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angeldupe: No wonder your name is 5minsmadness. You just displayed your talent with this ya story now. I gbadun u o jare

Godmystrength: really?

cococandy: Really? So you agree it's a problem.
New one.
I thought you're the 'obey at all cost' kind of person

Godmystrength: how can you say NOBODY? check well jare...
and maybe the ladies are beginning to learn from men. Dishing our advise just like them. Abi how often do you see cases where a man comes to narrate these and
guys bite his head off
- or talk to him about STDs
- or ask him to confess to his wife
- or mention divorce

besides i don't even know whether to believe the story or not jare. or after wasting your time and effort to be of help, then the OP gets bursted...

obowunmi: The Milgram Experiment of Obedience.

coldfury: Did anybody read that? ..abeg come yarn me d tori

kreamidiva: Bros, morning o. Na wetin i understand from the script be that o. What did u understand biko?

kreamidiva: Ok...

Please someone should explain in clear terms what the problem here is.

How is op being cheated? So your new wife is sleeping with Dr. Lookman? Haba! She no try o.

So Dr lookman gave your wife belle? Wicked man!

She even set up candles and roses to announce her infidelity to you? What impunity!

I'm vexed. Really vexed!

coogar: bypass her? you mean make body contact?
push her? shove her? pull her? how's that not an assault? you never jam troublesome women. it's easy to sit & type behind a laptop.

bypass??

JEITO: well, I read what you said previously about how to correct a lady. I don't agree with ur assertion.

For a man to beat his wife, it is clear he doesn't know the role of a wife in his life and home.

Also, it shows that he has issues with self control and temper management.

Btw, no one over generalised anything. The comment was specific.

Age is not maturity, any man that hits his wife for any reason, is immature and not ripe for marriage.

A disgrace to Manhood I must say

JEITO: I take then that you are in support of wife battery

any man that hits his wife for any reason, is immature and not ripe for marriage.

Age is not maturity, any man that hits his wife for any reason, is immature and not ripe for marriage.

A disgrace to Manhood I must say

Whatsoever might be the reason, any man that beats his wife is a lunatic

cococandy: Curb what?
The way women talk to their husbands?
But I've already told you it is a recognized offense for which you can be granted a seperation or divorce. It is very legal.

How else do you wish to curb it? Apart from teaching your kids right,there's not much anyone can do about how mannerlessly others speak.

One can't be sent to jail for mouthing off at another person duh! Unless it is a racist or homophobic slur for which they only get to pay a fine.

The best is to get away from that person if you can't bear it. Permanently too if they refuse to change

crackhaus: First off, I didn't mention anything like beating as a form of caution...read my first post again.

As for the emboldened, so it is understandable when someone is controlled by their anger, loses total control and throws insults...but a person who loses control and because of anger slaps another person for throwing insults is to be viewed as animalistic and immature?

Is the scale of measurement for immaturity in men different from the scale of measurement for immaturity in women?
Is self-control a quality only men should possess?

AfricanApple: nahhh, u got me wrong, I was only saying I will still criticize your write up despite u already said 'some may not critic it again cos I've said so' I just didn't want to repeat d statement


while I agree that throwing insults is Immatured, some do that when their anger has full to the brim and have lost total control. but then why beat in d name of caution. how will u even feel touching your wife, there are other matured ways u can handle her insults other than beating.

cococandy: Well...

It's not really black and white.

Saying a man can't be pushed to react will be me lying to myself.

But there's a risk in saying it is understandable.it opens doors for all kinds of misunderstandings about the acceptability of violence.

So to get rid of it or at least to attempt to get rid of it,we must always be clear that we chose not to understand it.
Understanding can lead to acceptance.

That we don't want

jacabi: I don't mind. What I hate most, seing between couples is husband beating his wife. Another thing is, after going up and down in the kitchen to prepare what the man will eat, just because of little misunderstanding, the man refuses to eat. In fact if I were God I would hinder some men from getting married. I don't just like it when women are being maltreated.

JEITO: Age is not maturity, any man that hits his wife for any reason, is immature and not ripe for marriage.

A disgrace to Manhood I must say.

cococandy: Yes I'm going to criticize it.

But seriously you can [size=15pt]divorce[/size] your wife for emotional abuse.

If she keeps saying hurtful things and doesn't seem to know when to stop.call her on days when both you are very much lovey dovey and TELL her how her words make you feel.

To me this can work better than hitting. Hitting may even dreg up worse words than the ones she provoked you with. Because that's the only way she knows how to fight back.
What are you going to do? Keep hitting until she stops? Like she will.

I won't blame a man who opts for temporary seperation from a wife who's always insulting and mean mouthed.it'll surely teach what she stands to lose if she keeps running her mouth.

While we're preaching against physical abuse on women in whatever form or intensity, we should also admonish wives to refrain from antagonizing/pushing their husbands past his emotional threshold...there's only so much a person can take no matter the level of self-control they claim to possess.
It takes just the right amount of built up feelings, anxiety, anger, and the wrong scenario to get anyone to react in a way that even surprises themselves

jacabi: Whatsoever might be the reason, any man that beats his wife is a lunatic.

kreamidiva: Why did he refuse to take responsibility of the child? Was he married to another lady at the time your nephew was conceived?

Please men should always try and take responsibility of their 5minsmadness o. Maka karma...

pickabeau1: Morning... Iwas with my mobile earlier and could not get more pics

Behold the transgender warrior known as Fallon Fox

I have to say he/she is attractive...


https://www.gq.com/images/women/2014/fallon-fox/fallon-fox-gq-magazine-january-2014-mma-01.jpg

Godmystrength: I will ask the question in the next church marriage seminar i attend.......

haywhy28: I was in a marriage seminar this evening where the speaker (a pastor) advised couples to watch porns so as to learn new techniques and enjoy sex more. Whats your take on this?

ITbomb: Now this is a good one

Get yourself a very attractive househelp and let her serve his meals in the bedroom, make sure she takes her bath when your husband is at home and call her for an errand just when she is with only towel