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Such an extremely one sided story.

The man was praying for you every night. OK.
Then you let him have sex with you to measure his sexual prowess. Am sure this happened more than once. If he was a playa he would have dumped you after sleeping with you.
But he was serious so even after the sex he still went ahead and married you. Even did traditional, court and church wedding! That shows a responsible person.

Then SUDDENLY he changed.

You are 28, he is 39. I think the one you are saying he is asking you to respect him as 'king' while you are the 'slave' is an exaggeration. Do you actually accord him his respect in the house? Are you sharp-tongued? You say you don't have a job so do you take care of the house while he is away? Do you prepare his meals? Or do you sit at home all day watching africamagic?

You havent said he is a drunkard or he beats you or is a useless layabout. He just changed like that?

If this story is true, you have to be honest with yourself. If he is putting 'single' on his Facebook status for you to see than it probably means he is just as frustrated with the marriage as you are. Don't see a pastor, they are not marriage counsellors. Look for a real marriage counsellor or better yet if you are interested in going on with the marriage you two should sit your asses down and iron out your issues. Talk about your problems! That's what couples do!

Have you tried reddington? What about st Nicholas ? Are they on strike there too? How old is the child, is she receiving proper nutrition? How old was the child when they did the HIV test? Do you have a doctor friend who can explain what is actually going on to you?

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Most importantly, Funes’ statement makes
possible the idea that Christianity can be
exported to extraterrestrial worlds that have not
experienced a ‘fall’ and are free from original sin.

If they are free from original sin, why do they need Christianity? They shouldnt start an unecessary crusade oh. Anyway the species that did not experience the fall will likely be more intelligent than us and even more closer to God. Let's hope we make contact with a peaceful species first.

Spermflakes..tehehehe

All of you are clowns!

well its easy, first off you relax and think of nothing stressful to get yourself in the mood. Put on nice sexy outfit preferably silk and think lustful thoughts to peak your arous...


Oh wait...

I thought you meant...

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It is easy to say "Park out!". Park out to where? Who will take you in? Will you seriously leave your fate in the hands of our dear government? What about her job? What if she can't park to a place close enough to go to work? How long before her employer sacks her? What about people, her friends, relatives, those she boasted to on Facebook that "my marriage is made in heaven, etc etc?" Women care a lot about appearances.

Also although the emotions run very high whenever a woman is beaten, an inquiry usually shows that in almost half of the cases the woman may have instigated it or even if she didn't she is not willing to leave because of a "little slap".

If we want to help battered women institutions should be put in place where the woman can be catered for. Do not rush in to fight a man fighting his woman, the best you can do is call the police or carry the woman away from the immediate vicinity to prevent further harm to her person. If you attack the man whatever you get will most likely be on your head.

All my long post got jumbled up

okparaugo: I share your sentiment.

I think my threads will now be directed to family section when in need of advice..

Not much difference there actually.

Closet masochists.

Op your brother is a very noble man. I think he did the right thing.

obowunmi: Does an abuser need an explanation for his madness?

Hence my saying they must be posessed. All men that raise their hands to their wives must be mad.

FACTS.
Men are generally stronger and more aggressive than women. They are built to take care of, provide for, and lead the family structure. Nature made it so.

Women are generally weaker and more reserved than men. They are built to nurture(breasts), propagate(womb), and care for the offspring of the family structure. Nature made it so.

Naturally, biologically, chemically, physically and psychologically, men and women are NOT equal. Nature made it so.

It is only natural that some women are not going to be treated as well as others by their heads(men). As men differ physically, so do they differ in character.

It is only natural that some women are not going to be as nurturing as others and so will frequently find displeasure from thier heads(men). As women differ in beauty, so do they differ in character.

As man developed to become the complex social animal he is today, he has tried to better his lot. He has improved healthcare. He has improved comfort. He has also sought a way to alleviate the suffering of those weaker than himself whenever he can.

