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cococandy: Fun for you because a woman was beat up huh?

cococandy: Donpeey anybody can do what they want with their bodies. Shikena
But harming others is against the law and that what this man here has done.

lepasharon: How was it your fault that her marriage was messed up?

desperatetowin: Nobody knows what it's like dealing with a condition that affects all of your life,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,i want to be free,,,just close my eyes, open them and am free,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,

eat right like am doing,,
exercise more like am doing,
and see results at the end of the day,,,,,,,but am not seeing results,,,,,,am just hopelessly about to give up,,cos this weight is embarrasing me and my family..................

justmag: Have u seen Pacific rim?? Now that's what transformers shud look like??

justmag: Transformers!! That's just me though

justmag: fo real?? I thought it was terrible.

sheniqua: Reading this made me so sad
Sad because I can see from your post here that you truly love this man
And I commend you for marrying him legally rather than live in sin
I can also understand why you would want to make this official to everyone so you can start having kids and stop the hiding.
I think he should go home to his parents and tell me the truth That you are already officially married and living as man and wife
Let him apologize for not letting them in on it
Go home and tell your folks the same thing and the reason why you hid it.
Don't spend any more time living a lie and torturing yourselves just to please your parents
You may be surprised that they won't take it as badly as you envisaged
I also advise that you contact some close relatives of yours on both sides whom you think may advocate for you and tell them this.

You are not children anymore

Take that bold step and tell your parents this immediately , the sky won't fall down
But if your man refuses to make this move,then you know you are probably not on the same frequency

And on your question I highlighted,do not spend any money on any house.
His response and actions after you have stated what I advised,would guide your next move

5minsmadness: Using only water to clean your virgina is the best but preferable when the water's source is known e.g your house. It DOES NOT encourage bacterial growth. (Cleaning your virgina after peeing is not the same as douching which involves using water to clean deep inside the vagina.)

Using tissue to clean your virgina is more convenient especially when using a public toilet and you don't trust the source of water. However if you are too vigorous in cleaning and miraculously leave bits of tissue in your virgina it can act as a medium for infection.


Using wipes whether baby wipes or 'ordinary' wipes will leave a sweet after scent and is just as good as using tissue paper. The 'chemicals' are not harsh enough to cause any alteration in pH of virginal skin(again its not douching you are doing, only cleaning.) However, wipes do tend to cause a nuisance in that they clog up/block toilets.

Thanks 5minsmadness for letting me use your moniker albeit without your knowledge

ekemit: After crossing through a boat while going to work,i saw some young men arguing,what was the argument about?it was about a wife slapping a mother in law i.e the mother of the husband,most of them were in support of sending their wives packing, i decided to post this in this forum to get the opinion of intellectuals in nairaland,what will be your immediate reaction if it happens to you?

onila: he said he will never take her back

that shows how hurt he is
considering he was a man that liked family

IfyAngela: lmao, don't worry its totally worth it , just download and enjoy trust me.

looking4job: HELLO NAIRALANDERS,

PLEASE SAVE A BROTHER. SAVE A SOUL. I'M FRUSTRATED AND SINKING IN ABJECT POVERTY . I NEED A JOB URGENTLY AND I WILL SINCERELY APPRECIATE ANY FORM OF HELP RENDERED TO ME CONCERNING GETTING EMPLOYED. IF YOU'RE IN POSITION TO HELP WITH ANY USEFUL INFORMATION, KINDLY PM ME. GOD BLESS YOU ALL

lezz: I didn't see your post on time and i derailed from this interesting thread because of a harsh response to my opinion. I now feel the need to apologise for my outburst and part in the confusion.


I now wish to state my fact . It's going to be long and could form another thread, but im going to state it all the same.


I am not a male sexist. I believe in the difference between man and woman in the emotional, physical and intelectual make-up.
It is my oppinion and i stand to be corrected.


The physical and emotional make up of male and female are completely different and this difference is for specific function at home and in society. This function may not be substituted without a price.


If we look at Genesis, we'll see that when God created the male,Adam, he had already given Adam his task on earth to perform before he created Eve from his ribs to be his help meet.

Implications : God didn't give a direct command or work to Eve except to help Adam in the task God has given him.

Whatever was Adams calling, Eve was to assist him. So Adam was a figure of authority not superior to eve but had authority and responsibilty higher than Eve.

God wanted all of humanity to have one source and lineage, one father. This was for orderliness and a sense of leadership, so he created Eve from Adam without having to go back to the dust to create Eve. If HE had done so, Eve would have been equal with Adam.


The position of woman is to give a sense of meaning and completion to the male. It's a very proud and revered role.

A man wouldn't really know the essense of his male-ness without the woman. It is the set up that makes woman very powerful, much more powerful. For their very contrast to the male in her full grandeur of sweet feminity, renders the man powerless.

Remember a place
in the bible, where a certain kind asked who was the most powerful in his kingdom ? All the wise men were summoned and none could answer. Until a certain jew answered it is women. Mind, one of the wise men had answered it was the king.

Because the strength of the woman is in a her femininity, her womaness that is in sharp contrast to the nature of the male.

It is why there are more abuse and molestation against women in the US and other western countries where women has learnt the art of aggressiveness and compete in the world of men.

I repeat prior to 1945, women in the west were not called biitches or divorced rampantly. It was when they started losing their femininity after the war, it was a slow but sure process.


Today's women are the most confused of the lot. Because they have been cut up in a modern world where they are not certain of their role as women. So they had to define who they are as Wife, mother, and career woman.

The solution lies in Genesis where the woman supports the man in his leading role. That's what she was created to do and find the joy of fulfilment.

Some wives instinctivly calls their husband ''daddy''. Husbands are actually the daddy to thier wife. Hence God gave them the man's name to bear And accorded the husbands some privileges he gave fathers. Remember males have the seed of life and and Eve was made from Adam and when Adam sinned, God cursed him, the curse started witg Eve, his first child.


Now alot of females don't want to hear this, but feminist in the west are now making married women to bear their maiden names. Some go as far as changing places in the Bible that denotes male character.

Feminism is a movement most african women don't understand. It's a tool for enshrining lawless and break up of the family structure that makes up society.

If it is understood that the male isnt superior or inferior to the female but he is in a state of higher authority for the purpose and wisdom of God for the orderliness for mankind in general and the home in particular., then what's all the hassles for?

Just my opinion by the way.

cococandy: And he was also saying she's mannerless
One would have thought he would lead by example by showing her how a mannerly person should speak.

lezz: Also, i do not look down on women as i beleive the role of women in society is distinct and different from men. It's all about different responsibilties to achieving an eternal, glorious goal. Modernity is merging that role to be played by no one or either one. It's fundamentally wrong and disastrous.