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It should be shared. But not equally
70/30 with the man taking the bulk.
Or kpatakpata 60/40.
And the man MUST use his own earned money to pay bride price.

Its called withdrawal method, not withdrawer.

Anybody can make mistake, you guys should stop being asses about it.

@Op withdrawal method is all about self control. Its very effective as long as you do not mistakenly deposit anything. Also good to wipe clean before re-insertion or better yet don't reinsert. It has minimal side effects.
Also learn your wife's safe period so you can play and not have to withdraw during that time.
Have fun.

Where is everybody?

Spaxon: s

Yes I saw what I needed

FrontPageLawyer: Then you have a problem.

I have a problem cos I shed a tear for someone that died?
You probably can't remember when last you cried right?
You must be BIG STRONG MAN right?
Nothing can shake you cos you can't connect with anything.
Clap for yourself.

MzJackBaueress: I didn't say so please. sleeping with another woman whether on matrimonial bed or not is actually wrong. Don't twist my comment please!

OK. Goodmorning

An0nimus: Thanks mate. Just out of curiosity and if you wish to share, what did this girl in question ask of you?

She wants me to help her with her target. Mine isn't complete. She wants me to put hers first.

I did a similar thing in the past and she didn't even acknowledge it but she took all the glory. Now I'm trying to look out for myself and she's calling me selfish. "If you truly love me you would put me first blah blah blah"
Its a long story jo.

Have you arranged the room since 2012? How r u sure the artificial nail isn't yours? How long did you travel, is it possible your husband's sister/cousin came when you were not around? Are u sure the nail hasn't been hanging in a corner of the bedframe since 2012?


What you have with you is crcumstancial evidence. In a healthy ideal relationship you ought to ask him about it outright. Something like "I found this nail while arranging our room and was wondering how it got there". That will clear the air. Either he'll act confused and say he doesn't know or he'll come up with a good lie. Either way you can react based on your kind of personality.

1. Tell him outright..."I hope you used condom oh, me I don't want infection." Do it with a laugh at the end and let it be. His conscience will judge him. If he brings up the matter about an hour or so later then he's guilty. If he laughs and forgets it then he's not.

2. Play the diva...."so you cheated on me, you dog! WhYYYY!!! What does she have that I don't? Etc etc. Scream and rant. It might make you feel better. It might make him angry or sad or guilty. Still won't change anything though.

3. Give him the nail in his hand. Tell him where you found it. Then IGNORE the matter completely. No accusations, no snide remarks. Once again if he is guilty he'll bring it up about AN HOUR later, whether to confess or defend himself or joke about it but he'll bring it up. Guilty. But if he forgets it then its not an issue.


Do you sex his brains out? Has your libido gone dry since your pregnancy? Have you focused all your attention on your daughter and forgotten about him?
From what you are trying to say, He's receiving attention from somewhere that's obvious. Why is the attention not coming from you?

***flings away empty black label

MzJackBaueress: Haaa!! Some men are just heartless! Why sleep with a woman who is not your wife on your matrimonial bed? Jeeez!!

Would it have been less heartless if he slept with the woman but not on their matrimonial bed? Just curious.

bodashee: @luvablesam, thanks.

@5minsmadness...pele. Do you want to hear the simple truth? Me myself and I first...that's the mindset of a regular lady.
I think its human nature. Always have that it in mind. It will annoy you less when next you come accross another situation like this.
Give what you can ......leave what you can't. One way or another it will get done.
Don't let woman wahala get to you okay....its just our way.

K thanks. I needed the encouragement. It really hurts sometimes...

An0nimus: where's the drink?

[hic] you came late bro. Lemme [hic.]see if the barman still has any burbon left...[hic] …

maborukoje: Hi Nairalanders


Pls I need ur advice on diz


Straight to the point

I traveled to Ibadan last week with my daughter last Wednesday,came back today only for me to find a lady's artificial nail on our matrimony bed when I was arranging to room,I have not fix my nails ever since I got pregnant in 2012 till date,am so depressed now,my husby isn't back from work n I haven't ask him.

Am a very quiet person.

Pls how do I ask abt diz without causing trouble,am sooooo tried of all diz

I remember one time I travelled n I saw chew gum on my bed side locker,my husby don't chew gum n I ask him abt it he said he collected on from his colleague at work ..


Pls advice

Don't come here looking for advice oh.
Ask your real life friends.
Nairaland didn't attend your wedding .

.

^^^ @pickabeau1, royalroy, coogar, naijababe
Thanks folks.
Aswear these girls can drive a guy around the bend!

So I'm sitting at a bar having my second glass of black label. Very upset with my girlfriend right now. Why do women have to make themselves the centre of everything? Why does everything have to be about them? Me, me, me, mine, mine, mine, my appointment, my time, my day, my dress, my skin?

They always seem to want something! I havent seen any girl that doesn't demand for something from a guy sooner or later. Then when you as k for a little luv they go all moral n judgemental. If I walk out of this one now they'll say am stingy. If I stay am a sucker.
Nonsense.
***orders for another glass of black label.

Op don't bother jo, they won't listen. Let them partaaaaaay! When their choice of husband runs away from them they'll now start going to church and forming born again and marrying naive men they wouldn't normally want to marry. Then when they are disappointed in their marriages they will open thier mouth to cry that the world is not fair meanwhile they brought it on themselves!


***takes another sip of black label**

gmyguy: are you close to the 30 mark?

Close.

This morning when reading about the death of Robin Williams a.k.a Mrs Doubtfire. I was alone though. He was one of my favourite actors.

"I ate the baby because he was asking the same questions you are asking now. Go back to your mother before I eat you too!" ****pushes baby back to mother.
"Madam, come carry ya pikin. Belle dey pain me hin dey ask useless question. Mtscheeeeeeew!"

Does it matter? Its ordinary plate!

I:m so going to miss you, Sir.

One of my most favourite actors.

And such a kind and good heart.

Never knew he was battling depression

How can a guy who brings joy and laughter to so many lives be suffering from depression

White people, I just don't get them sometimes.

I still remember the first time I watched 'Mrs Doubt fire' Lol.

Laughed my socks off.

Or was it his role as Peter Pan in 'Hook'.

He was so believable.

An icon is gone.

Rest in Peace, Mr. Merrymaker.

The World will Miss you.

;Dchickenstew
What kind of moniker is that?

Something about a girl asking for it outright that turns me off, especially if I wasn't attracted to her in the first place.**modified **
I smiled, turned her over, took off her clothes and gave her a soothing back massage...and then left.

It just didnt feel right.

dechandel: Spreads mat

Why mat though? Don't you have a foldable chair?

They have warned her to keep away from you. Obviously she's a stubborn twit.
Or maybe the elder sister has told her she likes you and doesn't want her around you so she can have her chance.
Or maybe she told them she was going to the market instead of coming to see you and she didn't want to get caught.
Or maybe she stole from her elder sister and was hiding from her at the time.
Or maybe she wanted to spend some alone time with you, be one with you alone and the universe sh1t like that.
**takes another puff of hashish **

As in
Fear catch the guy
Him get to reason am sharp sharp