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Re: I Told My Fiancé That He Can't Stay In My Duplex, He Changed by Zubydeangelo(m): 9:35am On Apr 26
TripleDdotcom:
For as long as humanity will not go through the PROPER means to navigate the affairs of their life, they will continue to fall in calamities as a consequence of them not going through the proper channel.

Now in your case, what's proper??

A man sees a woman he likes, they court each other, finding out about each other's qualities and see if they are fine with them.

They must ask each other important questions and know all what's vital to be known about their prospective partner.

If they are fine with each other, AND they are now ready for the next step, they now introduce the family members.

The family members, especially the elders, will use their wisdom to assess the candidate to see if there's something that their son or daughter could have missed from the candidate as a result of them being blinded by love or because of inexperience and naivety.

Another importance of introducing the family members is that it sets everything in motion with a serious impression and outlook.

for example, if a man toasts a woman and tells him he wants to marry her, they've courted and the woman likes him, if she tells him to come see her family, this will instill the impression of seriousness in him or will expose his intentions. If he has sinister motives in mind and isn't serious about marrying the girl, it'll reflect in the way he responds to that request.

Now if all the family members are involved and matters have been settled, they now marry each other. then they will feel at ease sharing their assets or possessions (sex, money, properties) with each other cause of the bond that has now binded them together.

That's the proper channel. But humanity will go through improper channels and rush things with themselves these days, giving out their possessions to people that have not proven to worth it yet and they will start crying when the consequences arrives.

This proper channel may not guarantee that there'll be no problems 100 percent of the time but its waaay more credible and safe than not doing it.

And the wisdom in what I've said reflects in your life already. Just for you to know I'm telling the truth.

You gave out yourself to your first man, had two children with him and now he's not ready to marry you. You have now become a single mother, striving to foot all the responsibilities all because you gave yourself and your intimate commitments away too early to someone who doesn't deserve it.

Let this serve as a lesson for you. Don't let love or emotions blind you. If you meet a man that's not showing any commitment to you and is asking things from you too early and is seeming to hide some vital information you should know from you, jilt him and Block him!!!

If you don't heed daddy's advice (meaning me) And you get hurt, don't come and cry to daddy (me) about it.

God guide and help you to do things properly oo..







..........

By the way, please check my signature and patronize us for your data. Na beg I dey beg.Thanks
One jug of chilled tombo for you

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Re: I Told My Fiancé That He Can't Stay In My Duplex, He Changed by Loverboy3333: 9:36am On Apr 26
Two people you can never advice,

A woman in love

and

A man with money




Forget all these advice flying here, if the guy call her once all advice don fly away

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Re: I Told My Fiancé That He Can't Stay In My Duplex, He Changed by TOPCRUISE(m): 9:36am On Apr 26
Grace456:
Help Me Before I Make The Greatest Mistake Pls

I'm a single mother in my early thirties, my daughter is just 2year old and the father is not ready to marry me or take any responsibility on her but still hiding me and his secret wife and won't let me go but I have decided to leave becos he's no adding any value to my life n my daughter's either.

Fast forward
I met a guy online who claims he lives in the US and I discovered I like him since I've met him and now he said we should settle down and marry. I own a duplex in a choice area in Lagos, completed though still small loan I'm paying on it. I agreed to settle down with him but since I told him he can't stay in my house that he needs to get a house, he started acting funny.

The second one, I asked him to show me proof of ID or his work ID, for me to be sure he's who claimed he is, he changed it for me. I tried to let him know that I'm just trying to be careful, don't want to fall prey again but he won't listen to me. He stopped calling and when I call him, he will return my call after like 5hours.

Pls advise me, is it polite for a man to marry and come stay in a woman's house because he said he will soon travel back? This is someone I like to support to get another apartment somewhere else but I haven't told him that. He has really changed in days.

