ibkayee:
Yeah they will have all the requirements in the world for her, especially her physical appearance but get triggered when a woman asks for someone financially stable and doesn’t want a gateman as a partner.

If they suddenly get rich, most of them will have no issue dumping the girl that was with them when they were poor and chasing after the ‘upgraded’ girl that wants money.

So basically they get angry because they’re broke and have an inferiority complex

BRATISLAVA:


Every time the pseudo-educated men post, it's always about how they need intelligent women and talk about their "level", as if intelligence resides in men only. Once again, are these men intelligent?

You will see a tech guy dating someone in finance and he will say she's not intelligent and can't hold conversations because she can't talk about the same things he does. Meanwhile, in her field he's not intelligent. Look at his flimsy example of LinkedIn—how many people are actually on LinkedIn so that he uses that as his criteria for intellect?

These are men who have never compared their IQ scores to that of any woman, yet talk about intellect, and if they met one in their field they would feel she's too pompous, or ugly, and other poverty addled logic. They would be the same ones to denigrate her because she doesn't conform to their ego, tag her a feminist and still look for sex from a slave.

There's no winning with these opinionated, myopic, U-30 perfectionist boys. Any girl who listens to them is wasting her time. They've bought into all sorts of unrealistic ideas on life.

Nazgul:
■Dating a comfortable guy isn't the problem most guys have with girls. The problem is lacking the intellect to relate with him on his level. Most comfortable guys are exposed, so they have vast knowledge about things. They go to places, they keep up with recent happenings in the cooperate world. Now imagine finding an average regular girl who has made up her mind to date rich guys. Obviously you cannot discuss work with her, you cannot discuss happenings in the IT world with her, she basically wouldn't be able to relate with him on his level.

■ All she would have to commune with him is money, sex and outing... nothing more. Sooner or later, the guy in question would leave her to look for someone whom he can easily relate with on his level. I can basically tell you that if you meet 50 average Nigerian girls, 30 would have no idea of what LinkedIn is, 18 would have heard it before but don't have a profile there, only 2 would tell you that they have a developed profile on LinkedIn. The solution to all this is to date someone within your league (whether you're male or female). That way, you two can work towards developing each other and not taking advantage of each other.

sqlPAIN:
This mentality is mostly common among Nigerian guys and honesty it's disgusting mentality to me...

I was watching a prank video on YouTube where a guy pretended to be an ice cream selling and tried to asked some girls out to see if anyone would give him a chance. Only about 2 girls out if like 12 he approached gave him their number. What I noticed in the comments section were comments of guys saying the two girls who gave him their number were real women and that the others were fake. I've seen a lot of guys even on nairaland here with such stuupidd mentality. Ask yourself this question, if you were an ice cream seller or a broke or poor man, Shey you go date yourself if you be woman ni?

If I find myself in such situations as a guy man, going into a relationship would not even cross my mind, not to talk of being the last thing on my mind. My biggest priority would be to hussle. Hussle and more hussle till I make enough to get myself a better life...

Abeg make una stop dey castigate women for wanting the best, it's human to want the best things and it's logical.

bukatyne:


This is sweet.

Strikethem:
Yes na, what did you contribute to his life other than staying, if you leave him, he will still become successful and he won't know you exist.

So if you are useless, don't stay, go your way. No issue.

Goodlady:
Life's by choice. Marry rich, cool. Marry poor, your choice .

jeromestarks:
■ Nobody is castigating anyone. If she finds the rich guy (as in wealthy guy), she should date him na. The problem is that when the beauty of these girls who want rich guys can not get them the "rich" guys, they will settle for the poor guys and be behaving as if they did the poor guys a favor. It's wrong! Your beauty failed you in getting what you want and you had no choice but to accept the poor guy and you're expecting him to treat you like you're his world? Something that even the rich guys you dreamed about can't do for you (cus rich guys always want more women as many women give them green lights - no be only you like money o).
■ I once asked a girl out and she asked me " how much do you have in your account?" I told her and she shook her head and said "sorry, I can't date you." I respected her for saying what she wanted straight to my face. No dulling. No pretence. So I said no big deal and moved on.
After about 2 years when her beauty has faded, she chatted me up and later asked if I'm single. I said yes and soon we started fvcking. I broke up with her over irrelevant issue and she ask why I treated her like that. And I said " I can not date you anymore because I want a more beautiful and younger woman." Nobody is saying you should not want a rich man. Want a rich man. When a poor man comes to you, chase him away. You have the right to do that. It's your body. BUT When you couldn't get the rich man and you had no choice but to settle for a poor man, DO NOT ACT AS IF YOU DID HIM A FAVOR. In fact, he is doing you favor buy rescuing you from shame.

maasoap:


Well, we thank the ladies who married us when we were struggling (poor). This kind of mentality and mindset makes us appreciate them better and know their values.

Nazgul:
Dating a comfortable guy isn't the problem most guys have with girls. The problem is lacking the intellect to relate with him on his level.

