Please I need advice.

I am a young guy age 28 currently in my final year hoping to graduate this year by God's grace. Am in a relationship in with a gal I love so much and the love keeps growing day by the day.

She is 30 years old and just graduated this year but she is talking of waiting for me so we can serve together. The thing now is that I wish to get married to her but am not ready now. But she says she can wait for me if only I won't disappoint her.

Now am confused, if she waits for me for 5 years she would be 35 by then and am not sure if it's right getting married to someone 2 years older than me and someone at the age of 35 or above.. to add to it, she doesn't look her age, even if someone sees us, they won't believe she is my senior..

Pls am really confused, have never dated someone who understands me like she do.. Note: she never knew my age, she thought we were age mate cause of my voters card she saw which doesn't carry my real age.

If you know she'd be too old for you when you're ready to marry, please tell her to move on to a guy that's ready.

No use your reggae spoil her Fuji.

Hm

See first thing you have to tell her your real age, see her reactions whether she's okay with that or not.

Secondly 5 years is pretty much to put someone hanging, or believing that you guys will get married.

If you really love her age is nothing, just two years. Bro honestly 5 years is much if you know that after 5 years you can't do this abeg let her go.

Because you have started contemplating already, please don't waste that lady's time that much let her go.

I am so disappointed that you are educated and you still take age as a big deal
so 35 years old is bad for a female to get married??

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Romanoff:
If you know she'd be too old for you when you're ready to marry, please tell her to move on to a guy that's ready.

No use you reggae spoil her Fuji.

Wow wow i succumb.

Romanoff, all this days you are just doing the opposite of your name (RomanOn) on this Romance section wit the numbers of advise you are just dishing eh ! how far show us the way out, I want to start advising the people of my community on the danger of bad relationship, I will be needing keynote from you.

Can you help me out?

gaius01:


Wow wow i succumb.

Romanoff, all this days you are just doing the opposite of your name (RomanOn) on this Romance section wit the numbers of advise you are just dishing eh ! how far show us the way out, I want to start advising the people of my community on the danger of bad relationship, I will be needing keynote from you.

Can you help me out?

My dear na from experience and poor choices of mine, friends and people around me, na him I use wise up o.

IT WILL SURE END IN PREMIUM TEARS

5 years ke. She won't even be waiting for you. But honesty is a virtue everyone must posses.

Nobody wants to be taken for a fool. Tell her your real age as quickly as possible. And clearly let her know you don't have marriage in your plans in the foreseeable future.

Dump the bitch

U are still in ur 20s for bleeps sake why wud u b in an exclusive relationship with the opposite sex in ur 20s and the foolish thing is this one has already hit the wall. Guy don't u know ur value or are u dumb!!!

U should make yourself ur mental point of origin. Focus on ur goals and spin plates. Don't have onetitis for that bitch nahh jeeezzz

Aonkuuse:
See first thing you have to tell her your real age, see her reactions whether she's okay with that or not.

Secondly 5 years is pretty much to put someone hanging, or believing that you guys will get married.

If you really love her age is nothing, just two years. Bro honestly 5 years is much if you know that after 5 years you can't do this abeg let her go.

Because you have started contemplating already, please don't waste that lady's time that much let her go.

she is already aware of my real age, though she wasn't too cool but then the love we share still makes her stay back. she still wants to wait for me if I won't disappoint her later.. and for the 5 years thing, I don't have any means of income currently else I would have done that. cause outside the love, we are very compatible

Hollawayn05:
IT WILL SURE END IN PREMIUM TEARS

Wat's ur reasons for saying that?

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At 35,shes no longer a girl.
Address her well.

Na iye(person mama) naim she be..

PrimadonnaO:
5 years ke. She won't even be waiting for you. But honesty is a virtue everyone must posses.

Nobody wants to be taken for a fool. Tell her your real age as quickly as possible. And clearly let her know you don't have marriage in your plans in the foreseeable future.

For the record, I never lied to her about my age, it was all a mistake. but she is currently aware of my real age and still wish to stay. and for the marriage, she knows am not ready, and we have been planning our lives together

demmymoney:
Dump the bitch

U are still in ur 20s for bleeps sake why wud u b in an exclusive relationship with the opposite sex in ur 20s and the foolish thing is this one has already hit the wall. Guy don't u know ur value or are u dumb!!!

U should make yourself ur mental point of origin. Focus on ur goals and spin plates. Don't have onetitis for that bitch nahh jeeezzz

she is a good gal, I know almost everything about her past. so not everyone is a bitch

Eval123:

For the record, I never lied to her about my age, it was all a mistake. but she is currently aware of my real age and still wish to stay. and for the marriage, she knows am not ready, and we have been planning our lives together

Don't assume she knows. Have a serious conversation about it.

I really like your sincerity about what you both share,
Don’t let society dictate how to love and live , you might get someone younger that will leave you miserable and sad. You can be lucky to get a good paying job , you might not need the forecasted five years , Time are hard but people are making it ,leave societal standards, it does not work for everyone
Do what will make you happy but if you feel you cannot marry 35 yr old woman , please leave her to those that will appreciate

You will die Young if you don't leave that woman

Both of you should get out!

Ajibade123:
I am so disappointed that you are educated and you still take age as a big deal
so 35 years old is bad for a female to get married??

That is the miseducation from nairaland sadly.

Proposing to a lady above 35 years is not an engagement, it’s a rescue mission... This I have seen.

Eval123:

please I need advice.

Am a young guy age 28 currently in my final year hoping to graduate this year by God's grace. Am in a relationship in with a gal I love so much and the love keeps growing day by the day. She is 30 years old and just graduated this year but she is talking of waiting for me so we can serve together. The thing now is that I wish to get married to her but am not ready now. But she says she can wait for me if only I won't disappoint her. Now am confuse, if she waits for me for 5 years she would be 35 by then and am not sure if it's right getting married to someone 2 years older than me and someone at the age of 35 or above.. to add to it, she doesn't look her age, even if someone sees us, there won't believe she is my senior.. pls am really confused, have never dated someone who understands me like she do.. Note: she never knew my age, she thought we were age mate cause of my voters card she saw which doesn't carry my real age..

This Your Grammar Self...
She is Older than you, not your senior

op don't go that route. don't say i didn't warn you

Some comments here are at best polemic but largely opprobrious..

Shake my head for the lady in question.


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Open up to her. Tell her not to wait for you. At 30, she should be wise. Time waits for no woman

pls let her go its both in your interests

Romanoff:
If you know she'd be too old for you when you're ready to marry, please tell her to move on to a guy that's ready.

No use your reggae spoil her Fuji.

.....So the LADY should move to a Guy that's ready and no longer the Guy that's Tall, Dark and WEALTHY ..
when Age starts creeping in, the Guy that's ready becomes the potential man & no longer the classy man.

Marry her if u truly love her ok

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The best ladies to date are older ladies, the younger ones are just witches.

Captain-save-a-hoe

U ain't ready No job no money so what's keeping her... it seems you are giving her good sex then

Alaye if u truly love her as much as she does please let her go be with someone that's is ready to settle down.

While u graduate strong, start earning income. Get someone when u know that you are ready to marry. Be careful what you do. Don't go around breaking young or old girls heart

Eval123:


she is already aware of my real age, though she wasn't too cool but then the love we share still makes her stay back. she still wants to wait for me if I won't disappoint her later.. and for the 5 years thing, I don't have any means of income currently else I would have done that. cause outside the love, we are very compatible