No insult pls...pls ignore rather than insult me pls.
He could be staying in a Lagos ghetto
Re: I Told My Fiancé That He Can't Stay In My Duplex, He Changed by Richieniit: 9:36am On Apr 26
I'm available o.. looking for a good future partner. Enough of all this unserious men spoiling good men. Smile
Re: I Told My Fiancé That He Can't Stay In My Duplex, He Changed by Midas01: 9:37am On Apr 26
If it's a man wi you give him the same advice? So because it's a woman she shouldn't move on with her life?
michlins:
If care isn't taken, it's same baby daddy still playing you.


You already have a child, cherish her and work hard to repay that loan. You have lots of things to occupy and keep you busy now
Re: I Told My Fiancé That He Can't Stay In My Duplex, He Changed by Loverboy3333: 9:37am On Apr 26
Richieniit:
I'm available o.. looking for a good future partner. Enough of all this unserious men spoiling good men. Smile

Na them be this

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Re: I Told My Fiancé That He Can't Stay In My Duplex, He Changed by morule20(m): 9:37am On Apr 26
women and dis their selfish nature, but it will be OK for u to go and stay in his own duplex? madam if u people are planning to settle down, this is nothing wrong with dat, his is ur husband to be, unless u are not ready to marry him. his is not telling u to make him d ownership of d house is just to come and live..

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Re: I Told My Fiancé That He Can't Stay In My Duplex, He Changed by KazikageSama: 9:38am On Apr 26
Grace456:
Help Me Before I Make The Greatest Mistake Pls

I'm a single mother in my early thirties, my daughter is just 2year old and the father is not ready to marry me or take any responsibility on her but still hiding me and his secret wife and won't let me go but I have decided to leave becos he's no adding any value to my life n my daughter's either.

Fast forward
I met a guy online who claims he lives in the US and I discovered I like him since I've met him and now he said we should settle down and marry. I own a duplex in a choice area in Lagos, completed though still small loan I'm paying on it. I agreed to settle down with him but since I told him he can't stay in my house that he needs to get a house, he started acting funny.

The second one, I asked him to show me proof of ID or his work ID, for me to be sure he's who claimed he is, he changed it for me. I tried to let him know that I'm just trying to be careful, don't want to fall prey again but he won't listen to me. He stopped calling and when I call him, he will return my call after like 5hours.

Pls advise me, is it polite for a man to marry and come stay in a woman's house because he said he will soon travel back? This is someone I like to support to get another apartment somewhere else but I haven't told him that. He has really changed in days.

No insult pls...pls ignore rather than insult me pls.

Don't even think about it. Drop him like a old database table.
Re: I Told My Fiancé That He Can't Stay In My Duplex, He Changed by KnightsTemplar(m): 9:38am On Apr 26
Grace456:
Help Me Before I Make The Greatest Mistake Pls

I'm a single mother in my early thirties, my daughter is just 2year old and the father is not ready to marry me or take any responsibility on her but still hiding me and his secret wife and won't let me go but I have decided to leave becos he's no adding any value to my life n my daughter's either.

Fast forward
I met a guy online who claims he lives in the US and I discovered I like him since I've met him and now he said we should settle down and marry. I own a duplex in a choice area in Lagos, completed though still small loan I'm paying on it. I agreed to settle down with him but since I told him he can't stay in my house that he needs to get a house, he started acting funny.

The second one, I asked him to show me proof of ID or his work ID, for me to be sure he's who claimed he is, he changed it for me. I tried to let him know that I'm just trying to be careful, don't want to fall prey again but he won't listen to me. He stopped calling and when I call him, he will return my call after like 5hours.

Pls advise me, is it polite for a man to marry and come stay in a woman's house because he said he will soon travel back? This is someone I like to support to get another apartment somewhere else but I haven't told him that. He has really changed in days.

No insult pls...pls ignore rather than insult me pls.

Better focus on yourself and Child, grow your career, when the right man will come, he will come without saying he wants to move into your house.

