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Fraih: *applause* for the summary

EfemenaXY: ^^ My day's going well, thanks.

Never knew you were into writing. You need to pay me for using my name as an inspiration for your stories. I accept ca$h only...

carefreewannabe: Who liked my post? People need to know.

boynoel: Good evening all,
I opened a new account because I actually need help and I need to make this anonymous.
I am an easy going person on the outside who many feels have no worries but deep within me, I have issues that are eating deep into me but try to put up the happy appearance so that I don't bother people with my issues.
I am from a family of 9 parents inclusive and I am the middle child of the 7 children my parents had. I am single and in my early 30s, I earn a decent pay and I am living a good life by the standards of many. I am easy going but when pushed to the wall, I can be so aggressive. I am learned to some extents since I have a Masters degree and still looking forward to a doctorate degree in the future.

I grow up feeling I was hated by my parents as anything I did wasn't really of good worth by their standards. They talked down on me on the slightest opportunity and this made me withdraw from everyone and learnt to bottle up my emotions. The worse was the fact that I get the blames for everyone's actions and often times wasn't given the opportunity to explain my side of the story. I learnt to mask my feelings and till date, when I get offended, I mask it and make excuses for why whoever hurts me is however, I begin to withdraw from such people and it makes me difficult to build good friendship with people. I am grown now and forgiven them, I talk to my mom quite frequently and my dad is late.

My major challenge is with my relationship. I met my girlfriend through a friend of mine and everything has been going well by my definition until she made a statement which I felt so offended by. I brought it to her attention and she has apologized however, I am having issues with letting go as each time I remember, I find it difficult to even communicate with her. She is trying to make up for her words but I just don't see this working out anymore and I can't seem to let go too as we have been together for over 3 years now. I have tried going for therapy however, I couldn't voice out my feelings to the counselor thus, making the therapy session a waste of resources and time.

I would appreciate suggestions on what the house thinks can help me overcome this issue so that I can live a peaceful live within just the way I do outside that makes people feel I am one of the happiest persons to be with when in reality, deep within me I know it is only a facade.

cococandy: He's meandering

No you said ignoring gay people will lead to a future where paedophilia will become the norm.

You were clear on that.

And so I pointed it out to you that your homophobic society is even more paedophilic than those liberal ones.
Hence that your analogy didn't follow or make sense. At all.

Now you're twisting it.I thought you would

As for paedophilia,y'all didn't fight hard enough. Paedophilia is still very much the norm in the areas that practise it. And it is the same homophobic law makers who should vote it out that are sanctioning it and praticing it too.

If we put as much energy into fighting paedophilia as we do antagonizing gays,we'd have achieved a resounding success by now.
Seems paedophilia is a smaller 'offense' compared to homosexuality
Smh.

Let me get you right,registering your disapproval for the western gay laws wasn't enough in your opinion? What more do think you can do besides resgistering your disapproval(which they don't care about to start with)
You think you(nigeria) actually have a say in their law making process?

Interesting


You're right. just because someone else is better doesn't mean you can't fault their mistakes.

But you have a better chance of being taken seriously if you can be seen ACTIVELY solving your own problems.
You can't sit on a pile of dung and offer others solution on how to get out of a layer of dung.

It looks ridiculous.

cococandy: That's where you're still being ridiculous.
A 10yr old kid can't give consent. And so it is molest.
The so called societies who you seem to think are worse off prosecute paedophiles with very harsh consequences and give them a life time of misery than your conservative naija.

Oh I forgot,is not here that 12 year old girls are considered adults because some randy old man wants to fvck her? So she has to be 'adultized' so that he can have free passage to her punny.

No it's not a weird future that will crop up from gay societies according to your 'foresight' .
It is a very depressing present that is being sanctioned by our hypocritical 'conservative' nigeria.

I'm surprised men like you have said nothing about that.I don't see y'all up in arms and defending the rights of those innocent girls that the old beasts have gotten permisson from their equally beastly parents to 'love'.

One would think Nigerians will face their problems and try to solve it first before carrying the matters of other countries who didn't complain to them on their heads like pure water hawkers.

Nna let's remove the log in our eyes first before pointing fingers at people who've done better than us in most regards.

Thought you were going to church?
You're here furnishing me with your weird imaginations.

cococandy: Of course I will laugh at this.
I'll laugh at your imagination for thinking that a molested kid will be regarded as someone who gave consent.

And no frowing at it never stopped anyone. Anyday. It only drove them underground.

I know some gay guys who people would swear for as straight guys.
And within the same locality. Quite a handful that I know. Imagine the ones that I don't know.and that's in our homophobic country where people woud imagine gays will turn straight out of fear.

cococandy: What is the relationship?
That applies When there's a social injustice carried out against one person or group and other keep quite because they are not the victims....yet
Until it gets to them.

Barring mob justice and lynching,(which Nigerians so delight in)

what solution do you have for gays/trans presence in the society?
Has all the protest and criticism and mockery and disapproval stopped them?

Godmystrength: it is not my business how someone decides to live his/her life o. whether gay, lesb, transgender etc. as long as they don't come to mess with my OWN life.

Chillisauce: 5minmadness, you didn't tell us you be conductor. Abi you leave your own pepper run enter the bus go hide while nairalanding.

If it's feminist , your hand will type faster than your h***. now is the opportunity to save a baby, you run enter bus begin take pics to upload in nairaland. If I hear.

Next time, get a big umbrella for her. Or raincoat. Little things like this matters. you can as well give her your own umbrella. Even if she continues like this the next day, at least you won't be around to see it.
Kpai kpai, you fit tear the waterproof sef, ready to fight. as long as you are saving a soul

cococandy: That's what they do. I was shocked the first time I saw it.
Hundreds of women. When the rain starts,they'll wear a waterproof bag over their bodies covering the baby they are backing entirely.

So that they can keep hawking under the rain.
One actually passed close to the shop were I was at one day and I called her to come in and wait for the rain to stop so her baby won't suffocate under the bag.she refused

The shop owner said I shouldn't bother, that they can't rest for a second,so waiting for the rain to stop is not part of their plans.

They gat billz to pay.
And food to buy

esof1: I don't support her stupidity, but Op where do u want her to keep the baby or with whom shud she keep d baby? What if they steal d baby wherever she keeps it? Its obvious she's a street trader (no shade or shop). If she no sell pepper because of d rain and baby, the others kids including d baby nor go chop today. I don't blame her.

EfemenaXY: You've replied nevertheless. So your mentions are indeed working.

EfemenaXY: How do you know they aren't working anymore?

EfemenaXY: Flat, uninteresting story.

Boring stuff...