but what happens if the money is gone?? I know of a man whose wife left him and eloped with her lover after their marriage produced 3 children. She left him because he was financially down at that time. She said she never wanted to marry him from the beginning because he wasn't her spec. He was a short man and she didn't like short men but when he started showering her with money, she decided to play along. Immediately his business started dwindling and money wasn't coming again as usual, she dumped him straight!!! After 3 children o!!!

Nothing beats finding true love when you are nobody and you guys go through the process till you hit that jackpot.

It's just that we guys Bleep up a lot. You see a woman who loved you and supported you when you were nobody. She gave up herself completely to you.but the moment money starts coming in, that's when the guy knows she is no longer beautiful, she is not educated or she is not his type even after several abortions. They start to go after mammy water girls and that's why girls of these days don't bother loving a broke guy because you can't say his true nature until money comes his way.

If you find a woman who truly loves you now that you are still struggling, please Cherish her. If you don't love her let her know instead of using her for your sexual gratification, wasting her time and filling her head with promises you know you won't redeem when you hammer.

I'm lucky to find a woman who loves me so much now that I'm still struggling. I have vowed never to dissapoint her when the money starts coming.

emmaodet:


Yes bro, Might but not guaranteed.

seanwilliam:
I don't get the bolded.. explain

Possiblegee:
What if you end up with a woman that’s also wealthy

Kenplay:

When is she coming? Is it when am already made? How can I trust her so-called love then

DCmonster:
A SIMP is a highly emotional man who overvalues women foolishly. An emotional man can never become a billionaire, he would rather become a motivational speaker or activist. Divorce rate is high among world renowned billionaires because they ain't got the time to SIMP around women, rather they invest their time in making deals and money. Billionaires don't value women, they only respect their day one ride or die wives and Bleep whichever HOT model they fancy.

Kenplay:
At this stage of my life when am still on the journey of my dream is when I thought am suppose to find a true lover who will be with me and enjoy the fruit our labour in the future but the opposite is the case because ladies am meeting and dating are all after the here and now, even the ones that pretend to love you will start showing you their real character after few moment in the relationship.
Am not poor, I can provide the basics of my life and even for my siblings but I cant call myself rich for now because am still young and building my future.

I dont think I will ever love or be committed to any woman if I become rich and successful in the future because when I needed true love must have past by. I may just have baby mamas, sex mates but not any lady I will ever call a lover. Even if I eventually marry I wont be committed to her because I know she never came into my life when I was still struggling.

seanwilliam:
so you mean destiny determines everything?

DCmonster:
A SIMP is a highly emotional man who overvalues women foolishly. An emotional man can never become a billionaire, he would rather become a motivational speaker or activist. Divorce rate is high among world renowned billionaires because they ain't got the time to SIMP around women, rather they invest their time in making deals and money. Billionaires don't value women, they only respect their day one ride or die wives and Bleep whichever HOT model they fancy.

krushdripper:
Let's see about that. i'm sure you don't really understand what suffering means but you'll claim you do. You can't stomach the suffering a man would but the carelessness of you females would bring it to y'all in double fold.

Goldp5988:
You better change that mentality of yours, if not na you go suffer am las las.

Kenplay:

Now I understand why your ex left you, trust me when I say you are lack character and not mentally sound. As for your imaginary first class and india visa you can shove it down your anus while you drink your morning garri.
Do me a favour and walk out of my thread.

seanwilliam:
ye ye ye ye.. after e don samankwe u well well.. gtfo!

Westernlove:


Shut the Bleep up Idiot leeches......

pansophist:
Op, I feel you, man. I think every valuable man should by default, reached the point where they suddenly become attractive to women, even if a few years back, they were totally invincible. But you should not have disgust for the players (women), but be a better player yourself.

What you are saying is the female version of ''where have all the good men gone''? if you notice, you will never hear such statements from women at that prime, but from most women that men do not consider attractive anymore and do not seek out their companionship. Women retain value (to keep looking attractive), but men create value (to become attractive by establishing themselves).

You have spent years becoming a valuable man and your journey has paid off hence, women suddenly flock to you. This is a side of women you may never know if you didn't improve your life. Also, most attractive women came to learn that the men they ignored recklessly during their prime will become scarce as they get older.

In a nutshell, the romance marketplace rewards only the individuals with value. It rewards young and attractive women and valuable men with resources. Do not get angry at women, or feel negative, it is just how it is. The truth may be bitter, but it is what it is. Handle it like a strong man, and play to your advantage. Keep doing better, and make sure you put yourself in the spotlight, and when the right woman comes, you will know, and pick her.

Goldp5988:

Poor up bringing, sorry about that, its not my fault.

Kenplay:

When is she coming? Is it when am already made? How can I trust her so-called love then

seanwilliam:
what if you are not lucky to find??

Dande55:

If samankwe means sex, I don't know why it should be my loss.
Lol.

seanwilliam:
why then you complaining if you are not pained??

Kccheechy:
I believe that there is a woman for every man out there. You must see her. The issue is when? If you didn't see her when you are struggling, you will see her when you hammer. But what I will do if my case was the later is that I will make sure I hide my status from her till I win her over. That way, I can confirm if her love for me is genuine or not. I don't ever want any woman to be with me because of what I've got.

Dande55:

Pained about What? I'm not complaining, I'm letting women know the dangers of dating broke men. Their loyalty can never be trusted.
Simple and short. I can never be pained, not even when I have a richer man lools.

Dande55:

Pained about What? I'm not complaining, I'm letting women know the dangers of dating broke men. Their loyalty can never be trusted.
Simple and short. I can never be pained, not even when I have a richer man lools.

Westernlove:


Shut the fvck up again. You worthless piece of shittt.....

Goldp5988:


Your village people are after you, no bi my hand you go die put, lol.