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Re: I Told My Fiancé That He Can't Stay In My Duplex, He Changed by Sparkle777(f): 9:38am On Apr 26
Grace456:
Help Me Before I Make The Greatest Mistake Pls

I'm a single mother in my early thirties, my daughter is just 2year old and the father is not ready to marry me or take any responsibility on her but still hiding me and his secret wife and won't let me go but I have decided to leave becos he's no adding any value to my life n my daughter's either.

Fast forward
I met a guy online who claims he lives in the US and I discovered I like him since I've met him and now he said we should settle down and marry. I own a duplex in a choice area in Lagos, completed though still small loan I'm paying on it. I agreed to settle down with him but since I told him he can't stay in my house that he needs to get a house, he started acting funny.

The second one, I asked him to show me proof of ID or his work ID, for me to be sure he's who claimed he is, he changed it for me. I tried to let him know that I'm just trying to be careful, don't want to fall prey again but he won't listen to me. He stopped calling and when I call him, he will return my call after like 5hours.

Pls advise me, is it polite for a man to marry and come stay in a woman's house because he said he will soon travel back? This is someone I like to support to get another apartment somewhere else but I haven't told him that. He has really changed in days.

No insult pls...pls ignore rather than insult me pls.

Most abroad guys are not serious besides he should show u all u asked for since it's marriage talk now. I'll advise u to be very careful and tread wit caution. Hopefully, this should not be a demonic pattern for u. If another 419 lover appears again to u, I'll advise u to rethink on the guys u fall in love with.

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Re: I Told My Fiancé That He Can't Stay In My Duplex, He Changed by DWJOBScom(m): 9:38am On Apr 26
Stay away from him

He is fake

A real man or lady should be plain after a certain degree of company and affection has been shared.

Don't be scared to insist on it

Please leave him in peace as that duplex would be sold before your eyes and other things as well

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Re: I Told My Fiancé That He Can't Stay In My Duplex, He Changed by MASTAkiLLAh(m): 9:38am On Apr 26
Grace456:
Help Me Before I Make The Greatest Mistake Pls

I'm a single mother in my early thirties, my daughter is just 2year old and the father is not ready to marry me or take any responsibility on her but still hiding me and his secret wife and won't let me go but I have decided to leave becos he's no adding any value to my life n my daughter's either.

Fast forward
I met a guy online who claims he lives in the US and I discovered I like him since I've met him and now he said we should settle down and marry. I own a duplex in a choice area in Lagos, completed though still small loan I'm paying on it. I agreed to settle down with him but since I told him he can't stay in my house that he needs to get a house, he started acting funny.

The second one, I asked him to show me proof of ID or his work ID, for me to be sure he's who claimed he is, he changed it for me. I tried to let him know that I'm just trying to be careful, don't want to fall prey again but he won't listen to me. He stopped calling and when I call him, he will return my call after like 5hours.

Pls advise me, is it polite for a man to marry and come stay in a woman's house because he said he will soon travel back? This is someone I like to support to get another apartment somewhere else but I haven't told him that. He has really changed in days.

No insult pls...pls ignore rather than insult me pls.
forget that man, take it from me. Avoid premium tears and forget that man, don't let "love" deceive and push you into a deep gully, your Knight in shining armour is coming soon
Re: I Told My Fiancé That He Can't Stay In My Duplex, He Changed by Segzy19: 9:40am On Apr 26
Dear Sis,

Please be careful with him and such other men.
If he is acting funny, then that is a sign he is not truthful to you.

By the way, asking for his work ID doesn't guarantee anything. What if he clones a fake one for you. If he eventually does that, do a background check on that place of work or you deliver a little item to him at work to see whether he really works there or not. If he doesn't work there, your item will be returned that there is no such person bearing that name.

Let him not stay in your house, please.
Don't even rent any apartment for him. Let him go rent one for himself, even if it's a bedroom.

I believe other commenters have warned you enough o. The ball is now in your court o.