Hence improved laws protecting children i.e good education, regulated corporal punishment, better nutrition, better homes etc.

Also improved living for women e.g the ability to vote/have a say in family/community matters (this was already being practiced in certain African cultures before western 'feminism' was introduced), protection from battering husbands, improved self worth(work, slogans--what a man can do a woman can do.) Etc.

All the above were all very noble and good.

The problem started when 'feminism' became overrun with questionable characters who despised themselves and the uniqueness of feminity so much that they craved to be like men, to wield the power of men which they naturally don't just have. This is not an emotional statement, it's just the plain truth. They began to struggle with the main in his own nature given domains. The slogan changed to "what a man can do, a woman can do better" a statement which in itself defines inequality. They despised being the nurturers of the home. They despised being the carers. They wanted the power. And they did whatever they could to get it including forcing other women who were reluctant to join the new movement through cajoling and blackmail.

"Are you sure you are really happy in your relationship? Don't you want more?"

"You are weak if you think like a conventional woman. Its not your fault, you were raised that way."

" You shouldn't have to do all the housework, where is your man, where does he go from 9 to 5 all day, everyday?"

"You are not educated if you are not part of us"

"You are too submissive. Live for yourself! Selfishness is the new good!"


And so some women left their natural roles. When they felt the guilt, they were told it was Stockholm syndrome they would get over it. When they didnt have time to cater for their kids they were told the government would help them. When they felt sad and lonely they were told it was the liberation process. When men stopped coming to marry them they were told it was because the men were not real men.

Depression, emptiness, suicide, hypertension, diabetes, obesity, infertilty , inability to hold and maintain a relationship, increased divorce rates...all were linked to everything except feminism because that would be politically incorrect.

When the chips are down and man is faced with the harsh realities of survival once again, the truth of who the head is will always come out. Then phrases of "women and children first!" will be heard above the chaos. And you can bet no one will raise her hand at that moment to say "No! Let us be saved equally for I am a feminist."

Whew!
Finally here.
Una get time oh
I don't even remember the topic of discussion again.
Happy Sunday to all!

AtheistD: Then why get married? Intelligence and compatibility should lead to a resolution in all situations. Compromise too. One party should compromise for the other.

Are you saying a married couple cannot disagree totallyon a point? TThey are two different people from individual backgrounds. No matter the amount of love they have, disagreement is bound to come in sooner or later. Who takes the responsibility of the deciding vote?

AtheistD: A grown woman should be involved in the decision making process within the home. And should have equal say. Agreement should be by mutual consent and not dominance.

And what happens when both sides are not able to agree? Who should be the tie-breaker?

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fellis: Yea, thanks for stressing the 'always' part to make it clear you don't believe me.......Not that I care whether you believe or not. And what are you insinuating with the last sentence in your post? That women deserve to be beaten if they give men a reason?

There's no point arguing with you if you are going to start twisting my words.

I in no way advocate raising a hand against women. Check my previous posts on the subject. What I was trying to say is that most men won't start beating a woman out of the blue. The woman would have provoked it somehow most of the time. Is it right? No. Do some men do it? Yes.

fellis: Tell me about it. I worked in a health institution last year where women were always coming in for treatment after their husbands beat them up. With their black eyes and all. Sometimes the men brought the same wives they assaulted to the hospital. When the doctor asks the wife what happens to her he quickly speaks up and tells a lie to prevent her from saying what actually happened. One woman had a huge black eye from blunt force trauma to her face which was very obviously gooten from a blow or punch and her husband told the doctor that one of the kids threw a spoon at her face while they were eating, that's how she got a black eye ..........but seriously though. It's nothing to laugh about. This is a very big problem in our society today

Always?
Always?
Hmn. OK o.

The men must be terrible beasts to always be beating the women and then bringing them to hospital. why would any man just start beating up his gentle, quiet, respectable wife for no reason? The men must be possessed