Most comfortable guys are exposed, so they have vast knowledge about things. They go to places, they keep up with recent happenings in the cooperate world. Now imagine finding an average regular girl who has made up her mind to date rich guys. Obviously you cannot discuss work with her, you cannot discuss happenings in the IT world with her, she basically wouldn't be able to relate with him on his level.

All she would have to commune with him is money, sex and outing... nothing more. Sooner or later, the guy in question would leave her to look for someone whom he can easily relate with on his level.

I can basically tell you that if you meet 50 average Nigerian girls, 30 would have no idea of what LinkedIn is, 18 would have heard it before but don't have a profile there, only 2 would tell you that they have a developed profile on LinkedIn.

The solution to all this is to date someone within your league (whether you're male or female). That way, you two can work towards developing each other and not taking advantage of each other.

1Sharon:


Which one is somebody's husband?

Are men not polygamous again?

HellVictorinho7:


No
There are rich African girls or women


Point is if a girl or woman likes or loves you, you won't have to complain about what she gets from you.

henrydav:

If you marry your own husband you will flourish in your marriage but if you marry another woman husband your marriage will crash.

But not all men are polygamous in nature

1Sharon:


Judith Austin, shade okoya, Regina Daniels are still married

Your gender will disagree with you

maasoap:


Well, few rich dudes are out there treating them like thrash because they equally understand that these ladies are after the money and can never be loyal.
I know some women who married their struggling men and still enjoying their marriages without the issues you raised.

Rayban25:


Again you're just crying for nothing...whoever said women cant be intelligent?...women can be intelligent but the ratio is higher for men..now look at and stop shedding unnecessary tears

bukatyne:


@bold:

If she was so terrible, why didn't he dump her then? Why wait until he 'hammered'?

sqlPAIN:
This mentality is mostly common among Nigerian guys and honesty it's disgusting mentality to me...

I was watching a prank video on YouTube where a guy pretended to be an ice cream selling and tried to asked some girls out to see if anyone would give him a chance. Only about 2 girls out if like 12 he approached gave him their number. What I noticed in the comments section were comments of guys saying the two girls who gave him their number were real women and that the others were fake. I've seen a lot of guys even on nairaland here with such stuupidd mentality. Ask yourself this question, if you were an ice cream seller or a broke or poor man, Shey you go date yourself if you be woman ni?

If I find myself in such situations as a guy man, going into a relationship would not even cross my mind, not to talk of being the last thing on my mind. My biggest priority would be to hussle. Hussle and more hussle till I make enough to get myself a better life...

Abeg make una stop dey castigate women for wanting the best, it's human to want the best things and it's logical.

Divoc19:
Some poor guys are just lazy. That is why there's always misconceptions about a guy's financial status.
I have dated a poor guy who had limited dreams before.

I ya leave am ASAP!

1Sharon:


Any Nigerian man there?

jeromestarks:


She kept herself until I met her.
Only a virgin woman deserves such attention.

If you're single and not a virgin, may such love be far from you.

Say Amen.

sqlPAIN:
This mentality is mostly common among Nigerian guys and honesty it's disgusting mentality to me...

I was watching a prank video on YouTube where a guy pretended to be an ice cream selling and tried to asked some girls out to see if anyone would give him a chance. Only about 2 girls out if like 12 he approached gave him their number. What I noticed in the comments section were comments of guys saying the two girls who gave him their number were real women and that the others were fake. I've seen a lot of guys even on nairaland here with such stuupidd mentality. Ask yourself this question, if you were an ice cream seller or a broke or poor man, Shey you go date yourself if you be woman ni?

If I find myself in such situations as a guy man, going into a relationship would not even cross my mind, not to talk of being the last thing on my mind. My biggest priority would be to hussle. Hussle and more hussle till I make enough to get myself a better life...

Abeg make una stop dey castigate women for wanting the best, it's human to want the best things and it's logical.

Jovialjune1:



Oh so only rich men are the wrong hands? Only rich men use ladies as sacrificial lamb? There are no wrong broke men? Broke men don't use ladies as sacrificial lamb? Pains all over your comment

Exactly what Op is talking about

Rayban25:


I knew someone will ask that stupid question so I saved this picture for you...Nigerians are also intelligent as it is a yoruba man that founded pay stack as an example...its the country that limits most peoples ability and lack of resources

1Sharon:


You try

1Sharon:


You did everything except
marry her.

UnusualEmissary:
Some of the men that will not settle for anything less than a considerably attractive woman or a certain educational background or level will be the same ones to insult women who chooses a man with a considerably good financial capacity as their taste.

Chukwuemeka, if I slap you!!!

CruelDove:
That kind of ill mentality is mostly common among poor men with inferior complex disorder. Rich men don't think that way. They are never stingy with their money.

Rayban25:


Yes..so trying to deflect and now move to Nigerian men in your bid to feel clever just backfired

Demigod22:
Whenever this topic comes up. I keep asking myself. What prevent the ladies from getting rich?

In school,we have girls in our department, they have equal opportunity to education, they are healthy and complete, why can't they work their way to riches? Must they depend on ready made men to cross societal stratum?

With this kind of daft reasoning, the comical feminism cannot succeed in this world, especially in Africa and particularly in Nigeria.