Most importantly, do not rush things with any man no matter how fast or high your affection or emotions run.
Remember, you have been beaten once.... So use your sense more than your heart now


Regards

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Re: I Told My Fiancé That He Can't Stay In My Duplex, He Changed by RightToReject(m): 9:41am On Apr 26
The confidence a man who has a good intention and does not mind losing a woman of interest on principle usually exudes is absent in his stated disposition, assuming that your submission is factual.

Meanwhile, there is nothing impolite for a man to marry and stay in his woman's house, unless he has something better or the woman does not mind putting up with him in the kind of accommodation he can provide.

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Re: I Told My Fiancé That He Can't Stay In My Duplex, He Changed by asatemple(f): 9:41am On Apr 26
Good a thing you are not blinded by love. Run for your life and money. Big time gold digger spotted

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Re: I Told My Fiancé That He Can't Stay In My Duplex, He Changed by nrexzy: 9:42am On Apr 26
Run..... Run.... Run..... Run again....

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Re: I Told My Fiancé That He Can't Stay In My Duplex, He Changed by FryMosquito: 9:42am On Apr 26
See let me tell you, that guy na scammer(yahoo guy) that have never travelled to US before. They full social media with their culprits using spam US phone numbers to lure women to their traps. It's better for you to discharge and disconnect anything you have with him now. Before the main wonders will happen. If you have the skills or who help track that his US number he's using, you will see its a spam or cloned number. Country hard and it's their new format targeted to women, especially if they noticed you're buoyant.

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Re: I Told My Fiancé That He Can't Stay In My Duplex, He Changed by NetValueFX: 9:42am On Apr 26
Grace456:
Help Me Before I Make The Greatest Mistake Pls

I'm a single mother in my early thirties, my daughter is just 2year old and the father is not ready to marry me or take any responsibility on her but still hiding me and his secret wife and won't let me go but I have decided to leave becos he's no adding any value to my life n my daughter's either.

Fast forward
I met a guy online who claims he lives in the US and I discovered I like him since I've met him and now he said we should settle down and marry. I own a duplex in a choice area in Lagos, completed though still small loan I'm paying on it. I agreed to settle down with him but since I told him he can't stay in my house that he needs to get a house, he started acting funny.

The second one, I asked him to show me proof of ID or his work ID, for me to be sure he's who claimed he is, he changed it for me. I tried to let him know that I'm just trying to be careful, don't want to fall prey again but he won't listen to me. He stopped calling and when I call him, he will return my call after like 5hours.

Pls advise me, is it polite for a man to marry and come stay in a woman's house because he said he will soon travel back? This is someone I like to support to get another apartment somewhere else but I haven't told him that. He has really changed in days.

No insult pls...pls ignore rather than insult me pls.
As a matter of fact, no man should ever know you own a home. No be only women be gold diggers. Get a man that loves you and your child first. Be sure he is willing to marry you and accept your child. When you are convinced, reveal your true status to him. Possibly look out for someone outside your environment

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Re: I Told My Fiancé That He Can't Stay In My Duplex, He Changed by MejiLoyon(m): 9:43am On Apr 26
What if I tell you that all the posts above me are wrong? All the so called advice.

I won't advice because na Wetin you go do you go still do

Never bring your relationship to the media...no one cares. Others will want to ruin it so that you can be as depressed as them. Some don't even have any so they want to destroy it. Other men will want to jump in. Like the Mr Richie above me. He hear house he say he good man. Calling another man unserious.

Work on your relationship. And work on it alone. I rest my case
Re: I Told My Fiancé That He Can't Stay In My Duplex, He Changed by CodedWealth(m): 9:43am On Apr 26
All the comments I read here seems senseless to me, ask that little girl on nairaland, the future is female! be responsible for once and face the future, follow that man, go see his parents, talk things out, pay for his bride price, do a wedding, then bring him down to your duplex.

At least you can invite us I will personally drive down to your wedding location and celebrate the future, I can I buy gifts, for that little,
the future is female girl
Re: I Told My Fiancé That He Can't Stay In My Duplex, He Changed by rhythyson: 9:44am On Apr 26
Aunty, no need for long tory, you can simply do a secret background check on the dude and you will know him just as he knows himself..

Then you decide your future with him,

Staying with you or not no be issue, the real thing is WHO IS HE

My one kobo advice.

over and out

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Re: I Told My Fiancé That He Can't Stay In My Duplex, He Changed by fineboynl(m): 9:44am On Apr 26
ain't Nigerian girls useless anymore?

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Re: I Told My Fiancé That He Can't Stay In My Duplex, He Changed by Wolfeye: 9:44am On Apr 26
Smh. Is he stealing your house? Why are nigerian women still this backward?
Bleep.

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Re: I Told My Fiancé That He Can't Stay In My Duplex, He Changed by fineboynl(m): 9:45am On Apr 26
ain't Nigerian girls useless anymore? cc:mosdii

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Re: I Told My Fiancé That He Can't Stay In My Duplex, He Changed by Nostradamus: 9:45am On Apr 26
Grace456:
Help Me Before I Make The Greatest Mistake Pls

I'm a single mother in my early thirties, my daughter is just 2year old and the father is not ready to marry me or take any responsibility on her but still hiding me and his secret wife and won't let me go but I have decided to leave becos he's no adding any value to my life n my daughter's either.

Fast forward
I met a guy online who claims he lives in the US and I discovered I like him since I've met him and now he said we should settle down and marry. I own a duplex in a choice area in Lagos, completed though still small loan I'm paying on it. I agreed to settle down with him but since I told him he can't stay in my house that he needs to get a house, he started acting funny.

The second one, I asked him to show me proof of ID or his work ID, for me to be sure he's who claimed he is, he changed it for me. I tried to let him know that I'm just trying to be careful, don't want to fall prey again but he won't listen to me. He stopped calling and when I call him, he will return my call after like 5hours.

Pls advise me, is it polite for a man to marry and come stay in a woman's house because he said he will soon travel back? This is someone I like to support to get another apartment somewhere else but I haven't told him that. He has really changed in days.

No insult pls...pls ignore rather than insult me pls.
leave the guy alone.

he's a thief and a scam!

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Re: I Told My Fiancé That He Can't Stay In My Duplex, He Changed by Tudorsk(m): 9:46am On Apr 26
TripleDdotcom:
For as long as humanity will not go through the PROPER means to navigate the affairs of their life, they will continue to fall in calamities as a consequence of them not going through the proper channel.

Now in your case, what's proper??

A man sees a woman he likes, they court each other, finding out about each other's qualities and see if they are fine with them.

They must ask each other important questions and know all what's vital to be known about their prospective partner.

If they are fine with each other, AND they are now ready for the next step, they now introduce the family members.

The family members, especially the elders, will use their wisdom to assess the candidate to see if there's something that their son or daughter could have missed from the candidate as a result of them being blinded by love or because of inexperience and naivety.

Another importance of introducing the family members is that it sets everything in motion with a serious impression and outlook.

for example, if a man toasts a woman and tells him he wants to marry her, they've courted and the woman likes him, if she tells him to come see her family, this will instill the impression of seriousness in him or will expose his intentions. If he has sinister motives in mind and isn't serious about marrying the girl, it'll reflect in the way he responds to that request.

Now if all the family members are involved and matters have been settled, they now marry each other. then they will feel at ease sharing their assets or possessions (sex, money, properties) with each other cause of the bond that has now binded them together.

That's the proper channel. But humanity will go through improper channels and rush things with themselves these days, giving out their possessions to people that have not proven to worth it yet and they will start crying when the consequences arrives.

This proper channel may not guarantee that there'll be no problems 100 percent of the time but its waaay more credible and safe than not doing it.

And the wisdom in what I've said reflects in your life already. Just for you to know I'm telling the truth.

You gave out yourself to your first man, had two children with him and now he's not ready to marry you. You have now become a single mother, striving to foot all the responsibilities all because you gave yourself and your intimate commitments away too early to someone who doesn't deserve it.

Let this serve as a lesson for you. Don't let love or emotions blind you. If you meet a man that's not showing any commitment to you and is asking things from you too early and is seeming to hide some vital information you should know from you, jilt him and Block him!!!

If you don't heed daddy's advice (meaning me) And you get hurt, don't come and cry to daddy (me) about it.

God guide and help you to do things properly oo..







..........

By the way, please check my signature and patronize us for your data. Na beg I dey beg.Thanks
you have said it all

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Re: I Told My Fiancé That He Can't Stay In My Duplex, He Changed by ahiboilandgas: 9:46am On Apr 26
Grace456:
Help Me Before I Make The Greatest Mistake Pls

I'm a single mother in my early thirties, my daughter is just 2year old and the father is not ready to marry me or take any responsibility on her but still hiding me and his secret wife and won't let me go but I have decided to leave becos he's no adding any value to my life n my daughter's either.

Fast forward
I met a guy online who claims he lives in the US and I discovered I like him since I've met him and now he said we should settle down and marry. I own a duplex in a choice area in Lagos, completed though still small loan I'm paying on it. I agreed to settle down with him but since I told him he can't stay in my house that he needs to get a house, he started acting funny.

The second one, I asked him to show me proof of ID or his work ID, for me to be sure he's who claimed he is, he changed it for me. I tried to let him know that I'm just trying to be careful, don't want to fall prey again but he won't listen to me. He stopped calling and when I call him, he will return my call after like 5hours.

Pls advise me, is it polite for a man to marry and come stay in a woman's house because he said he will soon travel back? This is someone I like to support to get another apartment somewhere else but I haven't told him that. He has really changed in days.

No insult pls...pls ignore rather than insult me pls.
rent out the deplux and use the fund to off set the Loan . Tell him the house is on loan and the debt is xXxX millions. So if he serious about marrying you as he claimed he will look for house to host him and his new wife .

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Re: I Told My Fiancé That He Can't Stay In My Duplex, He Changed by charlesucheh(m): 9:47am On Apr 26
Grace456:
Help Me Before I Make The Greatest Mistake Pls

I'm a single mother in my early thirties, my daughter is just 2year old and the father is not ready to marry me or take any responsibility on her but still hiding me and his secret wife and won't let me go but I have decided to leave becos he's no adding any value to my life n my daughter's either.

Fast forward
I met a guy online who claims he lives in the US and I discovered I like him since I've met him and now he said we should settle down and marry. I own a duplex in a choice area in Lagos, completed though still small loan I'm paying on it. I agreed to settle down with him but since I told him he can't stay in my house that he needs to get a house, he started acting funny.

The second one, I asked him to show me proof of ID or his work ID, for me to be sure he's who claimed he is, he changed it for me. I tried to let him know that I'm just trying to be careful, don't want to fall prey again but he won't listen to me. He stopped calling and when I call him, he will return my call after like 5hours.

Pls advise me, is it polite for a man to marry and come stay in a woman's house because he said he will soon travel back? This is someone I like to support to get another apartment somewhere else but I haven't told him that. He has really changed in days.

No insult pls...pls ignore rather than insult me pls.
Am sorry to see that you were vulnerable to deceptive men. But Thank god you're now taking precautions. let he who wants to take you for life show proofs of responsibility or he should path to come back no more. simple madam! keep applying those precautions till you get it right.

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Re: I Told My Fiancé That He Can't Stay In My Duplex, He Changed by uchwar1: 9:47am On Apr 26
dederocs:
Mugu, good Nigerian men dey, successful, most of them in America live via hand to mouth. Abi na US dey shack you grin
Nawao! someone who built a duplex and u are here asking; if it is US dey shaka m? Your IQ ehh

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